Hey everyone, i guess no one has posted many things on here lately. I wanted to ask yet another question... do you think that joining a sorority has changed you, and if so do you think it was for the better or for worse and why? I just wanted to know different people's response to that. I havent met any girls yet, ive been slightly busy but I got an email from this aplha chi that has been giving me some information on rush and she said that one of her sisters told her i was in one of her classes. Then she said " i am so glad you are meeting some alpha chi's already! and i cant wait to meet you myself!" although this was very sweet of her... i havent met any sororities girls. There are 3 AXO's in my class, but they sit on the other side, and how do they know what i look like?? Maybe its a misunderstanding, but i was about to go through formal rush this fall and i even sent in my application which needed a picture to it, so maybe thats why... but i dont know. I guess it was pretty funny to me! Well let me know what you guys think about my question, thanks!!!

It sounds like a good thing to me if the AXOs in your class noticed and remembered you, especially since they seem to have implied that they were excited you were thinking about rushing! Good luck! (I just started reading this thread, but now it's my little soap opera too!) http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif

I know not all schools are the same, but with informal rush, is it possible to get more than one bid? This is why i think it is possible, i've been talking to girls about informal rush and this one girl told me she received her bid on the phone. informal rush is very laid back and you basically just go out with a sorority to hang out and get to know them better. It is not guaranteed you will be able to meet all sororities, so its best if you narrow some down before informal begins. But, lets say you narrow them down to maybe 2 or 3, and you attend events with them... is it possible one calls you and tells you they are offering you a bid and then the next day another calls and tells you the same thing? just a question that occured to me because i did ask a sorority member if they had preference/bid day and she said no, and thats when she said she got her bid over the phone... just showing me how laid back it is. So-- can getting two bids be possible??


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At my school, getting more than one bid during informal is definitely possible! Informal, as you know, is not as structured as Formal Rush. There is no "deadline" of when the sororities have to give out their bids-it's all up to the individual chapters. I think most houses decide if they want to extend a bid after they've met the potential rushee 2 or 3 times. Good luck and keep us posted!

You can get more than one bid at my school during informal rush. However, at my school you generally have 24 hours to accept or decline your bid. You may want to think about that in case that is how it works at your school, too. You should probably kind of have in mind who you want to join because you may have to make a quick decision without a chance to see another group. Good Luck with your rush. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif

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Those who matter don't mind,
Those who mind don't matter.

what are GLO's? and BGLO's? and everything else that people say on here? If it is something that only greek members can know than thats cool, but otherwise i have no clue what those are!!

GLO - Greek Letter Organization
BGLO - Black (historically African-American) GLO

LGLO - Latin
AGLO - Asian
MCGLO - Multi-cultural

Barb

Ok...I started reading this thread because I thought it was cute then it just STOPPED. How are you going to leave us hanging? did you rush? Are in a sorority? What happened?

hey everyone!
well toocute- i havent really posted anything on here since nothing new has happened. Over christmas break I am supposed to meet two alpha chis. I had a set date with a phi mu but she lost her credit card and license, so she had to cancel. AXO just sent me last week the dates for spring rush. I am really excited about that. One is dinner at their house, the second is dinner at a restaurant and the third is bowling!! Over thanksgiving break i went bowling and NEVER had i done SO bad, i think i bowled a 34 the first game and then the second i did a 60 something. I know its not a competition, but i thought it was so funny we are going to go bowling considering the fact that i did really bad last time!
The night that the AXO emailed me the dates for rush, i went ahead and told my mom and she replied with "i dont know why you want to be in a sorority, i dont get the point!" Then yesterday me and my family were going to dinner and I told my dad how i know the dates for rush and i mentioned that for the third party we were going to go bolwing, and he laughed. Then he asked me "so you are going to go through rush?" and i just said because its something I have always wanted to do. I know I will regret rushing if i dont do it, i already regret not doing it sooner. So-- there really is no new news, but I am glad you still remember me http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif I guess this is kind of off subject, but how do you do those cute smileys? The only ones i know how to do are the regular happy and sad ones. Hehe, thanks! If anyone has anything to add about my "rush experience" thus far, i would love to hear! Well not really rush experience since i havent gone through it yet, but you know what i mean! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif

HI...I am a sophomore and I rushed in spring rush my freshman year and just this fall. I still haven't gotten in. I really want to be in a sorority but I guess you can say I'm not the average sorority girl. I enjoy having fun and I think I have some qualities sometimes it doesnt show as much. If anyone has ideas on this subject. I really need some help i have 7 sororities on my campus: Alpha Sigma Alpha, Alpha Sigma Tau, Delta Zeta, Sigma Sigma Sigma, Zeta Tau Alpha, Sigma Kappa, Phi Sigma Sigma. I know some girls but i just don't want to do spring rush again because i have to meet the girls all over again and i already done that once and went to 3 twice. Im not sure what to do. I wanna be in a sorority because i want the sisterhood, socials, philantrophy and its something that i only want to do here at college besides study and party. Please email me smanders@runet.edu if someone has any ideas thanks

BuCutie! thanks for the update and keep us posted. I graduated from college BACK IN THE DAY and reading the rush posts are so cute. When you post you should see a "smileys legend" My favorites are http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/eek.gif http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif

Take care!

HI!
I was reading your thread and I just wanted to wish you good luck! I love Phi Mu and I am happy that you have the chance to rush my sorority. I know you asked if pledging a sorority changes you at all. Well it has changed me, it has given me a lot more confidence and I am so much more of a happy and open person now. This is because of the support and love of my sisters. I really hope that you can find that too, wherever you decide to go. Good luck, and keep us up to date!!
Love, Holly
P.S. I would definetely try to schedule another lunch date with that Phi Mu! ;-)

Thanks PhiMuGal for wishing me luck, well really thanks to everyone since I know I have a lot of people wondering what will happen to me with rush. I will keep you updated, but here is another question for now... i know that for fall rush (formal) you have to fill out an application and pay, but do you need to pay for informal rush too? Reason I am asking is because I asked a friend of mine to attend the rush events with me, and she said sure but she does not want to join a sorority. So, if she has to pay then she wont come obviously. I didnt ask her because i didnt want to show up alone, but more because I dont want to end up driving all the way down there at night by myself. One of the events they are having is at some restaurant I am unfamiliar with. Even though she gave me directions, I am kind of worried about getting there since it will be dark and its not really in the greatest area of town. So bringing my friend along made me feel better about it. What does everyone else think on that?

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I think it sounds like a great idea! Not only will you have someone to go through this with (in more ways than one) but she might have a good time. I'm not saying she'll want to join a sorority, but maybe she might meet someone she likes as well. I wish I had had a friend to go through (at least part of) Rush with, most of my friends are anti-Greek (or just apathetic about the system), so I got to trudge off to the houses alone! It worked out for the best, though.

If you search some of the posts under the name southerntheta, you may find useful rush info. Although it is mainly concerned with formal recruitment, alot of it is interesting, and will come in handy for you this spring.

Thanks preppie, I have read her post and it was very helpful. Like you said, it was mainly dealing with formal rush, but I still did learn a few things about it.
AlphaChiGirl, so you think its a good idea to bring a friend that is not rushing along? I hope it doesnt look bad on me, but i REALLY dont want to drive to some unknown place alone! Who knows, maybe I'll meet some girls from rush that live around me and we could go to the other parties together. Do you know if you have to pay when you turn in your application though? Thats the only part im worried about because otherwise my friend wont come along.
Well AXO has my information concerning rush, Phi Mu does now, and I had talked to a ZTA letting her know I wanted to go through spring rush, but I emailed her again to make sure. I need to email someone again in DZ to verify I am still going to rush, but I havent been able to get in contact with the other two sororities at all this semester. They are chi omega and delta gamma. By the way, i had heard that delta gamma was not part of the panhellenic council, is this true?

