I think you should take some time for yourself (away from your friend) to deal with your feelings of anger and rejection. If she is really your friend and deeper than her colors and letters, she will understand. Maybe you should also sit out a few of their events until you feel a little better about things.

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I went undergrad.

For all of those that are not chosen this year for membership:

1. If at first you don't suceed, try, try again.
2. Don't take it personal and don't become bitter. Everyone handles rejection differently, however, after you've gotten past the initial hurt, respond with maturity. It may be hard to see people come out with their letters, the hurt is inevitable, but be happy for them. If xyz sorority is really in your heart, focus on what you need to work on for the next time around.
3. Don't be discouraged, and don't worry about what GDI's and those that were too afraid to apply may think. Some of the hardest workers in BGLOs did not make it the first or second time around.

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Although it would be a priviledge to get an acceptance letter from Delta Sigma Theta, I can honestly say that if I didn't get the letter I would be disappointed, but it wouldn't stop me from helping people in need and being active in the community because it's something that I enjoy doing anyway. Plus you bless others by using whatever talent GOD gave you to help them. In return, GOD blesses you. It's understandable to be disappointed over something you really desire, but if it gets to a point that you're bitter, then maybe your heart wasn't in the right place. One young lady mentioned in the thread that "what GOD has for you is for you". That's funny because I just heard that phrase in a testimony at church this past weekend. But that statement is very true. Anyway, for those who didn't get that acceptance letter, don't be bitter and by all means don't hate on others. Keep your head up and keep trying to make a difference in your community whether it's with or without DST.

One Love,
Trini_girl

STILL keepin it real
 

From Webster's Dictionary...
Bitter: distasteful or distressing to the mind; galling; marked by intensity or severity; accompanied by severe pain or suffering; being relentlessly determined; vehement; marked by cynicism and rancor; intensely unpleasant, esp in coldness or rawness; expressive of severe pain, grief, or regret.

Um, now trust me when I say that getting a rejection letter will bring up AT LEAST one of the above feelings.

Like I said in my earlier post...if you have never gotten a rejection letter, then you can't even imagine what it's like.

Folks can say "don't be bitter" all day long, but believe me, if you get a reject letter, YOU WILL BE BITTER, to some degree, on some level, whether you're in denial about it or not. My heart was in the right place - in my heart I always knew that when my time came, I would become a member of Delta Sigma Theta, and I did. Yes, I was disappointed, but I was also EXTREMELY BITTER when I got rejected.

And as far as the "don't hate on others" remark - mmm...I follow this rule - DON'T HATE THE PLAYA, HATE THE GAME. I didn't "hate on" the girls who I knew had less stellar credentials than I did - shoot, they were lucky, so I wasn't mad at them. I HATED THE GAME that the Deltas played on me and several others who had gotten rejected. When the two Deltas who hand delivered my reject letter could barely contain their smirks and haughty giggles - YEAH, I HATED THE GAME.

So again, I'll close with this advice:
1. To those who may get a rejection letter, I am not going to say, "don't be bitter", BECAUSE I KNOW THAT I WOULD BE ASKING THE IMPOSSIBLE since I've been there. But I will say this - try not to STAY bitter.
2. DON'T HATE THE PLAYA, HATE THE GAME.

Well on my campus to let my interest be known i make it a point to as many of the functions for the org. as i can. let them see my face without being thought to pushy. a few of my mentors are members in the org. so i express most of my concerns and ques. to them. but as far as what i do is concerned.......


No. 1 on my list

Getting and maintaining a goodstanding G.P.A I would love to wear the org. letters accross my chest grades are not everything but they matter (especially to me) and I pride myself on my studies.

next, keeping up with my community service. Giving back is so important and not just for personal gain.

and finally i just be me like it was mentioned b4 there is a reason and a time for everything so just be patient.

A quote form my mother," Be patient and persistent , not pig headed and pushy."

