If for some INSANE reason my daughter finds interest in another Sorority, she will have to find the $$$ to make it happen. My money will not support the membership fees of another organization. Thats not to say I will not donate money to worthy service projects of my Sister NPHC greeks. I have, and I will continue. It's a matter of principle! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif


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Zeta Phi Beta Sorority, Incorporated...Every Finer Woman's Dream!

i know this is an old thread but the topic is still relevant.

if I have kids, I would want my daughter to go SGRho and my son to choose one of the Fab 5 of the Divine 9. If all goes as planned, I will pay for them however anything outside of that they are on their own.;) just my honest opinion

I would love to be able to share Gamma Phi Beta with any daughters that I have in the future....but I don't want them to feel as though Gamma Phi is the only option. I know that each organization varies from chapter to chapter and that what's right for me isn't necessarily right for other people.

On the money issue, depending on the cost of dues, I would expect my child to pay his or her own way. I pay for my dues with no help from my parents, but I know that my dues are relatively cheap compared to other schools. If dues were an astronomical amount, then I would help pay for them, but not pay entirely...at some point my child would have to learn financial responsibilty.

I would love to be able to share ADPi with a future daughter of mine, but personally I am a legacy of two other sororities neither of which are on my campus. In turn I can understand completely if they want to join a different sorority. I really though would love for them to experience all the wonderful things a sorority can offer. I personally never thought I would join a sorority even though I am a legacy multiple times over. It took me finding a sorority on my own to realize how much I really needed it. I hope any future daughter of mine would do the same.

My own daughter will be a legacy to DG, PiPhi, Theta and Kappa and her aunt is a ZTA, so I guess it really won't matter which.

My son is a legacy to LXA going back three generations

I was a Kappa legacy. I grew up singing Kappa songs. I loved looking at my mother's badge and her old sorority pictures. I hoped to one day be a Kappa. I also grew up hearing that I should never be a Chi Omega! (Partly in jest as they were my mom's arch rival on her campus!) My school did not have a Kappa chapter. They did have a Chi O chapter. You can tell from my signature where I ended up! My mother was SO happy for me. (She still tells me to this day that all the girls in my house would have been Kappas at her school, though! ;) ). We always make jokes to each other about which group is better, who has better alums, etc.

I do have to say though, I wish I could have shared the "special bond" of sisterhood with my mom. She and I are best friends, and no, we do NOT need sorority letters to make our bond any better, but I love my sorority and it's ritual and what it stands for and I would have loved for my mom to share it with me. Just like I am sure she thinks about her ritual and would love to have seen me go through it. I think it's more about sharing something you really love with someone you really love. Not about having a "better" relationship with your mom!

I have a niece now, and have already bought her a Chi O shirt before mom got her Kappa hands on her! And who knows if I will have a legacy someday. If I do, and she doesn't go Chi O, I'd love for her to be a Kappa!

I have heard about Delta Gamma all of my life. My mother is a DG, and her sister is a DG. And it seemed to fit me perfectly as well. I'd love if my daughter followed in my footsteps, but she'll be her own person and will make whatever decisions that are best for her.

Here we are at the installation banquet for my chapter - she pinned me at initiation too - it was amazing.

http://www4.ncsu.edu:8030/~cjmoore6/...tallation6.jpg

And we visited her old Chapter in Ohio over the Christmas break, here we are in the Eta DG house (her old composities are still on the wall!!):
http://www4.ncsu.edu:8030/~cjmoore6/...linked/dg4.jpg

I love her so much and am so proud to be her sister as well as her daughter...

When I joined Alpha Phi my little sister thought it was the coolest thing in the world. She's already told me that she really wants to join Alpha Phi when she goes to college, hence she is gearing her college choices around which schools have Alpha Phi. I've told her several times that I want her to go to a school that she'll be happy at and if there's an Alpha Phi chapter then I guess it makes it that much better. My mom never went Greek but my grandmother is a Sigma Kappa, so Natalie is set whichever way she goes. I'll just be glad if she goes Greek!

