"Train a child in the way he should go, and when SHE is old SHE will not turn from it."
[Proverbs 22:6]

Skeeeeeeeeeeeeeee-Weeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!

See that's what I'm talking 'bout. HC when we got to the MLK march on Monday my little soror-to-be was with me talking 'bout "Mommy, we need to hurry and find our other sawrahs so we can line up and march." Mind you, she slanged it out and said "sawrahs" and not "sorors".

When I was in college, a girl on my floor pledged Zeta and her mom was a Delta. When she went home on break there was some serious furniture movin' going on. She didn't tell her mom what she was doing AT ALL; she just rolled up to the house with her letters on. Now I hope that my future daughter and I would have better communication than that. I am a 2nd generation AKA and my brother is an Alpha and we both agreed that we have to keep this legacy going for our family. I think that the only thing I would stress to my kids is that Alpha Phi Alpha and Alpha Kappa Alpha may not be the only way to go, but it is the correct way to go.

I'm *DEAD* at "our" sawrahs. LOL

ttt...and my response
 

...My family is full of XYZ...at one point I thought they were the only sorority...I can remember thinking I want to grow up and be like my aunts because they dress well, they always held their heads up high they seem to know everything and everyone, always smiled, my aunts are such classy ladies (this is the 13 year old me). Well my favorite aunt took me to this "junior XYZ" club meeting. I was like am I missing something, these ladies (the members) are nothing like my aunts at all. The girls in the meeting were shall we say a little unladylike and were talking about how they were gooing to grow up and be in XYZ and I was like if y'all are in it i'm out I was so disappointed:( (that was of course a hasty decision) I revisited the meetings two more times and that was that...fast forward 3 years and I began to look up other sororities...that's when I knew AKA is the right way...and I don't feel any conflict I feel that many of the attributes I was raised to value in life like being well spoken, carrying yourself well, being an example for others to follow;), being a leader not a follower, and self confidence contributed to me wanting to be in AKA...I can't help it if my aunts in XYZs raised an AKA......

As far as my daughter (when I have one) I won't lie there is only one way and I'm confident she'll see what I saw...if the imposssible happened and she chose another way...she'd have some Explaining to do...it would be 21 questions in my house and NO I'm not paying

My sister is 18 and getting ready to go off to college. If she wanted to be something other than an AKA, I would be supportive. Everyone has to do what makes them comfortable. If she can live with her choice, then more power to her. But I can pray that she pursues interest in my sorority and she becomes a member of my sorority.

Babyperson Skee is too cute. And her pinky is STRAIGHT! Go head gurl...

I was at a NPHC picnic and there was a lil one with a my mommy is an AKA t shirt on. Honey child was doing the ivy and all of that. She was like 4 so she got a pass. Any children older than that need to be stopped.

I have a sister whom I tried to promote AKA to, but knowing her personality and the way she identifies herself (her mother is Hispanic; our father is black), I now feel AKA isn't the best option for her, and she should pursue a multi-cultural organization.

I don't want to be a parent that pushes my choices of what organization to join on her kids. I hope they would come to that decision on their own...just like I did. Thankfully, my mother isn't in a sorority, so I didn't have that heavy weight to join something while growing up. :)

PrettyGirl03 ...I think you are correct. I know a guy who says if his son pledges anything but...he won't pay for it. I love being an AKA, there is absolutely nothing else that could ever EVER be for me, & although I became an AKA years and years after I wanted to become one...(because I was a child when I first decided)....if my family had forced me to be something else that would have been horrible.... I don't have anything against other groups, but God gives everyone characteristics that make them unique, and the characteristics God gave me, fit with AKA. If I have a daughter, I will support whatever gifts God gives her, and if that makes her a Happy Delta then I will support my child in that, as well as other positive things she might want to do. But I hope that she would want to be an AKA. One thing is, I would not push it. I would show her by example what being a lady is. For me that is living without drama. For her, that might be what an AKA represents. But at the same time, all of us are not identical. Each chapter is different too. So she has to find where she fits, and where she is ultimately happy and able to make a positive difference with the gifts God gave her.

I'm not trying to intrude on this AKA chat, but I couldn't help but get in on the conversation:p . My dad is an Alpha. Both my brother and I pledged Kappa. My dad didn't pay for it. For the most part he was disappointed but was cool about it. He said as long as we didn't pledge XYZ fraternity:p .

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I believe that's enough. However, if skisweet does not comply or continues to post giving us enough information where we can deduce that she is NOT a legitimate member of our sorority, she shall be IGNORED. It's simple as that. We've had these guidelines on GC for YEARS. You mean to tell me that these lurkers/observers STILL do not know to introduce themselves OR put their information in their signature? I mean it's all pink and green. Why not let us know where you came in? or your current chapter? LMAO!


The name alone is... awwww shucks, nevermind! :p ;)

AKA2D'91 is a meanie. :p

My daughter will pay for whatever organization she joins. Even Delta. I would love for it to be Delta. But I know she'll work for the community whether she's a Delta or not in any sorority at all.

