Interesting. I would like to think that she was ashamed of herself for taking out her frustration over daughter pledging another sorority on you, and that she also sent a rec in for you.

We can find out from our HQ who signed ours. I already knew but I got to see the form one time when I was there for a cabinet meeting.

I didn't know this.
Of course, I come from the days when the night before bids went out, the actives sat down and wrote sponsor forms for the women they wanted to bid. As far as I know, it only bit us once. But then, we were a chapter of 20 women.

Interesting about recs that you didn't even know you had. Pretty sure my daughter wasn't lucky enough to get any of those because she didn't even know she was going to school until a week prior;)

Wanted to let you all know that Bid day came and much to my surprise, my daughter took quite a while to ask me to come and get her. She finally called about an hour prior to the festivities. She wanted to help her suite mates get ready. She got in my car with tears in her eyes but she was good. She said it was all so exciting. We went out to eat and she was busy texting her Pi Chi group to wish them all luck and ask them to let her know how it all goes. Later we were shopping in town and shop keepers were asking her if she was waiting for bid day. She explained to all of them that she had participated in recruitment but it hadn't worked out the way she had hoped. Then her phone was exploding with texts and snap chats and what not with the happy news, videos and pictures. She squealed with delight for all of her friends and just keep saying, "oh yay! she got her first choice" or "I am so happy for so and so" or "This is so exciting". Her suitemates worked their way back to the dorm and she asked me to take her there right away so she could congratulate them. As we returned to the village there were new recruits everywhere in the new t-shirts carrying their swag bags. We were surrounded. I asked her if she wanted to turn around and she said nope!


I give her credit. That was a lot more than I could have handled and with a lot more grace than I ever (or did) muster.

That day, she got a text from a member of the last sorority that released her. The one where she felt she made numerous connections etc. This sophomore sister offered to take my daughter the next day and show her where all her classes were. This was amazing because her suitemates would be out all day at sorority retreats and my daughter would be all alone.

They met and there was no discussion about sororities and the meeting was very helpful in terms of finding her classes in a building otherwise known as "the maze". At the end of the meeting the sophomore just mentioned that if her sorority finds themselves needing members she would try to help her out.

Sunday was another lonely day but classes started today and she is all registered to join a club sports team so as she would say, "onward and upward".

Oh and she did register for COB and is very much hoping to get an invitation to a recruitment event.

Your daughter obviously made a huge impression on the sophomore from her last sorority to release her. I am so glad you were there to support her on Bid Day but also can see that she has her feet firmly set on the ground and will be OK no matter what happens.
I have a feeling that good things will come her way in the future. She sounds like a remarkable young woman.

Your daughter sounds like an incredible young lady. Having suitemates and friends in chapters can help a lot. I just have a feeling things will work out for her and that you'll be back to update us with exciting news. I did a rec for an Auburn PNM a couple of years ago who didn't have the outcome she hoped for during fall recruitment. The next semester, though, she pledged a chapter through COB and is very happy. I wish the same happy ending for your daughter!

I hope your daughter will find an organization or two that she would enjoy being a member of. Auburn has so many clubs and activities. She also needs to find a way to volunteer her time, because sororities look for these kind of things on resumes', and expect members to be involved on campus outside of the sorority.

Could you begin looking for people in your area who might be willing to write her a rec? Especially one for the sorority that sweet sophomore belongs to...just in case.

Good idea FSUzeta! WE actually just moved across the country and don't know a soul here but I do know a close friend who said her cousin was a member of that same sorority and would write her a rec. We dropped the request because by that time she was released but probably a good idea to get that going again huh?

I just love that sweet sophomore!

It couldn't hurt. If she doesn't join a sorority this year but wants to give it a go next year, she will need recs to ALL the chapters at Auburn.

Your daughter seems to be the epitome of a friend. She is the one others could aspire to. It takes a big person to be happy for others in the face of her own disappointment.