Oh, wow! That's a SPECIAL type of "freaked out"!! I'll be laughing all night about that one!

Thanks!
honeychile

2 stories:

1st, similar experience with a sorority wanting to know all about how rich my family is. Well, my dad had just been diagnosed with cancer and was no longer working at all, and my mom was a dental office manager. That wasn't good enough for the Pi Phi's and I got cut.

2nd, at the Tri-Delt suite (we didn't have houses), they sat all the rushees up on chairs arranged in perfect lines but far apart from each other, and the rushers would come and kneel down before the rushees... freaky way of getting to know someone. Anyways, I asked one of the girls I knew in that house if they were "like, bowing down to us rushees." Another girl overheard, and I didn't go back!

Re: I didn't get cut but.....
 

My freshman year I had a Logic class with a girl in one GLO who never understood ANYTHING that was going on... and this logic class was a SUPER easy class (I got a 105). Well, my sister told me that she had wanted to go that sorority when she rushed and that's why she dropped, and I thought she was insane because of it! Now, one of my best friends outside of DG is in that same GLO... ah, the irony of it all!

And I also want to know what you ended up going, WannabeDG... you mention pink, but your SN seems to suggest a certain very pink GLO?

I'm trying to figure out why her screen name is DGWannabe when she 's already in a national.:confused:

I am going out on a limb here... I doubt that is the reason Pi Phi cut you...

I can not speak for the particular chapter that you rushed... I just can't imagine the chapter remembered during voting your parents financial status... unless your father was Bill Gates. :D

OK-this is embarrassing.....
 

edited b/c I obviously do not explain myself well in writing and have been misinterpreted. Sorry for any confusion.

It happens at some schools, though.

Most schools have rules that you're not even supposed to ASK about what rushees' parents do for a living because it makes rushees uncomfortable because they feel like they're being judged for money.

When I was going through rush this year, there was a sorority that asked girls what jobs their parents had. Maybe it was because they just didn't know any better, but there's always the possibility that they did it because they wanted to gauge what kind of money the girls had.

That doesn't mean that that's the necessary reason that this girl got cut -- it could have been anything -- but it's silly to say that things don't work like that because I've seen chapters where they do.

I know for a fact that this happens, but I can't swear to Pi Phi. I'd rather not name the GLOs involved, but when I was rushing, a friend called my mom to verify that I was rushing and said quote, "Then you won't mind if we do a Dun & Bradstreet on you, then?"

Most rec sheets have a section that asks if the pnm and/or her family can afford the cost of sorority.

:eek: :( :confused: :o :mad: :eek:
That is horrifying to me! Thank goodness I had no such experience! My mother was so anti-sorority she would have done anything she could have to stop me from rushing, and a phone call like that would have confirmed all her worst suspicions. Thank goodness your mother had a cool head, honeychile, and you both obviously dealt with the outrageous phone call with aplomb. Wow, I bet you never looked at that woman the same way again.
violets

Well, I wasn't cut from either group (there's only two sororities on my campus), but at my first formal recruitment I was talking to a girl who had been in my orienation group (I had been an orientation leader). She told me to my face that I sucked and that she didn't like me. I was pretty angry but stuck it out and told my sisters after the party was over what she had said. We continued to invite her back for the rest of the parties except for Pref, but she gave us the impression she didn't like us anyway. I was just pretty surprised someone would be so flat out rude like that.

Sarah Michelle Gellar rocks. No matter what she's playing in. Anyone who cuts someone for that gets a growling face from me, lol.

Me neither. Although, I never participated in formal rush. I got picked up spring semester of my sophomore year, a couple weeks after transferring in. The org. I joined hadn't nationally affiliated yet, so I was able to join without having been at the school for a semester first. My junior year I was a Rho Chi, and that was an experience. This year is my first year participating in formal recruitment. I don't think I would have been able to go through it. My hat goes off to all who can.

I promise I'm not still this rude....
 

When I was a freshman at another school, I was at a party for KD (who were so sweet and absolutely WONDERFUL girls. I called my mom the first 2 nights during rush and was like, "Ohmigod, I SO want to be a KD!") I was talking to one of the sisters, and this girl let out a huge shriek across the room and started jumping up and down. Well, I rolled my eyes, and said, "How lame." and went back to the converation, which seemed to die pretty quickly afterwards. I wasn't invited back. I found out later that semester that the sister I was talking to happened to be the president and the girl that had shrieked was her real life little sister..... I (rightfully so) felt like a complete idiot, moron, bitch, (feel free to add to the names....):eek: :rolleyes:

Thinking back on it, this probably wasn't my reason for being cut, but here we go. I was only cut from one house, Pi Phi, and I think it was because I wasn't a cheerleader in high school. Honestly... at that time, most of the Pi Phis were cheerleaders or wanted to be and that was one of the first questions every girl asked me... It got kind of old, and I really liked them a lot, but they cut me, which allowed my Pref. selections to be easier..