Weighing In
 

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A. Yes, I applied my senior year, spring semester. My roommate was in the chapter at the time, and I was looking forward to my limited time in the chapter...however it didn't happen...I wasn't accepted. It hurt, (only for a minute:( ---I still had love for those girls! ) but, I knew I still wanted to be a Delta. So, I sucked it up, supported the campus programs, as always, and looked towards an alumnae chapter after graduation.

It was the collegiate chapter that set the example for what I wanted out of a sorority...and I KNEW that I wanted to be a DELTA, PERIOD.

As for what I did the the meantime, I was lucky enough to be accepted at the alumnae level the spring following my graduation, so I didn't have to wait long. Anyway, I fine tuned my public service, and did what all other college grads did, FIND A JOB!!!

I stayed focused because I knew what I wanted to do, and I just found a way to do it. There was plenty of opportunity to join other Greek or Greek-like groups campus, but that wasn't what I wanted. So even though Delta "escaped" me on the college level, I wouldn't have settled for anything else.

Ironically, I was part of a "mixed" line that included charter members of a collegiate chapter, so I got the opportunity to have a "collegiate" experience with my college "ships" after we crossed. I wouldn't have traded my experience for anything.:D

My advice would be, follow your heart, and be patient. If you truly have it "in your heart" for the org you seek, then rejection should not change your mind. Just look at improving your credentials and try again, even if it means you have to wait for years. If it is meant for you, it will happen! Good Luck!

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See God does answers prayer!!! If first you don't succeed, pick yourself up and try again. :p
BTW: What collegiate chapter were you apart of soror???

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I wasn't in a collegiate chapter. My line sisters chartered Pi Omega chapter at Aurora University in Illinois.

Sorors, SFs, One & All
 

Hello Everyone,

When I became a soror of SGRho, I went in as an undergrad. But I had expressed interest a year before I was actually chosen to became a member. I had to wait that long, in part of my grades!! :( (Hopefully my honesty will help others who wish to join a sorority) I left my freshman year with a terrible average, came back three years later to the university...with the same sorry average, but a whole new attitude about earning my degree! Anyway, to make a long story short, I did ALOT of RESEARCH before making my decision to go on my quest for Sigma. I found out what the requirements were; and made sure I went well beyond the minimum. I also talked to the advisors, and members so that I could get a feel for them as well and vise-versa. And what ever SGRho had going on, I was there, so that they knew my interest was FOR REAL!! :)

As far as advice, for those who wish to become a part of a sorority...I believe that you must really sit down with yourself and decide which one is for you! Please do not get caught up in the hype etc. (especially if you want to go undergrad). Greeks do more than just step. It is a WHOLE LOT of WORK being a PRODUCTIVE chapter member especially if you get in a position of leadership. You have to know when it is time to study and when it is time to party etc. Because it is so much bigger than just what you see, make sure you know what you are commiting to. Once you become a soror of a Black Greek org...that is it!! You can not go back and change your mind later on. Next, get and keep those grades up. I wish I could say SGRho helped me in employment..but actually my degree did that for me!! :) Also don't just do your research on the net! :( Talk to those on campus, go to the sororities' events..show your face and interest..let them get to know you. And when it is time to apply...have your stuff TOGETHER!! I mean grades, community service, rec. letters or what ever else is required. There is nothing worse than someone who claims to want to be a part of your sorority, but puts in little to no -effort to make it happen. And if you get rejected...pick up that lip and try again. And know that there are no guarantees even if you have the perfect GPA etc., that you are just a shoe-in for membership. I have known of people who had to try twice and more to get into the sorority of their choice, but they did it...because it was TRULY in their hearts. So I know it would hurt, but press on....

