Thanks Nervousmom! I, too, am anxious to hear about your daughter's experience. I hope she had a great day!

I doubt that any sororities will have spring rush, only those that don't take quota this week or through COB this fall. I would anticipate 1-2 houses at the most.
Rushing as a Sophomore would be more difficult, especially at the houses that have traditionally strong recruitments. I don't think UK has an upperclassman quota.

UKCATFAN, I hope your daughter decides to go to pref tomorrow. Hopefully a good night's sleep with also help her a little. I know my dd was dropped by 1 one house first cut and 3 houses 2nd cuts all of which she LOVED. She was upset this morning because she lost 3 of her favorites. But when I spoke to her briefly later today she was thrilled with 4 of them. I kept telling her that each day is a new day and to keep an open mind. So far that has worked and I hope it works for your daughter too.

nervousmom - hope you hear from your dd soon. Mine was suppose to all after their surviving UK meeting but nothing yet :/

My DD said she met several sophomores during recruitment on the first day. She doesn't know what happened after that, however.

While this has probably been mentioned:

A PNM only meets a small portion of women during recruitment. It is very hard to know a house of 173 (which is campus total at UK) after meeting maybe 10-15 women. If she goes through with Pref and receives a bid, have her try the new member period. It isn't an obligation to join, just a trial period where she will get to know the whole house as well as her pledge class. Pledge classes can change the entire feel of a house and she may really like them. I know it may seem daunting, but honestly, some chapters just do not recruit well.

Just spoke with my daughter is she is very happy. Had a very good day. She listed her 3 favorite houses. Her number 2 choice as we talked about earlier is not considered one of the "good Houses" at UK but she really liked it.
I can't wait to find out where she finds her "home"

The use of "good" is bugging the heck out of me. You know that there are people here who are sisters of those sororities you don't think are good.

UKCATFAN, sent you a private message. As far as "good" houses and "bad" houses as UK, I often think it is we mommies who get more caught up in it than the girls. Every girl, in every house at UK is beautiful, most of them know how to bet on horses and when March Madness comes around, they can burn a couch with the best of them. Kidding of course on that last point.

Shellfish, I know what you mean by the use of the word "good" being used to describe a chapter house. It is an uncomfortable word in this context because as GC'ers say all the time EVERY SORORITY IS GOOD! But, for various reasons, some sorority chapters are considered more desirable than others on a specific college campus. But, what is considered a less desirable sorority at one college, may very well be considered the MOST desirable sorority at another college! Go figure! And, really, all sororities as more alike than they are different!

well here it is 2:00 in the morning and I cant sleep.
I did not mean to offend anyone by using the words "good house". I was using this to say this was how they are ranked on Greek Rank. This house is just not ranked as one of the top 4 houses on this site. It is not my opinion about the house since I don't know any of the houses. Obviously my daughter does not feel that way either because she absolutely loves this house. I did not know anything about sororities when my daughter said she wanted to join one. I have been coming on this website and Greek rank to get an idea about sororities. My daughter on the other hand did not look at any of these websites because she did not want to go in with any preconceived notions about any of the houses.

Go to bed, nervousmom! You need your rest too!

FYI Greek Rank is total garbage. Completely without a shred of truth or decency. Unfortunate opportunities for some immature people to self rank in a positive way, and to also degrade other sororities. Hurts all greeks in my opinion.

Please, please do not rely on that other web site for information! All you have to do is read the side notes to know the site is untruthful and hurtful.

@nervousmom. That is "The Site Which Shall Not Be Named." To mention it will move it higher in the search engine rankings, which only makes it more visible. It's worse than tent talk, nothing but slanderous libel from anonymous bullies, haters, and rejects. Only people who were afraid of another chapter would post on there, and it kind of makes you wonder just why they are so afraid that they have to take the other house down.

Don't get me started on Greek Rank. I am a UK Alum and I have looked at that site. It's horrible and inaccurate. There are no "good" or "bad" houses at UK. You should have followed your daughter's lead and come in to this process without preconceived notions. I REALLY HOPE YOU ARE NOT TELLING HER THAT A HOUSE IS GOOD OR BAD. Rush is emotional enough without having your parents put pressure on you to get in a "good" sorority. I will say it again. There are no "good sororities" at UK; only houses that are a good fit for your daughter.

The dreaded waiting game...this is not one of my better traits :)

I'm glad the girls get to sleep in a little longer this morning but it's killing me waiting to see what her party schedule looks like for today!!! Good luck to all the girls and mom's!

Please don't pay any attention to "the site that shall not be named" - delete it from your browser. Any site that "ranks" organizations by allowing randoms on the internet to write hateful things is not reliable and is baseless. If you want to learn more about each organization that your daughter has been invited back to, take a look at their national websites, their chapter websites and if they have alumni websites for your area - check those out too.