That's really sweet! :)

i think the whole legacy thing is awesome. i am a Kappa Delta, as was my mother, and it was the greatest thing to have her pin me with her pin at my initiation. i would hope that, if i have daughters, they would go KD if that is an option at their school. however, i believe the best thing when going Greek is to pick the place that suits you best, so if i had kids that went somewhere else, i would be happy for them, so long as that house best represented their ideals and beliefs and felt they could form the best bonds there.

I was the first in my family to go greek, so no family traditions for me to follow... although I wish AEPhi offered alum initiation, for my mother.

I would be thrilled if my hypothetical future daughter chose AEPhi... but she has to choose the sisterhood, if any, that's right for her. (She will only be a legacy to AEPhi, if all goes according to plan.)

My hypothetical future son won't be a legacy to any GLO, although my husband is a Mason... maybe my son will choose to follow that path, and if that happens I'm sure my husband will be thrilled.

As for dues, my children will pay their own way just as I did. I hope to be able to support their tuition and housing, so if they join a GLO with a house I'd (try to) pick up the housing portion of their dues, but the rest will be their responsibility.

I think that the subject of being a legacy can become very sensative at times. I am a legacy to a soror, we will call it AB. My sister is also an AB. I went to the same college as her and her pledge class were seniors when I went through Rush. Most of my friends were already in AB. When it was time to get invitations back to parties I was dropped by AB. To this day I don't know why and neither does my sister. I ended joining a different soror and got to become a founding mother to my chapter on campus. It was a great experience to see my colony grow into a chapter. I am just glad that my sister was supportive of my decision. As for my children (if I have any girls). I would love for her to follow my footsteps and become and Alpha Gam, but every chapter is different and if it isn't right for her then I hope she will follow her heart. As far as helping with dues. I would do my best to help her as much as possible.

we have two chapter legacies and its awesome. both of their grandfathers came for initiation and it was unbelievable to see that connection betwen them translate into the fraternity. one my best friends just pledged beta at another school and Im pretty excited. I imagine my little brother will pledge beta next year when he goes to college

well....
 

...since I have two little boys (10 and 8 yrs old), the legacy deal is out for me -- at least for this generation -- LOL!!!! Hmmmm! Maybe I will have a granddaughter legacy!! Anyways,
I would LOVE for both my sons to marry Gamma Phis!!!!! They both know tons about Gamma Phi already -- they always get me some sort of Crescent moon gift for Christmas or my birthday:D
And I think they may have a pretty good chance to meet Gamma Phis when they go to college since my husband and I want them to both go to his alma mater the AF Academy -- located not too far from our awesome Colorado chapters and our International HQtrs!!:cool:

well my mom is an adpi and growing upmy sister and i always wanted to join adpi.. when my sister went to college that college didnt have adpi and she went chi-o and so i was really excited about that because that made me a double.. well when i went off to college either of those two fine organizations were on my campus..so i became a phi mu... my sister and i are very excited because our daughters will have three wonderful organizations to look into...

It's interesting how some alumns work. I'd heard many times growing up that my dad was a part of this non-fraternity fraternity, that took the good guys -- even if they were dorks. He also said, many times, that the org. (for this reason) closed.

My junior year I transferred and pledged Phi Mu; met an AKL at a homecoming event who took me out to dinner after a meeting. We got caught up talking -- my dad's affiliation came up -- and he said, Wow, it sounds like AKL.

Sure enough.....

Dad was surprised.

My brother, who's at my same school, didn't pledge, though. I was surprised -- I think if my mom had been part of a GLO, I would have felt obligated to at least investigate!

All the same, he's happy, Dad's happy, I'm happy.

I'm a legacy to SGR. My mother always had pleseant memories of her college days ( in the early 60's) and what she did in her chapter. She had a really good advisor who was attentive (sp?) and made sure they got to all the regionals and boule's and applied for scholarships.

