Definately got my first choice!!!

I just wanna be a Phi Sigma Sigma...
I just wanna wear the Sphinx of gold...
If I can't have this, which I know is best,
I don't want no pin at all!
Ba do ba do

I was in love with one sorority while attending the college I used to go to. When I transfered to MTSU I knew that I would go through recruitment and join XYZ. But after I went to their parties, I found out that they were different from the group I knew at the other school. While they are great girls and a great organization, I really saw that I would not fit in. I would not admit to myself that I liked a different sorority. It was a good thing when they dropped me. I was upset, but it gave me a chance to really look at the other sororities with an open mind. I LOVE being in Delta Zeta. At first it was not my first choice, but I was biased. I am really happy where I am, I would not have enjoyed the other group as much. Plus, MTSU is VERY panhellenic so I have friends from all the sororities. I am happy with my choice, even though if you would have asked me before recruitment I would have said no way! One thing you have to remember is that all GLO's are different on each campus.

Sarah Beth
Delta Zete II 2002

THATS DELTA ZETA, Its too late to type!

I got my first choice!!!!
And it is one of the best choices I have ever made in my life!
I knew after the first five minutes of each party, where I belonged. I made the best of the week with XYZ but I had my heart set on Phi Sig. I even attended XYZ's preference just so I could compare it with FSS. lets just say it sealed the deal on where I wanted to go ;) -- no offense to them, their pref was nice, but Phi Sig is my home.

~Heather

I did, thank goodness. My roommate had suicided her house the year before and told me how everyone told her not to, but she ended up where she belonged. When I went to sign my card after Pref, I really wanted to suicide XO but decided not to. I was afraid the "Bid Matching Gods" would punish me by not letting me get Chi Omega! I spent the rest of the night worried that I would get the other house (which was full of great girls, but just not "me"). I breathed a sigh of relief on Bid Day when one of the girls who attended Chi O pref with me had the same size envelope with the same handwriting on the front! We hugged each other before we even opened the envelopes!!! :D

Well i at first wanted to be a Sigma Chi then a Phi Delt and then a Sigma Nu but that was right after i went out with each and heard their rush speeches. After weighing everything everyone said and all i decided i wanted to be a Pike and well i chose wisely.

I got my first choice. It was also my only choice, and the only house I looked at.

You have to lovea campus with no formal rush for fraternities...it makes things so much easier.

panhel rush is just messed up, imho.

Yes, I got my first choice! :)

Yes, got my first choice, and I love every moment I've spent thus far in D Phi E. BUT, had I not gotten a bid there, I probably would've been just as happy with my second choice :) No matter the letter, we're all greek together ;)

I suicide Preffed Alpha Gam, I knew it was home and if they didn't feel the same for me I didn't want to be a member of any other group because my heart would have been with AGD>
I think I got in, oh yeah, I did, cause I was active for 3 years and now I am a proud alum!

Follow your heart!
 

This is a tale of following your heart instead of your head. I went through Rush twice.

I was "dirty rushed" the first year. As a freshman I was stuck on a sorority floor of a dorm (before my campus had sorority houses). All the older, i.e. graduating, members were really sweet and nice to me even though the younger ones weren't. One senior kept saying that I was going to be her little sis. During Rush, I really liked the Zetas but *knew* I was going to be in XXX. The day before pref, I was at the Zeta party, bawling my eyes out because I felt so at home but I asked them not to invite me back. I felt like the choice would be too hard to make between Zeta and XXX. I didn't get invited back to ANY pref parties because the senior that wanted me as her little sis was a Rush Counselor and had also told everyone I was going to join XXX.

At first I was so mad about having my chain yanked by XXX, for being so naive and especially for being afraid to take a chance on Zeta because of a "guaranteed" bid to another group. I look back now and am so relieved that I didn't join XXX. Because of my friendship with the older members, I missed a lot of warning signs about the rest of the group and I probably would have de-pledged. Turns out that some of the younger members of XXX on the dorm floor didn't like me because I saw them bringing lots of guys in and out after hours. The next semester, the majority of the members that I was friends with graduated and the younger members took over.

