LOL! :rolleyes:

http://l.yimg.com/us.yimg.com/i/mesg/emoticons7/24.gif Ditto...digging a deeper hole for himself.

whats so funny fool

the only hole im digging is for you, cause thats were your going to end up if you keep messing with these hoodrats.

ow and p.s.

we can meet up at your favorite place chicken and kool-aid

:D

NEXT ( WHOS NEXT )!!!!!

i've been craving some fried chicken. *puts on big ass name chain and hoop earrings and goes to chicken spot*

next time you come home we'll go over north and hang out. We can get a fried fish sammich and some chicken wings. K?

Was this suppose to be an insult....Chicken and Kool-Aid? I happen to enjoy both. And if I have a fine sister to accompany me even better :D!

Not trying to be funny but, are you college educated?

And since you know so many black women who are hoodrats (as you say), do these hoodrats have Bachelor's and Master's degrees? I'm just curious because that would be a new phenomenon that I hadn't heard of.

Could it be that you have been spending too much time in the hood and therefore that's why you are meeting nothing but hoodrats (as you call them)? :rolleyes:

Boredom leads members to entertain trolls.

True....:D!

yeah and unfortunately this place has been rather boring lately. :(

and ya' know what? your're absoutely right. i just thought i made myself as clear as possible. i tried stressing the word "most" as much as i could.

well, give me some credit for my comments, rhoyaltempest. i tried to make it an even playing field as much as possible. my comments were only based off of experiences.

now, your comeback to my "experiences" would then be "well, maybe it's where you're interacting with black women. are you just dealing with 'hoodrats', bold, corporate, every-single moms, or 'real' black women?" my answer to that would then be "i've dealt with sistas in ALL capacities, and the same result".

so, there ya' have it. that's why i feel the way that i feel....

Are you a beauty or special ed dropout, because judging from your "response" I'm beginning to think that you are both.

Is THIS the best that you could/can do? Are you trying to insult me, because with what you are "attempting" to say, I cannot even BEGIN to muddle through this sad mess!

That's all you are showing is that you're a sad mess! And I quote "I guess your one of the women I’m talking about, the women that is from the ghetto, that has no respect." Without even beginning to DIGNIFY your so called "conclusion" and "psychoanalysis" of me, you just keep putting your foot in your mouth and wondering why I'm just handing you a spoon!

Oh, was that "too educated" for you to understand, or was it not "hoodrat" enough for you?

Lemme tell you something, I'm not upset AT ALL by your opinions, because they are just that, OPINIONS and everybody has one, including the ignorant. It doesn't mean they're right, it just means that hooked on phonics and actually paying attention don't always work for some people.

Again, you are the one that apparently has the problem with Black women, and I quote "a black hood rat chick with weave in her hair that has big earrings and a chain that has her name across it you hood rat." Ain't nobody throwing up race but YOU!

So do yourself a favor, go an get some psychoanalytical therapy or go and get some reality therapy and become like the dryer sheet--BOUNCE!

I said it yesterday and I'll say it again today: CLASSIC FOOL = EPIC FAIL!

well, i could've gone on & on & on & on & on with my post, but i just wanted to hit on what i thought were the "key" parts. i didn't mean to make it sound like "ALL men know how to love and most women dont", so i apologize for not making myself clear.

HOWEVER, i will ask all you guys this; the image that's been pinned on my beautiful sistas by not only society, but other black men and women (sistas' are LOUD, sistas' are COMPLICATED, sistas' are THIS, sistas' are THAT).......where on earth did it come from? the title of this thread is called "Are Black Women Scaring Off Black Men", so i wanted to keep it on topic. should you guys want to create a thread called "Are Black Men Scaring Off Black Women", i would probably respond to that thread just as much as i am to this thread.

the responses i get from this question is going to be interesting; and please don't tell me that the image just fell out the sky from the backroads of a hick town......lol.

i've saw his statement 5 to 6 times, and i can't believe it thinks he knows you......lol. wow, unbelievable. not knowing how to have class/respect has nothing to do where someone comes from....

I just can't agree with what's been posted (with the exception of the comments about the men) I'll just say this one last thing, and then I'm going to leave this thread be, at least on this topic. I don't really like pointing the finger at her because to me, in today's society, it's the black men and men period who are not taking their leadership roles in the family and are instead becoming passive and indecisive. His s/o is supposed to be valued and revered as an equal partner, but a lot of men lack the ability to appropriately love and value her, and only her. I don't really like getting into the race part when it comes to relationships, because what it comes down to is serving the other person. And this goes back to serving a woman who respects herself, because one who doesn't is going to clown rather you serve her or not. To say "black women" don't treat their men right, is wrong on every level. If a man is not happy with how she is treating him (black or white), then I think it's a good idea for HIM to check what kind of treatment he is giving her and that's because she responds to the treatment that she is being given.

