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Originally Posted by thetalady (Post 2211583)

I may be splitting hairs pretty finely, but I do think that when a woman becomes an alum early can differ, depending on the organization.

I believe that some groups do not confer alum status on women who have transferred until their gratuating class has completed 4 years. So if you are initiated as a freshman, you are not an alum until your class has graduated in 4 years.

By doing it that way, if a woman transfers away from her original school, she becomes inactive/ unaffiliated or whatever they specifically call it. Then if she transfers a second time to a school that has a chapter of the organization, she is still eligible for active status. Make sense?

With the varied sorority representatives that have written in this thread, someone who is a sorority sister of the OP might have explained the alumna status process to her in the thread. If not, maybe they will. I also think that is why most of us use the caveat "most, often, sometimes" when we are involved in a general discussion. We know our sorority policy and realize that others might have different procedures.

From my experience, both as a collegian and an alumnae advisor, I advised the OP to find out her sorority's policy from an advisor to her chapter or consult with someone at her sorority's headquarters. I have found that at times the collegiate officers(or roommate) give the wrong information. Either they don't bother to consult their officer membership manuals, or they think they know the proper procedure when they actually do not.

Well I've been talking to my roommate about it all because she's our alumae chair; she makes sure all seniors are on track to become alum and anything to do with current/future alum - which is why I'm trusting what she says.

I've started to inform those who need to know about my transfer, and it feels good. Almost like I'm a little more free of the stress. I'm still worried about the chapter (a lot of non-officers have a very rebellious mentality; many went out drinking after formal, against rules. It was considered an after-party, which we weren't allowed to have), because I really do want this chapter to be the best it can be, and I know it has a long way to go before that. I hope the chapter doesn't fall apart, but with the mentality many members have, it's a possibility.

But then we have members like my roommate. She knows what two positions she wants the next two years, both of which directly involve new members. This way, she can help teach the new members the correct mentality to have about the chapter, and all of the little things that go on behind the scenes in the chapter, so there's actually a future for it.

I'm both nervous and excited for the chapter, and I know that if we start recruiting members to actually show leadership potential, it's going to go really far.