She's very easily identifiable if someone from her school is reading/watching so it is probably best if she holds out on updates until she knows the ending.

AGDee is right. I did write the first day down because it's pretty innocuous and I know that many who have posted or not have been keeping an eye out for me and hoping the best, but otherwise....I'm going to stop with the updates on recruitment for now until everything is said and done.

Rest assured, I am enjoying recruitment now with both Blueberry and Strawberry.
I was also notified today that my application to participate in a Non-GLO activity has been accepted and that makes me very, very happy, as it was something I was hoping for. :-)

I like the sound of Blueberry. :)

I.WANT.THIS.DRESS!!!!!!

I think you need to put the link to the dress if possible!

Every link I find, the dress is SOLD OUT! :(
http://thestylecure.com/Lauren-by-Ra...341165551.html


Google "Lauren Ralph Lauren Manda Faux Wrap" periodically to see if one turns up. They weren't sold out on Macy's.com as of last Saturday. My dress was actually not plus size: It was an XL, but I can't find out where regular sizes were sold at all.

Good luck ladies!

Love that dress, and I just looked at the site and realized that the model is my sister's niece Ashley Graham!

I found it on the Ralph Lauren site, clearance for $71.99 (I think).

On an unrelated note,

Cherry P's Cafe just opened across from my work building. Haven't been yet. ;)

Yay! I'm so glad to hear about this!

Misscherrypie, I just now read your thread and I just wanted to say that you sound like a really poised and dignified young woman. Best of luck to you in the future!

Thank you so much KillarneyRose! That's so sweet of you to say.

Recruitment is ongoing, and everything at school is going fine. Just wanted y'all to know that I was okay, and will post the rest of my recruitment story as promised when everything is said and done.

A week has passed since recruitment ended for Blueberry and Strawberry, and I haven't heard a thing either way.

Other friends that I have who are involved in non-NPC GLO's say that I would have heard back by now. So, maybe that is an answer in itself.

I'm upbeat, but extremely confused at the turn of events. Should I just wait and see?

I don't know.

Sorry to hear that you're sort of hanging there. I hope you have a real answer soon.

Wait and see. You've done everything you can. They know how to find you if they want to offer you a bid. Meanwhile, continue to explore opportunities at the university. Keep busy to distract yourself and meet new people. :)

I was made aware today that neither Blueberry nor Strawberry decided to extend a bid to me.
Understandably, I'm crushed....

Since I really enjoy philanthropy, I'm probably going to pursue that on my own, and wait to see if there are any COB opportunities that may arise and pursue those. I am trying to meet people....and have made connections with many of the ladies that I rushed and participated in formal recruitment....but it has been difficult to try to keep them going.

I'll just say it: I feel very, very lonely on campus.

I don't know what is happening with the non- GLO activity that I was invited to participate in. I've attempted to contact them, but they haven't responded to me or reached out since my initial acceptance.

I very much want to be involved on campus, but haven't found a way to do so....not that I haven't tried....short of attending sports games and cheering loudly.

Maybe I wanted it too badly. At all of the recruitment and rush events, I attended EVERY SINGLE ONE. I guess that perhaps I appeared extremely desperate to TPTB, even if I didn't mean to.

Not the end of my story....I hope that either this spring or next Fall, my dream of going Greek may happen....but it's ended for now.

I'm so sorry. Does your campus have Alpha Phi Omega or another service GLO? While these wonderful organizations are not a substitute for a "social" organization, you said that you are philanthropy-minded, and these orgs offer a focus on service with the long-standing traditions of other fraternities and sororities. I had a great experience with Alpha Phi Omega in my undergrad years.

Circle K is also a good option if you are looking to serve your community and make friends.

What are your other interests? I made good friends in the college choir. I loved working on my school's newspaper and literary journal. I really bonded with those friends...as in MARRIED the sports editor. ;)

Good luck, hon. I know it hurts right now. I've been there!

LouisaMay offered some good possible alternatives.

Is there an organization on campus that is related to your major? You might be able to meet some people and make some friends thru that avenue. Something else you might want to explore is volunteering on a committee such as homecoming, some other campus wide event, or with a campus org. that focuses on philanthropy, since that is an interest of yours.

I have a few orgs in mind: There are honor societies in my Major AND Minor on campus, and I have attended the open events for the community for one of them....the other hasn't had a meeting as of yet for this semester. There is also a social org that is recruiting as we speak, and they are involved with many activities on campus....

Let's see: I love (as hobbies) Pilates, dance, theatre, reading, travel and creative writing.