Things went downhill in their chapter after that. The members that lived in the dorm came home knee-walking drunk most nights. They should have had rehab rather than initiation. I had fun in college but these girls were really out of control. That year they were also busted for having drugs at one of their formals. (You could see a baggie of cocaine on a table in a couple of their party pix.) The president of their chapter and the president of campus panhellenic (a member of XXX) resigned their positions and then tried to blame the other sororities on campus for the incident. And if they had charged for the number of one-stands they continued to have, no one would have needed to pay chapter dues. You also were *encouraged* to change your hair color. Almost all the members became blonde, even the dark brunettes which looked really weird.

The next year I went through Rush with what I thought was an open mind, even towards XXX. At the end of the week I had cut them, got a couple of pref invites but on the bid card, I went "suicide" Zeta. I just felt so at home that I wouldn't have belonged anywhere else. My roommate, who was never interested in going through Rush, said she knew before Rush even started that I was going to end up as a Zeta because my closet was full of turquoise shirts. So much for an open mind.

Although every other XXX I've met as an alum has been super nice, I still have a hard time not resenting them as a whole because of the year I wasted not being a Zeta. My pledge sisters were great though so I'm glad I ended up with them. It's amazing how things work out.

Re: Follow your heart!
 

Oh my lord . . .

Their drug use is their choice, but why would they be so dumb as to bring it to a sorority function? And leave it out on the table? While pictures were being taken? That just blows my mind.

I got my first choice, but could have made the best with my second. Anything after that would have been a disappointment. I am with the best group of girls anywhere (I know we all think that). I am where I belong, and will never regret my decision.

Is there anybody who got there 2nd or third choice through bid matching and is happy with their placement? I know we have some girls at my campus who get placed with their 2nd choice and decline the bid. We always say "no, give the system a chance", has anyone actually done this and been successful?

I joined a house that was never even a consideration for me during Rush. I went through rush wanting this one house so badly I could taste it and I was invited back to all rounds there except for Pref. I was crushed. :( I had 3 Pref invites however (which was the max. number allowed) but two of those houses were just not at ALL what I was looking for and the third, while it is a big and popular chapter on my campus, I couldn't see myself ever just hanging around with those girls. I honestly had no idea why they kept asking me back and I never had over the max. number of invites so I could have released them. I withdrew from rush the morning of Pref and thought I had made the right desicion by not joining a sorority. However, I later regretted it once school started and all my friends were so happy in their respective houses. I didn't go to any of the COB events offered by any houses b/c I had already seen them during rush and I just was being obnoxious and I refused to give them a chance at all. Luckily Phi Mu just HAPPENED to be colonizing at my school that fall and I went and had an interview. I was offered a bid a few days later. I decided to give it a chance, mainly b/c I loved the color pink, (How stupid is that?? But really I didn't have a whole lot to base it on, since there was no existing chapter) Now almost two years later I can't imagine ever being anywhere else but where I am. My chapter has been through highs and lows, but we all love each other dearly and have a blast together, plus we have a brand new beautiful house to boot! :) Funny how things end working out, isn't it??

Great story, FAB*SpiceySpice! Sounds like you really followed your instincts and they led you to the best place for you! :)

When I went through recruitment, I fell in love with XYZ from the very first round. It was my top choice all week, and when I got invited to pref night, I was sure that this was the chapter for me. I attended three parties on pref night, and I preffed XYZ first. When bid day came, I didn't receive a bid from my first choice. I was really upset...I couldn't understand what had happened. Everything had gone so well!

I did receive a bid from my second pick, a chapter that had slowly been creeping up during recruitment week. I decided that everything happens for a reason, and embraced my new chapter. It was really the best thing that has ever happened to me. My chapter gave me so much....wonderful sisters, leadership opportunities, amazing traditions and lifelong friendships.

I was a recruitment counselor my junior year, and the head recruitment counselor my senior year, and I was asked both times to tell my story to the prospective members. I stood up in front of the 800+ pm's right before the recruitment counselors handed out the pref invitations. I have had dozens of girls tell me that my story really helped them when they were put in the same situation. I guess everything really does happen for a reason. I ended up a member of an amazing sorority, and I was able to help others through my story.

