I know what she meant I just like to tease people ;)

Yeah, I haven't slept with anyone I haven't A) been in a relationship with, or B) known for a long time, and trusted. I can't say I'd never ever ever sleep with someone I'd just met, just because in a lot of things I hate saying "never" because you never know - but in this day and age, the fear of disease (and some you can catch even with condoms...), etc, and emotional ramifications if both parties didn't have the same expectations keeps me from doing so. But that's just me - I'm not about to judge someone else for their (consentual) sexual tendencies - like I said, as long as you're being emotionally and physically safe, whatever floats your boat.

And a big fat word to whoever said sex is addictive...never would have thought so before I started having it, but WHAM, there it is. Although there was no "sanctity" in virginity for me - I waited 'til I was emotionally ready, because I didn't want to jump into something I couldn't handle, and that was it. But I'm no more or less inclined to do it now than I was in the brief period after I felt emotionally ready but was still a virgin (aside from the fear of pain I had at that point, which yeah, OW).

Anyway, I'm rambling. Shutting up now. I'm sure there's a point in there somewhere; a gold star to whoever finds it. :p

Oh James, you're such a big tease!:D :p ;)

I dont mind it when a girl sleeps with me on the first date or even before the first date. I expect access to all three inputs on the first date.

The problem is when you find out that she has slept with every other guy on the planet on the first date.

I would never have sex with a guy on the first date, especially if I thought there was long term potential.


And, let's say I did have sex on the first date with a guy who I thought would be just a fling and he ended up asking me to marry him, I would say no.

I couldn't marry someone who would have sex with me on the first date.

I completely agree with the you have to wait to know him and love him and then have sex if it's going to be a meaninful relationship (for me).

However, three of my best girlfriends have married guys who they slept with on the first date.

So, statistically speaking, that could never happen to me sine it's already happened to so many people I know.

Honestly, I would sleep with someone if I knew of had an idea that it wouldn't go anywhere before I would sleep with someone I thought I might really like on the first date.

That sounds effed up but oh well!

Sometimes....just sometimes guys there are absolutely no games being played. Sometimes you just get physical, sometimes you just know, you have your first date, and go almost all the way (we waited till the 2nd to do that). Now we live together and marriage is on the way soon enough.
No games, just love.

Okay so here is my thought:

If a girl sleeps with a guy the first night she meets him she is typically looking just for booty herself, but if it is someone she has met before or knows (say like from class or something) then she may have liked the guy for awhile and she may think that this is a way to get together with him.
However, I know a few friends who have slept with someone they met and then decided that they wanted to try things out, and in the end things have gotten good.
I think it all depends on the people. If I met someone I REALLY REALLY liked then why shouldn't I? If he cared about me too, that is?
So, on another note,
how soon is too soon?