Fingers crossed for Laser Lemon, but I also have a feeling you might have been charmed by one of the others at Preference....

What color is Fuzzy Wuzzy? Brown?

Night before pref? Forget about getting sleep. I was fairly confident in who I would get back because for one chapter (laser lemon) it didn't feel like I was trying to impress them but instead was just chatting with my friends. The feelings I have towards this chapter seem mutual.

Drumroll Please.....
My invitations to pref are

Fuzzy Wuzzy
Jazzberry Jam

NO. Heartbreak at its finest. I didn't expect to love a chapter as much as I loved laser lemon so of course I didn't expect the heartbreak that came when they cut me. For the first time this week I cried, not because I hated the two houses I had back but because Laser Lemon was sooo me. I even felt bad about crying because I didn't want it to seem like I was upset with what I had back I was just really torn up about who I didn't have. Even the friends I had made through out this week were shocked, they said "If I wasn't 'Laser Lemon'material who was!" I will never understand why I was dropped but at that point I realized if I wanted to be greek I was either going to be a Fuzzy Wuzzy or a Jazzberry Jam.

Fuzzy Wuzzy- FINALLY I HAD A GOOD CONVERSATION! The girl I talked to was so cool and personable but it kind of felt too little too late because in the back of my head I still had reminders of the bad conversations I had had before.

Jazzberry Jam- Had another good conversation with the girl rushing me. I like this chapter but I still don't feel the way about this chapter that I did laser lemon.

Needless to say I was very upset the night before bid day, it hurt even more to see girls who were over the moon excited about their two remaining options and I kind of just felt meh about them.

With that being said I put Jazzberry Jam as my first option and Fuzzy Wuzzy as the second.

I'm glad you stuck with it, even after your disappointment. Can't wait to hear the rest!

I'm late to the party, but I enjoyed reading it.

Big hugs to you and can't wait to hear the rest.

Before I share my ending I just wanted to shed some wisdom or advice for anyone who might come across my thread when trying to find out about recruitment at ole miss or any competitive school.

I'm sure this has been said before but I feel like I can't go without saying this,

Don't lose yourself in the process. I know this has probably been said countless times but I can't reiterate enough how important this is. Cuts hurt, bad. Its rejection in its purest form and it stings no matter what. I always saw myself as someone who people loved to be around and I was extremely well liked in high school. When I looked at my invitation card the first day I felt like I wasn't that girl anymore. And after getting another cut I felt like I didn't know myself as well as I thought I had. But please just remember these cuts are not a reflection of who you are. No matter how many houses you get back on your list you are still the same person you where before you started recruitment. My self confidence took a major hit that honestly, I am still recovering from. These cuts can be extremely arbitrary and awfully political and if you're someone like me, recruitment is a numbers game that 9 times out of 10, you will come up short on. Just don't let this process get you down and change who you think you are.

I will step off my soap box now

I'm so glad you stuck it through, even with the harsh cuts. And I think your words of wisdom are very wise indeed.

Can't wait to hear the rest of your story!

{{ Big hug }} for you! You have learned some valuable, if painful, lessons. Please also remember that the chapters that cut you were NOT saying that they didn't like you or that you were not "good enough." I promise, that is not what they thought. They simply could not invite EVERY PNM back and had to make some very hard choices. Rush can get you down. Please get back up and shrug it off!

Can't wait to hear about Pref...... now, please :D

What great advice! Love the recap! Can't wait to see the end!

So Bid Day rolls around and I'm still a little down about Laser Lemon, the cut CUT deep! I made my way over to the grove to receive my bid. After the gamma chi reveal I was handed my bid to.....


JAZZBERRY JAM (will keep actual name private for anonmity)


At that moment it hit me, no I wasn't running home to laser lemon, a group full of girls who were like me but instead I was going somewhere where I was accepted. Jazzberry Jam wanted ME, I was running home to a group who wanted ME in their sisterhood and I couldn't be more excited. I realized I don't need to be surrounded by people similar to me to make good friendships but instead I just needed to be around people who accepted me and wanted to get to know me.

So here's to the most stressful week of my life. Can we start handing out "I Survived Ole Miss Rush" shirts at Bid Day? I think this week warrants one.

All of this can never be said enough.

I know that this was hard (as it is for many girls), but I can promise you this: recruitment is not the last time in your life that you'll feel the pain of rejection. Fortunately for you, you'll be better prepared for it the next time around. You'll be turned down by jobs, you'll be turned down by people you're attracted to, you might even find as time goes on that you're "turned down" by friends that you've known for years. It happens. But there are also so many amazingly great things that happen in between that make up for all the other crap.

I know that the process isn't always an easy one, but I'm sure in 5 years you'll look back on this and actually appreciate the experience. Your "failures" and disappointments will teach you a lot about life and about yourself.

I hope that you found your sorority home! :)

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Congrats! You truly have a great attitude. I hope that Jazzberry Jam is (perhaps unexpectedly) everything you've ever wanted in a sorority experience! I hear those Ole Miss chapters are pretty awesome ;)

You have an AMAZING attitude. Tell your parents they did a great job raising an empathetic, self-confident young woman.

A couple years from now, it may become apparent that you made far more of a mark in JJ than you could have ever made in LL.

