Weight, something I struggle with everyday.

I have tried alot of stupid things in my life to lose the excess wieght. As a freshman in high school a friend and I used to think we were "cool" because we puked our food up after we ate. I gave up on that notion though. Puking definietly wasnt for me. It mostly just made me feel worse. My senior year of high school I was down to 170 pounds. Which was great for me. I have a large body frame and 170 pounds made me look really really good. I am not sure how I lost all that weight, maybe because my senior year was nothing but running around like a chicken with my head cut off. But I did lose it healthy. I still ate, I walked and did other types of exercise. I felt good. Then I came to college and the freshman 15 was gained. But it just wouldnt stop! I was getting huge. In my eyes I was anyways, but then I found a guy who loved me for all I was. He told me I was beautiful. Even though when we first met I weighed about 20 pounds less than I did at the point that we started dating. We have sense broke up and I now no longer blame my lack of boyfreind on my wegith, in fact my most recent ex weighs probably about 50 pounds less than me and he still thinks that I am beautiful too! :) So it isnt the size that matters it is the person underneath the size. I strongly believe this. But I still feel that I need to lose weight. I would love to be backto the healthy 170 that I was when I graduated high school. I felt my best then. For being 5'8 that is still pretty heavy. So I am going to try my best to lose the weight that I seem to have found in college, but never be ashamed of hwat I am. I am a big girl and I will always be a big girl and that is something I have learned to accept. I just need to feel healthy again. I hope this post made sense! knowing me it didnt! haha.

Alright, I had to respond to this thread. Coming from a person that is 5'11", is big boned, and has some extra pounds... I think that it's funny to see some people, who think they're fat... when they're really not.

I have numerous amounts of friends that are incrediably pretty, not to mention small in size... And they think they're huge. Really though. I laugh everytime I'm hanging out with them, and they're like, "I need to go on a diet... I'm so fat... Look at me, I'm bloated!" WTF?! Come on now... Is it that drastic???

I take pride in my body. Yes, I have hips, and yes, I have some thighs on me... And thank God I'm well endowed in the upper body! It's just like the India Arie song, "...But I've learned to love myself unconditionally, because I am a queen!"

I'm not ashamed to admit that I shop at "bigger" stores. But that's only because places like Forever 21, Wet Seal, and the Gap don't understand that if they make bigger clothes, they'll make bigger bucks!!!

Lemme tell you a quick story... My cousin is tiny... I mean she's TINY!!! (even after she had a kid!) Anyways, we went shopping, and there was a store that she wanted to go into. I walked in first, not knowing that she stopped to tie her shoelaces. Anyways, the sales assistant was like, "Can I help you?" in such a nasty voice. I just told her no, going over to look at some tee shirts. The sales asst. went over to another sales asst. and was like, "What is that fat cow doing in here? Does she think that she'll be able to fit into any of our clothes?" By this time, my cousin was walking in, and heard everything that they said. She turned to them and said, "No, but I think I would... and now I think I need your store manager's name, and the number to your corporate office." Anyways, we ended up leaving, and my cousin did end up filing a complaint with their corporate...

Alrighty, I've talked enough. Thanks for listening!!! :D

~Beth

WHAT!!!!!!!!!!!!! :eek:
omg i DON'T KNOW WHAT I WOULD HAVE DONE! :mad:

Good for her!!! That was inexcusably rude and uncalled for.

I love that India Arie song! It reminds me of the way I feel about myself!

Accepting what you are is the only way to become who you are.

:) :) :) :) :) :) :)

Totally! Thanks for understanding... (I forgot to put in my message that I didn't hear the girl... If I had, ohhh... I donno what I would have done!)

I know a girl (friend of a friend type thing) who went for a job interview and the interviewer called her fat and disgusting...literally said "you're fat and disgusting" but she refuses to do anything about it because she doesn't want it to be an issue...and is being a victim

Doesn't want it to be an issue, so she will not do anything about it? Sounds a little crazy and a tad lazy to me! Job interviews are based alot on apperance, but I couldn't imagine someone actually say that to someone...that shows a lot about that Co.

It all boils down to trying to be healthy. I have never been a huge exercise fan but you know what, unless you get off your rear and move around it will be close to impossible to lose or maintain weight...unless you happen to be one of the blessed peolpe that can eat anything and remain thin!

I am all about being happy with who you are and all, but there is a time when you have to realize that health is more important. I will never be a size 2 like so many of my friends, but that doens't mean that I should get as big as possible to prove a point. Being heathly will come more into play when we all get older and I would like to think a head start is a good thing...

Just wanted to let everyone know that I was feeling a little bad about myself until reading and replying a couple of times on here. And this morning I opened up my e-mail and there was one from one of the guys from last year that we had mutual interest in each other but nothing ever came of it. But he told me he wanted to talk to me about maybe getting together!

I am so excited right now! I know it has nothing to do with this post, but I thought I would share :)

wise words...
 

For attractive lips, speak words of kindness.

For lovely eyes, seek out the good in people.

