If you make it thru to pref round, attend any/all the pref parties you are invited to and list all the sororities you preffed, THEN you maximize your chances for receiving a bid.

OK...thanks. That helps me to understand better. I guess I just didn't expect it to be so hard on the girls and see so many, who have kept their options open, be released.

Theoretically, this is true. Most get released early for grades, reputation (no recs, the dreaded social media concerns, etc). A few linger on though because they have to invite X number back to each party. I would venture though that these two were on the cusp, so to speak, and didn't make the cut because other higher ranked women were still available.

For example, at Alabama this year the average GPA of all women placed was 3.62. You really need a 3.0 as a minimum to get invited back first round. But as the numbers narrow during the week, you can see that having even a 3.1 is going to put you in a precarious position. If they can take an equally nice, sweet woman who has a 3.3 and you have a 3.1, you can guess who doesn't get invited back.

NorthernMom,
So disappointed for her suitemates not to have any preference invitations. They may still have COB options at some point. What about your daughter? Is she feeling ok? Just spoke to my daughter and they are so excited about their pref today. Here's hoping your daughter has a successful day!

Yes, and I am not familiar with their grades or resume. Mine is at the meeting and I am just waiting for a text.

She has 2 parties to attend. One she has been very fond of all along.

Good for her! What time do the parties start today?

I just know when her parties are, but not sure when the first one starts?

Keeping her in my prayers! And you, too! :)

This is EXCELLENT! If she lists both on her card tonight she should be sporting a set of letters tomorrow!! Make sure she goes into the parties with an open mind (especially with the one that she has not been fond of) because preference can be a huge game changer and the fact is both of these houses are willing to extend her a bid somewhere on their list or she would not be going to their pref party.

Thank you ladies! I told her to expect this to be very special.

Such good news!!

So glad to hear this. Fingers crossed for your daughter that she gets the one she's in love with. And, hopefully, after pref, that will be either one.

Good Morning! Our daughter is on the roller coaster... Got her first choice that she has loved from day one, Yeah!. Another house that she thinks she could be happy in and the only house she has been to that she has not felt a connection with, hmmm. She will have some decisions to make tonight. I advised to try to look at house three with fresh eyes, see if there is something there she missed before, then go with her gut. It's a make it work moment.

Just can't wait to see how she feels after a full schedule of pref invites! What a lucky PNM! Here's to hoping she feels a connection with all of them and remembers to look at the other PNM's for potential sisters and friends.

Glad to hear all of your daughters have pref invites today. Pref was always my favorite day. All of the chapters at Mizzou are fantastic, and with their size, there will be sisters to connect with. It may just take more than a few crazy, hectic (and HOT) days during recruitment to find them. I wish all the best for these young ladies!

This is true. I didn't meet my best friend in my sorority until 8 or 9 weeks of membership and we were thick as thieves.

^^^true this. The member you fall in love with during recruitment may be a senior, and marginally involved...just a very, very good rusher, or someone who will be studying abroad next semester, student teaching, etc. Your best friends --the ones that make your experience so special -- will be found throughout the chapter. You may not have met them yet and in fact may well be in the member class YOU rush next year.

Tell your daughters to list all of their options, unless they would absolutely rather be independent. If they maximize, they should be celebrating tomorrow.

Also, you Mizzou moms have been terrific! Great attitudes and I suspect the PNM apples haven't fallen far from the trees. Good luck!

True, Katmandu. Mine turned out to be 2 who pledged the year after me.

So, so true! Your daughters should look at the other PNMs at the parties as well as they may be her new member sisters and close friends to be. That may provide a fresh view too. You have been a wonderful group of supportive parents!! Good luck to all!!

She LOVED her first party. Cried. Felt the conversation was great with girl she was paired with - who she had been paired with before.

She has invitations, and THAT'S a huge positive! Hang in there. Is it time for a libation where you're at? Here, if you had one, you'd be an alcoholic!

To echo everyone else, good luck to all your daughters today! And thanks for being so willing to share with us.