Tenacious1922

I really enjoyed reading the posts. Sorors and Sisterfriends alike, have exibited true determination in reaching their goals. Most of us don't make it our first time(s) for various reasons. Our goal is NOT to just be in any sorority, but to be in the one that is dear to OUR hearts (whether it be DST, Zeta, SGRho, or AKA). What an inspirational way to start off my morning :p

My MIP was undergrad and I wouldn't change it for the world. If you're not accepted the first time, re-evaluate yourself and try again. Don't be discouraged b'c I would rather you try again for the org that's in your heart instead of trying to get in the one that you think will easily accept you. ;)
....Remember..........you must go through in order to get to!

re-evaluate yourself and/or re-evaluate that particular chapter (you know how things are sometimes). I like the "you must go through in order to get to," go head!

I became a member via an Alumnae Chapter. I chose to
do it this way, because changed my major my 2nd
semester of my Freshman year, and I knew that I would
be about a year behind because of the classes I had to
take. God made it possible for me to graduate on time
with my class. I could have joined undergrad, but I
felt that with my tight schedule, I could nit give the
time necessary to my school work or to Delta. So I
chose to wait. I also wanted to make 110% sure that a
Delta was truly what I wanted to be for the rest of my
life.

In the meantime, I kept up with my community service
activities and stayed involved in activities that were
going on in my area. I also kept doing my research
and reading any and everything I could get my hands
on. While others around me were becoming members, I
stayed focused by just saying to myself. If it is
meant to be God will handle it.

To those sisterfriends who are hoping to become a
member of ANY BLGO, I say to you keep your eye on the
prize. If becoming a memeber is truly in your heart
it will happen. Just continue the learning experience
and if it is meant to be, God will handle it.

TTT
 

Looks like that time of year is back upon us. Please read this thread and maybe it will help this fall's prospectives. :D

This thread IS truly inspirational! I personally am having problems coping with the idea of MIP....let me explain...I come from a lonnnnnnng line of XYZ members and they are having a line in which I have been informally invited...everytime that the subject of MIP comes up I get fearful because it reminds me of the first MIP I attended..socially accepted, grades caused rejection.(I had the overall but not the semester G.P.A. and yes my overall was more than minimum)...I spent too much time on NOT being humble and focus on what was important....At the time I was bitter and angry plus hurt and confused...moreso at myself because I felt that I should have known better... recently I feel "pressured" because of the anticipation that my mom and other family members are EXPECTING me to do this.....Don't get me wrong I want to, it's just that I am nervous...to put it frankly I just fear the rejection....:(

Nice Topic!
I feel like I got the best of both worlds. I am a charter member of an undergraduate chapter. So we were pledged by the alumnae chapter. 8 members of my line were pledging the alumnae chapter. And 8 of us were for an undergrad chapter. So we ranged in age from 19 to 51! The 51 year old made tried before but Delta was in her heart and she felt the time was right to try again. All I can say is be you and if you really want it keep trying and have patients.:p

Miss priss, the fear of rejection is a completely natural emotion. I too had that fear when my time came. But I did prevail, I was so happy because I'd been waiting for it seemed so long! Don't let your fears get in the way though, if you believe in yourself others will also. That belief is no guarantee of your acceptance, but it wil give you a sense of peace about the entire situation. And recognize that ALL humans get discouraged and rejected at various times in our lives. Take me for example, I wanted to be a cheerleader IN H.S. but I didn't make the squad, I tried out for the drill team and Made it, I met a great person in my life that I would have otherwise never truly known from that rejection. It was only God's way of intervening, humbling me and setting me up for his great blessing. When we get rejected, somtimes its our fault, sometimes its not. Don't worry if its not, just keep improving on what you do have, try again and let God be your guide on the mission. Whatever happens live a fun, fulfilling life, and when your head seems to drop and heart slowly sinks with it, find you an activity, a person, a goal to focus your attention on, the blues go away with the desire to see OTHERS excel and prosper.