A semi-funny story... two years ago during rush, I met a PNM who my roommate at the time was in love with. She was a sweet girl and I was excited to get to meet her during rush. Well, all she kept talking about was how the girls in the other parties had no clue what kind of bracelet she was wearing (Tiffany's), or where she bought her jewelry (TIffany's again). To be honest, neither did I, but I played it off well I guess because we ended up pledging her... she's MIA now, but whatever... It was just weird.

I had on these really cute boots, and an actuve girl I was talking at XYZ house told me she liked them a lot and thought they were cool. She asked if they were Steve Madden's, and I said no, I got them from Target. She just said..."Oh" and walked away. And no one else really said anything to me for the rest of my time there. :rolleyes:

I made a boo boo once during a rush party -- but I was the rusher. I went through the rush books before the parties to find out which girls from my high school would be at each one. Well, there was this one girl I didn't exactly know, but I knew she went to my high school and I wanted to learn more about her. As a floater, I staked out the party and halfway through I went up and introduced myself. I said, "Hi I'm _____ and I went to the same high school as you". Apparently this girl wasn't smart enough to figure out that her rush registration form would be passed out to all the sororities. She started freaking out and asking me all sorts of questions about how I knew who she was, how long I'd known about her etc... I think she thought I was stalking her!

I felt bad, and came up with some story about how someone else at the party told me a girl from my home town was there. What I really wanted to say was "No one would want to stalk someone as dumb as you." We cut her that day, but everytime I saw her on campus she'd walk the other way!

I was at the ZTA house and the girl rushing me said "oh I love you redhair" I said thank you. She then proceeded to tell me about her boyfriend who happens to also have red hair. I told her that I had yet to meet a cute boy with red hair-opps! That was a booboo but, oh well. Next day ZTA did not show up on my return list.

BTW there is a sorority on my campus that did ask what your parents did for a living. I had no desire to go to this house and thus did not get a rec. for them.

Another redhead! Yippee! We always felt we had "first dibs" on redheads - our chapter was full of them! As an alum, there were 2 of us who did bid matching, and when we brought a third to train (yet another redhead), the DZ chapter advisor asked, "Are all ADPis redheads?!"

Well, not all...

honeychile

I was sick the first day of formal rush and couldn't talk when I woke up the next morning and I could barely talk when I went to the second day, I had these cough drops that probably made my breath smell like death, but hey, I could talk. I went to 8 parties the first night and was cut by all except 3, and one of the houses that I dropped asked me back. Why I was cut? DG - I said their rush room looked like a baby shower (oops); KKG - I don't think I smiled enough (it was my VERY first party and I was scared); AXO-I didn't like sports; XO-I said that I like bowling and the girl who was rushing me said she hates bowling; Pi Phi - I don't know if I was cut but I dropped them and I felt bad after the Rho Gammas revealed themselves because my Rho Gamma (who was so awesome) was a Pi Phi and when she asked me who I wanted to drop, I said Pi Phi all quick and determined-like.

i thought houses didn't tell a girl why she was cut? We burn all the info cards that we write about the girls.

They don't, we're just guessing, thinking back on things that we may have done wrong, etc.

I think there's concern over a girl's being able to pay her dues. Especially now, when not all the ladies rushing are from Old South families, and Daddy doesn't pay every girl's way.

On my campus we ask a couple questions that at are designed to make the PNM think about if she can handle the financial responsibility -- but, we ask questions about if the PNM can handle the time, too.

If I'm rushing you and you mention that you have 3 jobs, 2 majors, on the basketball team, have and a boyfriend you spend all your time with.... I'll probably end up wondering if you can really spare the time.

Ditto if you tell me you're not working, Mom and Dad aren't supportive of GLOs, and you're involved in (insert high-cost activity here.) I'll probably wonder if you truly understand the financial obligation.

BUT -- in the end, it's your decision. If you're a sweet girl and you'd be a great asset to the sorority -- we'll put you on a payment plan, help you figure out a better time management plan, whatever it takes.

I don't have any interesting stories about my rush experience, but I can tell you some funny ones about girls who were going through rush when they came to our rush parties!

Most of the sororities at my school do the thing where they sit the PNM's on chairs/sofas and kneel in front of them, because there just isn't enough seating in any of the chapter rooms. So, I was kneeling in front of this one girl talking to her, and she had a short skirt on but was sitting like a guy! I mean, legs spread apart and I could see her underwear! :eek: I spent more time avoiding looking than having a good conversation with her. We actually did not cut her though, she ended up going elsewhere. She's a nice girl though, she's best friends with one of my sisters and we joke about that all time.

