To cut some slack, I believe that there are GAs out there who do have teh stupids and believe exactly the above, but there are probably also GAs out there who do understand it but can't make their superiors understand it/care enough to try to understand it. Unfortunately, the latter are usually the ones who don't stick around very long because there are only so many pairs of hip boots out there to wade through manure.

The statements about not needing recs practically make me cry. How many times have I tried to tell a mom and daughter that even though the booklet said they didn't need them, they really did? And then you know what happened.

Agreed, but I've seen too many who
1) have a serious case of kumbaya and think their intentions of a tier-free NPC will make it so because after all, PNMs are uninformed little people who won't figure out that they're being snowed, or
2) don't have NPC experience (or do, but not at a similar school)

You all really know your stuff! The organizational mtg is Monday night. I'll fill you all in as soon as I hear from her! Thanks for the support and encouragement!

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Feeling a liking for a chapter is a really good place to start from. And if your daughter has friends in the chapter, so much the better. A chapter that she likes might not only be a great fit for her, it might end up being the best fit for her.

Tell her that like can grow into love. :)

Recs aren't necessary for recruitment participation. Recs are necessary for membership selection. Maybe those GA's are hoping that if they drive home "recs aren't necessary" then people will stop sending them and the process will be easier for all. Let's face it. Most recs are anonymous forms filled out by women who don't know the PNM well. They don't serve the chapters as well as they did years and years ago, when it was truly a recommendation by an alumna who was well-acquainted with the rushee. Today, it's just checking off a box or regurgitating a resume after MAYBE meeting a PNM for a few minutes and deciding, "She doesn't SEEM weird."

Hi everyone!! Informal Recruitment starts tonight! Please send good Greek karma our way! I'll let you know how it goes!

I am sending good thoughts from Fayetteville to Chapel Hill to your daughter.

With that being said, she does need to keep an open mind. While it was disappointing for her legacy chapter to cut her in the fall, she had a full preference schedule, which means that she was wanted. She needs to remember that. She needs to show her confidence. She can't dwell on the past.

Yes-good luck to your daughter!!!

I just heard from my daughter, and she thinks it went well...but doesn't have anything to compare it to. Basically, everyone went to the Office of Fraternity and Sorority Life and each chapter was set up in a different room. All of the houses were represented, whether they have spots for pledges or not. There were probably 3 or 4 girls representing each house. The prospective pledges walked around and went in whatever rooms they wanted to and chatted for a couple of minutes. They would sign their name on a list and that was about it. I think she's done with her part and will just have to wait to see if anyone contacts her. Hopefully they will!

Best wishes!

Heh, that's probably how I ended up getting a bid. I can pretend to be normal for short bursts :D

Great news! My daughter pledged Kappa Kappa Gamma and couldn't be happier! Woo Hoo!

Congratulations to your daughter, you and to Kappa Kappa Gamma!

Congratulations to her, and tell her welcome to Kappa!

Yeah for Kappa Kappa Gamma and yeah for your daughter!!

Congrats to you, your daughter & KKG! I have been looking for an update to the thread and was SO happy to see this today! Very nice to see that you BOTH gave it another shot & it worked out!

Congratulations to your daughter and you!

Yay for a Kappa ending!! Congratulations to your daughter!

UNCAlum, we are paddling in the same boat. My daughter went thru formal rush last year and got cut from my beloved ZTA as well. She had two groups on her list for pref day, but got horribly sick on the night before the parties and I had to go get her from school. She rushed again this year and was cut from ALL of the groups. Two weeks after bid day, she was called by a group on campus that she had been highly recommended and that they had not filled all of their bids and would like her to come to a meet and greet that evening. I encouraged her to go. They offerered her a bid, but it has been very awkward for her. She is sticking it out right now and I'm sure that once she actually starts her pledge classes (or whatever they are calling them these days), she'll learn to love lions and the gift of sisterhood. I'm just anxious for her to get her big sister and start feeling included. As moms, we wear our hearts on our sleeves and it's so painful to have to watch our babies experience the rejection they feel during the emotional roller coaster that is recruitment.

Yay!

What a wonderful ending - big congratulations to your daughter on Kappa, and to you for sharing the happy news with us!

Come over to Badge Trends and do a search to check out all the awesome Kappa badges. It's pretty widely known that I love those keys (and arrows, and anchors, and quills, and stacked letters, and diamonds, and quatrefoils, and triangles...and on and on and on...).

The girls in this chapter are so sweet and welcoming and have a wonderful sisterhood and philanthropy program--please keep us posted! I'm sure she will feel better as she goes through her new member program. I know how hard it must be for both of you and I worry the same thing for my daughter when her time comes. Moms have it rough!

Seriously, is there a badge you don't love? :D

BTW UNCAlum, mind telling us which badge you wear? I understand if you'd rather not, at least in this thread. But I hope you'll stick around.

Congrats again to your daughter. She's joining a great chapter!

And a quick search around here will show you that plenty of women who have perfect recruitments and get a bid to their dream chapter STILL feel awkward during the NM time. There's a lot going on at once, emotions run high, etc.

Congratulations to your daughter! So glad she found a home :)

Congratulations! So happy it's over for you and just beginning for your daughter!

Congratulations to your daughter, UNCAlum! I love happy endings!

You all are the BEST! Seriously! She is so happy and I truly feel that her new home is such a great fit for her! I was a Kappa Delta in the early 90's, and I will always love KD because it was MY home. KD was the best fit for me then, and I am still close with many of my sisters. I have no hard feelings about them releasing her during Formal Recruitment, because it enabled her to find her own home. She is about to carve out HER college experience, and she did it on her own merits and will always know that they wanted her as much as she wanted them!

Hurray for your daughter and her new home!! :-)

What an absolutely wonderful perspective.

Congrats to your daughter!

Congratulations that you found your own "Kappa" sisterhood, Kappa Delta for you and Kappa Kappa Gamma for your daughter!

SUZTA83, I completely understand where you are coming from! It's almost harder watching your child go through recruitment than it is to go through it yourself! I hope your daughter finds her niche at ADPi!

Yay for K- K - G! Gotta love a kappa ending! :)

Congratulations to UNCalumDaughter! Glad to hear things worked out for her!

Congrats to your daughter on joining Kappa! It's a wonderful sorority.

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I love your story! I found it to be more fun to have a daughter in a different sorority from mine. It will broaden your horizons and you'll enjoy comparing the similarities and differences between the two chapters.

Correction. You ARE a Kappa Delta. Membership is forever! :)

Well didn't this work out nicely! Congrats. I've been "out of pocket" for a couple of weeks, so I am just now seeing this. Terrific news!