Sorry to be so long!

azureblue
Alpha Delta Pi.....First. Finest. Forever.

Yes, I got my first choice and I haven't looked back since! :)

However, I'm also positive that I would have been very happy in my second choice, and probably even in my third. PNMs, please keep your minds open to all possibilities because you never know what wonderful adventures may await you! All the NPCs are much more alike than they are different.

I got my second choice...
 

Well, back in the day, when it was called rush and not recruitment, I went into fall rush really liking AOII a lot, they were super nice to me before rush(no dirty rushing, they were just really sweet, and not fake) and the other houses on campus were just out and out rude. I even heard one girl say on the first day of school (from another chapter on campus) that she never wears letters to school because she didn't want her professors to get preconceived notions about her. At the time, I thought that was bogus, and I still do...but I digress.

Anyhow, during rush I went in with an open mind and all the other houses wowed me a lot. I really liked two in particular. When pref came around I flipped a coin to see who I was going to pref, house A, house B, or AOII. AOII was naturally on the list, so it was basically between A and B. B won the toss, and I went to their pref 1st. The whole time I was there I felt like I wanted to be in that house. I went to AOII and really wanted to be back at house B because they were more like me (blonde, lots of ex-cheerleaders, etc). So I put house B in my #1 spot and AOII in my #2 spot.

Bid day: I was nervous, but I picked up my bid, and at first I was really bummed, I wanted so much to be in the other house, but after reflecting on how their members treated me prior to rush I realized that they were just kissing my *** because it was rush. I went to bid day, and made the most of my four years. I can't imagine what it would have been like to be in the other house. I know now that I did not belong there at all and that AOII is the best place for me. I am now an adviser for my chapter, and realized that I am an AOII forever. I could never be anywhere else.

Re: I got my second choice...
 

Actually, that's a problem on some campuses. There's a professor at my school where her son pledged a fraternity and she blamed it on him failing out of college. If she sees you wearing Greek letters, the best you will get is a C. Most likely, you'll get a D or an F though. I've been fortunate enough to never have her for class, but several of my sisters have. I don't know of any other professors at my university who does this, but I usually ask around before wearing letters to classes with professors I don't know.

I was just about to comment that it IS a legitimate problem at some schools. My school is fairly anti-Greek, at least for a Big 10 university. I don't think that my grade would be blatantly docked for being in a Greek organization, but I've definitely had professors or TAs with prejudices against the Greek system. It's just easier not to wear letters in front of them, because it can bring out their nasty side, or they can simply be blinded by the fact that I'm in a sorority and just automatically assume I'm stupid and shallow because of it, and that sometimes can subtly affect grades.

Yes, I was lucky enough to get my first choice -- at a large SEC school -- as a junior. So, it can be done.

My first choice was, is and will always be... Alpha Delta Pi! :)

But as proud as I am to be an ADPi, I am just as proud to be a Greek Sister and share membership in Greek Life with all you!

:)

I rushed my sophomore year after being talked out of rushing freshman. I had friends in all the sororities and felt I would get a bid into a particular one because I was a legacy and good friends with a lot of them.

Well I got dropped from all houses after house parties. Greek Life said it wasnt messed up, but I had two chapters come back and tell me that I was invited back for skit night. This broke my heart, especially when I thought I fit in with the group I wanted to join.

The greek system at my school is very exclusive. Four chapters on campus are very girly, dress very nice, carry the newest Kate Spade bags and their sister hood. I got a Snap bid from Alpha Phi, which was very down to earth and the smallest on campus.

At first I turned by nose up at the thought of joining them, but I remembered thinking during rush that these were the girls that my mom would most like me to be friends with. I went ot bid day and was disappointed to see only 7 pledge sisters. I made the best of it and talked to people I would have never given the time of day to normally. One girl cried the entire time and she eventually quit.

