I agree with everything you said.

One way to tell if it's worth staying is to see if you're still invited to spend "cheap" time with him. Know what I mean? If he's willing to take you with him to all kinds of places.

Another way is watching what happens when yall disagree with each other. Do you flip a coin, or does either of you just say"____ it!" If yall solve yall's problems by making concessions to each other, IT'S STILL WORTH IT. If you play the pride game-simply wait it out-it's time to go.

Remember. Us brothas are raised to keep our emotions to ourselves...expressing pain or pleasure is the act of the weak.

Can I get an AMEN please

Original Ape...you are so CORRECT...I just had to laugh when I read your post because I have never had someone just read me...lol. In fact I do get bored with the same routine. I may in fact be single by choice but I like variety. Hope that doesn't sound too "loose" if ya know what I mean...LOL!!

Sexy Mocha...just like you said, it ain't easy being a Gemini. Sometimes we want to bothered with a man (all cuddled up) and sometimes we just want to be left alone. We are afraid of commitment because we know that we will soon get bored. We don't commit because we are sparing the man's feelings.

As a Gemini, I have found that alot of guys are drawn to us and at times think that there is more to "our" relationship/friendship than what meets the eye. I have found myself sitting up there like "Damn, where did he get this idea from"...all I was doing was being friendly.
Girl, I know that you can attest to this also...We unconciously flirt...lol...and it's really harmless and part of our nature but some guys take that as a sign that we are coming on to them.

Oh gosh, this is such a confusing topic. A Gemini is two people in one. Our decisions and "tastes" change in the blink of an eye. This is true for our decisions and taste in men , food, clothes...etc.

Original Ape, thanks for your post. It was right on point and on time.

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Girl, I agree...lol...
You had me rollin with your post. And I agree that if my family didn't love me unconditionally...lawd...where would I be.OKKKKAAAY!!

Skegee girl, now there's what I need! A man that will love me unconditionally, with all of my mood swings, different personalities, etc...I think I just need to go ahead and hook up with another gemini. At least that way I know he won't trip about anything because he'll be the same way!

THANK YOU ORIGINAL!!!!!! HEY MOCHA, HAVEN'T GOTTEN AN E-MAIL FROM YA' http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif. HOPE ALL IS WELL.

SISTAS KEEP YA HEADS UP!!!

AMEN! AMEN! AMEN!

It is ever so comforting to hear that it's not just me!! It is so hard to get people to understand us. It's a good thing my friends and family do love me unconditionally, because if they didn't...hmmm
Anyway, I actually laughed too when I read Original ape's post because he casually, CORRECTLY read us...when people that could have known us for years still don't have a clue why we are the way we are! (I don't think we know why we are the way we are!!) Girl, maybe we need to start an entire topic on geminis!

He will NEVER be the "same way" because he's a HE. There may be some ideasynchrosies the both of you share, but the ones you share may be the ones you view as negative. It's purely a gender thing. Remember: you have never been a man; and he has never been a woman. Because of this fact, we(us men) will always have trouble "feeling" the things yall perceive as problems. Yall have to perservere-if you want us-just as we do if we want yall.

If you find merit in Astrology, check out a Leo, or an Aries for a mate. You may like the way we think.


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He will NEVER be the "same way" because he's a HE. There may be some ideasynchrosies the both of you share, but the ones you share may be the ones you view as negative. It's purely a gender thing. Remember: you have never been a man; and he has never been a woman. Because of this fact, we(us men) will always have trouble "feeling" the things yall perceive as problems. Yall have to perservere-if you want us-just as we do if we want yall.

If you find merit in Astrology, check out a Leo, or an Aries for a mate. You may like the way we think.


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Believe me as a Gemini wha has been with a Gemini it is total Kaos (sp).

But we are still the best of friends as "just friends"

Well sista, that's good.

I noticed yall use these codes when yall write; are strictly for yall? What does lol mean?

I'm feelin all of the replies that I've read so far...I just gotta put my 3 cents in here.

A REAL good woman would..

Know who she is before entering a relationship and be happy with it. She would not let a MAN define who she is or is not supposed to be.

Add her many talents to the already lucrative ones of her partner. You can do bad by yourself; but, two great minds are better than one.

Not play head games. This is a fact of dating life that we all must deal with but not being the cause of it will reduce the chances of it doing a lot of damage.

And, So....there you have it!!! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif


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Be true to yourself and the rest will fall into place......

A real good woman would want to put her man's happiness before hers. A good woman would bring you a rose at the end of a hard days at the office just because. A good woman would support her man as he works hard to pursue his dream. A good woman has her man's back when trouble comes around. A good woman would give her life to ensure that her children will never go hungry. A good woman would do anything in her power to protect her children from harm. A good woman never turns her back on her man because of petty arguments. A good woman would let her man know how much she loves him everyday of her life. My good woman is Jermaine a.k.a. ryanzmom. love you babe!!!

DEX

Intensify, Very well said!
Original, I believe there is something to the astrology thing...and after the total chaos Blu_theatrics has described, I think I will try a Leo. I hear Aries men are mean, so unless I see otherwise I think I'll hold off on them for now!
Darling1...Hey girl!!! I'll be e-mailing you today so we can get our talk on! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif

Darling1, I just e-mailed you http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif

I'm feeling you on the astrological tip, and thank you for the back up, Sexy Mocha!! Not to be biased, but, I am a Leo (Lioness, if you will) and it has been said that we make some of the best companions. I have had much success with cancer men, libra men, pisces men, and leo men.