That girl in that photo is so pretty and adorable. :) Unfortunately, those are the types of children who sometimes end up becoming something other than what their parents are. You drill XYZ in them all their lives to the point of having them taking pics with the handsign or wearing "future XYZ" outfits. They become so disgusted with the whole thing and don't want any part of XYZ when they get grown. :D

I do not have any children, but should I have a daughter of course I would want her to be a soror:D, but like other GC'ers have said about forcing them...that is not my plan. I would hate for her to join and resent the org because she felt like she had to be an AKA. Exposure......oh heck yeah! But at the end of the day she is going to have to decided which sorority (if any) she would like to belong to. Also, I paid my own way by pinching pennies:D. I am not saying I will not assist, but sororities are not mandatory! Books, food, clothing, ect. are.

Don't have kids but if I had a daughter, I'd want her to be a Soror. Now, no matter what she wants to do, she WILL pay for it herself. If I can do it, I hope that I will raise her to be the kind of young woman that can do it on her own too.

SC

What a great way to impress upon her the financial responsibilities!

If my daugter diddn't pleagde DST
 

Where the hell did this Troll come from????:confused:
Also, please don't insult my sistergreeks with claiming Delta Sigma Theta and using that kind of incorrect grammar. Oh, and I would like for you to never, ever, use the colors of my sorority or the call for your foolishness. Thank you. This is all. :cool: (I'm not going to go off on you. CT4 ,Redefined Diva, and AKA Monet will do all of that for me.)

I guess I sent her over here since she tried to start a simular thread on DST Drive. Looks like the grammar and the misspellings have gotten worst.

I didn't understand a word she said. I am so confused as to what she said. I don't think she's a card carrying member of any sorority. If she was, she would state her location, year and who accepted her into their chapter. And it is my understanding that the women of Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, Inc. do not play and will post names quickly on their suspension/expulsion board.

:confused:

I was mad at my parents for not helping me pay. I understand priorities but man a sista could've used a little help.:p
I don't have a daughter but if I did I will be honest and say that in my heart I would want her to be a soRHOr, but I would support her no matter what her decision. My family consisted of only Delta's (2 aunts, godmother, 3 cousins) until one of my cousins took a turn down AKA ave. Although there was some pressure on her to be a Delta, she had to go with what was right for her. Another cousin after her also happily joined AKA. Fast forward to me and to another cousin (who both were being groomed for Delta/AKA by the other family members), we took a stRHOll down SGRho lane. It was the best choice for us. I am grateful that my family accepted our choice and was proud of us. Fast forward again to 2 of my little cousins, (who were being lightly pushed by all of us) and they have both joined Zeta. Everyone must choose their own path. I will be happy for my nieces/cousins/daughter decision although I would prefer SGRHO to be that decision. With that being said, I'm not so sure that I would be supportive of my daughter joining a sorority that is NOT one of the D9. :rolleyes:

This made my head hurt. :confused:

What would you do if she did?

I don't know what I would do after all these years of hard work in my Sorority. But if I had a daughter and she chose anything but a D9 sorority because she wanted to be obstinent against me, then hey, I love her and I would let her pursue her dreams. :(

However, given my age and my husband, I would not be have any kind of child going any greek organization. :cool:

Ya'll can borrow one of mine...:D

I may ceremoniously get my little nephew who needs his butt whooped bigtime! I am really angry about that. My Soror Mom has a Ph.D. in education, is a retired elementary school principal, a mentor teacher/administrator; teaches classes at San Diego State University and all she does now is run after this ~3 year old boy that just lied to me on the phone about not going to bed... Like, I was born yesterday!

I'm tellin' you, that kid gives me lip, he will be lucky to see somethings again...

You know, SGRHO is my heart, but I hold all of my D9 sisters in high regard (Dang, now I am smiling thinking about how excited our neos from a reactivated chapter were to be welcomed back on the campus by the AKAs and Deltas on campus and was asked to collaborate with them on some projects...oh the love....)
If my daughter did not want to join one of our illustrious orgs, then I would be offended and hurt. All of our orgs are full of educated, respectable women who serve our communities well. What more could a girl ask for? If she opted for an org outside of the D9, then I guess I would have no choice but to support her although I would definitely have to list my objections to her.

LOL!!!!:D

Your daughter is the most adorable little girl!!!She is going to be an amazing young woman one day!! Wow I see a beautiful future stay close to her!!

Whew! I was just reading this post and got a hot flash at the thought of my niece joining anything else but AKA. :) Whew, that was scary for a minute. LOL.

I can't even see it but stranger things have happened I guess. LOL.

When I told her that I was an AKA a few years ago when she was about 2 or 3 she replied, "*I'm* an AKA!" I loooooved hearing that little voice say that! :) Maybe I better start indoctrinating her now at the ripe old age of 7. I can't risk her joining another organization. LOL.

However, I STILL say that she will pay for it HERSELF. If she wants it, let her save up her money and pay for it. She will be a capable woman...I hope.

SC

That wouldn't be a problem for me. My sorority is for women who fall under the "non-traditional student" umbrella, anyway. Besides, I would never let my sorority (or any other organization) rise to such an important level in my life that it became an object of idolatry.