I love my chapter and my sisters to death now and am extremely embrassed that I was "snotty" about joining. I am a much better person because of my sisters and our organization and met people that are truly my friends and not nice to me because I have on cute shoes. Also being smaller, I know everyone in Alpha Phi and we are all pretty close and hang out. We didnt have a lot of drama and even passed around ex boyfriends (while smiling)

k

I suicided ZTA and got it of course. I had preffed 1 other chapter which folded the next year. They were nice girls but I knew I didn't belong. ZTA had been my 1st choice since day 1. When I first walked into the suite it felt a breath of fresh air and I just knew it had to be Zeta! :D

At my school we have defered recruitment. I had made up my mind I wanted to be in XYZ. I think it was b/c I got to know one of their sisters so well and she was a sweetie. Well they cut me right before pref. I got my invites for pref and just stared at it, left the room, and just bust out into tears in the arms of my best friend. Breaking down in public is something I do not do! LOL So I dropped out of rush but got a snap bid from DG. I just didn't feel right there but my roomie went DG. So over the next several weeks the DGs would come by to see my roomie and I got to know some of them pretty good and we went out and did stuff. And you all are going to think I'm nuts when I say this but I swear I would be sitting there (on my hall somewhere) and be thinking about the DGs and I swear the next thing I knew they were walking down the hall! Not the whole chapter, just a couple of girls and they were coming to see me! The next thing I knew they handed me another bid! And I accepted! Looking back, I just don't think I would have fit in to XYZ. I had/have so much fun with my DG sisters! Sometimes I think God knows whats better for you than you do or what you think is the right answer. I was meant for DG and didn't even know it! :)

I did get my first choice, I just didn't see myself happy in any of the other chapters at my school. The other houses are great, but I just didn't know any of the girls from one chapter (after a year at school with under 1000 students), and the other chapter wasn't me. There really isn't anything negative to say. Each chapter has its own style that caters to different types of women and Sigma was my style. We're diverse, we're unique and we have a cum 3.1 GPA!!!! the other chapters have their strengths, but Sigma will always be my number one!!!

trisigmaATL-- Which School are you at? I have a friend at Emory in Theta and a PNM going to GA Tech in the fall

I did not want to go through rush. My HS had 2 sororities that hazed a lot and I wanted nothing to do with them. My mother and I were unable to speak a civil word to each other and I decided to go through rush just so I could move down to school a week early. I could stay in the dorms as long as I went to the first day parties. I figured that I would go the first day then drop and spend the rest of rush week at the beach.

My first house was KD. I really liked them but figured that all the houses would be the same and I would probably find out that they were all phonies. At the end of the day, I was in love with KD, knew the houses that would never want me and which ones I could not wait to drop. I then decided to stay in rush until KD dropped me and then I would just go to the beach. I was in total shock when I actually went to preference night at KD. Signed my preference card and then called my parents to see if I could break my dorm contact if KD accepted me.

The next day I was on cloud nine when I opened my bid and was KD! So yes I got my first choice once I started rush, but did not go into rush wanting any house.

Yes and no....I originally went into formal recruitment (as a sophomore) wanting to go KD, just because all my friends were there. When they dropped me after the (edited: third) round, I went to two pref parties: ADPi and Delta Delta Delta. I knew after each party that I would be the happiest at ADPi...I just didn't have that "sisterly" connection with the Tri-Delta ladies (who are ALL wonderful). Our university frowns upon suiciding (I've never heard it called intentional single preference!) so I put them both down, and was so happy to open my bid card and see that Alpha Delta Pi had extended me a bid....so I did get my first choice in the long run, and it worked out better because I got to know an entire group of ladies that I likely would never have met if I had gone KD...some of these ADPi ladies who are now some of my best friends!

Well...mine is kinda a long story, so bear with me. :)

When I came to college I decided not to go through Rush due to lack of money and time because of my hectic major (Music Education, emphasis in Saxophone). I really wanted to be Greek though. The first day of marching band(which was my first day at college), I saw all the Tau Beta Sigmas with their letters on and doing their chant and I thought, I want to be part of this! I mean, I had no idea music Greeks existed, and I thought, wow, could it be any more perfect??!

However....