Alpha Psi Omega does not have a chapter in my state. I am wondering if the GL office, when they said that they had no interest in expansion, did that also include service orgs? I'd love to get that clarified, as this org sounds very much like something that I'd be interested in getting involved with.

I'd say which school I attend, if that wouldn't hurt my chances for COB....but if anyone already has figured it out and may know more about my school and clubs and such than I do....then feel free to send me a PM.

After a night's sleep....I guess that I'm gradually making peace with the situation. Sometimes, when you want something so badly enough....it doesn't happen.

No, a service organization would be through an Office of Student Activities. The Office at Greek Life manages the social fraternities and sororities. I'm sorry things didn't work out, but do contact the office of student activities-- there is bound to be a master list of campus organizations that they have on hand for orientations and interested students like you.

Just clarifying -- is that a typo or did you check for Alpha Psi Omega (the theatre honor society) instead of Alpha Phi Omega?

Really sorry things haven't worked out the way you hoped to so far, but it sounds like you're doing the right things to move on (and have a great attitude about it), and there will be many opportunities to help you get the most out of college. Good luck!

Since Theatre is my minor, I was actually looking for BOTH. Guess that I just typed the incorrect org name!

So, Alpha Psi Omega is on campus and is very active. Alpha Phi Omega doesn't have a presence in my State. Yet.

Got it.

And I like the "yet."

I did pay a visit to the Student Activities office, and was directed to the list of registered clubs on campus online.

One of the ladies there (who I met during recruitment) suggested the idea of starting a local service org here, as she mentioned that there were about ten other women and men who wanted to go Greek but either were released from recruitment or not offered a bid and were still very interested in going Greek. I'm not sure if trying to undertake something like that from the ground up is what I was looking for either.

I've also sent an email to both APO National and to our Clubs Coordinator about whether expansion to our school was a possibility.

We'll see. I'll keep everyone updated.

Because of your age, I wonder if you should try to separate your education from your social life. Maybe looking at Junior League, Rotary, Exchange Club, etc. might be a better choice for you. Groups like Rotary and Exchange are clamoring for young members so you would suddenly be desired for the (probable) reason why you were not wanted in college groups. These groups are also EXCELLENT for networking and as you continue your education and look for a new job, this will give you a distinct leg up in the actual corporate world.

Don't let it get you down, but now is probably the time to start thinking about directing your energies toward groups who will appreciate your greatness.

DubaiSis, I'll check those groups out.

Thanks for the info.

I definitely don't want my College experience to be all work (because I study like mad anyway.....) and no fun....so instead of banging my head on the wall over not being accepted here at College....there's GOT to be some other stuff to do. I think that I'd go nuts if things kept going on like this.

Something very funny....I did meet someone, who is my age....and who lives in the dorms. What were the odds of that....both in our late twenties, unmarried, new to town and having no other local female friends? In the line in the food court, to boot?


I'm grateful for that....perhaps we can be good company for each other.

I'm sure you can. There are LOTS of organizations out there who are looking for good members. I just mentioned 3 that have special significance to me and my family members. Do some google searching and attend around (no need to commit after just one meeting!), and you'll find the perfect fit.

I'm glad you found a friend!

This is a great suggestion. I have also met a lot of people working on arts boards and/or their junior auxiliaries.

You might also consider AAUW, which has promoted education and leadership for women since 1881. Undergraduates can join as student members.
http://www.aauw.org/about/index.cfm

My recruitment story has a perfectly happy ending.

I really, really (times that by infinity) wanted to go Greek. That's not going to happen at my school. But....I realized that ALL of the current Undergrads, Grad Students and Alumni/a of my school make up our own (Humongous) Fraternity. Complete with cherished traditions, rituals and history stretching back over a century.

But....I was thinking some more (as I always do) on how to offer closure to myself, under my own terms....and pulling some advice from my friends.

I'm definitely part of the XYZ Nation, as we call the students at our school.

So...even though I'm sure many may have an issue with this: I've chosen to select the Greek Letter Equivalent of my School's initials and. Sure...laugh....but it's something that means a lot to me. No matter where I go, no matter what I do....I'll always be forever a part of:











Upsilon Nu Rho

Which spells out my school: The Unversity of Nevada, Reno.

I'm not afraid to let everyone know where I attend school anymore. Since I'm not going to pursue recruitment at my school in the future....finding my own way and closure, on my own terms is what matters in this case to me.

If you want to know whether I'll wear letters....no, I'm not that meshuggah. But...this is the end of my story and I did end up Greek in the end. But....I do have plans for where I'll take this: and a paddle all my own to decorate. lol.