It seems so much easier said than done...I mean my family members are DIE HARD members of this org. They are so die hard that they have a special room and car dedicated to it. OFF Limits of course.:) When they speak to you somehow, XYZ org. WILL come up. They went to the nationals this summer(yes they were delegates and one is a ug advisor) and brought back those cute MY MOM IS.....t-shirts. They always talk about "THE BOX"....and this all seems just to overwhelming....I just keep thinking if I don't make it I have disappointed them once again....
That L word prevents me too..... I have never wanted to mention it ...but somehow someway they always find out....I want to be known for me not "that's sisterfriends daughter" or "she THINKS she's in because she's so and so's child"...when I don't feel that way at all.

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[QUOTE]Originally posted by CrimsonTide4
[B]Hello Everyone,
It is that time of the year again. Some prospectives are getting acceptance letters and others are being rejected.

I have some questions for ALL BGLO sorority members. Did YOU join your sorority through a collegiate or alumnae chapter?

For those who joined via the ALUMNAE chapter,
A. Did you apply for membership during your college years?
B. While waiting for the chance to join, what did you do in the meantime?
C. While others around you were becoming members, how did you stay focused on the mission of joining the sisterhood that you felt lead to pursue?

I joined the sorority through an Alumnae chapter, and I would NEVER trade my experience for anything! I did not apply as a collegiate member, and in hindsight, I am glad that I did not. I have friends to this day that did not get accepted (through alumnae and undergrad chapters) , and they are still trying. They definitely do not want to be "T-Shirt" wearers, they want to work!!! I stayed focused because the process judges each individually. Although we all just knew we'd be crossing those sands together, it was not up to us. After many tears, and long times where we didn't talk, we still have our friendship and they don't have to worry about searching for an ACTIVE Delta to help them in their process!

If a prospective wants to be a part of Delta for the right reasons, they must continue trying no matter how many times they're rejected. A rejection is not going to deter a determined woman.

Just keep your goal in sight and know that there will be plenty of work to do in DST if and when you arrive!!! And let me stress that there is so much work to be done!!!

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1. Keeping up on my grades. While I am seeking membership through an alumnae chapter, I do realize that this is still an important aspect.

2. Keeping up on my community service. I have so much fun doing it even if I balance it with school and work.

3. Networking. Trying to meet as many members of the alumnae chapter as I can. Not being bothersome, but just enough to let them know who I am. The members that I have met so far have been so helpful to me, that I could not thank them enough.

4. Overall, just keeping a positive outlook on everything! HE knows that there is a time and place for it all.
:)

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1. I am working like you wouldn't believe on my grades and gpa. This is my first semester at a new school and I get a brand new GPA so there is no way in the world I'm messing up this go round.
2. I have involved myself in numerous activities: social, volunteer, civic, etc.
3. Praying for strength, a sound mind, FAVOR with everyone I meet, and for God to keep my eyes and ears alert to things going on around me.
Also, my interest now is different. I don't know who all here is religious, but since I have improved my relationship w/ God, I'm very relaxed and things do not stress me out anymore. It's weird but wonderful at the same time. At first I was sweatin' the deltas on the yard hard and breaking my neck to speak and whatnot....thought becoming a member would be the grrrrrrrreatest thing in the world....heart bout to jump out my chest every time I went to a forum or event (y'all know what I mean:p :D ) But now that I've grown, matured a lil bit more, realized that deltas are just people and not idols, and watched one of my best friends cross, I just think that if it's meant to happen, God will bring the opportunity. Don't get me wrong, my interest is still strong but I feel more at peace now.

Whats funny is that now I am informed of things going on w/ the chapter without even looking hard or asking, whereas before I was all hyped brighteyed & goofy and missing all kinds of good stuff. And how much more relaxed I am as members approach me and find out more about me. I don't know if anyone can relate...it's just late at night and I felt like typing what was on my heart.

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To keep my interest
1. I'm a graduating senior so I'm checking out the Alumnae chapters in the area's where I'm applying to graduate school.

