Once again, tonight was confusing to me. I am beginning to think that maybe I am just not "meant to be" rushing this week.

It was really hard for me because NO ONE else in my group got dropped from Group 5, the first house. So basically I just got to hang out with my Rho Chis (who are nice but it was still awkward and unfun).

Then we went to Group 1, who are now definitely my favorite. They seemed a lot more laidback tonight, and I really like their philanthropy. We made the cutest craft! Every girl I met, I asked them, why did you pick XYZ?... and every single answer was awesome. They were all different but equally touching.

Next we went to our financial meeting, which was worked in as a separate party with the financial advisors from each chapter. I don't know what happened to our group but everyone was completely BLAH... maybe we just didn't have any questions to ask? All of the fees are around the same but OF COURSE the chapter I like the best does not include formals and semi-formals in their chapter dues... MORE money to spend lol.

After that, we were SUPPOSED to be at Group 2's party, but we stood outside the wrong building (I don't know why, the Rho Chis got confused maybe?) and then had to RUN across campus to the right party. This party... I just don't like these girls. I can't put my finger on what it is about them, but I REALLY REALLY don't like staying with one girl the whole time. All the other chapters, I have met at least 5 girls, and from this one, I've talked to two... and I don't really know if they are a correct representation of the whole group, you know? Plus they sang Garth Brooks' "The River" while we all held hands but they sang the WHOLE song, every verse. It just got old. PLUS their philanthropy isn't local, so all they do is raise money... they don't get to actually do any community service. Haha can you tell I don't like this group? I think they will invite me back though...

Next we went back to Group 3. I really like this group but I am almost positive that they are not gonna invite me back. They are smart, they are sweet, they have an awesome philanthropy... but they require three semesters' residence on their hall, and the girl told me that they only make exceptions in EXTREME circumstances (which does not include leases). She told me as I was walking out the door, "If you want it bad enough, you'll make it happen." Which is probably true but I am thinking that maybe I don't want it bad enough to give up my stove, private bathroom, and big-girl bed. SOOOOO I doubt they are gonna invite me.

The last group was Group 4, the other group I got cut from... and I must say that I was happy to be able to leave early! I am so tired.

So that's my situation... I am starting to doubt that sorority life is really for me. I am pretty much thinking that if I get dropped from Group 1, I am not gonna go back tomorrow night. I really wanted to be in a sorority, but I think I am too late in my college years to be doing this... I like my apartment. But then again, I REALLY like Group 1, and I would be so happy to be a sister there. I'll be sure to keep you guys updated WHATEVER I decide to do :)

follow your heart...
 

big girl beds are nice...but you are ultimately the one to make the call.
good luck and keep smiling.
lol
:rolleyes:

Cutie,

I'm sorry that you got cut from your first choice, but perhaps that was meant to be? Maybe you really belong in one of the GLOs that you did get invited back to.

The best of luck to you, and I hope you'll keep an open mind, even though I know you must be disappointed to have been cut!

XOXO,
Annie.

Ahhhhh how can my thoughts change so completely in just a few short minutes? I swear, this whole rush thing has got to be one of the biggest emotional rollercoaster times in my life!

Yesterday, I was having serious doubts about what I wanted to do... and I'm still not 100% sure, but I had a GREAT night tonight.

I went back to the same three groups as last night, because I didn't get dropped from any of those. I did not feel as bad about getting cut on the first night, because there were plenty of girls in my Rho Chi group that only got invited back to two tonight.

First I went to Group 2's party, and my opinion of them definitely improved. Tonight was skit night and their theme was "XYZ on Broadway". It was SOOO cute! I got to actually SEE and MEET a lot more of the sisters, and my earlier judgements proved to be falsely based on the people I had met before. I met a couple of girls in my major, and we spent a good chunk of time talking about that. It was also cool to be able to talk about NON-Greek stuff... just school and family and random stuff.

Next I went to Group 3... they didn't cut me like I thought they would! Their theme was "Planet ABC" and their entire room was decorated with movie posters and stars. As always, these girls seem really put-together, smart and classy and fun. I felt like all of the girls that I talked to last night remembered my face and name, and made sure to stop by and say hey. Everyone I have met here was really nice and I think they are a really impressive bunch. But... I still haven't changed my mind about living on their hall. I really like them but I feel like I am torturing myself, loving a group that I can't be in.