Thanks for all the support and great advice everyone! Celebrating with those of you who had daughters at Pref day today. Our daughter also had 3 houses. Exactly the same situation as NUalumMUmom--the house she fell in love with from day one, plus a house she really likes, and another where she hasn't felt a connection. So she has an important choice ahead.

Wonderful to connect with other Moms here. I can't believe what an emotional, exhausting week this has been for me. I knew it might be that way for our daughter but I didn't anticipate how intensely it would impact me.
Whatever happens I know that putting herself out there in this way during recruitment has been such an important step in making her own life at Mizzou. Best of luck to all of our daughters!

I am just very proud of my daughter, no matter what happens. It was a long and hot week and props to all girls who go out and respect the process - even those who chose to drop out. Each girl has to make her own decisions about what is right for her. Good luck to your girls, NUalumMUmom and WalkintheWoods, as they make their choices. I hope MUMom - your daughter's chapter gets a wonderful new group of girls/young women tomorrow. And thanks to the other ladies for your clarifications and encouraging words.

Thanks to all for their support. My daughter is in a good place tonight, she had a conversation with her Pi Chi before preferencing and is at peace with her decision, no matter the outcome. I hope to hear good news tomorrow and hope the best for the daughters of NorthernMom and WalkintheWoods, too. Cheers, ladies!

Have enjoyed reading these stories!! Good luck to all during this very exciting time!!!

No phone call this morning so that is good! Very interested to hear where our daughter will be pledging. Hope all of your daughters are feeling well this morning.

Anxious to learn where your daughters will call home!

Such wonderful news this morning, WalkintheWoods! She is going to have such a fun day!

No call here either, and I believe all calls were supposed to have been completed over 2 hours ago. So, she is anxiously waiting to go to the columns/quad. I did not sleep well at all last night/early morning!

No phone call for my daughter either!

Hooray NorthernMom and NUalumMUmom!! So happy that all of our daughters will be at the quad this morning! I wish someone would be doing a live stream LOL. I have had trouble sleeping myself too NorthernMom, for the last few nights. This week I am resolved to disengage a bit and focus more on my own life--I need to actually get some work done!! I've also been grateful for the close connection with my daughter this week. Classes start tomorrow and she will need to dive in and will begin to settle into the many other sources of support she has now on campus, which is entirely appropriate. And, I'm going to really look forward to that text or phone call or photo today letting me know where she is!

Thanks to all those who've been sharing the process, and to the alums and Moms of actives who've been offering words of encouragement. It's been so lovely connecting with you all!

:) Thank you Lovemybulldog!

This entire process is grueling for both sides. NorthernMom is right. Congrats to all the girls on making decisions that are right for them, Greek or not. Here's hoping all the girls that find homes are eagerly looking forward to becoming part of something that will be special for them. For those that don't, find different ways to become a part of an amazing college life at Mizzou.

Hooray for your girls!

More good news from NorthernMom and NUalumMUmom! Can't wait to hear more later! The quad will be rocking here in a little bit. I don't know if there is a live feed, but I bet you will see videos posted on youtube afterward. It's pretty amazing to watch the excitement of that moment when they all rip open their invites.

Thank you for the post about "that call"! I did not want to email my niece and say "what's the cut off time for no bid?" We (Mom, Grandma and aunt) have had no news yet so I'm guessing/hoping that no news is good news. I think I'm probably more nervous than she is....well, maybe not. Good luck to everyone today. I, too, wish there was a live feed.

I have been watching videos of prior years bid day videos and crying. I was prepared for this to not work out for her, but so happy that it seems to be. She did list an intentional single preference, as she just did not feel the other was a good match. I don't think it's ethical to list it if you really don't see yourself there...and she felt that was a spot another girl could have/want....so she was prepared to not be greek if that was the case.

This is a strange day, for the first time in my daughter's life (she is my oldest), I will not be there for a big moment. Feels weird. She has had triumphs and disappointments in the past, but I've always been there to cheer, hug or wipe tears. This is the beginning of her life as an adult, which is good, but I gotta admit I'm a little sad. How about you WalkintheWoods, Sunflowerstate and NorthernMom? I would have liked to see her face when she opens that envelope. :')