It is all about reciprocation;) BTW has anyone ever faked one-and you gals know what I mean??? What about the gentlemen-has this ever knowingly happened to you?

Karen,

We have a saying on this side of the Atlantic...."lie back and think of England!"

I couldn't POSSIBLY comment, however...:D

Faked one? Never. Why would you?

Sometimes a fellow will have a drink or five which kind of, um, slows things down. Times like those, you just want it to end. Any means to attain that end is allowed in the interest of being able to walk the next day.

Also, sometimes the woman has had her fun so to speak but the fellow is on a mission and will not be happy until more fun has been had. (presumably so the girl will know how studly he is) In the interest of getting to sleep at a reasonable hour, it is entirely permissable to help things along.

LMAO!!!

LMAO!!!!!

SO glad I'm not the ONLY one to think this way!!!!

:cool:

definitely been THERE!
 

I'm with you and KillarneyRose on this one! :cool:

Now YOU'VE got it!!!! :) I bet you send the ladies into (ahem) orbit!!! The biggest thing to remember when it comes to the whole stupid size issue is this: a female's idea of big is probably a lot smaller than a male's idea of big. So don't worry about it. Usually a guy who thinks he is hung like a field mouse is just perfect to his woman!!!!!! Another analogy....if you are eating a dish you don't like, do you go back for seconds? Probably not. If she is coming back for seconds (and thirds, and fourths, and....) she is definitely enjoying the, uh, buffet.

aw shucks, making me blush now, even if ya are correct:rolleyes:
I definetly hear ya on the buffet thing though;)

Killarney--

I hear ya! I hear ya!:D :D :D

I honestly have seen one that is as long as a pinky finger when hard- SCary! I think the two most important things are 1)girth and 2)freakiness- but no S&M psychotic stuff There is nothing better than a guy ready to try new and exotic places etc!
Oh gee this whole topic just made me blush!:p

Me too Lana! And only as thick as a pinky too-- I am not kidding!!!And I ended it with him immediately (of course the fact that he shaved his entire body--PRICKLY STUBBLY EWWW didn't help either!) --call me 'shallow' but come on, like so many ladies here have stated--girth is where its at!

I dated a guy who was a swimmer and even when he quit the team he still shaved everywhere. I found it disgusting. I really hated it when his legs were softer than mine!

Yes yes yes! It's supposed to be fun......but you have to work at it! You have to be willing to let go and act on your fantasies and fetishes (though not everyone has actual fetishes....) That's what makes good stuff good and bad stuff bad. (Of course sometimes bad is good, she said with a devilish twinkle in her eye....) Me, I want a freak.....just a dirty old freak. Thankfully, I got one. But the nice sweet romantic stuff is fine too sometimes....

Oh I am so glad I am not the only one that thinks this way!!! Glad to know most of us GC women are on the same page!!!! :D

Ok I sat on my thumbs in this thread long enough. Y'all are giving me a complex. Im tall. I got the length thing down. Reading this makes me think im too long. Damn. Then this whole girth thing. Oh to hell with it.

Screw intercourse, how do you non-virgin ladies like it when he goes down on you?

What method? Sucking the pleasure button? Sticking his tongue in the love oven? Or, licking from the uhh uhh to your uhh uhh? :o

Good-lord, Sh80er!

I think you just broke the barrier with that one. While blush-worthy, I think the previous posts had escaped Penthouse worthiness. Then here you come....

I haven't been paying attention to a lot of the details of your posts lately, are you a *ahem*
"lady", or "gentleman"?

It ain't nothing wrong with curiousity, right?:p
I am a lady, an innocent one indeed. :)

lol
Oh wow.
Okay, I've obviously been away from GC way too long.

lol

I have to say this.
I love sex. lol. And, I'll try anything once.
I like it every way it could possibly be...and I don't mind being the teacher every so often, you know? (I even like the naughty stuff once in a while, but unfortunately, chicks seem to be more willing to experiment than guys)
lol

Jess
Oh and by the way, about faking?

lol
Of course I've faked one.
lmao
Everyone does.

if you feel the need to fake an orgasm - run, get up and run in the opposite direction - obviously this guy is not doing it for you or maybe youre not vocal enough to tell him how you want it or nice enough to show him ;) and if that is the case, no complaining :cool:, you are every bit as in charge of your sexual ecstasy as he is :D

I want to lose it by a river or on a ferris wheel, somewhere crazy! :D

I don't like guys going down on me! It's too personal down there! The funny thing is I can do it for a guy and not mind.

:confused: :eek: :confused:
i'm too speechless, i can't even comment on that

what the? You've got to be among the select few I've heard make that comment, you poor..poor misguided soul.;)

IowaHawkeye- The only reason I talked about going downtown is because someone asked on the previous page if ladies liked this. So I was responding to that post.

I don't think she was commenting on the appropriateness of the comment . . . :) . . . I think she was speechless that you don't like the sport. ;)

THANK YOU.

So...you ain't down with the 69 thang? ;)

Heck no! I suppose if a guy really wanted to do it I would let him. Has anyone made out with a friend's ex and not regretted it?