I'm not going to get into any further discussions about it though. We're both entitled to our own opinions on the issue.

I'm not trying to crash on you all's reunion and all that, but can a young sista get in on the fish sammich program? I'll bring bean pies! lol. I'm hungry.

idied @ the bolded!

All stereotypes come from somewhere (including those about Black men) but that doesn't mean that they are true in a great or majority capacity. This is what many don't seem to get. If you are being truthful, then it's really a shame that you've had such experiences but you have not met most Black women, so MOST would not be the right word to use. SOME according to your personal experiences would be more accurate. Perhaps it's the circles that you have been part of or perhaps it's you. Sometimes we all need to take inventory and look at ourselves; sometimes we are the problem or part of the problem. I'm not trying to be negative or funny either. Among the many books that have impacted my life immensely over the years, probably one of my top five is one by Osho (I've read many of his books), called "Journey to the Heart." This book will encourage you to be more calm, peaceful, and patient with people and yourself. I am a Humanist so I work at understanding people better since we are often too hard on ourselves and others (which is why sometimes I break down and help the trolls on GC...DrPhil sometimes scolds me for doing this...LOL!). Anyway, the book includes real life examples and stories of how one can change an outcome or circumstance merely by thinking before they react and changing their response or reaction to things. Individuals have the power to choose a social outcome in many cases. Although, I am still a work in progress and will always be, in some cases I try to stop and think first before reacting or responding to a situation or person. Sometimes more understanding and empathy is required but I have been able to change many outcomes by responding positively instead of negatively and offering solutions instead of being a part of the problem. Good luck to you in finding that Black woman that will change your mind if that's what you seek but I am blessed to have so many beautiful, intelligent, loving, and supportive Black women in my life.

I agree totally.

It seems time and time again, this is why most black men dont date black women your way to complex. I only gave my opion and here comes the hater of the year. You start on me as if you know me, yes most hoodrats can have a degree. I personaly know somone that has a degree. We all no we act different around whites, and just cause your a hoodrat doesnt mean you have to act like one all the time. Your a professional during the day and a hoe at night thats the way it is, but it goes back to show that who ever this person is that is responding to my thread is why most black men dont go out with black women. you want to clown me, and talk bad on me when your moma so fat and clumsy she was on her way to wal-mart and tripped over k-mart and landed on TARGET !! you can be mad at me cause your mama make godzilla look like an action figure. Why be mad at me, cause you cant grow it so you sew it. but you still get mad at me cause no one wants you and cause i speak the truth you dont want to accept that, and who ever you are anyone can act like there educated, doesnt mean you are.

so next time grown folks are talking shut the f up. you hood rat

To whom are you speaking?

Time to lock down.

Sorry Sorors,
I took time to think and realized that responding to a fool is a foolish thing in and of itself.
*sigh* regains sense of self
Time to think is a powerful thing and when done right, serves itself well. Since completing, I realized that I was foolish in my response as well. I took time to react rather than act wisely. Yes it is true what is said in James, the tongue, while such a small member, does tend to be full of fire and cause one great distress.

Distressed no more.

QUIT PLAYING THIS OUT ON THIS MESSAGE BOARD!!!!!

Mods, LOCK IT!

This should've been the first and the last thing.

*entertained*

I know you don't expect someone who "writes" like truth to actually understand all of what you said. Even worse, you actually read and comprehended all of what that troll "wrote"? Seriously?

Truth, please use the internet to find some grammar tools. Honestly, your K-12 teachers should be under investigation for passing you. Typing fast is not an excuse for having no clue about most grammar concepts that 6th graders can grasp. (Not hating...just my inner English teacher stating the obvious.)

*clearing throat*

IN BEFORE THE LOCK!!!! :D

that lock is taking forever to come so ima say

IBTL!!!

too. lol

Another interesting thread screwed up.

*sigh*

IBTL

Dude, do you have any clue what you just typed? Serious question.

^^^ I think this will be like the answer to the number of licks to the center of a Tootsie Pop: "The world may never know." Dude seriously needs to sneak into an English 099R class.

