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^^ Do you think it was just a sign that she didn't want to be a doctor after all and didn't want to/couldn't switch out of the track she was in easily for whatever reason? (Parental pressure? Life changes? School rules?)

I mean, it's not something I'd do, but if ultimately she's happy then, good for her?

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Originally Posted by KSUViolet06 (Post 2010608)

My mom's frend has a daughter who was accepted into a 6 year accelerated BS/MD med school program that OH state schools have (you go to school all year round and complete your BS and MD in 6 years).

She had a long term boyfriend who was headed to seminary to become a pastor. He proposed to her the weekend she finished her BS (meaning she would start med school the next semester).

She decided to give up her spot in this program to "stay at home and emotionally support her fiance/the household while he's in seminary."

I don't get it. And by that I mean I do and I don't...because whatever is right for that person is right. But I would not be able (or want) to do that in a million years. I want my degrees more than a man.

^^^Ok, not only that, but BS/MD programs are INTENSE and extremely competitive. You just don't enter that kind of problem if you're only "ohhhh, maybe I want to be a doctor." These students are highly "in-bred" in that they have multiple family members who are physicians, probably who went to the same medical school. Entering a BS/MD program means essentially kissing your chance to have any sort of normal social life in college goodbye. You end up with a shitty degree in "natural sciences" or something similar that really only has value to the medical school you made a commitment to. Every BS/MD student I've known that didn't go on to the medical school track (usually because they couldnt score the minimum score on the MCAT) has had to go back and complete an additional degree. WHY anyone would go through that hell and then drop out for a guy......that is just incomprehensible.

But hey, we'll probably never know her true motivations.

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Originally Posted by Kappamd (Post 2010656)

As far I know (per my interactions with her during my recent family holiday party), it was a hard decision, but her husband is highly religious and she kind of knew that's what seminary wives do at this particular school (as a lot of other seminary guy's wives either dropped down to part time or quit school).

She did say that she wanted to take another shot at med school or dental school once hubby graduates next year. Whatever floats her (or his) boat.

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Originally Posted by Drolefille (Post 2010625)

^^ Do you think it was just a sign that she didn't want to be a doctor after all....

Yes.

Having a husband > Finishing her plans

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Originally Posted by KSUViolet06 (Post 2010608)

What she did is so dumb, I just had to laugh. He's probably one of those controlling dudes too. Most of the time there seems to be something up with some of these pastors and future pastors.

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Originally Posted by PincGator Que (Post 2010727)

What she did is so dumb, I just had to laugh. He's probably one of those controlling dudes too. Most of the time there seems to be something up with some of these pastors and future pastors.

lol. that is so true.
living in the south i've noticed that most of my friends are either engaged or married. it's crazy. sometimes i feel pressured but I know that waiting is the best thing to do.