Idolatry, never, but I must say that being in the presence of awesome sorors or basking in their legacy is an honor. Hailing from Winston-Salem, NC, AKA's have a proud past, present, and future here. While I don't have any children yet, I do have a wonderful one year old niece. She too will be an AKA, if I have something to say about it! I figure since I am the first in my family to be in a sorority, I get to make the rules!! I also have a little cousin who just told me that she wanted to be a Delta...*faints*...lol... but on the real, I think that women should want to pledge AKA, but if they don't, then it is okay because the ones who want to will, not matter what. As for paying for my niece to be a part of the organization, well, I would love to. That gives me some time, seeing that she just turned one in March!! :o

I don't see being in another human being's presence as an honor, because to ME that belief, conversely, implies that I am less of a person than they are, and therefore am not worthy to be in their presence. In my mind, that "position" is reserved for God. Don't get me wrong, I deeply respect accomplished black women - and I do have my "she-roes" - but there is a limit to my admiration of them. There's a fine line between admiring and idolizing.

Now, as for "grooming" daughters, neices, cousins, etc for membership in your respective organizations? I say "y'all be scheming!", LOL. :)

^^I really think that you are trying to take this thread to a place that it has not gone.

Not only is it an honor to be a part of ALPHA KAPPA ALPHA Sorority, Inc., but it is an honor for me to meet any of my sorors and an honor to be in their presence as we do the work of our organization.

As far as children joining another organization, I can't even conceive of that. Of course, that's because I can not conceive of having children at this point in time. I do have a cousin that is interested in being Greek, and I advised her to research all of the organizations and find the one that fits her. I know that I only want women (family, friend, or other) who really want it to pursue membership in my organization; and that desire has to stem from them not from my choice for them.

^^^
I concur 1908%

Out of my box:

Bottomline, one must be attending a 4 year accredited college/university, have at least a 3.0 GPA, done some community service--preferably with our respective chapters located on their campus and have letters of recommendations. That's AKA1908.com

If a child is legacy or family member influenced, then they are turning their papers in early...

That is what heritage is all about.

Now, if my fictitious daughter did not want to do what I ask :rolleyes: for membership in my sorority and actually did what she was told for another organization, I would let her go and be a part of that. Because that is what she wanted. That would not be what I wanted for her, but as an adult, she made a decision and I am just happy that at least she is making one...

But, I would not blindly allow her to do so by feeding this child to the wolves.

Most young girls like imitating what their mother does. Most. I know I did and look at me now...

I honestly wasn't trying to take this thread anywhere, LOL. If I was, trust me, I'm bold enough to say so. I simply answered the question and gave my general opinion like everyone else. I just happen to have a different viewpoint, that's all. Blame my parents. :rolleyes: :D

As I replied earlier, I wouldn't have a problem with my daughter (if/when I have one) joining another organization. None whatsoever, because my org is for non-traditional/adult women, and has a minimum age of 24 to join. So, unless she detoured from "the plan", for which her father and I would have groomed her, and became a non-traditional, she wouldn't be eligible to join my organization, anyway. However, if I was a member of a traditional GLO, a new family tradition would be welcomed. I might do some urging, but I wouldn't put a lot of pressure on her... I don't think, LOLOL.

When you come in throwing around language like idolatry, in a thread where neither that language nor those idea have been introduced (suggesting in a way that some here have raised their organization to that level), that's what it seems like.

But, okay, I will take your word for it.

Soror, ya'll are better than me...responding to these people. Ya'll know that they come in trying to drop bait to get a reaction. Why even respond? (Shrug) at these folk. I just look at 'em through my computer screen (lol) like "nice try, you almost got me" - then I keep it moving. Sometimes I even laugh like, "yeah, that was slick." "Idolatry." Hah! Yeah, you almost had me. Then you lolololololololololololol all over the place when you get called out. Yeah, bet. Ok, now i'm laughing out loud for real. Please excuse, it's been a looong day, :) I'm clowning.

I'm so tired. Calgon take me awaaaaaay! lol. :) At least it's good for laughs.

Good night ya'll...and I have to get on a plane tomorrow morning after I get my hair done at 5a.m.
SC

I didn't suggest anything. I only gave MY feelings on the subject. I'm sure many people don't raise their orgs to that level, just like I'm sure that many do. But that's not my call to make. However, I can't help it if someone's heart is pricked while/after reading my post. That wasn't my intent, but if it happens and ultimately someone is helped, I won't be angry.

Is there some rule about who can talk about, or introduce, what?

Please do.

I just wanted to say that, if you were referring to me, I'm not "dropping bait" for a reaction and I wasn't called out. Neither did I back-pedal. I was just making it clear that my opinion is just that, mine, and has no bearing on anyone else.

My post is honestly how I feel. I understand that many (maybe even most) people here don't share my viewpoint, but since this is a public discussion board, I feel (and hope) I can contribute too - even if it is a minority viewpoint.

Have a safe trip.

Duly noted Soror. Me thinks the lady doth protest too much, but I am going to K.I.M. I am glad you got some laughs after your long day.