One of the MANY problems with spring recruitment is that we would have some girls show up for recruitment that weren't interested really they were just there because. A classic moment was when at the first party on the first day a girl - presumable for shock value - walks up to my big sis and says "Sororities are just buying your friends" To which sis replied "At 25 cents per friend per month till I graduate and then they are friends for life? Best D**n deal I ever made!"
Needless to say she dropped out...

The Force Feeder
 

This story isn't really rude but it is one of those curve balls that you get during recruitment. We had a girl come through recruitment that thought that the women in the sororities weren't allowed to eat all weekend. So when she came to our house she forced feed one of our sisters a pretzel.

For me this is would be one of the rudeness things a pnm could do during recruitment. Last fall during our preference we had a girl bring coffee with her and drank it thought out our preference. Needless to say all of our sisters found that extremely rude.

LOL, I'm either picturing the Family Guy where Peter stuffs the watermelon in Lois's mouth or this:

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AMAZING!

Oh my god. This would be my face if I was watching that happen: :eek:

We had a PNM who ended up pledging our sorority waaaaaaaaaay back when who told us that another house (known for its wealthy members) asked her during rush, "What does your daddy do for a living?" And she replied, "he brings home the bacon." And my admiration for this new pledge grew even more. There might be another thread for this. Sorry!

PNM (then rushee) and I were sitting on our chapter house's porch, talking. PNM spots a girl she knows walking down the street and calls to her. They proceed to have a rather long catching-up conversation, which she cuts short just about the time the round wrapped up. I think I got a "sorry, haven't seen her all summer" or something like that, but it was rather startling.

I bet the stupid girl was trying to be "a breath of fresh air". She probably hoped the sisters would be all like, "Rushee Pigg really calls it like she sees it; we need people like that at XYZ". Epic fail, anyone?

That had to be the 9th floor sorority! Believe me, if the 2nd floor sorority cared about stuff like that I wouldn't have made it past the first round! lol

How about a rude active? This still sticks out in my mind 22 years later. Last house of open house round, the chapter has the pnm's around the perimeter of the room and the active members of the chapter are sitting in front/next to them. I am sitting on a fireplace hearth that is slightly elevated with the active in front kneeling. I am in the middle of describing my summer, which she asked me about, when she pats me on the knee and cuts me off saying "we're going to sing now", then turned and ignored me for the rest of the party. I was like, "um, well, ok." I guess going to an Eastern Block country for the summer to study just wasn't that interesting. Sooo not disappointed when I wasn't asked back.

You've undoubtedly hit that right on the nose!!

I was late to a party because I was coming from a house way on the other side of campus, and it can be tough to get from the Champaign cluster to the Urbana cluster in ten minutes. Anyway, the active who picked me up at the door was like "Sigh...I thought I was going to get a break this round", and it was all down hill from there.

Wow. :eek:

It happened at WVU, at a sorority not at Pitt. Although, we DID have three 9th floor legacies! :D

We had one this year that texted during the entire time she was there. She ended up dropping out of recruitment. Rumor has it she had her heart set on one chapter and was even rude to the Gamma Chi's.

I went to a university with a small Greek community (3 NPC sororities and 3 IFC fraternities) and where there was more mutual respect for each of the chapters on campus. We don't have houses, so we meet in classrooms on campus usually or the student centers. Despite this, almost all chapters were always at total so recruitment was just seen to boost our numbers exponentially since recruitment usually meant that each chapter was adding between 20-25 girls to our numbers.

My sophomore year during our formal Spring rush, during our opening rounds (usually dedicated to sisterhood or just a usual school spirit night) we had a girl come in and text on her phone during our party. She became known as the "texter" and the second we got to drop her, we did. For some reason, when the parties are more casual, the more likely it seems there are opportunities for bad behavior.

My junior year, we had the junior class president come through recruitment. I didn't really like the girl because she was just so in your face about everything (to the point of obnoxiousness). When I talked with her at one of the opening rounds, I discovered that she was only joining a sorority to pad her resume. I told my chapter president, who in turn texted the other chapter presidents during a break about her lofty goals. She was dropped by all three after the first round.

On my campus, because it was so small and the Greeks really stuck together, if you did something rude to one of us, we let all the other chapters know. No one appreciates rudeness, especially since so many of us were friends and even lived with members of other chapters.

I see a lot of of rude sorority pnms, but how about a rude fraternity pnm/pledge?


We had this one guy rush for our fraternity. He was a friend of one of our brothers and was interested in rushing with us. So, he rushed, made through association, and started on his process. Thoroughout his pledging period, we began to like him less, and less, and less.


First, there was a huge age difference. Most of us are like in our twentys, with everyone in the new pledge class under twenty, except him. He was closer to thirty or something like that. Not that it is a reason to not like him, it was just that the huge age difference made things kind of akward.


However, his behavior was absolutely ridiculous. Our social chair would get messages from him whenever we would have a mixer, and always asked something like "So when are the b**ches gonna come over" or "what are we going to do with these b**ches". Incredibly rude, especially since some of the brothers we're dating some sisters in the sororities that we have been mixing with.


Next, he was married, and kept talking crap about his wife, and talked about how he would go after these younger girls in an instant. And some brothers were talking about getting to know some of these women as well.