Congratulations on finding your home!!! I hope you'll stick around on GreekChat -- I think you will find many kindred spirits here. :)

What an amazing story; and your insight is remarkable. I wish you many years of happiness in your new home. Please stay with us and share when you can!

LOL, only if you hand them out to all the mothers, too.

My sister and her friends had shirts made when they went through rush in 2000 at Ole Miss that said that! They put all of their favorite sayings from rush week on the shirt. They were really cute.

I'm glad it all worked out for you! I hope you enjoy your new sisterhood and be sure to have lots of fun! Hotty Toddy!

Congratulations! I echo what everyone else has said about your attitude and all the benefits it's going to bring you. You've already done a big part of the growing up that you go to college to achieve. Bravo.

Congratulations-you DID survive! I hope that as the weeks go on, you fall in love with your sorority. Please come back and let us know how things are going.

Congratulations,anonreb, on surviving Ole Miss recruitment and congratulations to Jazzberry Jam who now has an amazingly insightful new sister!

Congratulations to you and Jazzberry Jam!

As someone who also had their favorite drop them right before Pref, I get the sting that comes with it. It feels like the rug is pulled out from under you. It took me quite a while to get over it, and I have to say your attitude is remarkable and much more mature than I was during the same time in my life. But I did get over it and now would not change a thing, and I hope the same feeling will be true for you.

I wish you the best in Jazzberry Jam - from what I've read on here all the chapters at Ole Miss are 100% amazing and I have no doubt you will have the experience of a lifetime.

Congratulations to you, Anonreb! You have an amazing attitude and I echo all the positive comments about you. Have an amazing college career with your SISTERS!!

Oh...... there should be a nail polish shades story. OPI, Essie, or my new favorite Dior gel nail colors. I digress...sorry. Reading now and hoping for a happy ending.

I felt so bad when anonreb wrote that her #1 dropped her. Then I had an "awwww" mom moment when she wrote about her confidence taking a hit but she kept going. I am so glad you found a home and I wish you the best.

I have LOVED reading this story and was eager to find out where you ended up but I understand you wanting it to remain private. You did a great job painting such an accurate picture. I do a lot of references each year and help with our local panhellenic sorority recruitment information workshop and I think we need a session on just this topic! I think many girls expect it to be a smoother process than it is. However, many places it is just a numbers game and a matter of not that they didn't love you but they just knew or liked other girls more. This is one of those tough life lessons experience that will certainly grow you as a person. And I'm sure in a few weeks or months, you'll not even be able to imagine you in any other sorority than this one!

I too understand your wanting the identity of your final choice to remain private; however, I still intend to pout for the rest of the day. What a cliffhanger!
Congrats again on a successful recruitment, and on a well-written and realistic story.

Jazzberry Jam got a good one! Enjoy every minute!

Congrats to you!

I love that you are not revealing the true identify of Jazzberry Jam. That way all of your GC fans can imagine that you are now their sister. That's how impressed we are with your maturity and overall attitude! In fact, even though OPA doesn't participate in NPC recruitment on any of our campuses, I am deliberately imagining a scenario where Jazzberry Jam turns out to be OPA so you can be my sister, too! :)

I am pouting, too!

Congratulations on making it through recruitment and I'm glad that you got Jazzberry Jam! I hope that you have the best time and come back and give us an update later. While I can understand your desire to be private, I'm also pouting! ;)

Congratulations on Jazzberry Jam! Your Chapter is lucky to have you!

congratulations on Jazzberry Jam!

I'm pouting because I want to know who they are, but on the other hand I can live in my little "world" that you are one of my new sisters :)

This! All this! I can pretend that she is possibly my sister.

Congrats Anon!

Dear Anon, I have SO enjoyed following your journey and would like to chime in with my own experience. As a Yankee Mom and non-Greek, my daughter and especially I had no idea how rigorous Ole Miss recruitment was. She rushed in 2012 and her rush experience was identical to yours. I remember the phone call Sunday (Bid Day), the tears, and my daughter's fears that Greek life was perhaps not right for her. I am a firm believer in the adage "bloom where you are planted" and encouraged her to embrace these women who had chosen her...these were the people who had truly WANTED her. In a very short time she told me that it was the best decision she ever made. Fast forward to today. She is so very happy and says she cannot imagine being anywhere else. She serves as an officer, has attended national conventions, and I do not think that she would have thrived like she has at anywhere else. Thank you for not mentioning who chose you...I would like to think you are one of my daughter's sisters.

I think the sentiment is that all of us would love to have such an insightful, intelligent woman join any of our GLOs....much like my favorite from last year Clemsongirl. Her posts never cease to amaze me with her information and insight for a newer member.

I want a tea party with anonrebel and Clemsongirl!

That can be arranged. Where should I send your invitation to the party that is going to be held on the ADPi veranda at Ole Miss? honeychile and I are hostessing. You need to start shopping now. This is serious.

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I'll gladly have tea with whoever wants it! And to anonreb, I do hope that we are sisters, but I am happy that you have found happiness in your group and have so successfully navigated such a difficult recruitment.

You name the date and time and I will be there! Pending completion of the new ADPi house, on whose veranda we will be sipping tea.

Love my Greekchat sisters!

Thank you all for your well wishes! So thankful to be apart of the Panhellenic community with all you ladies.

^^^ you are invited too! We shall have a delightful time. I am practicing my party manners in eager anticipation. Wait til you see my hat and gloves, and my pearls, dahling.