2. Researching, Researching, Researching.

3. Establishing relationship with the women of my desired sorority. (This one really means a lot to me because I've never had a close relationship with a member. Its kind of depressing though. Especially when we go out and they're greeted by members. It never fails, someone always thinks I'm a member and I have to say "No I'm not a member." It just hurts my heart.

4. Surfing the net a looking at websites.

5. Talking to members about the organization. Sometimes this means the good and the bad. Many prospectives don't understand the dynamics of a sorority. So, when they're blessed with membership its overwhelming because they didn't have enough information. You'll never know the full scope of the organization but its important to get as much information as possible inorder to make a wise decision.

To increase my attractiveness
1. Completing my undergrad with a good GPA.

2. Remaining an active member in campus organizations.

3. Keeping up with community service endeavors and trying to find more opportunities.

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This is exactly where I am, right now! I have bought tickets and attended events. It has been hard because I've had to take it upon myself to meet (by making the first move) members that knew NOTHING ABOUT ME and express my interest and my reasons. However, the silent auctions, other public events, and etc. have been fun I must admit but it's like this: I attend the public functions, I'm more than willing to put my money and time down for the cause, I surf the net religiously, I keep in contact with my contact person. I can only hope I am selected to be called when the time comes. I'm speaking from a grad point of view! .

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I certainly can sistah! When you are given PEACE about a situation, things are different. Remember the "God takes care of His children". :)

Sorors, SFs, etc.
 

I went to a religious seminar at Ky. State Univ. this weekend and was shocked at the subject presented.

This program was presented by 2 ladies that denounced Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, Inc. They were members of Alpha Pi's Fall 2001 line, and they denounced their letters in June 2002.

A man by the name of Minister Fred Hatcher (sp?) spoke on GLOs (white and black) and Christianity, and why they don't mix. He has been speaking on this subject matter after denouncing Omega Psi Phi Fraternity, Inc and the Masonic Order.
He said that you should not form a bond with anyone of unequal yoke (meaning faith) and that you should not join a GLO because the rituals of the GLOs require you to compromise your bond with Jesus Christ. He said that all the service that we do is in the name of the GLO and not Jesus Christ. Also, he pretty much stated that if you join a GLO, you are going to hell. But then, he was contradicting himself the whole time he was speaking too. And he try to down play Delta, Sorors. He was talking about Bishop Vashti Mackenzie, and a review she gave on a book. :mad: I mean dang, if she liked the book, she liked it. Who cares what position she holds, she is HUMAN like everyone else. Minister Fred, also a website and here it is:
http://www.1stBooks.com/Bookview/8065
The website may not work, so here is his email address: reprebres@cs.com



SFs, things do happen, and I don't try to persuade ANYONE's thoughts on anything, except for this:

You are your own person. Keep doing the things you do to keep your interest up and KNOW what YOU want out of the org you are choosing. Don't let ANYONE deter you from living your life. If you want to pursue DST or any GLO, do it, but only b/c you have taken that long hard look at yourself and can see how the org fits YOU, and not how YOU fit the org. Keep GOD and Jesus in all that you do and you will know if GLOs are not right for you.

Sorors, if this message gets deleted, I understand. But it has to be know what some people are saying nowadays.

Alright, stepping down now....

i know this thread is crazy old but...
 

I just have to say this this was an inspirational thread! i am a undergrad senior and i found myself discouraged becauseeventhough my grades are great and i am involved in alot of community service activities ( maybe too much for my own good lol) i felt that i wouldnt be a good candidate just because i am a senior so i didnt attend rush... at first i thought it was a big mistake but i just found out i am leaving for the Peace Corps sooner than i thought so i wouldnt of been able to participate anyway. I am just staying positve and studying hard so i can come out with a great GPA. i cant help but feel lost because when i come back from my service ( 2 years) i feel like i will have to start all over again with showing interest... but like everyone said i just have to stay focused and in due time God will show me my path!!