Hi bucutie!
You must have heard wrong about DG, they are a great organization Nationally and at my school as well. And they are definetely part of the Panhellenic Council. I hope you can get your friend to go with you, it will probably make it more fun and relaxing for you! Spring rush is almost here isn't it! I am also getting ready for it because I am the pledge trainer for my chapter so I will have a lot to do next semester! I can't wait, I have so many awesome things planned for our phis!!
Best of luck!

bucutie02 -
Where have you been? I haven't heard from you in like forever! I'll be off work until Tuesday so email me on greekchat if you have time.

We have never had to pay for informal rush because its up to each group as to what events they have. If you are bringing a friend to go through rush with you - that's fine. When we talked before, I was thinking the one-on-one thing. Maybe she'll see how exciting it is and want to join also. Sometimes its hard for people to understand until they actually see how it all comes together.



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I have some news for those who have been keeping up on my "life". I am not 100% sure, BUT i think I have a GPA too low to rush this spring. I am SO dissapointed!! I am not completely sure since i have to double check on this, but what am i going to do? I mean, obviously i wont be able to rush right now, but this fall I am going to be a JUNIOR!! I was talking to this girl in Delta Zeta and i asked her about my friend who is a senior that wants to rush and they said thats fine, because they take girls of any year. So, that might be okay, but i am not sure about the other sororities. I would have to ask around. This is so terrible for me, i was so happy and now I might have to wait ANOTHER semester. I guess school was just a bigger shock academically to me than i thought. The classes here are a lot bigger than I was used to. Going in to a class with about 500+ students when before there were like 30 people in my class. I just want to know what everyone else has to say about this? http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/frown.gif

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"He is not perfect, you are not perfect. The question is whether or not you are perfect for each other"

Be sure to double check on your grades because you never know what could happen!

Nothing's wrong with rushing as a junior, and it's great that DZ accepts rushees from all classes. When I rushed in the spring of this year, I had just made junior status. It took me a while before I decided that joining a sorority was for me. Now, I just made senior status and I'll be an officer in the spring! I hope that everything works out for you! Good luck!

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well i am asking this again since no one replied to my question before, but what should i do if this GPA situation is true?

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"He is not perfect, you are not perfect. The question is whether or not you are perfect for each other"

im SO sorry, i missed the reply from oohteeny-- please dont be offended, i just overlooked it, i appreciate your concern http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif

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"He is not perfect, you are not perfect. The question is whether or not you are perfect for each other"

That's okay, none taken!

Did you find out your grades yet? I did, and thankfully I just made the minimum requirements to keep an officer position (it was a HARD semester). http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/confused.gif

Some of my sisters weren't too lucky. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/frown.gif We may have to do some reorganizing with the chapter council because a few sisters are questionable--and because of that I may have switch offices since some positions aren't open to newly initiated sisters (like Member Development). I hope that I won't have to change anything--I was just getting comfortable! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif

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bucutie02 - you have to email me -- I can't find your email address anywhere! I'm back at work so email me.

Have you heard official word on your grades? I was accepted as a junior with only 1 credit shy of being a senior - so maybe it won't be all lost - just let us know about your grades!

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Hey there bucutie-
I have been reading this thread and just wanted to wish you lots of luck!! Let us know how it turns out for you...and I think it is great that you have been checking out all of the sororities at your school!!

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Bucutie02,

I've been reading this for a while...And I just wanted to wish you the best of luck with everything. Going Greek was the best decision I could have ever made in college. I love it! About changing, I did but only for the better...I have become a better person. I went from a follower to now being a leader. About your grades be sure to find out about that because you never know what can happen! I've seen people in the past not have the grades for an organziation and still pledge them. Always stay interested, and keep an open mind. Don't worry about being too old I've had sisters that waited to pledge until they were seniors...And they were great sisters! I knwo it is different at every school, but people definitely do it at my school. Sometimes it takes that long to figure out what you want to do! Best of luck in everything!!!!