I decided to join SGR as well, partly because of her and partly because it was/is something different. SGR is smaller than the others in the D9 and because of that a member has a chance to be very busy in her chapter. You get to do a lot in terms of holding different office positions and coordinating programs for your chapter. You do have to work harder but it is very satisfying to know that your small chapter is just as visible and productive as the larger chapters.

My younger sister attended a private university for her undergrad degree that does not have a greek system, but I am encouraging her to join a sorority when she finishes law school. I and my mother would like her to join SGR, but there is no pressure for her to do that.

Oh, I am a legacy to ZPB through my two aunts and I have an uncle who is a Q.

I would want my children to go greek and join one of the D9.

i would tell my daughter or son the same thing my family, who is heavily greek told me:

"you have to go through recruitment to learn about it and see if it's for you, but you don't have to pledge"

my dad is a theta chi, my g'pa is a delta tau delta and my uncle is a pi kappa alpha.

my mom, her 2 sisters, my g'ma and my g'ma's sister are all sigma kappas along with me.

my younger sister is a new member of kappa alpha theta. they didn't have sigma kappa on her campus

there wasn't really any pressure on me to go sk, it's just where i fit in best. . .

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I dreamed of having my own baby legacy, but it wasn't to be. We've got 3 awesome sons (12, 10, 6) and I'd be in heaven if any of them were to marry an AOII. The boys have been aware of AOII virtually since birth :) I have a picture of my oldest son sitting on the back of a huge stuffed panda, they wore "My Mom's An AOII" tee shirts, they've seen me actively volunteer for AOII almost their entire lives. My DH isn't greek, but I hope that all 3 boys will consider exploring Fraternity recruitment once they're in college.

Christin

C, may they all become Brothers of LXA!!!!!!!!!!:)

Then you can tell them I knew this guy back when!;)

Personally, it would mean a great deal to me for my daughter to be a Chi Omega. My father-in-law was a Delt at our university and he initiated my husband, and I think that is just so special. I really would like to think that I won't pressure her, but realistically I probably will. I plan to still be an advisor when she is college-age, and so there will be an obvious bias. If she goes to a school where the Chi Omega chapter is extremely strong like mine was, I will definitely be upset if she goes elsewhere. But if she were to attend a school with a not-so-great chapter or no Chi O chapter then I would be understanding. As far as my son, I hope he looks at Delt but it is pretty much the same deal; I want him to belong to the best fraternity on campus and if that isn't DTD then I support whatever choice he makes. I know my husband will feel the same as he and his identical twin went separate ways and it was fine.

A lot of people think being wholeheartedly involved in your GLO after college graduation signifies that you never left the frat/soror life behind.........

which is kind of too bad. I can already see how Phi Mu is continuing on for me after college. But I wonder how that would affect our kids? Would they have heard so much, they'd be sick of the greek concept? Or just the specific org?

If the parents have a happy and satisfying alumnae involvement, I don't think the kids would be sick of the Greek concept! One of my Junior Circle sisters is a legacy. Her mom was a chapter advisor, and she tells me that some of her fondest memories were of going to the chapter house with her mom, learning the songs and cheers, and being spoiled rotten by the collegiates. :)

I would hope that if they grow up surrounded by their parents' brothers and sisters, they would see how meaningful and deep the fraternal bond can be. Hopefully by the time she gets to college, she would want to experience the bond for herself!

Any child of mine will be a legacy whether a boy or a girl, and I would be thrilled to have my child join Alpha Gam or Sig Ep. While it would break my heart to see my daughter join another group, it is her decision to make and I wouldn't get in the way. Of course, my dastardly plan is to make any future daughter love Alpha Gam so much that she couldn't possibly imagine joining any other sorority! ;)

hahaha! I love it! So sneaky yet so......... PERFECT.