In another party, I was leading some PNM's to another room and we had to kind of stand in the hallway to wait for other people to pass. Well these 2 girls started talking trash about one of my sisters, while I was standing right next to them, and they weren't even trying to be quiet about it! It was pretty obvious at this point that neither of them were interested in us, but we didn't wait to find out-- we cut both of them that night. :D

Oh, my gosh, that's awful! How rude. That reminds me of a girl who came through our rush this past fall. She was really cute, but once she opened her mouth, I changed my opinion quick. At first I thought she was just dingy (she asked about my DZ lavalier, and I told her my big sis had given it to me, then she looked confused and said that she thought only fraternity men gave out lavaliers--I mean, hello, the lavalier had MY letters!) but THEN I found out otherwise. When talking about her high school activities, she mentioned that she was on the track team because she wanted to watch all the hot guys on the team and that the coach let her stay even though she never participated. Mmm-hmm. All the people who talked to her wanted to cut her and made this very clear to Invitation Committee, but for some reason she kept getting invited back. Well, finally Pref rolls around, and she shows up looking incredibly bored. She then proceeds to badger the sister who's preffing her, repeatedly asking exactly what number she is on our bid list and wanting to know whether or not she's getting a bid. During the Pref ceremony, she sits slumped in her chair, picking petals off the rose we gave her. Then after the ceremony, she starts up again with the "What number am I on the bid list?" thing. Thank God she went to another house.

:eek:

And that's about all I have to say about that.

I think it is really funny when the rushees ask if they join the house can the mascot change or your sorority's colors.
Yes, please let us accomodate your specific needs:rolleyes:

CTFU!!!!!:D I almost fell outta my chair at this one!! Freaked out by the wallpaper? What was it????? *lol* CTFU!!!!


OMGoodness please tell me more!

Bless your little baby heart for finding this as funny as I did!!! I have been telling people about the rushee climbing out the window for a couple weeks now, and either people don't believe me or they think it's dumb.

I thought it was hilarious!!

honeychile

ps - good to see you! :cool:

I just wanted to add that I adore this thread... it's too funny!

Ok a little more explanation on the wallpaper thing....we have no idea!!!! She climbed out a window, one of the Rho Chi's chased her down and she was rattling off all these different excuses....the walls were closing in, the wallpaper looked like it was going to eat her(they're FLOWERS) it was too hot, she didn't want to come to us anyway, etc etc. Sounds like she had a panic attack.
Not trying to make fun of her but I thought it was hilarious. :rolleyes: :p

I had a friend that went through rush this fall and there was only one soroity that she did NOT want to join. So when she went to that chapter room, she did all the classic "don't" she was told about before rush. She mentioned how good she would look in their letter, she commented on how "greek" thier letters looked as apposed to other soroities', I think she even asked about changing the colors of the sorority. When I heard about that I about fell over laughing. Needless to say she was not invited back to their party the next night.

You thief. :p ;)

Crystal

I still think this is the winner! I simply cannot imagine being an ANY party that was so bad, I had to crawl out the window!!

Well, barring a party where I could be harmed, that is. This is just TOO FUNNY!!!

honeychile

One of my good friends was cut from a sorority, she swears this is the reason, but I asked some of the actives in this sorority and they said they don't remember this and they would have thought it was funny....

While she was waiting ouside the house, she was exausted. (Walking up and down the row in the Louisiana heat is horrible) She decided to sit in the grass. She finally made it into the house and started talking. She went, "Ouch." The sister kind of looked at her and asked what was the matter. She said, "I was sitting in the grass and an ant must have crawled up my dress and it just bit me on the butt."

My two stories.....
 

I once did COB with this one sorority a long time ago. The first event I went to was ice skating. Now, ice skating is great - lots of fun. The problem is that I was a competitive figure skater for 10 years. Call me an "skating snob" if you like, but I absolutely refuse to wear rental skates. I'd probably hurt myself expecting to skate well on the manky dull rental skate blades. :P

Now, I *wasn't* rude or anything when I showed up, but I brought my pair of skates with me. Some of the girls thought it was really neat that I used to skate. But I just get the feeling that maybe others thought I was trying to show off. That and only about 6-8 members actually skated, the rest just sat in the bleachers and watched. They weren't very good conversationalists. The members only stuck in a little clique and didn't really talk to the PNMs at all. So, I got bored and started skating around by myself. I'm sure that really won them over. (hey, they ignored us PNMs for most of all of the events).