Thanks for following my recruitment story and offering such fantastic advice....I'll stick around on the boards, and keep on keeping on. :D

PS: Yes....I plan to pursue other clubs and orgs both on and off campus. They'll just be that much sweeter to me.

Upsilon Nu Rho for life!

Oh Yes!

Yes, I do have an issue with this. I think it shows huge disrespect to GLOs. Apparently you think you can just pick colors and letters and WHAM! you have a Greek organization. Is that all you think that we are? A couple of letters & colors picked for no more reason than your school name?

Good luck with that :rolleyes:

It means something to me and with the letters excluded, it means something to more than 20,000 current students and untold thousands of alumni/a, and more than just greek latters and colors, and I'm sorry if you're offended.

You don't attend my school. Just like I don't belong to your GLO....you have absolutely NO idea what my school means to me and to other members of the Wolf Pack Nation. We live and bleed Silver and Blue and our traditions and rituals have meant more to me personally that I could ever speak of....I just don't have the words to describe being Wolf Pack for the rest of my life. I don't have any idea what being Kappa Alpha Theta means to you and your sisters, because I'm not Kappa Alpha Theta.

If you are offended because I placed Upsilon Nu Rho in my signature....then I'll consider deleting them as I don't wish to offend the fabulous ladies that I've met here on GC. The signature remains, whether it says UNR or Nevada. I consider myself part of the Fraternity that IS Nevada. That's something that will never change.

I deleted the letters from my signature, because it is apparent that they were offensive. I apologize for offending you and others, ThetaLady.

So, my story has a happy ending, as I realized that I found my Fraternity home....although it is not a GLO. Which, the more I think about it: whoever said "You'll end up where you're meant to." was right. I have found my home.

Let me first say that I love the idea that you are finding your place as a member/fan of your school, and that's wonderful. Not enough people have school spirit.

I also wanted to tell you that you don't have to slap Greek letters onto something to make it special. Not every organization needs "greek" recognition. If you're creating an interest group in hopes of bringing someone else to campus, that's one thing, but ascribing Greek letters to your college and making a paddle (which I presume you might hang on your wall in your dorm?) because you crave the appearance of a Greek title? You're bigger than that.

Please, allow yourself to grieve, and then move on. There are 200 clubs at your school. There are also community events, dozens of charitable organizations, and all sorts of routes to find friendship and camaraderie. Even if you were a new member of a sorority, it's still just as difficult and scary making friends. Bonds are made through shared experiences.

Who says that you can't talk to the person you met in line at the food court and plan a social activity? Create an event that would attract the type of people you want to get to know. It could be a charity event, it could be apple-picking, zip-lining or hiking, going to see a local band, whatever you want.

I know that it's not easy to "just move on," but you have so many options. Good luck!

Sorry, I just saw this after posting my last message, but...gosh, I don't have words.

I consider myself to be extremely blessed to attend the school that I do....there's lots to do here....and yeah....I've been grieving pretty much non-stop. It will end soon.

My new pal and I have spent a lot of time together over the last few days....doing stuff and studying. I did pick up some spools of ribbon in school colors and clips and fabric markers so I could make custom hair bows for us to wear in our hair and put our names and class year on the tails for the homecoming game next weekend.....start of a cute tradition.

I guess that I really, really craved ritual and traditions and being part of a greater part than just myself and lots of volunteer . I saw that as only being representative of GLO's...at least until I tried looking at things through a different light.

And who knows....I might end up being invited to join a community GLO somewhere down the road. This just isn't the time for that.

Did I offend you?

You have missed part of what I was trying to say... there is no "fraternity that is Nevada" no matter how badly you want there to be. I am sorry, but that is just the truth.

Ree-Xi's advice was perfect and very well stated. Greek letters just are not required to be special.

Nope, but I find it ridiculous when people feel that they have to "translate" every dang organization into Greek letters.

Let's say that a bunch of moms get together and call themselves "Mu Omicron Mu". Does a mother-support group really need to have Greek Letters and call themselves a sorority?

That's all I am saying. It shows that you are trying to fit something else - in this case, being a student fan of your sports teams - into a Greek box. Doing this isn't moving forward. It's keeping you stuck in one place.

And I'm sorry, but a paddle with the Greek "translation" of your school's initials isn't going to be well-received by many people. Many sororities haven't used paddles in decades, so it's something that most people are not going to understand anyway.

I still wish you luck. I just think that you need to sit back and take things in, and enjoy experiences as they happen.

Have a good night.