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Be true to yourself and the rest will fall into place......

Intensity,I Got ya! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/wink.gifI don't have to be told twice...Calling All Leo Men...Calling All Leo Men....!!!!! LOL

OOPS! I mispelled your name Intensify!
By the way original Ape, LOL stands for laugh out loud http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif

Hi Sexy!

I think you're on the right track with the idea of dating a Leo. I heard leo and gemini were made for each other. WE have just the right chemistry to make yall WANT to slow down and pay attention! Aint that right Clippy!

Intensify; I like the way you think too.

'Bout time, Bruh!!!!!!! When I posted that, I did it to find out what the Bruhs think! THEN everybody else. NO DISRESPECT intended.

Original, I definitely think you have something there! I mean, you've been right about everything so far...I don't think there's anyway I could disagree with you!! I'm going to check my horoscope right now! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif

while i know that the session has moved far beyond the orignial question and we're on an astrological tip...(incidentally I'm a Libra...and were very exciting to be with, as well as very loyal), I would like to address it

in any case...I think that a good woman would not only support her man in his endeavors (as he should she) but also she should not be afraid to call her man out when he's wrong (not in a "Lequesha" kinda way, but in a loving and caring manner)

A good woman should endeavor to keep a relationship surprising and pleasing...just like she expects from a man....

A good woman should not see sex as the only surprise she has to offer...

A good woman should be willing to trust before she suspects something wrong/someone else...

A good woman should be (above all things) GOD fearing...and forgiving

A good woman should expect to be treated like the Queen she is...but should also treat her man like a King.

just some of the things that I think should exist...

just my .06 cents

A PHI,

Ice Cold Kreator

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On part I: Yes, I do. It would take a special kind of woman/man, with a special kind of love for that to happen. I guess the best way to say that is: you would have to be in love with the person-and they with you-in order for it to only happen ONCE. Then, you would have to prepare yourself for the pain of the true answer to the question you would ask: WHY? To trully get by all this, you would have to accept his/her answer-regardless of what it is. As I mentioned earlier, MAKE IT EASY FOR A MAN/WOMAN TO TELL YOU THE TRUTH AND HE/SHE WILL.

Part II

I think they were referring to our delivery of how we feel when it's real. Some leos are REAL SHOWOFFS; and you might be taken by how far we'll go to let the world know that we love somebody. That's all.

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I just checked it.
Spoken like a true bruh!!!!!!!

A-Phi!!!!!!!

I have been meaning to commend all of the men (all 3 of you) http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif...that have posted such meaningful and thoughtful replies to this particular subject...you'll be happy to know you have restored my faith in men. I was beginning to think that a good, god-fearing, considerate man was fast becoming extinct. I now realize that this creature stll exists (maybe not in Brooklyn), but they do exist nonetheless. Maybe you guys should seriously consider leaving your brains/DNA samples to science so that we, as a society, can somehow figure out how to clone you (it worked with the sheeps)...this way, every woman in the world will have her very own prince charming!

Let me know if you need an INTERPRETATION :-)

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On the issue of trust, do you think one can truly learn to trust again after being cheated on or lied to? Just curious.
Original, I looked up geminis and leos in an astrology web page...to see what it says about compatibility...one of the things I found interesting was " Leo is absolutely wild and extravagant expressing wild passion, scaring poor gemini to distraction". I don't quite understand the last part of that statement, but the rest of the things it stated sounded like something I could definitely deal with http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/wink.gif

Thanks for the flower, Sexy. The impressions are mutual.

Thanks! You have such a way with words! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif

Everyone does when they speak from the heart!

Original, where are you from?

I'm originally from DC but today I live in Akron, Ohio.

Go to dog3tony@netscape.net

Ice Cold...I am a Libra, too. October 20th!!!
What about you?

APHIA forum blowing UP!! It took me awhile to read all these post, I am mad yall did not invite me sooner http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/frown.gif
Anyway, I took in all that was said and I liked Original Ape's first post when you finally answered the question I also liked key ideas that thatgirl and S. Mocha made.
I, however, wanted to comment on Dexter's post (boy I know you and wifey are in love) but I hope you meant to add and you/THE MAN will do the same for her
and your children. I liked what you said but wanted to make sure it was reciprocal.

And Professor WHY COME, you did not answer yet, you be holding out, is your new girl reading these post http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/rolleyes.gif ... you know it's all love.

peace!!

Thank you LadyAKA!

Why is it that almost all of the replys to A real good woman would.... involve men?

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Don't look to the future
or dwell in the past
But live for the moment
and long it will last

Why is it that almost all of the answers to A real good woman would.... involve men?

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Don't look to the future
or dwell in the past
But live for the moment
and long it will last

I think most took it that Frat 'Original Ape' was motioning us towards the idea of a good woman in a relationship, but you are right it does not state that specifically... I am sure from the answers you have seen that there are signs in here that prove a good women is intelligent, humorous, fun-loving, caring, open-minded confident and independent and perhaps does not need a man at all!!
Anyone else care to elaborate??

The original question involved men. I am aware of the fact that there are women out there that presently, and by choice, are not involved; but they have experiences, and can answer the question too. I just wish more brothas would've responded.

Mrs. Lady AKA, Yes by all means I do the same for her, not because she said some good things about me(previous AKA thread), but because she is my inspiration, my heart and my love 4ever!!

Lady AKA, I meant every word that I said when I described my perfect lady. Of course I do all of that for her. Not because she said some nice things about me(previous AKA thread), but because she is my inspiration and my life.