Third, women were very uncomfortable around him. He would always talk about all the sex he would do, and he acted like an immature 18 year old, definitely not someone his age should be.


Next, our local brat sales. He helped out with them. He cooked the brats, which was great. However, he started advertising them to students. And by advertising, he'd say how "this wiener would help your butt" and how a hot dog looks good in her hands, etc. etc.


Now, as he was still a pledge, we still could have stopped him from being a complete brother. Thankfully, he decided to quit on his own. We figured out from the brother he was friends with that he was uncomfortable with some of us, me included. As much as this sounds horrible, I take great pride in being the reason this person isn't involved with us anymore. We thought we were done.


Of course not. We had one more incident with him.


Now, when he was still pledging, Greek Week was coming up, and all those that wanted shirts ordered them. They were ten dollars. He quit before the shirts came.


Now, when the shirts came, the person in charge of getting them for us emailed everyone to give him the ten dollars for the shirts. We forgot to take his name off the email list. He replied back saying that he doesn't owe anything and threatened to beat all of us up.


What a great guy, huh?

I had plenty a rude PNM when on the active side, but I think the worst was when I was a PNM myself.

IU recruitment is notoriously competitive, and there's more tent talk than I knew was humanly possible.

First one--We had just walked out the door of a traditionally Jewish house, and at the end of the sidewalk this girl just says "so THAT'S what matzoh ball soup smells like". I was appalled!

Second one--This girl in my rho gam group once belittled everyone who didn't have a perfect list after 19 party (12 houses). She ended up accepting a bid, getting initiated, and transferring to a school without greek life after partying too much

My AXS chapter gets a few people every year that come to rush events because they want the free food. Whatever, but at least they politely decline if offered a bid. This past fall rush we had someone actually tell a brother that he had no interest in our "stupid club" and he just wanted us to buy his meals a few times. I'm not quite sure he realized he was talking to a member, but it doesn't make much sense to me to use that phrasing when talking to anyone.

Can't you tell a PNM in fraternity recruitment to not come back? I'm nearly certain in sorority you do just that, but how does a fraternity do it?

Why would anyone like that get offered a bid?

I think she meant that some of the PNMs come and ACT interested, but then decline a bid, therefore causing them to draw the conclusion that they were just there for the food.

Yes about the acting interested. Some of them will say later they were just there for the food, and other times they aren't sure about the time commitment. Two acquaintances that rushed with me decided after one or two events that they weren't interested, but kept coming because they wanted food or had other friends that were going.

I apologize if my phrasing was weird :o

One would hope the friends would gain interest.

Part of it might have to do with the way our rush is structured. We deliver flyers or brochures to students who have taken the minimum number of chemistry courses required for membership. There's no formal registration; PNMs come to events whenever they feel like it and they're added to the rush list. Sometimes a person's lack of interest isn't apparent and they may still be offered a bid if there isn't a solid case against them.


To my knowledge, we haven't told anyone not to come back during the past few years. Thanks for bringing that point up; I'll have to ask about that in case it comes up in Spring Rush.

Sometimes having friends who are actives does raise interest. On the other hand if the PNM doesn't feel AXS is for them they still have friends in chapter who can recommend them. Occasionally an active does hear a PNM talking about their lack of interest which helps to weed them out. I guess it's kind of like telling those going through NPC Recruitment not to engage in tent talk just in case someone overhears (among other reasons).

There was a PNM who apparently told our president to go back to her country while she was working out at the gym.

Why the PNM decided to go to our rush events afterwards is beyond me.

Did the PNM know that she was the president?

In any case, I don't understand why someone would say that to any member of any group they would want to get in.....

Why would anyone who wanted to be considered a decent human being say that to anyone else? Whether or not there are organizations involved.

This past year at formal recruitment, I encountered two extremely rude PNMs. The first one ignored me and my sisters, texted constantly, then made a phone call and left. The other PNM asked me and my sisters, "Was this sorority REALLY your first choice? I don't know why anyone would actually choose to be here". Yeah, that happened. Needless to say, we cut both of them from the next round.

It never fails regardless of era there will be rude PNMs. I had a rude girl that grew up in the same town as I and moved before HS. I was trying to make small talk with her and we got to talking about a girl who had passed away. The PNM was very rude about it and was like "whatever", knowing this girl and I were extremely close. Needless to say she was cut without any debate...and the fact she sent in extremely slutty pictures of herself for the slide reviews probably didn't help either...LOL

I had another girl who was rude another year. She was strange, and it was apparent she didn't want to be there and acted as if she was being tortured. She flat out said she didn't want to talk to anyone, her mom was an "XYZ" her dad was an "ZYX" and she knew she would get a bid to "XYZ" but didn't want to be there. She was cut from "XYZ" and was probably much happier in her independent life. To describe her she would have been a hardcore "emo" "goth" (not that there is anything wrong with that) had "emo" and "goth" been part of culture then.

There's no reason for her to be melodramatic, but if a woman really doesn't want to be at ANY chapter, I don't think it's so bad to act in a manner that lets the chapters know. Better that, then for someone to invite her back in the place of someone who DID want to be there.