that's so sweet :)

Some men don't like to wear jewelry.

Some men, and some women, work in professions where it's dangerous to wear a ring. In that case, safety first - the ring stays off.

And sometimes you just forget to put it on in the morning.

But if someone normally wears a wedding ring, but takes it off for a night out with the guys or the girls, big red flag.

My husband almost always wears his engagement and wedding rings. Trust me, if he went out with the guys and left them at home, he'd get an earful :p

Okay, the guys wearing engagement rings intrigues me. What do they look like? Are they just bands? Did you buy them? When did you start wearing them?

I ask because the boy and I have been wearing matching claddaghs for almost 2 years now. I know mine is being upgraded to a diamond or emerald solitaire sometime soon, but I wanted to do something similar to that for him.

Neither of my parents wear their wedding bands. My father because he never had one, my mother because she just didn't like the idea.

I have never heard of an engagement ring for a man. Can someone please explain this to me? Thanks. :)

As for married men in bars, my friends and I went out one night and met a few guys. One guy kept hitting on one of my friends. I heard one of the guys say something about a wife. I looked at the guy hitting on my friend and his left hand was in his pocket. I asked him what time it was just to be a pain ;). He bent his head over and looked at his watch without removing his hand from his pocket. He didn't want to show his wedding band. I told my friend that he was married, and we got out of there fast. :)

I've never heard of engagement rings for guys either?

what a dirtbag!

I don't sweat it if my husband doesn't wear his ring. He is NOT a jewlery wearer and has a tendency to lose things (in his previous marriage he lost the wedding ring pretty quickly)

It seems like the women who hit on the men with the bands aim to hit on ones that are out of towners...

On a business trip for a quick fling.

Vegas is a place that is notorious for this.

I bought my fiance his engagement ring, actually before he proposed to me :) We knew we were getting engaged in the very near future, though. His is a white-gold band with a brushed finish and 4 black diamonds channel set across the band. I gave it to him the day after he proposed after we got home.

He's never worn jewelry before (not even a watch), but he loves that ring. It came about because he really liked some of the "fancier" rings, but we were worried that if he had one for his wedding band, it wouldn't stand up to 50+ years of wear and tear. I had suggested that he have a 'fancy' ring and a plainer, more durable ring, and it could be the same as women's rings... the fancy engagement ring, and the more durable wedding ring. I didn't expect him to go for it, but he thought it was a great idea. It seems to be a new trend... several of my friends' husbands/fiances have engagement rings too. I think it's wonderful!

what if he got fat and the ring hurts?

Get it sized :p

My husband wears his all the time with the exception of when he is in situations at work when there is a possibility of losing a finger in a press or piece of machinery.

I always wear my ring. I wear it to bed, in the shower, everywhere...the only time my ring comes off is when I clean it and when my arthritis acts up.

One of my friends who just got married rarely wears her ring. I told her husband that for the amount of money that he spent on that ring she should be wearing it all the time!

Ah, the story of my husband and his engagement ring... :)

After we got engaged, we picked out a ring for me together, but never discussed the idea of a ring for him.

A few months later, we went out for dinner with another couple we're friends with, who were engaged at the time (now happily married). Mr. aephi alum noticed that our friend was wearing a band on his left ring finger, and asked about it. He said it was his engagement ring. Mr. aephi alum turned to me and said, in a mock pouty voice, "Where's myyy engagement ring??" :)

I hadn't even known he wanted one, and he hadn't said anything to me before then. I asked if he was serious, he said yes, and so we picked out a ring for him.

His ring is a narrow yellow-gold band with a few channel-set diamonds. He still wears it with his wedding band.

Our friend had a really unusual ring - a wide band with a Hebrew inscription that translates to "I am my beloved's and my beloved is mine." He doesn't wear it any more, though - it was too wide to wear with his wedding band.

I am not yet married, but I am strongly committed to my boyfriend and he is to me. He gave me a "promise ring" type of thing about 2 years ago, and if I come over after taking a shower and I forget to put it on, he gets a really hurt look in his eye. I would probably feel the same if he had a ring that he didnt wear, that I gave him of course!

So I was reading through old threads and just had to bump this one up after something that happened over the weekend.

A lot of people in my hometown go to a local bar on Friday nights. Well my friends notice that a guy we will call Kevin has come in with his guy friends to the bar. A week ago he got married. Keep in mine he has known the girl less than a year, they met completely wasted at a club, and he JUST graduated in May from college and doesn't know what he is doing with his life. Nevertheless, I was willing to give him the benefit of the doubt and believe that he was truly "in love" with this girl.

Well we notice that Kevin isnt wearing his ring! One of our guy friends yells "Hey Kevin, where's your ring?" and he just laughed and said, "I can't hear you!" and totally playing it off.

Who goes to a bar a WEEK after their wedding without their wife OR their ring?

Maybe he's hard of hearing? :confused:

Just putting my .02 in for this topic.
As a police officer, my fiance will not wear his wedding ring after the wedding. Reason being is that we were told shortly after our engagement that b/c of the city he works in & the high # of crimes & gangs there, it's best to leave any personal things like wedding rings at home b/c you never know what can happen. Perhaps gang members want retribution against you for locking them or other associates up. It's better for them to know as little as possible about you including your status.