For a slim figure, share your food with the hungry.

For beautiful hair, let a child run his or her fingers through it once a day.

For poise, walk with the knowledge that you never walk alone.

People, even more than things, have to be restored, renewed, revived, reclaimed and redeemed; never throw out anyone.

Remember, if you ever need a helping hand, you'll find one at the end of each of your arms. As you grow older, you will discover that you have two hands, one for helping yourself, the other for helping others.

The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure she carries, or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman must be seen from in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart, the place where love resides.

The beauty of a woman is not in a facial mode, but the true beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. It is the caring that she lovingly gives and the passion that she shows.

The beauty of a woman grows with the passing years.

-Audrey Hepburn

~I thought you all would like that quote! I know I love it. I myself am not a 'big girl' and I don't think I will ever be one just because I have a very small build and have always been very petite, however, I do have some 'big girl' friends that are some of the most gorgeous girls I know. They radiate beauty inside and out!;)

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Thank you for posting this. And Audrey Hepburn, as a side note, had a beautiful soul as well as classic outer beauty.

That was a beautiful Audrey Hepburn quote! The woman was the epitome of class, not for her looks but because of how she carried herself, and the life she lived. It's all about how you treat others.

I am like everybody else on this board, I have a LOT of body issues. MY body issues were more a result of spiritual crisis than anything else. I was depressed, so I gained weight. Losing the weight happened when I could be happy with the me on the inside, and had little to do with what I saw in the mirror.

It's like at one point, going outside to play with my cousins was too hard, and I just never had the energy to go anywhere, and that's when I decided to lose weight in a healthy manner- I have been surrounded by eating disorders for most of my life, and seen the damage that they do, and so I chose to love myself and my body and lose weight with that in mind!

It's all about loving yourself! No matter what you weigh, if you love yourself and you show it, then people will be attracted to that, and you will be the happier for it.

Another point about the whole "big girl" issue... just being a little larger than others does not mean you are not as healthy as them:

Example: My good friend is a size 4/6... but she smokes a pack of cigarettes a day, does not always practice safe sex and does not exercise that often.

Me, however, I am a size 8/10.... but I work out 3-4 times a week, I don't smoke, I always have safe sex and I'm even trying to give up caffeine altogether...

so why it may suck being 10 lbs heavier than her.. it pays off in the long run :)

For Real
 

Yeah, I'm 5'8" and have been full figured all of my life. I've gone through ups and downs about it, but I had to realize that although big, I am very pretty. I've had boyfriends and all, and some still want me because, regardless of size I am a person of high quality. I think that life is too short to worry about your outer appearence, unless its affecting your overall health. We need to spend more time on our inner selves. And when I do eventually lose the weight, I DON'T wanna be "skinny". A size 12 is as small as I'll EVER want to be. The smallest person in my ENTIRE family (except lil kids) is a size 12. And she looks skinny to me. Size and weight are all so relative. Just so long as you're happy and healthy.

When did size 8/10 become a big girl? That's a normal healthy size.

No kidding.

Funny
 

Ok, why did ya'll favorite GC male UF_Pike start a thread called:

Petite Girl's Shout Out.................... :D

I've been reading some of the things he's posted through GC and my question is....is he a REAL person or just someone living out a fantasy via the 'net?

http://greekchat.com/gcforums/showth...068#post204068


GC is a funny place sometimes :D

What DOES define a big girl?

I am 5'10, 230lbs and wear a size 20. I consider that big. I don't consider someone who can buy clothes in the Juniors department a big girl unless she is under the age of 12. Seriously. I would kill to be able to shop at the Gap, Old Navy, and the like. But I can't. I am ok with that, for now. I love Lane Bryant, Talbots, Elisabeth by Liz Claiborne, and Mainframe Plus. I love that I have curves. I love that I never have to fear the wind.

I am beautiful, I am me. There is no one like me.

TG

Amen to that one!!!

Ladies, you are an inspiration for how ALL women should feel and respect themselves, regardless of size!

I am not really a big girl by normal standards at 5'9 and 135lbs. But I live in Los Angeles, where that is so often considered big. I wear a 6 and going to the Gap to only find 0s, 2s and 4s is a heartbreaking thing that throws me into self doubt. Not to mention the men that think all women should look like Calista Flockhart. Don't even get me started. I've got breasts, I will never be a size 2, and at my height, I'd look damn ridiculous if I were! That, I DO realize!

Reading what you've all said, makes me proud to be a woman with curves and makes me realize I do need to be kinder to myself.

Thank you so much ladies!

:D

:D

I thought that Old Navy does go up to size 20, or is it only the Internet?:confused:

That was a beautiful post! And yes, like RubberSoul said, I am one of those skinny girls who wish I had a little more pounds on me.

No offense, Max, but.....UH NO. Most women like a man who is larger than she is! Plus I have a lot of male friends who are on the "Shaggy-esque" side and every one of them dates or is married to "bigger" gals, and all because they can't stand skinny women.