Finally I went to Group 1.... and I absolutely adore these girls! Not only did I talk to a few more new members, I got to chat with a lot of the girls I had talked to before, and I really feel like I click with them. Their skit was a conglomeration of popular TV programs (Friends, The Weakest Link, Golden Girls, MTV Diary, CMT) and it was not only cute, but informative. The girl who did the MTV Diary was talking about all her memories of the sorority (she's a senior now) and it was so touching. Then they sang a really sweet song and at least a couple of the girls were crying and it just made me tear up. These girls are known for being ladies around campus, and I feel like they have really shown me their close bond with each other... even BEFORE pref night.

I had a really great evening tonight, and I am looking forward to Preference Night tomorrow... I know Group 1 is my first choice, but I will have to think about whether I'm gonna go ahead and go to 3's party, or go to Group 2 instead. I guess that just depends on if I get cut from any :confused:

As always, I'll keep ya updated! :)

CC
Well, I am glad you are having fun! As far as Group 3 is concerned, it sounds like you really like them. And if you specifically spoke to a girl regarding your concerns with living on their hall, and they still invited you back, then they really like you, too. I know you really like #1, so maybe all will work out with them and you won't have to worry. But should you end up with #3 on your Bid Card, I think you should give it a try - you never know what could happen! Either way, you sound like a smart girl with a great head on your shoulders. I'm sure you will do what is right for you!!! Good luck!

Ahhhhh I have so much to tell y'all! Last night was Pref Night. I got invited back to all three parties... but I cut Group 3. I just didn't want to go to Pref and fall completely in love with them, knowing that I can't live on their hall.

I went to Group 2's party first, and I was paired up with the girl I talked to on the very first night. While she was a really nice girl, and we got along great, I still feel like I haven't gotten to meet many of the sisters from this chapter. The party was of course very quiet and reverent, and they sang "The Rose" which is like one of my favorite songs! But some of it was a little hokey. All the girls that I have met there have been very nice, and I COULD see myself there... but I didn't feel that special "spark" where you just know you are in the right place.

I went to Group 1's party second. And unlike in the first party, where I was bummed to be with the first girl I met, I was so incredibly excited to be paired with the girl that I absolutely LOVE in this sorority. The whole party was so beautiful, with tons of real and fake Christmas candles (lol you guys know the ones you put in your windows?). As we listened to the girls speak about their experiences, she kept her hand on my shoulder and it didn't seem weird at all... it was comfortable and that's a good thing. I felt completely entranced and fascinated by the whole entire ceremony... and I definitely knew that this is where I want to be.

So then we got to wait to sign our Pref cards.... NOT so fun. Every girl has to go in one by one, as you know. Apparently some people were really torn between their choices, because I finally got to fill out mine at 11:30, and my last name begins with a C! I felt SOO sorry for the girls with W last names, because everyone is tired and we have to be back there to sign our bid cards at 8:45... which is in about 15 minutes!

I go to get pictures taken at 12:15, and then Bid Day starts at 2... wish me luck you guys!

Oh I forgot to tell you how I signed my Pref card.... Group 1, Group 2, Group 3.... but that's pretty obvious ;)

I am wishing you the very best! I have admired your logic about your experience and your thoughtful deliberation. Lot to be said for "rushing" as an older PNM. I have a feeling whatever happens, you have thought things through to the point that you will be pleased with whatever the outcome may be. Good luck!

CC,
I am so hoping that you get your first choice but if you don't give the other two a shot. Good luck today :D :D :D

I GOT MY FIRST CHOICE! Ohhhh I'm so excited! But I guess technically I can't tell you guys what sorority it actually is until after the Bid Day ceremony... :p

I'll be sure to post it tonight when I get back. Thanks so much to everyone for listening. I think just writing my experience down helped me so much in making my choices. I finally know what people mean when they say, "You just KNOW where you're supposed to be... I can't explain it!" I am glad I didn't get too upset about getting cut from my first night "first choice" because now I see that I would not have been happy there at all.

I love Greek Chat ;)

I can't believe you know what house you are in and you won't tell us. Don't you know how crazy that will make us???

Anyway, Congratulations on getting your first choice (Whatever it may be). Have loads of fun today and then run back home to post on GC.