I joined Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Incorporated as an undergrad December 3, 2006 as a senior. Several people were concerned about attending rush as a senior, as I was. But had I not attended, I would have never know if I would be selected. Like everyone has said a million times before, if it is meant to be...it will be. I was on pins and needles waiting on my letter. I am not the best student in the world, so that means that I didn't have a 3.7 (far from it), but my service was stellar...that does not mean one can go to rush with a 1.0. My determination could have been a deciding factor in wether or not I got in. I love working in the community, because someone worked for us.

So, congrats to Sorors and fellow greeks!

Good luck to all of you sisterfriends! :D
Everything has a season!

This is so true. God never gives you more than you can handle. If it's your time or season, then it will be so.:)

Just know that your org. of interest isn't going anywhere. And you will obviously bring a lot to it when the time is right.

I have some questions for ALL BGLO sorority members. Did YOU join your sorority through a collegiate or alumnae chapter?

For those who joined via the ALUMNAE chapter,
A. Did you apply for membership during your college years?
No because there was no undergrad chapter of SGRho at my school

B. While waiting for the chance to join, what did you do in the meantime?
I learned about SGRho while in graduate school (and I've been in school forever) but after I made my interest known, I finished my education, continued doing my community service work

C. While others around you were becoming members, how did you stay focused on the mission of joining the sisterhood that you felt lead to pursue?
I focused on making myself the best applicant possible by stepping up the quality and quantity of community service I was involved in, supporting public alumnae chapter events and staying connected to members of SGRho through our sorority's public message board.


My best advise for SF who wish to become sorors is to
(1) Be discreet and thoughtful about your interactions with members. You can show your interest without being obnoxious about it. I am a SF turned soror and no one here knew of my interest in SGRho. I purposefully kept my interest to myself, to the members of the alumnae chapter I was interested in joining and a few friends - one a Delta who tried to talk me out of pledging SGRho (LOL) and a SGRho who helped me get in contact with the alumnae chapter in my area.
(2) Do your service and make yourself the best applicant possible. If you haven't done much service, get to work. If your interviewing skills are sub par, have a friend help you.
(3) Live your life. I'm a neo and I love SGRho to the fullest but I am also about to be married, have a full time job as a college professor, and have family that I spend time with. Learn how to balance your desire to become a member with the other priorities in your life. Esp. when you pursue membership in a grad chapter, you will find women balancing multiple commitments (work, kids, school, sorority).
(4) Stay positive and know that God doesn't close one door without opening another one. If this year you are rejected from pursuing membership, treat that as a learning experience. Tighten up your application and your communication skills and try again. Our organizations don't want women who give up on the first try.

Best wishes to all,
PhDiva

I went undergrad on my first go at it.

However I agree 100% with what others have said, if you are undergrad and get rejected please keep striving. I am mature and old enough to know we really let go of some great canidates because of silly immature reasons. Remember sometimes the 19-20 year old mindset is just 2-3 years removed from high school;)

There were also some people though who just knew they had it and thats were discretion and humility are key, you don't have anything until you cross those burning sands!

I have some questions for ALL BGLO sorority members. Did YOU join your sorority through a collegiate or alumnae chapter? I joined a graduate chapter.
A. Did you apply for membership during your college years? No
B. While waiting for the chance to join, what did you do in the meantime?Got a Ph.D, served the community, generally continued to live a very happy and full life.
C. While others around you were becoming members, how did you stay focused on the mission of joining the sisterhood that you felt lead to pursue?I just knew that I wanted to become a member of my sorority and that I would patiently persevere until I got an opportunity.

To ALL BGLO Sorority members, what advice would you give those who were not chosen this year for membership?