I never clicked with anyone who was in TBS at the time. They are, and always have been, SUPER nice, SUPER spirited guys and girls(they're coed here)..but I just didn't click with them. Besides, at the time, I was very shy and felt intimidated by them. So, I decided not to rush Tau Beta Sigma. I was totally depressed, because I REALLY wanted to be Greek.

Then, a local music GLO we had at the time, Phi Theta Sigma(who are now inactive) gave me a bid in the spring. I was once again excited by the idea of being Greek, but I just didn't click with them either.

Then, a friend told me how she was rushing Sigma Alpha Iota. I had heard of them, but I thought they were only for girls in choir because everyone in the chapter at the time was in choir, or had been, or was in choir as well as band. I commented how I wished I could rush to a member who thankfully informed me that I was very much eligible to rush because SAI is a MUSIC GLO, not a choir one. So, I rushed...and pledged..and never felt so at home with a group of girls in my life. It makes me glad I didn't just accept a bid from the other two groups; not that they're bad groups. They're wonderful. But, I didn't click with them. SAI became instant family. :)

I loved your story, Sairose! You are such a great example of someone who joined a GLO for all the right reasons :)

I didn't get my first choice. I came into Recruitment with a biased view because the girl i was rushing with told me all the stereotypes of each chapter and that we wanted to be in XYZ. I went along with her because i wanted to be in the chapter that everyone else wanted. I attended both prefs and was really moved by Sigma Kappa's and not so much bu XYZ but I still put XYZ as my first choice. I was really upset at first. XYZ tried to tell me not to accept my bid and rush again next year that it was a mistake (a common practice by them at my school) but i stuck it out. Now I thank God everyday thatI'm a Sigma Kappa, I would have it no other way. I like to think fate took me where I really belonged
P.S. As for the girl i rushed with, she got XYZ and it was hard to keep a relationship with her (they are our rivals) she ended up dropping before initiation.

YES YES YES!
 

Hello all-

I am new here, I have lurked on these boards for quite some time, but I just recently decided to register!
Anyways, I'm a Chi Omega at the University of Tulsa. Chi Omega was my 1st choice from the start. Their are 6 national sororities at my school, and I liked each of them for different reasons, but I personally felt the most home at Chi O. I could see myself with these girls, and being friends, and everything. I was torn between Chi O, and AB sorority..AB was great, and I still have lots of friends in them, and I am sure I would have been very happy there too, but I just knew that Chi-O was for me. I can remember being SO nervous that I wouldn't get in...quota was only 10, and SO many girls loved Chi-O too, that I just didn't know if there would be a place for me, or if they would even offer me a bid. But I took a chance, put them first, and have had zero regrets ever since!!

-Helen

Thanks a whole lot. :) SAI is very near and dear to my heart. It took me a bit of searching to find my home, but I'm glad I waited instead of joining a sorority just to be joining one, y'know?

yes, yes i did!

it was a hard decision as i enjoyed all my pref parties and girls in different GLOs....a legacy to one group, really bonded with one girl in particular in another.....but i felt 100% like alpha gam was the place for me. made a lot of fast connections with the alpha gams and felt completely at home. so i thought about it for 5 minutes in that lil room b/4 signing my bid card with alpha gam 1st...never looked back!

That's a hard question. Especially if you have a large (i.e., many sororities) to choose from.

Do you mean you got your first choice that you listed first on your bid card after pref?

Did you get your first choice before you even went to rush orientation?

Did you get your first choice after your first exposure to all the houses?

I was so worried about getting into a popular sorority that I didn't care which one I got into. However, to answer my own questions,

1) yes
2) no but it was in my brain already
3) no

yes yes yes!!! i did get my first choice:D the only reason why i went through recruiment was that my friend was a rho chi and she couldnt tell me what chapter she was in. i thought she was in another chapter but low and behold she was in sigma kappa. i couldnt imagine my life without sigm kappa!:eek:

I suited (at Purdue we call the pref round suits) Pi Phi, Chi-O, and Phi Mu. Pi Phi and Chi-O had really great parties, but my heart was with Phi Mu. I already felt at home when i left. I put them number one and i cant believe im going to be a senior this year. Its amazing how fast time flies when youre having fun :cool: