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Hehehehe i asssume you don't know my rep on here.

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i assume you lean torwards more of the ig'nant/buckwild/7:30 posting up in the spot?

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Nope.

Just usually pretty vocal about things.

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clearly, since you got like 10x more posts than i got. and you a month older than i am in GC years. vocal ain't got nothing on you.

Hey, I'm a white girl... and if I ever meet our "oh-so-intelligent friend" UF Pike, you can bet for sure that he'd get a good, old fashion, swift kick in the nuts. :D

I think thats a great idea. :)

All tact aside.. You can really find some validity in what he said. He may have said it in a way that COMPLETELY put folks on the defensive but do you doubt that he was telling the truth?

Would you be less offended if he lied?

Think about the intercultural aspects of interracial relationships -- it doesn't always apply but it often does. Statements such as "White girls are trouble" reflect the attitudes of a culture. Remember the thread where we couldn't even agree on the meaning of the term "racism"?

(do a search for a thread called prejudism if not)

Its lik I said before, I know what he's trying to say. I just dont like the way he said it. It's like I were to say something like, "I can bring a white guys home if they get rid of their southern accents, stop wear abercrombie (which I love btw) and start dressing somewhat like decent black guys by wearing structure. Oh and they need to leave their skateboard and surfboards out of the conversation with my parents":rolleyes:

One doesnt have to date outside his race. It doesnt make you racist if you dont. But the least you could do is have some respect for other people.

Okay, I know I am going to get flamed for this one but, I will never ever be able to date any man that does not appear to be a caucasian. My parents would more than flip out. They would eventually accept it, but I know it would totally dissappoint my mother, my grandmother would never speak to her again and my aunts and uncles (except for one) would more than likely disown my mother and father also. In my family it just isn't allowed. I had a huge crush on a guy my sophomore year in high school (he was a senior, and african american) and totally hot!! We kissed and hung out, talked on the phone all the time and stuff, but when we talked about possibly dating I was honest with him about my mother's opinions on interracial (or intercultural) dating. (My father isn't nearly as bad as my mom- but she was raised in Memphis in the 1950's). He was understanding and we decided to just be friends.
Did I miss out? Yes. I know I did. I missed out on dating an wonderful, sexy, kind, compassionate, intelligent man. He and I have remained friends (he is married and has a baby girl now, and is getting his PhD to become a Biology professor). Do I regret it?... No. The strife it would have cause my family and my parents, and the dissappointment from them, in me, would be more than a man.
Men come and men go, even sometimes the ones you marry, but your parents and your family- you only get one of those... ever. I am attracted to men of all races, and I have dated them, but never seriously. Does that make me racist? I don't think so, I think it just means I know I can pick from many men, and I choose to pick men that I know my parents would approve of.

On a side note, I hate it that my parents are like that, and my brothers feel the same way I do, but we understand that is them, not us. One of the reasons my ex and I broke up was because he said no child of his would date outside their race. Bye bye! My kids can date who ever they want- I don't care.
And, on top of all that, I was raised in a prodominately african american neighborhood. Most of my friends from my childhood are not white. They are every color but white. So why my parents are against me dating people that aren't I will never understand.
Maybe it is because I am only 23, and I still feel the need to make my parents happy, and i don't want to dissappoint them or hurt them.
Someone else said that you can't marry someone for your parents, which is true, but you can try and choose someone that you know your parents will not utterly protest against.
I have friends that are asian and their mother would Kill them if they brought a white girl home, and one of the hottest guys I know is Jewish, and I mean this boy is sexy's definition, I would love to date him, but he will not date a girl that is not Jewish. I don't have to like it to live it.

Hmmm, Ilovemyglo, I think I can kinda understand where you are coming from.

I too want my parents to approve of who I date because they want the best for me, but on the other hand, they totally trust my judgement. If they wanted me to stop dating a person, they will have a legitimate reason other than skin color. I mean, they might not like it, but they know me and will eventually get used to it. Love is where you find it, and my parents have always told me "foresake mother, father, sister, and brother" when it comes to a soul mate (I think they got that from somewhere in the bible). Now with my brother, it is veeery different because he is colorstruck (or at least he used to be). Light skin girls, Hispanic girls, some white girls were all he used to talk about :rolleyes:. That really hurt me because it was like a slap in the face. My parents are extra careful about him and who he sees because he is a star athlete and alll kinds of hoochies call the house. They are worried that white girls will use him just to "see what it's like" or that some girl's redneck father will come after him with a noose and shotgun. When he really grows up, matures, and finds someone, I'm sure my parents will approve but for right now, they can see straight through the bullshit. ;)

man, i know i can't say this about asian women. i mean, i'm openminded and everything as far as other races are concerned. but what kinda guy would i be if i gave up on women who looked like me? that's like a slap in my mother's face, like i have a problem with being what i am. IMHO, there's a degree of self-hatred in me not wanting to have anything to do with a woman of my heritage.

Others have asked me that, but, I like what I like. Ever since I was a kid, I was attracted to Caucasian men. My first crush was Superman (Christopher Reeve). I won't be changing anytime soon. Everyone who challenges me on it eventually just accepts it. It's who I am...I used to be ashamed and very defensive, but I realize that I cannot live my life to make others happy.

hey, it's cool...do you. i don't have any qualms with it. i know some asian chicks who have said the same thing about asian men even if they've never dated one. my last girl, i was the first asian cat she's dated...and it blew her mind. but there's something behind not having to explain certain things becuase they already know them. my thing is, how can you say you're all that openminded when you've not tasted the whole rainbow, especially you're own color? it's just as closeminded to not date inside as it is not to date outside.

My boyfriend of 5 years is Indian, and I am in shock reading this. He was born in the U.S., but his parents were born and raised in India and a lot of his family is still there. My b/f's grandparents didn't even have an arranged marriage. He told me that he's pretty sure that his great-grandparents did have arranged marriages, but that things like that don't really happen too often anymore. His family is really open and understanding, and although at first I was worried that they wouldn't like me or that they wouldn't want him to date me because I'm white, none of them cared at all. Actually, one of his uncles has been married to a Jewish woman for over 30 years, and their daughter just married a man from Mexico.

My boyfriend is really charming and wonderful, so I wasn't really worried about my family liking him. They are very nice to him and like him a lot, but I still hear some members of my family using racial slurs from time to time when he's not around (not to refer to him though). I tell them that they shouldn't say things like that, but they always say that they wouldn't say things like that about my boyfriend because he's "not like other Indian people," whatever that's supposed to mean. :rolleyes:

I don't see why my thread got deleted.....


I think there are a lot of new black chicks on this board who are trying to start some racist war. " Oh, this white dude is trashin black people!"

Listen, I'm not at all trashing black people. I know a lot of people up in Atlanta who I'm friends with and are almost all black. Atlanta is like the Chicago of the south. I'm not at all racist. However, that doesn't change the fact that if i ever were to date a black chick she'd have to act white if she wanted to meet my parents.


Damn, some of you really take offense at this crap. Seriously, I could easily start up a debate about how easy minorities have it as far as getting into college and Law School......just because they're minorities. If you're Jewish, Black or Asian, and you have the same grades as a white student when applying for UF's Law School.....chances are you'll get in and the white kid won't. Plain and simple. There was a big issue about it a year or two ago and the College of Law started letting all kinds of people in from what I heard, based soely on the fact that they were'nt white protestants. The college took a lot of heat and in the process probably let some lesser qualified people in. I'm sure it happened in a few cases.

Don't try and turn this into a white people bashing black peopel thing.....It's not happening.......That card has been played one too many times in this country.

THE MISEDUCATION OF UF_PIKEC98

...coming to a town near you.

I will just leave the whole post in all of its ignorant splendor.

First, I am far from new. I didn't think you were trying to start a race war, nor did I think "this white dude is bashin black people! (cowabunga!)". I did think you sounded like a horse's azz so I decided to respond.

Second, I am from Atlanta. I feel sorry for my brethern who are acquainted with you.

Third, you are an idiot.

Now that we have cleared that up...

I really doubt any black girls are attracted to you, unless they are really immersed in self-hatred. So you probably won't ever have to worry about bringing any home to mommy.

Now, let us examine how you got into your university, shall we? Oops. You are not in one. For whatever reasons, you can't seem to matriculate all the way through, huh? So before you even think about criticizing someone's admission into college, consider the fact that you can't seem to hack it yourself.

I'm taking the semester off, I didn't quit school. I've never had a semester off. I haven't grad yet because I've changed my major so many freaking times.


you feel sorry for your brethern..... Girl those black friends of mine are more white than some of the white people I know. They make jokes about me being white all the time. I crack on them for being black.....We all know it's in fun.

Next, I think you're totally taking this a little too far......Some of the things you say makes me wonder somtimes, but I don't hark on you about it.


And if you must know.....i do have a major problem with black chicks hitting on me......most of you black girls do find white guys sexy....

I dont care about your opinion for black girls. It's your swelled head that is getting on my nerves. You may be the sexiest man alive but dont think you are breaking the black girls' hearts cause you wont give them the time of day.