First, know that membership in any sorority is a luxury, not a necessity. Your life will go on even if you are not accepted for membership at this time. I waited seven years for my opportunity to join My sorority and, as I said above, continued to live my life and do those things that were important to me.
Second, keep persevering. If sorority membership is meant for you, your opportunity will come again. But you have to be ready to take advantage of it when it arises.
Finally, K.I.M. You will probably never know the reasons why you were not chosen for membership at this time. It is not useful to spend a lot of time speculating, being angry or bitter. I know everyone feels these feelings at least initially, but wallowing in them for too long is counterproductive in every way.

Hello everyone,

I know this is an old thread ,but I just wanted to get this out. I'm currently in professional school right now. I've been interested in becoming a member of Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, Inc. for many years now. I have tried three times in the last 9 years now and I'm beginning to give it all up. I'm at the point now where I believe maybe this is not for me to do in this lifetime. As an undergrad, I tried twice. The first time, I believe it was my fault. I was too young and not prepared. The second time, I was offered and invitation for membership intake and it was retracted a few weeks before I graduated. The third time was through an alumanae chapter in a city in which I didn't know many members of delta. Over the years, I have watched many of my closest friends join the sorority. They are all wonderful and keep me encouraged. However, I've moved several times over the years to pursue my professional degree and I haven't had the opportunity again. Mostly, because there has not been any membership intake processes taking place. Most recently, a close friend of mine told me get everything in order for a potential intake. I did. Only for me to be disappointed again. She told me that the chapter decided to wait another two years before pursing membership intake again. Ok, really now. How long am I to wait? How many years? How many times must I put myself through this? Its hard for me not to become discouraged. I consider myself a focused individual. I've always supported Delta Sigma Theta. Everywhere I've gone, I've attended each chapter's various programs. I also have a long history of continuous community service. Not because I desire membership, but because I love participating in uplifting and helping my community. Even if this does not happen for me later in life. I will continue to love and support Delta Sigma Theta Sorority Inc.

May GOD continue to bless each of you!

Interesting post! I can understand being discourged, I can understand being hurt..what I can't understand is coming to public forum and airing out those feelings to members and non-members of the organization you love and support, like that is suppose to make us say, "aww we sorry, our bad". No one said that life was easy, especially, as you stated, knowing that you move a lot and have not gotten to build the foundation and bonds with a local chapter. Maybe you are focusing on the wrong things *shrug*, maybe you need to relax and wait another 9 years if that is what it takes. Maybe you need to focus on your professional degree and get that squared away, maybe you need to give it up and let it ride. If it's meant to be, then it will be. Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, Inc. is not going anywhere, but if you decide to give up..then so be it. Please know we will be alright!

I have some questions for ALL BGLO sorority members. Did YOU join your sorority through a collegiate or alumnae chapter?Collegiate chapter

For those who joined via the ALUMNAE chapter,
A. Did you apply for membership during your college years? Yes, during my junior year. but i did not become a member until my senior year.

B. While waiting for the chance to join, what did you do in the meantime? well, BEFORE i even felt like i had the chance to join, i went through a BGLO-mania of sorts. I didnt know black sororities existed (none were on my campus and the visibility was less apparent locally) until i started to research it. The more i researched, the more fanatic i became about greek life. i just could not WAIT to be greek... it was just a matter of which org i desired to be granted membership. that is what took my time to become an esteemed member of Sigma Gamma Rho 2 years later. i dont regret it NOW because i needed that time to figure it out for myself, but back then i was like, "why can't i figure out which org is best for me? i want to be greek now!" like everyone has been saying, things happen when they are SUPPOSED to happen.

