YAY! I am so happy for you! I can't wait to hear about the invites! Pref is such a special night and will hopefully give you an even better insight into the groups and their sisterhood. Best of luck...we're all pulling for you!

may all be well
 

private message from me, sweetie.
:D

GOOD LUCK!

I agree...
 

...with you XOMichelle -- I am truly saddened by all the sophmores who are cut merely because they are sophmores --
actually it pisses me off!!! Enna05 -- you are a wonderful, talented girl whom I'd be proud to call sister - so keep your chin up girl -- we are all rootin' for ya!!

Final Day
 

Well, I have bad news. I got a phone call in the middle of practice from my Rho Chi, and I wasn't invited back to any pref parties. She was shocked, I was shocked, all of my friends were shocked, my parents are shocked... It stinks.

I think it's worse because I LOVED ADPi, and they really rushed me hard yesterday, too. I met tons of girls from the house, and I really felt comfortable. My Rho Chi is letting me know about COB options - if ADPi is doing COB, I'll be there. I'm really upset about everything... but life goes on. There's a football game tonight, and I'll be on the field, smiling away. (I'm in the marching band)

Thank you guys SO MUCH for being so awesome. I think, overall, I'm glad I did this. It's tough being rejected, especially when I felt I connected so well with one particular house. However, I'm a beautiful person... I have great grades, I'm active, I'm ambitious, and I don't need a sorority to validate my own worth. It just seemed like something that I would've loved.

I'm so sorry, Enna. *hugs*

Oh, Enna, I am SO sorry. Please let us know if you do COB and whether you do or not, I hope you'll keep posting here. You are a very cool person, and I hope you keep in touch!! :)

I'm so sorry, Enna! :( We're all here for you if you need anything!

Good luck with recruitment and keep us updated especially after bid day....Its an exciting time and good luck!

So sorry!
 

Enna, I know how hard this is- trust me! I went through rush last year and was cut by all three houses the first day due to my GPA. It sucks really bad to be cut over something like that...but at least you know they didn't cut you because they didn't like you. I transferred schools and went through rush again just last week and I didn't get cut from a single house....did I expect that? NO! My point is, everything happens for a reason. In my case, had I gotten in a house at my first school I would have been unhapy. Now I am at a school I love and in a house I love. In your case, maybe greek life isn't a part of the plan. There is something more out there for you. Perhaps marching band holds something greater for you...you never know. Just remember that everything happens for a reason, and if you were meant to be greek, something unexpected will come up (such as COB) and if not, well then, there is something even better for you. Keep your chin up!!
Holly

enna,

you have such a great attitude. definately keep smiling! give cob a try and see how that goes. keep us posted on how you are doing!

Enna, I'm so sorry :( Rush is so arbitrary sometimes; I know there are ADPi's who wanted you at pref who are at least as disappointed as you are. Rushees and sisters both suffer disappointments during rush.

You are absolutely right, you don't need to be a greek to feel worthwhile. It sounds like you're making the most of your college career with all of your activities and, what's more, you sound like a great girl who got caught in a numbers game.

If you decide to give COB a whirl, please let us know how it went!

Enna--I pmed you.

aaaw...
 

sweetie..
you are totally right. you are talented, beautiful and shouldn't let this speed bump in life wreck your college career. it stinks, but move forward. there's a long football season ahead and a great chance to shine. what's your instrument?
lol
:eek:

Enna, I'm so sorry to hear this. I hope you do give COB a chance. Hopefully things will work out for you, it sounds like you are taking this so well. You're right, and from your comments it really sounds like you would have been a great sorority member. Hopefully you'll have the opportunity to find out sometime in your future.

Best of luck with band! My son has started band this year in intermediate school. He's playing clarinet with the hopes to switch to sax as soon as we'll allow him to do so. Please keep in touch though, your insight and comments are always welcome here.

All my best,
Christin

Clearly, any of us here would be thrilled to be able to call you our sister. Rush can just plain old stink. One of my pledge sisters was a legacy to two other houses and got cut by both after preference. (Pi Phi has a wonderful rule that if you're a legacy and we invite you back to preference, you're on the first bid list.) She was the roommate of the girl who became my big sister, and we snapped her up. In the end, it all worked out the way it was supposed to. It will for you, too, whether or not you go Greek. You need to go buy yourself a stack of magazines, some new makeup, whatever makes you feel spoiled, and pamper yourself.