I dont want to start a race war. I was just defending myself. Do you see what you are actually saying?
It may be an opinion or a way that you choose to live, but it just sounds ignorant because you putting all of the black girls in one category with that stereotype about the cornrows and the weaves, etc.
You can chose not to date outside your race, religion, culture,...it doesnt matter. But if you cant help falling for someone in spite of her being black, jewish, asian.....give it a shot. you dont know what you could be missing. If it truly makes you happy then your parents will come around. If not, then they have a problem.

I sort of casually dated/talked to a black guy in high school, but my father wasn't too happy about it. He ended up regretting it hardcore. Derek asked me to prom when I was a junior and he was a senior. I couldn't go and I ended up getting a last minute date with this white guy who turned out to be a drug dealer and who ditched me at the prom to smoke dope.:rolleyes: Derek was an awesome guy and he is a two-sport college athlete now who has won all sorts of awards. Totally outstanding! But my high school was known for a lot of interracial relationships and for acceptance.

At my college there are hardly any black PEOPLE, let along black guys. Me and my friend Devin were joking about one day. She was like "I've worked my way through all seven black guys in my class, now it's time to start on the white dudes." I feel really sorry for a lot of the independent black girls because it is so hard for them to get dates (we don't have, but need, an NPHC group). I mean, if most white guys don't date them (or honestly don't know them if they're not Greek), they're left with a miniscule amount of black dudes, more of whom pledge and know more people. Girls who pledge ususally don't have as big of a problem. In my sorority there are several black and biracial sisters and they date whoever they want to date. And some of my white sisters date interracially too. One of them is actually going through an ordeal right now because her dude is (a Lambda Chi) graduating and Pakistani, and he might not be able to stay in the states unless she marries him!:eek: Now, I'm just exposed to more white guys because of my school's social life but if I was in another environment I'd probably date interracially. My boyfriend now is "white" but has Hispanic heritage and has really dark skin and hair... His brothers call him Fez, pretty much they look exactly alike... WHOA, he's hot, can't wait to get back from break!:o

You honestly fail to see the racist tone in that and some of the things you said in your other post? Let me break it down for you so you might be able to get a clue as to why your post was deleted. WTF is "acting" white? If I speak proper english, wear GAP and Abercrombie, and decide not to wear braids or cornrows...does that make me "white?" My problem is that people automatically equate things of this nature with "acting White" and associate ignorance, gold teeth, ebonics, weaves, etc. with "acting Black." :rolleyes: Being Black has nothing to do with speech, hair, or dress. That is a STEREOTYPE and puts all African American people in one catergory.

But the fact is we are not talking about affirmative action in employment and admissions. That is a whole new can of worms that I'm sure you DO NOT want to open up especially with me. Trust. This thread is about interracial dating so leave it at that....

NOWorNEVER, do you go to A&T? I have a bunch of friends that go there and also Guilford and UNC-G. I actually used to live in High Point.

I can't be perfect (although I try DESPERATELY). No, I'm not interested. We all have certain preferences. Some won't date someone larger than a size 8, some only like men over 6'. Can't like everyone all of the time....I appreciate your point of view...but, yeah, this could be an area in which I am seen as closeminded. I guess I'm ok with that.

UNCG! :D

UNCG is such an awesome school. I wish I'd looked into it more. I didn't realize they had an African-American studies major. I know they have an undergraduate Museum Studies concentration, which is really unusual. Props to them!

My current boyfriend is Irish/Italian/French and I am Chinese-American. Before him, I mostly dated Filipinos and Chinese guys. My father was a little taken a back when I told him I was bringing a caucasian guy home (especially since he's also a Republican and my dad is a die hard Democrat!). I think the different political views were more of an isssue than our different races to my dad! It's been almost three years now and my dad is completely accepting of my boyfriend as long as he treats me with respect and loves me.

Now, my little sister just started dating and her first boyfriend is Italian-Mexican, so she always thanks me for breaking dad in! :D

I'll answer this in four parts.


First, yes.....that does make you white ( to other white people )


Second, When was the last time you saw a white guy that was stupid, had his entire grill capped with gold, wearing weeve and speaking the only language he knows.....ebonics?


Thirdly, it depends on how you look at it......I got a new truck for christmas. A certain rapper has the same vehicle, but more decked out with rims. When I'm riding down the road with a black friend of mine while listening to this rappers song about his shoes, my friend always makes some smart a$$ remark about me wanting to be black. He tells me I want to be this guy. That in it's self tells me that even blakc people themselves know the is a certain way black and white people can act that makes them appear the other color figuratively.


Finally, If you want to start up about this racism crap.....affirmative action has everything to do about it. I personally think it's a bunch of bull.....it's a way to give people an easier ride because their skin is a different color or their religious preference is not what most people choose to follow. I'm catholic....so I guess that puts me in the same category as you.....a minority......

i'll answer this in 4 parts, as well.....