C. While others around you were becoming members, how did you stay focused on the mission of joining the sisterhood that you felt lead to pursue?
most of the people who were becoming members around me were of other orgs. and it just made me want it more. though only a handful of black greeks were at my school, they were always together and were on their game with everything they did. even now, when i hear about people who crossed at my college (and in increasing numbers) im like, "ok, i can see that... but damn, who knew THAT many people were interested?" and they are RUNNING things at school now.

i kept felt like every semester, what was i doing wrong? my grades were on point, i was active on my campus and community. i guess looking back, i wasnt as forthcoming about my interest, and if the org doesnt even know you're interested, how can they let you know what events are coming up and even keep you in mind?

i stayed focused by pursuing other interests--i wanted to be an RA, so i did that (and its crazy cause almost every BGLO sorority member i know was an RA). i was working with a mentoring organization, and became a director of that org. i started working on my senior thesis. but i worked on being visible as an interest, but not to the point of being "OMG I LOVE XYZ PLEASE PICK ME!" but making sure i knew the who, what, where and when of each event, whether it was greek or not - if i knew a member of said org would be there, i was there! again, the visibility was limited, so even finding out that XYZ or ABC was doing an event was a challenge in itself.

in the end, what kept me focused was the desire that would not desist and also i was almost done with undergrad. i knew that if i didnt do it before i graduated, i wouldve been less inclined to pursue it as an alumna.

Thank You All
 

I am new to GC. I only joined this week as a part of a networking project on my list of goals. I have recently been struggling with determining the purpose of my life and am seeking to meet people who have struggled to find what it is that they feel called to do, but now would not be able to live without doing. I think it is inspirational that all of you who posted are strong enough to admit that sometimes you have to work on improving yourself and wait to achieve your goals. Thank You for posting how you have all stayed determined and focus on your goals. You have all helped me immensely by reminding me that no matter what the goal is, sometimes I must step back and take a second look at what I am doing and how I intend to achieve it.

As a female mechanical engineering major struggling to stay focused, get a decent GPA in a major where 80 + percent of students do not gradate on time from this department in the university, and decide what to do after graduation, you have all become anonymous mentors. If you have any information that you think would help me in my continuing advancement, please feel free to contact me.

And remember that your struggle and your storm will help you grow stronger. But by sharing our stories with others, we can help the world grow stronger.

Thank You Again
Sisterfriend Surviving the Struggle

Oh come on!!
 

I read most of the posts in this thread and as a non-Delta/"wannabe" or whatever, I must say your comments were very insensitive. At one time in your life you were a non-Delta/"wannabe"/prospective or whatever, how would you have felt if you never made a line. I must also say that I attended a large HBCU in the south where competition was fierce to pledge. I did not actively pursue my interests because I was struggling financially, constantly switching my major, and almost transferred schools. Nevertheless, when the Deltas at my school finally crossed after being on probation for several years, I was astonished. I knew many girls on the line that smoked weed, constantly cheated in class, and DID NOT DO PUBLIC SERVICE! In fact many of them told me personally how they'd lied and gotten fake letters written indicating that they had done community service. Furthermore, so many of them are inactive now it is ridiculous. I guess I'm writing this to say, what happened to putting yourself in the shoes of others. I understand the greek "I've got what you want, so I'm better" attitude, but my goodness! I have never attended a rush, but would like to someday. I have had no luck in finding out about the activities for prospectives in my area, but hopefully one day I will, but if I encounter some of the negative personalities on this forum it is an organization I'd choose not to pursue.

Also, I must add everyone knows for a fact that some girls have all the credentials and are not chosen simply because someone doesn't like them. At an HBCU girls were so petty. Some girls didn't get chosen because they dated an Alpha, or the ex-boyfriend of a Delta, because they were overweight, etc. I also knew a girl that was on line to be a Delta, while running to be the university queen. After she lost the competition the Deltas dropped her from her line, as if to say we don't want a loser on our line. All of you can deny it, but a lot of pettiness goes along with this process, and I hate to say it, but it's because women are known for being catty and hatin' on one another. Don't get me wrong, I think your organization is filled with greatness, but the pledging process for all GLO is often filled with a lot of BS.

^^^ First of all you responded to a post that is a year old. Second, you have made some bad assumptions. Third, and yes I am insensitive, someone with an attitude like yours needs not to join any BGLO. And last, maybe you should transfer to a PWI.