Enna - thanks for letting us know what's going on. I know it is really hard right now but don't let this affect how you feel about yourself.

You seem to have a lot going for you are welcome here even if you do not ever pledge a sorority while at USC.

Enna, I'm sorry that you didn't get invited back to any pref parties. I'm happy to read that it hasn't shaken your confidence. Unfortunately, it happens to some outstanding young women. I strongly encourage you to go to all of the COB parties. You can still get a bid. Many of my sisters came through COB. :)

Enna,

you have such a great attitude-I admire that. I am sorry things did not work out for rush but again maybe you can COB if possible :) keep your head up!

I'm so sorry!
 

Like everyone else in the GC community, I'm really saddened by your last update. Thank you for sharing your recruitment story with us, but I encourage you to stick around GC. I also hope that you will go COB. Keep your head high; your attitide has been nothing short of admirable!

From a former marching band member,
bearal

I am so sad...
 

...life is incredibly unfair -- you deserved better and I pray you don't give up on sorority membership -- Do COB, okay?
http://216.40.241.68/contrib/edoom/puppy_dog_eyes.gif
I PM'd you too, sweetie.
Hugs.

COB events
 

Sorry to hear about not getting back to pref parties. Like the message before me said, I too strongly encourge COB events if you are sitll interested in sororities. COB events are less formal than RUSH and a great chance to meet the sisters in a more casual atmosphere. Its good that you didn't let the RUSH experience down you too much as there are plenty of other ways and times to join a sorority or other organizations on campus.

Enna, I'm SO sorry to hear that! Their loss, honey! I'm glad you're still open to COB...I think you would make an awesome sister anywhere!

this is so true. i'm so sorry to hear about prefs... but i know that greek life is the one who is really missing out here! no matter what, you are an amazing woman -- good luck with cob if you choose to do it... i really hope it works out for you whatever you decide!

Thoughts
 

First of all, I want to thank all of you for your outpouring of support. That really means a lot to me, especially in such a completely shocking situation like this. I'll definitely keep you updated if I decide to COB... and if I don't.

Yesterday was a really hard day. Nothing turned out like my expectations... but I'm thinking it'll be okay in the end. I decided to completely ignore the whole situation and just have fun... and I did. I'm a tall flag in the band, so I just went out there and performed my best. It was great... a camera guy followed me around on the field, I had a nearly flawless show, and I had a blast. And most importantly, I didn't hurt quite so much.

I'm not completely giving up on Greek life, but it's nice to know that I can have an amazing time outside of it as well. Thank you guys so much, again.

Fight on,
Jen

Enna:
Let me say how sad I am as well about your situation. You are a wonderful writer and would make a fabulous sister. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Please let us know if there is COBing in your future.
violets

O.K. I can't take it anymore. I have to say something. The way rush is run at most schools is totally unfair to the rushees. At my school, U.C.L.A. , every rushee is quaranteed a bid to some house if that rushee goes to every party that she is invited to. These rushees can sometimes push a house's quota up by a couple of people, but isn't it the fairest thing? When I was rush chairman at my house, every night I would get a call from panhell around midnight asking me if I would take so and so the next day.These were rushees that had been dropped out of rush but didn't know it yet. I ALWAYS SAID YES. Since these additional girls were freebees in addition to our numbers we were allowed , why not? These were great girls. How can a system let a girl go totally through rush and then have no invite to pref or worse.. no bid after going to pref parties? We as greeks need to rethink this situation. This is how greeks get a bed reputation. Don't we tout our good deeds and philanthropies? Are not we humanitarians? If we are... should we start with our selection process first?

:(

Re: Thoughts
 

Enna -
I am so glad to hear that you are involved in something else on campus as that will help a lot. Sounds like being the tall flag will help in taking your mind off the whole greek system until you decide if you want to do COB. I went through RUSH last year at Kentucky and recieved no invites back for third round and was devasted. I didn't have the high spirits that you did and all in all really didn't enjoy the last year while all my friends were in sororities. Good luck with the flag thing and just meet people through that and talk to your friends and family about the whole COB system. Greek life can be awesome but some people end up not liking it as much. Just show all of them that you are a cool person and they should be sorry that they don't have you as a part of their sorority. But it sounds like you have the right attitude about the whole thing so go with it! Congrats by the way on the flawless performance in front of the camera guy! Thats not something everyone can say they have done!!