It's not about what the guy want it's about what YOU want!

No, I never made out with a friend's ex. But I done some freak and I mean FREAK dancing out by the lake with one of my ex-sorority sister's boyfriend. Well, he was the one who approached me! :p

ohhhhhh GIRRRRRRL you are missing out

KAREN!!!!!

Please STOP!!!!

I am going to LOSE MY JOB because I am LMAO here at my computer; starting to cackle like a madwoman!!!!

:D :D :D :D :D

Freud said, "A woman is like a violin, it takes a great musician to play her well."

AlphaSigLana, I too feel that the act is far more intimate than merely inserting one body part into another. For many women, it takes a certain degree of trust and love that isn't found in the early stages of dating. There also is a difference between a man doing it TO you as compared to a man doing it FOR you. Don't give it a second thought. When you have complete trust in your partner you may see it in a different light. If you don't, no biggie. If there is love, he will understand you and help you face your inhibitions with tenderness. There are many roads that arrive at the same destination. The key is to explore the scenery and enjoy the journey.

Sorry Caroline I will try and control myself ;)

Justamom
 

Justamom- you are such a welcome asset to this board and you say things so eloquently. Your husband better feel pretty lucky to have you.

well you guys...i am glad this thread took off the way it did and hope yall enjoy reading what everyone says. i can tell you i lmao every time i read a new post!!! yall are crazy!!! :D :D :D :D :D

Actually . . . and this has no reference to AlphaSigLana specifically cause I don't know her deal . . .

They say that not liking the thought of oral sex is usually more a female thing and has to do with a certain degree of either uncomfyness with her body or sexuality. Some people are also uncomfy with the idea of how body odor can be perceived.

I actually have issues with dating girls . . . that have issues over sex. That can cause way too many future problems. I have friends that have told me that 10 years down the line, that certain amusing uptightness a girl had over sexual expression, or weight phobias or whatever, became serious, serioius, stumbling blocks later in life. Sometimes leading to unhappiness, sometimes to divorce, and many times too a diminished sex life. This especially happens after that first flush of infatuation, marriage flush, or just that total desire to please fades because of long term familiarity.

So again this doesn't apply to AlphaSigLana (thank you sweetie for brining up a reference point for discussion), I would never recomend a friend marry or commit to a women that has unresolved issues that affect her ability to enjoy sexual relations, its symptomatic of too many problems.

James,
I understand what you are saying and i agree completely. i am a sexual person believe me. I need trust and complete commitment before Iwill allow a guy to go down on me. Plus I thought guys didn't like to do this!

. Plus I thought guys didn't like to do this!

That's true ..some guys can't stand to. But, there's something about watching the expressions, body movements of a girl, and the occasional whimper that gives a guy a definite feeling of satisfaction, even if he isn't getting anything done to him at all. It says something when a girl can lose complete control with you like that, its...well, pretty awesome.

Ok first of all SH80er, every woman is different in what she likes. I like it to start out gently and slowly and build up to a frenzy, but then when he gets me there he's gotta go slow and gently again so I can ride it out.

Did I just write that?????My God.....I have no shame anymore....

Secondly, as to the whole loss of virginity thing.....being with someone you love is so much better. I lost it to someone I was crazy about but was not in a relationship with. I ended up feeling pretty used. And we could have had so much more fun if we HAD been in a relationship. I was kind of crazy after that, it was like "well I did it so I may as well keep doing it." But then with my boyfriend of 4 1/2 years it was different. After that, I realized that I wasn't just going to give myself to ANYone. There was only one other after that until I started dating my husband. And he was my real awakening.

The hottest time my husband and I ever had was that week when things started moving from just kissing to going all the way. I can remember vividly those make-out sessions, tentative yet passionate, growing a little more intense each time. And there was always the tantalizing promise of what was going to happen the next time. That is the period to savor. I mean, it's great once you are in a full-scale sexual relationship but I am telling you, that buildup period is unbelievable.

By the way guys, once you and the girl have said the L word, you no longer need to use reverse psychology on her or try to pretend you aren't interested in sex just to impress her. If it is obviously serious between the two of you and you are dying to do it to her, if she gives you the green light just go for it!!!! The night I finally had sex with Brent he was busy (ahem) elsewhere and I grabbed him by the ears and pulled him up to my face and growled "Brent, I want you to f%$& me right now!" I expected him to pounce immediately and keep the momentum rolling. Uh, no. He says, "Well, maybe we should TALK about this....." Oh my God!!!! Then I'm like, "He doesn't want to have sex with me...." Of course, after we "talked about it" we went at it like crazy but I have to say hearing the "I don't want any regrets tomorrow morning" chat from a guy who is supposed to be crazy about you kiind of takes the bloom off the rose. Later he confessed that he was going out of his mind wanting to but he felt he had to give me the little "talk" treatment so I'd know he loved me and respected me and would WANT to do it with him. (Duh....if I hadn't wanted to I wouldn't have grabbed you by the ears!!!!)
Men!!!!!!!!!!!!!