I work at the Gap so I can clarify! Old Navy goes up to size 20 in the stores and the Gap goes up to size 16 in the stores. You can find larger sizes in Gap clothes online. I'm a Gap employee who is a size 12/14 depending on what time of the month it is, so I hear about it all the time! We do have stuff in our stores that goes up to size 16 but if you look on clearance only it's going to be the smaller sizes because those don't sell as quickly as the bigger sizes! I know we should stock more of the larger sizes but a lot of our stuff is sent from the warehouse in a "size run" where we get a certain amount of each size. If you find an item you like but there are only size 0 or 2 left then ask a salesperson to do a merchandise locator. If it is found on Gap online and it is full price then you can have it delivered to your house for free (only if you order in the store). If the item isn't full price you can add on a pair of socks to make the shipping free! This is just a heads up for those who can never find a 12/14/16 in our stores! :D

Jess

@jharb
 

Thank you for clarifying. And I know what you mean about that time of the month.;)

I have to concur with Amycat.......I'm 5'10" between 130 and 135 lbs and in L.A. that is considered huge. It's not like I carry all my weight in my middle or posterior, heck no, most of it resides in my chest. But I have still had a casting director tell me that I need to shave off about fifteen lbs. If I took off fifteen lbs, I would tip over from the sheer weight of the twins. I have curves that nearly run for miles because of my height and weight. If I lost weight, I would be disgustingly emaciated with giant knockers (think Pam Anderson......eww)

But, then again, this is also the town where you can never be too rich, too blonde, or too THIN.

I say to all you beautifully curvy girls out there, stand tall, be proud because there is nothing more attractive in the world than self-confidence!!!!

-Lil Snakey K

This is a cool thread too. I too have issues with my weight.

Let's see I'm 5'2, have boobs, hips,and big butt,and wear a size 14. Talk about someone with major issues! Like a posted in the other thread, I'm cool with my height. I struggled with accepting my weight. I was a size 7 from about 6th grade till sophmore year in college. Then I inched up to a size 10. I was a size 12 for a hot moment, now I'm a size 14. It's taking me a long time to accept being a size 14. Now I don't care.

There this guy at work who is interested in this girl who works with us. The girl is about 5'1 and is a size 7 an real cruvy. Anyway I asked what he thought of my other friend who works with us. He's like no I'm not interested C's overweight. C's a 16/18. Then he goes, even M(the girl he's interested in) is pushing it by being a size 7. I'm like how is a size 7 pushing it. Most people would kill to be a size 7

I hate the way society makes women who were concidered the most beautiful in the middle ages feel fat.

I think Im fat, because Im surrounded by skinny pretty girls, and all my guy friends are like "Youre beautiful, we like girls who arent all skin and bone" well where the f*** are those guys?

I am 5'7" and weigh from 150-160 and since college- I have had many self esteem issues with my weight.

Grrr

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I have to say that everytime I go to Express the only sizes left are the 10-14-very frustrating for me b/c I am a 3-4-so it goes both ways.

When you find out, let a sista know! :D

Re: Re: Re: Kelly weighs in...
 

I feel the opposite. I go to the store seems like all they have is 3-4 stuff.:(

Re: Re: Re: Re: Kelly weighs in...
 

I'm a size 8/10 now but I use to be size 16 about 4 years ago so I know the struggles of being overweight and not finding clothes in your size (in my experiences larger sizes go quicker than smaller ones because the average American woman is a size 12).

I don't let other people define me and comparing myself to models (and IMHO, most fashion models are too skinny and are ugly) is ridiculous. First of all, when you see a photo in a magazine, it has been touched up. So even the models aren't perfect. They will touch up a photo to remove moles, make a leg look slender, make a model look curvier, etc.

My goal is to be healthy. That's why I exercise 3 to 5 times a week, watch what I eat and lift weights. As someone said, you can be skinny and unhealthy and then take someone who is size 12 who is in excellent health because they exercise.


#7 Snuggles
DST - RVA 12/93

Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Kelly weighs in...
 

I hate that people think just because you're bigger you're unhealthy! I'm only 5'3" and if I was three inches taller and the same weight I probably would be a size 8. I have a fairly low BMI and body fat percentage, but because I'm a size 12 people think I'm lazy and unhealthy. :mad:

Jess

No kiddin! I was thinking the same thing! ;)

True, true... Even though I do have some extra weight on me, I am pretty muscular.

My body type is meant to be big. No matter what I weigh, I will still be big. And I don't want people to assume that because I'm big, that I'm unhealthy!

Growing up I was in soccer for 8 years, softball for 11 years, I was a Jr. Lifeguard for 3 years, was in water polo for a while, played on the girls Powder Puff team, not to mention all the "non-organized" sports. So try and tell me I'm unhealthy.

I totally agree with Jharb and SapphireSphinx9. I have a friend who is 6' at least and she is a good 190 lbs or more. Although she is a nice size girl, she is very athletic and well built. She participates in just about all of the intramurals, swims daily, and works out.