My husband is a sheriffs deputy (in LA) and takes his ring off while at work for a lot of the reasons listed above. When he's not at work, it goes back on.

I feel safe saying that this is one of the dumbest threads in the history of greekchat. I wish I could contribute more, but even I lack that patience.

-RC
--Rudey now loves pregnant women!

Do they milk prior to child birth?

-Rudey
--If so, then yes.

I'm married 10 years and my DH never takes his rings off...however, there are many situations where I won't wear my wedding rings...they're too expensive and I don't want to ruin them or lose them. When I go to the gym or SCUBA diving, I leave the rings at home.

However, in social situations, I always have my rings on.

You go scuba diving???


I'm thinking of starting that up as a hobby. Like I want to go to coral reefs and dive, though. I live in Miami, FLA and coral reefs arent far away in the carribean. Is it expensive to start up? And how much gear do you need.....

Tips?

cashmoney...I tried to PM you, but YOUR BOX IS FULL!! ;)

Here's what I wrote you.... LOL

I'm actually in the midst of getting certified right now. I've done 3 of my 4 dives required to get your Open Water (OW) certification. I was supposed to get my 4th dive done yesterday, but the water conditions were really poor and we had to abort the dive.

As far as start-up, finding classes in your area will most likely be easy. Even the YMCA has classes!! Costs may include registration and class fees, rental of gear and boat fees. I was required to purchase the following:

Mask
Fins
Snorkel
Boots (for the fins)
Gloves (cold water dives)

What I rented (fees for rental were $45 + $100 deposit (refundable) which includes tank refills):
Wetsuit (7mm)
Hood
Regulator/Computer/Octopus (2nd/backup reg)
Weights
BCD

Hope this helps! My start up cost in totem was about $500...I plan to buy more equipment as I get certified and have the money (little by little)...

Any other questions? Feel free to PM me back!!

Jodi

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LOL...the box is empty now. :)

Another question, is there any difference in certification between coral reef diving and freshwater spring diving? I'm asking because most divers I've been in contact with were diving in the one of million freshwater springs we have in Florida....but I want to dive and explore the coral reefs.

Nope! Certification for OW is for all waters...there is one exception...if the altitude is over 1000' then there's a different certification, but you'd still need your OW certs anyway before getting specialty certifications...the OW cert is the most basic and allows you to dive to 60' down. You can dive the coral reefs with this OW cert. :D

A lot of people

No kidding.....I'm assuming it takes about a week to really hit a man what exactly he just did. :)

New wife can't be secure about man going to bar with friends = marriage is doomed.

Man is cheating on wife with girls at bar = marriage is doomed.

Marriages only work if both people trust the other. For me, it would only really be an issue if I found out that my trust had been broken. People having affairs are generally pretty stupid about it, in fact, most of them kind of want to get caught.

Hey, if my wife was pregnant, I wouldn't be hauling her to the bar with me to be exposed to second hand smoke. She'd be staying at home. For all you know, the guy at the bar had taken the night off and hired a masseuse to take care of his wife at home -- a foot and back massage would probably be in order. Couples need time apart, and frankly, I didn't read the initial message of the thread, but is it any of your business anyway?

I must really be lucky because when I was pregnant & even now...all my fiances spare time is devoted to me & PJ... He never ever thought of going anywhere without me & even
if he would have I would have been waddling right in behind him!!

Now unless I am having my rings professionally cleaned or I have my hands in the dirt planting flowers ect....I never take my rings off...he proposed to me 4 months before we found out I was pregnant & then for our anniversary he bought me the matching band (my ring comes in a trio)
While I was pregnant & ready to deliver..I had to make a pit stop by a jewlers to have them cut my band off so I could get the engagement ring off just for delivery...I wasnt even home a week & had my band fixed & back on...I never take mine off because I am proud of it & it has a very special meaning...
My fiance has a ring that I have bought him & he NEVER takes it off! Just out of respect for our relationship & commitment to each other...

I guess it just goes to show that we're all really different, and one woman's lucky is another woman's ew gross get away from me for a minute. If Mr. valkyrie didn't think of going anywhere without me, I'd be plenty annoyed, and I'm sure he'd say the same thing. I think it's good to have your own life and interests away from your significant other, but hey, to each her own.

Yes we are all different because my life is my family & I wouldnt want to be anywhere without them.
You would be the same if you had a yr old son & a fiance who is a golf pro that you never get to see except maybe 2 days a week...we have plenty of time away from each other & we both chose to spend all our spare time together!

LOL, if I had a year old son, I would be really unhappy because I don't want to have kids, ever.

Well thats you..not me...I am perfectly happy being a parent!

Hello all --

Got a story to contribute - three weeks ago, some co-workers and I went to a notorious singles bar on a Thurs night. We were talking to two guys, one in from Ohio and the other from his job downtown. The Ohio one mentioned they were staying in NYC that night at his hotel and then he was going out to NJ and staying with his downtown friend and his wife. So he outed his friend to us. I got to talking to the NJ friend - we went to friendly private schools a couple of years apart and were talking about commuting. Later that night, his ring was definitely in his pocket and him and his Ohio friend were going down to the Lower East Side to live it up - they wanted me and my friends to come with.

I was pretty horrified but I wondered... how much does this really happen? I would assume often enough...