Greek love,
Melissa

ok, you have to come back and tell us where you went!!!

Oooh, I hope you had a wonderful time at bid night and hurry back to fill us in!!

Honey

Im so happy you got your first choice and I can't wait to hear which sorority it was. I hope you are very happy with them beacuse it seems like you were a perfect fit with thsoe girls. Let us know whenever bid day is over which sorority it is!

OK, OK, girls... sorry to keep you waiting :)
I went.....

PHI MU

:D :D :D I'll write more about Bid Day later but I have to get ready for the Phi-esta!

*~Yay~*

Congrats!

I love reading these rush threads!

Now we can add another GREAT Phi Mu "Pledge" to GC, JUST WAIT TILL THEY FIND OUT!!! CONGRATULATIONS! :D

YEAH!!!!!! YOU WENT PHI MU! WELCOME TO A GREAT SISTERHOOD!!!!!!!

Yeah! We have a GC Phi! Welcome to Phi Mu!

P-P-P to the H!
H-H-H to the I
I to the M, M to the U - GO PHI MU!

CONGRATULATIONS!!! I am so excited to have a new sister!!!! Welcome to a wonderful sisterhood!

Les Soeurs Fideles
The Faithful Sisters

CONGRATULATIONS! I am so happy you are a Phi Mu. I have heard so many great things about them and it seems like from all the parties you will be extremely happy there. I hope you love it as muhc as I love DG. CONGRATS again!

Finally, someone on GC went phi mu! Congratulations sweetie and have fun! I went to Carolina State day last year, and met some of the girls from UNC-Greensboro and they were really awesome! Have a blast, and be sure to post on the Phi Mu forum here!
LIOB
Miegan

Welcome to our sisterhood and congratutaltions on becoming a Phi!!!!!!!! You're going to have so much fun and i can't wait to start reading your post on the Phi Mu forum!!!!!

Give a Yell Give a Yell Give a Great Big Phi Mu Yell!
And when we yell we yell like hell and this is what we yell
P-H-I Mu Phi Mu
Phi Mu Spirit through and Through Oh Yeah, Hell Yeah
GO PHI MU!!!!!

Congratulations!

CONGRATULATIONS CarolinaCutie & CONGRATULATIONS PHI MU!!!!
 

CarolinaCutie,

Welcome to Greek Life!
Congratulations on joining Phi Mu, our sisters in founding at Wesleyan Female College in Macon Georgia over a 150 years ago.
Congratulations again,
violets

congrats!

Congrats on Phi Mu :)

YAY YAY YAY YAY!!!

IM SOOOO HAPPY that there is a Phi Mu "Phi" on GC!!!!!

You are in for a wonderful journey into our amazing sisterhood...you made a GREAT choice ;)

Being a "Phi" is only the begginning...but for sure ALOT of fun!!!
Come Post in the Phi Mu Forum, I would LOVE to hear about all your phi experiences!!


"Pink is PERFECT!!"

:D

I'm so late on this, but YAY! a new sister!!! Congratulations and I'm so happy you found your home at Phi Mu!!!

You are our sunshine, our PHI MU sunshine, you make us HAPPPYYYY, when skies are PINk PINK PINK PINK PINK, you'll never know Phi's how much we love you...

Tara
I have a Phi Mu castle...(and now you do too)

It's INSANE to go back and read your own rush thread...

All that worrying I did about having to live on campus... and guess who is moving onto the sorority hall in the fall? :D At least I have never doubted that I made the RIGHT CHOICE!

I just wanted to bump this up to show the new rushees that getting a bid as a junior can most definitely be done! I can't wait to read your OWN rush threads.

Well, maybe if you hadn't cut Group 3 because of having to live on their hall you'd have new favorite colors!!! ;) :p Just kidding, CC! I know you're heart was and is with Phi Mu!!!

Thanks for bumping your thread. Good inspiration for our Junior PNMs!

edited to say that word you can't read in yellow (err, I mean straw!) is 'colors'!!!

I think a girl from my high school might have pledged with you- Do you know Alice Hamrick? I think she is at UNCG anyways


Congrats- My cousins are phi mu's and i was always jealous I didnt have a chapter to consider when I went through recruitment

Oh my God... Alice is my HEART! I love that girl so dearly! She is just the sweetest thing and yes, she is in my pledge class :D

bump!