1. those white folks who think that are idiots. what the hell does wearing a brand of clothing and wearing your hair a certain way make you one way or another? that line of thinking is for those who have small minds, and large holes in their head.

2. never seen that, becuase the white trash i've seen had no teeth, had a girlfriend who resembled their mother, was EXTREMELY stupid, and drove a pick up. now should we consider you white trash?

3. depends how who looks at it? an uneducated person who is too small minded to look at something without losing all train of thought? you're minute intelligence and maximum ignorance seem to make a lot of generalizations don't you? becuaes you know, ALL black people want to be like nelly and own a pair of uptowns.

4. what the hell affirmative action have to do with interracial dating? and what the hell does affirmative action have to do with calling someone a spic? nothing, this is a dating thread. i think it's quite great that affirmative action does great things for WHITE women, too (who, by the way are the biggest beneficiaries of AA). so does getting into a school in which someone's parents donate a lot of money to, so they probably had to let a rich kid with no brains but a lot of lineage in. guess preference is a bitch, huh?

I'll hit it up with 3 responses.....


1. That just goes to show how bad white people have it. We can be both black and trailer trash. I've never seen Black trailer trash.....why?? because if they're that poor they just end up being ghetto....


2. By your response I can tell you didn't really know what to say. So, you just cracked on me being ignorant....which I'm not.


3. It depends on where you live........In florida, for example, black people and hispanics benifit from it more. Why? Well, Florida has a large Hispanic and black population. The rich white women aren't the only ones who don't work here, the trailer trash women don't hold jobs themselves. And the ones they do hold.....well, they're mainly convience store jobs or walmart-kmart type of stuff, they don't have much competetion for those types of jobs and so AFA isn't needed....

Ya startin to feel me?

I'm just going to say this and leave it alone because your ignorance is astonishing. If you are really as close-minded and as ill-informed as you present yourself to be you don't have to worry about affirmative action preventing you from being admitted anywhere. You're ignorance and lack of knowledge should get you denied all on your own merit.

Looks like we got another undercover GC'er who's ashamed to use their real screen name.

I'm not undercover at all. I've been a silent reader for a while but I just had to register and say something. I can't believe that someone could be so ill-informed yet arrogant. I always thought it was better to be thought a fool than to open your mouth and remove all doubt. Obviously not everyone feels that way.

you are in fact, quite ignorant. from your post, you seem to think it's ok to stereotype people becuase of how certain group of people act. what the hell does owning a nice truck and listening to hip hop have to do with wanting to be black? like NOWorNEVER said, what the hell is acting white/black/green/blue? your buddy's comments make him just as ill-informed. i know plenty of accomplished black people who don't own uptowns, don't drive an escalade, or try and rap. but you seem to think that becuase what you see on tv is so cool, that it just HAS to be true. this isn't rocket science, sonny jim, saying black folks and white folks act a certain way is the same line of thinking that good ole boys make life easier without thinking. and actually, the fact WHITE women are the biggest beneficiaries of AA moots anything you say as irrelevant. and like so many of us before has said, what the hell does affirmative action have to do with interracial dating? simpleton.


i'm not racist, i have black friends.

Please do not speak on behalf of white people.

LOL! :D

UF_Pike, please present the stats that show where blacks and Latinos in FL benefit more? I am in Florida and I am calling bullsh*t on that one.

Back on topic...

Not only are you ignorant (yes i said it IGNORANT), but your miseducated friends are as well. Birds of a feather...

I find it interesting that the very things you find "ghetto" or representitive of blacks, are the things YOU pay your money for and support.

You said that lots of black girls are attracted to you? I still think they are suffering from self-hatred. Actually, judging from your attitude, PLUS your pics, ANY girl that is attracted to you must loathe herself something awful.

hahahaha, STFU!!!!

Librasoul22, Starang21, and FYI2004, you've all taken the words out of my mouth. I'm through with this thread. **waving bye as I head back over to 'my regular' forums**

Before I read the last few posts, I was actually considering getting the other people to leave you alone.
Not it seems that the longer you open your mouth, you dig yourself a bigger hole.
My sister only wears american eagle, gap, abercrombie, and old navy. she isnt white just a damn good dresser.

Black people and white people alike tell her that she is trying to be white. Just because I am black, I gotta wear tight hoochie going to the club clothing with heels and have my hair four feet high in different shades of color. Now I know that this style has spilled over and crossed ethnic lines. Come on people, I should be able to choose what I want to wear without jepordizing my race. My favorite stores to shop are wet seal and express. Does that make me a wanna be blonde?:rolleyes: :confused:

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