Kirsten
Phi Sigma Sigma
Clarion University

Hey everyone, thanks for all your support! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif Well i checked again yesterday on my grades and there is no good or new news. I unfortunately did get a D in accounting, but okay in my other classes and it says I have a 1.55 GPA, i dont understand how that is possible. Since I am a transfer student there is no old GPA that is averaged in, i started off on a new slate. I think I am going to email all the girls I have been talking about concerning rush, tell them my situation and ask if they take juniors so it will give me an answer as to fall rush next year. This is so sad, but maybe it is all for the best. Does everyone agree on me letting the sororities know and asking them about "junior" status while rushing?
AXO Alum, my email is my name(not bucutie, but my real one http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif ) @pdq.net Hope to hear from you soon!! I guess you didnt get the email i sent you last.... it was a while ago- its weird how that keeps happening, hopefully ill get yours this time! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif

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"He is not perfect, you are not perfect. The question is whether or not you are perfect for each other"

Maybe it's just my school, but you don't need to know a sorority sister to rush! Contact your greek coordinator/advisor and ask her when the parties are. Then you get a friend that may want to do it with you, or maybe she doesn't, but you take her with you for moral support, and you go to the rush party. Trust me, if you represent that group's ideals, they'll be interested in you, no matter who you knew before you walked in the door.

Just to let everyone know- I am not rushing this semester due to grades, and also because this semester is very busy and full for me. Even if i did have the grades, i wouldnt feel right committing to something i dont have the time for right now. I even had to tell them at work i will only be able to work three days a week instead of five. I am going to work really hard to bring my grades up and we'll see how it goes from there! I am actually excited and looking foward to rush this fall. I was really worried about being a junior and rushing, but my friend who is a senior just got a pledge from a sorority this semester. However, she didnt accept it right now because she is waiting on her first choice- and finding out if she will get a bid from them. I know that the "age" thing is different at every school, but luckily my school doesnt focus on that whatsoever! Thank you all for your support- and I would love to still see your comments and advice on here http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif

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"He is not perfect, you are not perfect. The question is whether or not you are perfect for each other"

It is a shame if this is true that someone would not associate with a JR. Many people are not ready to pledge at a very YOUNG age. Some see after they have been in school for while that they are missing something. Some of the best Brothers of my House have been older and wiser.

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Pittsburg State U. (Kansas)

bucutie,
I hope you are still reading up on this even though you aren't rushing this semester. I have visited your campus, and stayed with the XOs there and really enjoyed it. I learned quickly, though, that all the women there have a lot of demands. Commuting, working, school and sorority is a lot! But, still great people and I had a lot of fun with the Chi Omegas. It's almost like when there's so much do to, you need the sorority more as an outlet. Balancing all the commitments is quite a challenge though. From my knowledge of the school, you will have no problem based on your grade. UH sororities cannot discriminate based on age because the Greek system is not huge there. Whenever you are ready, they are ready for you!

I also notice you haven't had a chance to talk to the XOs. I really bonded with a few when I visited and it was great. They have a really cute house and a lot of very intelligent members. Especially some of their younger members. I don't know who is their president right now, but with a good leader they could be really great. And I'm sure you've heard this, but during rush, it's like it all works out. I didn't know a thing when I first started rush week, but by the end, I was so sure about Chi Omega. We were a match made in heaven! Good luck, keep your options open and keep in mind that reputations might say SOMETHING about a group, but I have found that when I actually get to know people in that group, they rarely conform to some stereotype people put on them!

Hey SuperXO- thats really great that you went to visit some of the XO's at UH. What school do you go to?
Of course i follow up on this post, besides- i am the one that made it up.
Well i dont know any of the XO's, but i did get in touch with one of them over email. She is the rush chair and her name is Sarah. She was really sweet- but i did tell her I am not going to rush until this fall hopefully. I also mentioned to her that I will be a junior, and even though she did say that most sororities do try to focus more on freshman and sophomores- it wouldnt be a problem http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif
Wow, its so exciting hearing from someone that has actually been to UH http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif Hope to hear from you again!!!!