My other experience was when I was invited as a special guest to the spring informal recruitment of the sorority I'm pursuing alumna initiation with. I had this really cute outfit planned: tailored charcoal gray blouse with a black skirt, gray and white pearl bracelet and my favorite black heels.

I had stopped by my university first to do something before leaving for the other university (where the chapter is located). My campus is on a giant sloping hill. As I walked I noted that my feet were *killing* me for some reason. My heels weren't new or anything. It got so bad that I just *had* to change shoes when I got home. Unfortunately, I'm not the kind of girl who has a closet full of shoes. I had nothing else that would match the outfit, I didn't have anything else to wear, and I didn't have any spare time to run out shoe shopping.

I considered wearing my heels anyway, but then I remembered that the campus I was going to was at the top of a REALLY steep hill where there is a *gigantic* set of stairs. I just whimpered at the thought of having to wear the shoes to that campus. So, I did it: I committed a major fashion faux pas. I HAD to! I wore the only other reasonably matching pair of shoes I had - these dorky black flats that I normally wear with trousers to work.

I looked lame, but I was so out of time and my feet hurt so bad. :(

I got to the event and was having a great time talking to the members when someone mentioned "Hey look! I just bought the cutest pair of shoes!" All of a sudden, everybody was holding up their feet and talking about their shoes! Oh noooooo! I kinda felt obligated to share, so I figured I better pipe up and volunteer to say something before anyone asks (or looks). I said something like "Oh! Funny you should mention shoes...ha ha ha...I had this really cute pair of heels on earlier but, for some reason, I had such a hard time with them. And ha ha ha wouldn't you know it, I ended up wearing these silly old things...ha ha ha..always such trouble with shoes...." They then sorta looked at me with blank expressions. :o

I don't know! I was nervous!

It's all good because we all still had a good time anyway and this sorority would like me to get in touch with them when I get home from England next year. So, I guess they don't judge by the merit of one's shoes! :)

.....Kelly :)

Okay, I'm sorry but this is TOO FUNNY. The part about her jumping out the window and running away had me ROLLING with tears in my eyes, but this is just TOO FUNNY FOR WORDS. Hahahaha!!! I seriously think this is one of the funniest things I have EVER heard. :D

Weird things always seem to happen at recruitment parties. I have been working with the recruitment team through various roles at my campus and it never seems to surprise me what some women do during recruitment. Some women get so freaked out by the rules that they tend to focus so hard on the wrong things and say stupid stuff.

As a recruitment chair, people would ask the strangest questions. One potential new member entered my chapter in desperate need of femine products because she unexpectedly got her period. Understanding that there is no "gift giving" in rush, she asked me if it was OK to leave the house with the tampon, as that could be considered as a gift. I reassured her that it wasn't a gift and that we most certainly did not want it back.

I also have had several experiences with PNM's being rude and saying things about sisters in my house. During one recruitment, a girl stuck her finger down her throat in the formal room of my house. If I was recruitment chair then, I would have grabbed her by her ear and thrown her out.

This past fall, I had an issue with Rho Chi's from other houses breaking rules. They started wandering around my house without permission, going in rooms that were closed (some had voting material) and they were making rude comments about the house. They of course denied it and it never got resolved, but recruitment brings out the strangest things in people!!!:confused: :confused:

My sorority is the only one on campus with an actual house. The other three share a building along with Campus Safety. For our open house this year, it was kind of funny to see the Rho Chi's from the other sororities' reactions. Of course, we didn't mind them going through the house with the PNM's, since we have nothing to hide. It's kind of funny, since they dont' let our Rho Chi's in their quads.

Rusher Faux Paus
 

I think I did okay when I went through as a PNM, but being on the other side is definitely scary too and full of little "oh my gosh, these girls are going to be like, 'what was she doing!?'" moments.
I was on the food committee since I was in Marching Band and missed all the practices for rush. At one of the parties, we were serving a variety of cheesecakes. I was walking around with them and asking the PNM's if they wanted a slice and I would point out the different kinds. Well, I was getting to one of the last tables in the middle and went to point to one and accidently stabbed it with my finger. She looked at me horrified. I started laughing and said, "well of course you wouldn't get that piece!......hey I'm nervous about rush too!" On the way back to the kitchen, I was thinking oh great, now I'll be a great little momento of our house. :( Ooops! I don't think I remember seeing her again.

A reason I wanted girl out out out. . .
one girl went through and she was all flogging giving us this *sob*sob* story of how she had epilepsy. the next day, she told someone else that she had cancer. well, a friend of mine who is in another sorority came and said, 'we had one girl almost pass out. . .she's got sickle cell anemia.'
i was like, 'what?' only blacks get sickle cell!'

we all started laughing. . .watch out for the sympathy girls. . .


anyway, both of our sororities ended up not wanting her. . .