Just remember not getting invited doesn't mean you're a nobody. I can guarantee you that there are sisters of ADPi that are sad that you are not at their pref. I remember when girls were cut from my house that I wanted to be at our pref really badly.

Enna-
I am so sorry to hear your Rush turned out as it did, but your attitude is amazing. Silks will keep you busy, and hopefully ADPi will have COB.

Good luck!

Fight on!
Amy

Okay, I am biased....
 

...but I hope & pray that Gamma Phi has COB for Enna05!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

FIGHT ON!!!

I agree 100% with FloridaGirl. I had no idea UCLA did that. Good deeds.

Enna, if you went to my school, I would want you to be a Chi O.

I watched part the football game thinking about you!

-M

Okay!!
 

...I hope my fellow USC Trojans won't hit me but I agree with that UCLA Bruin, FloridaGirl -- y'all do rush right and I can only hope your lead is followed by other campuses...maybe we GCer's can start a revolt & make it happen!

Hang in there Enna, and I hope that you will give COB a go.
I know first hand of what a disappointing Rush can feel like.
I'm sorry for that, so try to hang in there...we are all here to support you.

Do COBs!
 

I know you can have an awesome time without being Greek, but that doesn't mean you should give up (as a lot of people have said!). It probably wasn't YOU--you most likely didn't do or say anything wrong, but sometimes class ranking can hurt you. I thought it totally didn't matter at my school, but I recently found out that it does and that's probably why I was cut from certain houses even though some of their girls were rushing me pretty hard--but hey, I'm thrilled about where I ended up and I really hope the same happens to you! Good luck. :)

Enna,

Good luck in COB. It is my understanding that there are a lot of COB opportunities in the system at USC right now b/c only 4 chapters made quota. A lot of women dropped out of Recruitment yesterday.

Laura

I didn't mean to bash USC. It's just these rush threads make me crazy. Some the girls that panhell would ask me to take back we had dropped by mistake. Some we thought wanted their legacy house and then they were dropped. Some had best friends in another house and then got dropped. Some had spoken with the wrong sister (eventhought we rush 4th we have "unique" sisters).Some had dropped us and then were dropped by their other houses. They were thrilled to have our invite even if they hadn't been at our house for the previous day. We pledged some of these girls. Shouldn't every panhell make midnight calls to houses to obtain invites for girls once they realize these girls will get dropped out of rush? Isn't it easier to do that then cob or snab bid after weeks of rush prep and rush? Isn't it ridulous that only 4 houses at USC made quota? Isn't this situation an example of what needs to be fixed with rush?

You are not bashing USC...
 

...you are bashing the system and I agree 100% with you!! You should read the thread -- buried pretty deep in the forum I think now -- about the travesty of Rush at UGA!!! I wonder how to make the system do things the way you describe?

I think it is a complete travesty that a rushee can go to two or three pref parties and then actually not get a bid. I think if a rushee has gone to all possible invites all week and does not suicide then she should be guaranteed a bid from a pref house even if that house goes over quota. This is only fair. And you all know what is said and the feelings that are conveyed at pref parties. The sentimental and traditional ceremonies that go on that night are beautiful and every rushee at those parties feels very close to those sisters. I can not imagine a situation where a girl then does not get a bid the next day from one of those houses. We can fix this. Every panhell can adopt this as a rule on every campus. Also, there is no reason why panhell can be more interactive during the week with girls who might get dropped out of rush. Every night get a computer report of who has no bids and then hit the phones. Call back the houses that dropped her from that day and offer them this girl as a freebee to their numbers if they have her back. If this doesn't work, call back houses that she most recently dropped to get a reinvite. She may now go to this house. In the end I think more houses will get quota and more girls will pledge and be happy.

I agree...we had girls at Pref last year that, come bid day, we just assumed went to the other sorority that they were Preffed by. We later found out that a lot of them weren't offered bids and some were understandably fed up and wanted nothing else to do with Greek life. You can lose some great people that way...