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"He is not perfect, you are not perfect. The question is whether or not you are perfect for each other"

I am an alum, but was visiting the chapter while I worked for the sorority. I stayed with them for a few days and give them ideas on programming and such, to help improve the chapter with ideas from other chapters, etc.! Anyway, UH is a very beautiful campus and I liked the area. The girls were really down to earth, too, which I was wondering about, because you always hear about Texas girls, esp. Dallas and Houston area, being very stuck-up or whatever. But ya know, just a stereotype and I was really glad to find out it wasn't true. In fact both at UH and Texas A&M I found the women to be wonderful! And I'm glad they made it clear to you that they don't discriminate based on age. They all have plenty of room in their chapters, I believe, so it's not like you would be taking a younger person's place. They could have you AND the freshman and everyone's happy. At least, that's how I hope it works out!

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Bucutie,

I agree with Tom and SuperXO. Age really shouldnt matter. Whats important is your grades and your determination. I'm sure with you entering your junior year your wisdom and experience in college will make you a highly desirable rushee. Just keep trying. You'll probably regret if you dont give it one more try. Maybe it is different for girls than it is for guys. I pledged when I was 21 and as a transfer student and I didnt have a problem. Another of one of my brothers pledged after doing an enlistment in the AirForce and was 24. Of course it wasnt very common for us to have older pledges but we never purposely discriminated a guy based on age.

Kevin
Beta Theta Pi Alum
Epsilon Mu
George Mason

Hey Miami, thanks for the advice. I just wanted to clear something up- from your post, it sounded as if i had already rushed before. I have never rushed, this fall coming up will be my first time http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif

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"He is not perfect, you are not perfect. The question is whether or not you are perfect for each other"

Bucutie,

Your Welcome http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif My bad on thinking you had Rushed Before. Thats great that it'll be your first time. Good Luck http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif

Kevin

I am a Junior now and I am rushing for Phi Mu, my only regret is that I didn't do this sooner. The way I see it is--you will get out what you put in, and if this is what you really want then its never too late!

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okay well i am deciding to bring this topic up once again. As most of you all know, this fall coming up i will be a junior! I am just worried because what will happen if i dont receive a bid and it will be due to my junior standing! Today i emailed one girl in every sorority telling them i will be rushing this fall as a junior and if that will affect be getting a bid or not. To tell you the truth, i have a feeling they will all say it will be fine just to get me to rush- but maybe truly inside they know they wont offer me one because ill be a junior! Of course, ill be a junior but it might take an extra year to actually finish with all my courses!

I am just worried about that because i wouldnt want that to interfere with me getting a bid. I know i have other things to worry about also, but there wouldnt be a point in rushing if i knew i couldnt get a bid due to that!

One girl told me that they are encouraged to take in more freshman since they will be in the chapter longer, and i completely agree on that- but wouldnt you prefer to take a non-freshman that you think would be a great asset over a freshman? That would definitely be my choice if i had anything to do with deciding on who gets a bid and who doesnt.

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bcutie, if you find the right house to go with you will know it as you will gel with them. I hear a lot of negative thoughts about age and race. As in Animal House the movie B--S--t. We just Assoc. a a new man who is African/American. My first thought is he worth being my Brother from the reports of the active chapter, he would not be associateed if they did feel him worthy, that is what counts. I was 25 when I got married and started the local that then affliated in 9 mo. I am still envolved with my house,my National, Brothers from all over and have met my Brothers from all persuasions. They or My Brothers No Matter What!!
Do not give up finding the right group to be with as you will be with them for the rest of your life as a sister.

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Pittsburg State U. (Kansas)

BUcutie

Well it will matter. Some houses may cut you after open house just because you are a junior. A double whammy may be being a junior and your grades.

My advice don't "advertise" you are a junior. Go in and have a great convesation be yourself etc and then when the chapter does their "back room stuff" let your personality speak before your class standing.

Best advice, pull up your GPA as much as you can and go in with a great attitude!!