I'm with LadyGreek now and would love to see this locked up. :(

IBTL,

The two questions posed are deceptive in that they are entirely different from person to person. Gender roles and the measure of a man/woman are assigned by the two people that make up that particular black couple. There is no true model couple for this.

As for the content of the article I can only speak from my experience:
I know many a black woman who is in the church, and an organizer, and a career woman and I know women who are each of these separately and a whole host of other types of black women. I know plenty who are married and plenty who are single.
The thing is no two are alike. They're all different and thus their martial status can not be generalized. Among those that I know there are some shared beliefs and facts.
Some of the facts:
As black women advance (educationally and career wise) we statistically lower our chances of finding a suitable partner
We prefer black men to any other race
More than 50% of black children are currently being raised by single mothers
We are career oriented

Based on these facts many women I know have come up with some shared beliefs:
About ourselves:
1.We do not want to be another statistic and will do as much as possible to prevent this from happening.
2.We have high expectations of ourselves and those around us.
3.We want stability.
4.We work hard.
5.We don't ask for anything that we aren't willing to give.
About Men:
1.We expect for our men to be providers.
2.We expect our men to match us- My best friend wont even have a conversation with a guy if he is not a college student or college graduate (or college bound/inclined she understands that school isn't cheap). She feels like if he isn't in school then he's not doing enough with his life to match what she is doing and wants to do with hers.
3.We expect STABILITY. this is by far THE most important thing for most of the women I know. The point in a relationship is to provide support and love for one another. As black women, we look for a sense of "home" or someone and something that will always be there for us no matter what is going on in life. Unfortunately this in many of our lives is something we've never been able to find in black men. Starting with the men in our early lives. More than anything else we want for our men to understand who and what we are and we want them to be our rock. We expect financial stability as well.
4.We expect unyielding loyalty.
5.We expect love and protection.

From my own personal experience I can say that there is some validity to the statement that "a fighting spirit is important, but not at home."
I find myself in situations where I am fighting and arguing and I wonder why does it take this much? Why am I pushing myself and getting upset over issues that should be handled cordially? Am I pushing too hard? Can't I just let it go? Even when my b/f wants to just leave the subject alone I don't. I find it is more important to reach an understanding on a subject than it is to keep the peace because ultimately the conversation is going to happen again and until we reach understanding it will be an obstacle.
Two main issues for me are:
1.I have found that most men (even mine) cannot handle dealing with someone who is extremely driven, outspoken, strong willed, and dominant. It is not a good or bad thing it just is. I know myself and I know that what makes me successful in business, school, and a great many aspects of my life is the fact that I am ferociously determined to achieve whatever goal I set and I am unyielding in doing so. I know that I do not have to be this way all of the time, but being dominant at work and not so at home is a delicate balancing act. One that I would prefer not to have to perform. If a man can't handle me being my blunt, determined, and strong willed self all the time then he's not the one for me. I am not opposed to compromise. I think it's great, but some things I will not compromise on and this is one of them. So as for me any man who wants to be with me can get with the program or K.I.M. Does this attitude of mine (one that many black women share) "scare" black men away? Nope. Most of them were raised by a woman with a similar attitude so they're used to it. Which leads me to #2.

2.Black men and women do not successfully COMMUNICATE. Even in asking if black men are being scared away by black women the basis of the question is "Do black me fear black women?" and you only fear what you don't understand. Thus the correct question would be "Are black women making it too difficult for black men to communicate with and understand them?" Now, that is a question with merit and worth actually answering. Communication between two parties is much more difficult than most people believe. There's the verbal, non-verbal, and the never expressed thoughts that make conversation difficult. Even in being as outspoken as I am I find that there are a great many things that I don't say. Being considerate of other's feelings, not wanting to delve deeply in to certain subjects, fear, lack of trust and many other obstacles prevent communication. Until black men and black women learn how to constructively communicate among each other there will always be fear and there will be a state of broken-ness in the black couple, family, and community.


*To take a realistic look at why black women are not getting married and why black men seem to be running away from black women the many external factors that impact relationships must be analyzed. The issue I have with articles (and even books) like these is that they do not fully consider all of the forces that impact the black couple. To truly analyze this would take more space than a message board could provide.

pretending my opinion counts....
 

Moderators, please do not lock this thread.

Thanks, I.A.S.K. :)

You're welcome! And your opinion counts with me! :)

ETA: I always thought that it was a southern/uncouth thing to be loud. I get really annoyed when people are loud or yelling as do most of the black women I know. Now, its been my experience that southerners are louder than other people. Our loud is their normal. lol.