Hahah. I had never heard of this greek rank before. When I checked it out, I literally laughed out loud. First off, it doesn't even have all groups listed at several schools I looked at. The comments were laughable. VERY laughable. I'll have to go back to this site next time I need a good chuckle at the ridiculousness of it .

Just heard from my daughter and she said the list comes out at 12!!!! Guess it's going to be a LONG morning for this mama!

You are all right. It is a very ridiculous site but when you sift through all the garbage and self ranking, there are a few tidbits of information. Greek chat has been by far the most helpful to me. I had no idea about sororities since I was not in one. Greek chat has let me help my daughter prepare for recruitment without giving her any ideas on what sorority to choose. My daughter has always been very independent and will make her own decisions. The only reason that I mentioned about different houses was to let others know not to decide based on what others say. Just like my daughter you need to form your own opinion.

My favorite are the comments like "AKA? That's not even a sorority we have on this campus". It should be pretty clear these people are clueless.

Nervousmom, don't believe anything from "The Site Which Shall Not Be Named." It is absolute trash.

MaggieXi's suggestion was spot on -- take a look at the national and chapter websites of the groups your daughter has left. Each organization has hundreds of thousands of sisters nationwide who are filled with love and pride for their group and for each other.

Keep encouraging your daughter to go through the entire process. Pref is a very emotional, not-to-be missed experience. These are the groups that see something special in your daughter and want her as part of their sisterhood. Encourage her to see it through. She'll find her letters.

I also want to point out that two of the groups that take a lot of heat on that other site are the groups that are newest to campus. That means they are working to establish themselves, and have a ton of national and alumnae support as they work to do so, i.e. they are on their way up, not down.

I know sometimes people legitimately don't want to join a group that is constantly struggling (where they are being rushed three-on-one or clearly disorganized or whatever), but that really isn't the case with any group at UK. Every group is fairly equal in size, all have chapter houses, and all will offer similar experiences to their members.

I just heard from DD. She is in a much better mood today. She was invited back to both houses. She is going to both parties and will decide after that what she wants to do. I've gotten great advice on here and really appreciate all of the help and kind words! This is a great site and I'm so glad I ran across it when I did. Good luck to all of the girls!

I just heard from my daughter and she was cut from her 1st and 3rd choice. She still has her 2nd, 4th and 5th. She is very happy and not the least bit disappointed. I really think her second choice has been her first choice all along but she kept putting the other one first because it was the sorority you are supposed to want in. It was the one all her friends want in and I think she wanted to be with them.
I am so glad that she is dealing with this so well and is having a great time.
Good luck to all the other girls and I cant wait to hear from the other moms.

Okay I'm freaking out over here...still have not heard from my daughter. I am hoping that is a good sign :/ I'm glad to hear the other girls are happy with their preference schedule!

I'll post again when I hear from mine and boy do I hope it's soon!

Moms- hang in there. You are wonderful support people for your daughters. GC is a wonderful support for you!!!!
Keep us posted when you can.

UKMOM14, nervousmom and UKCATFAN: We are all cheering for your daughters -- and for YOU!

It will all work out for your girls. Please keep us posted! We are so thrilled for all of you!

UKMOM14, I have found that texting works the best... Try ALL CAPS TOO! It seems more demanding somehow... :p

^^^Ha ha..sooo true! Good luck to everyone today and hang in there moms, it's almost over!

I don't want to leave this chat but I have to get my nails done! LOL!

Thanks Ladies...still haven't heard anything but I did try the text with ALL CAPS :) So hopefully if she's not answering because she's at a house then she will after.

I'll keep you updated.

I just spoke with my daughter and she had a break the first round. She goes to her first house at 2:00. She sent me a picture of her and she is wearing a casual sundress which really freaks me out. She has a ton of nice dresses. How bad will this affect her or am I just being paranoid?

Pref round is supposed to be a dressier outfit. Something you would wear to a wedding. I wouldn't advise a sundress for this round.

Depends. She will probably feel a bit awkward if she gets to her first party and feels underdressed, but it's not like chapters are going to go back and remove her from their bid lists over it.

I spoke to my daughter again and she said that her gamma chi felt her dress was too dressy and looked through her closet and picked this one. She also sent the picture to some of the other gamma chis who agreed she should wear the more casual one. I am sure they know what they are doing and I need to leave it up to the experts.

What a nice Gamma Chi! If she approved and then ran it by some of her Gamma Chi friends it must have been the right choice.

The gamma chi got this right. She will be fine. The houses aren't going to be swayed at this point.

UKMOM 14
Have you heard from your daughter yet?

NO nothing yet.

I am so sorry. I know you are on pins and needles. Hopefully she is just so busy having a great time that she forgot to call.
Praying you hear from her soon.