Okay! So this morning we had to wake up super early. I was so nervous. I was afraid I was gonna get major cuts. I thought they only invited me back to the second round because I had recs, and they were planning on releasing me after that. Today we could go to a maximum of 5 houses.
When I got my schedule I saw that I had:

Samoas
Tagalongs
Trefoils

The Lemonades had dropped me. Just as I was starting to really REALLY like them. I was heartbroken at first. Thin Mints also dropped me and I really liked them too. But I was mostly bummed about Lemonades because I thought things were going really well when I was there! Oh well.

So here is how today went!

Samoas- First house of the day. I was still in a sulky mood because I didn't get invited back to my top two favorites. Then I realized that was stupid. I REALLY liked this house and the two others I was going to later. When I went inside, I had already forgotten about my disappointment over the Lemonades house. I had a really fun time. Their skit was funny and their house was gorgeous. I really got along with the girls and they seem to like me.

Tagalongs- Today in this house, I just had this feeling that I was where I belong. I fit in with these girls. I can see myself getting along with every single one of them. They are funny and down to earth and they all seem to love each other. During their skit, I just got the feeling that I knew this is where I belonged. So lets hope I don't experience another heartbreak again tomorrow! Although, you never know how I may feel after tomorrow night. Yesterday, I was convinced I would be a Lemonades girl, now I want to be a Tagalongs girl.

Trefoils- Okay, I know you all are rooting for the Trefoils because they are the underdogs and because I was able to look past their completely untrue reputation. But I just don't think it is the house for me. Its a gut feeling that I just didn't get like when I was at the Tagalongs house. It was still fun, so obviously I wouldn't be upset if I got invited back to pref, but I just feel more at home in Tagalongs and Samoas.

So at selections, this is what I did:

Houses I would like to return to:
Samoas
Tagalongs

Houses I would like to return to if my first choice does not invite me back:
Trefoils

Also, I was hoping to get a little advice for preference night. Assuming I still feel the same way about the Tagalongs house, is there an appropriate way to let them know how I feel? Today I said how happy I was to be back. But tomorrow I would like to let them know how seriously I feel about them. If anyone has any suggestions, please let me know!

Once upon a time, long before computer and Greekchat advise, I went through recruitment. Our rush counselor told our group to make sure that we let the house know we were very interested when we went to Pref Night. The girl who was rushing me was told by the house to rush me hard and find out exactly how I felt. Well.... we were sitting on the couch and she asked "What are you looking for in a house.?" I looked right into her eyes and replied, "this house." The rest of the evening we were able to relax and enjoy our conversation. Although I was going to rank the 2 houses (I never heard of suiciding since I was the first in my family to go through rush), I knew that if my invite said the other house the next day I would not sign my bid card (we signed them upon getting our actual bid). I got the house I wanted!

Good luck with the rest of your recruitment.

DaffyKD

You know what?, this is what recruitment is all about. It is ok that you don't feel comfortable with Trefoils. I think we were just all so impressed that you could look beyond all the nasty things other girls were saying. Keeping my fingers crossed for you.

Preference night- my advice tell them you like them.

I second this :)

I am officially finished with preference day! I am so wiped out. It was such an exhausting and amazing day. It went by so quickly. The ceremonies were both SO moving and I was really touched by both of them.

I was invited back to two houses,
Trefoils
Tagalongs

Samoas dropped me. Oh well. I can't say I'm surprised though. At this point I only have 1 house that I see myself fitting in with.

Tagalongs- This is it. I want this place to be my home. I want these girls to be my sisters. I love everything they stand for. They're quirky, and fun and down to earth and today I got to see a more serious side of them. I teared up during the ceremony. It was absolutely amazing. The girl who I talked to for the hour was the girl I talked to yesterday, and she is so cool. I told her my mind has been made up, I've loved this house from the beginning and I feel really at home here. She said she was glad and she hopes that she'll see me at bid day tomorrow. And that she'd love to have me as a sister. I'm gonna take that as a good sign. :)

Trefoils- It was a great ceremony. But deep down I just know it isn't for me. The girl I talked to was nice, but the conversation felt a lot more forced than the one at Tagalongs. I really enjoyed myself here, but I just like the Tagalongs house more.

Well, tomorrow is bid day. I can't believe I made it all the way to pref. This is absolutely amazing. I've had such a great time during recruitment. I'm SO glad I kept such an open mind. If I hadn't, I don't think I would have had such a great experience. Thank you so much everyone for the advice! I can't wait to share my results with you tomorrow!! :D

Can't wait to hear!! Good luck!

Like we keep saying .. it only takes one .. good luck .. sweet dreams of girl scout cookies and the bid to the chapter that you want ...

fingers crossed for tagalongs(my dad's favorite cookie!)!

Oh Lordy! I am SO hoping that you get to be a Tagalong!!

Regardless of the outcome, I nominate this story for the Recruitment Story Hall of Fame.

I'm sending positive energy over the GC internet. Go TAGALONGS!!!

Ohhh how Im wishing for u to be a TAGALONG!!! LOts of luck!

Wishing you a Tagalong future!

Yay Tagalongs! (they are my favorite after all!...wish I had some right now...)

Updates pleaseee! I'm so nervous and excited for you!

Bid Day
 

All right. So today was bid day. And let me just tell you all that I have been on an emotional roller coaster this entire day. I got my bid, and opened it to find out that I was not a tagalong. I was a trefoil. My heart instantly dropped. I felt deceived by the tagalongs. The girl was so nice to me and told me how much she wanted me to be her sister. I told her how comfortable I felt in her house. I told her how the ceremony made my eyes tear. I made it perfectly clear how much I wanted to be in their house. No such luck. After I opened my bid, I was instantly disappointed. But soon as we were running to all our houses, I perked up. I thought to myself, that I may just fall in love with them. Clearly they saw something that the tagalongs didn't, so maybe this was where I belonged. I got to the house, I was smiling at all the girls and introducing myself to other girls in my pc. But quickly the excitement went away. When we were inside, getting to know each other, I felt bored and out of place. I felt so at home at the tagalongs house that I had just assumed I would end up there. And it felt so weird to be back at the trefoils house. I felt depressed and angry. When bid day ended, I went back to my dorm and cried. I let all the emotions that had been building up through recruitment week just pour out of me. I called my mom and cried to her. I cried to my friend, who happened to get into the tagalongs house. I wanted to die. Then I realized that was absolutely ridiculous and WAY overdramatic and that it hasn't even been a day and I will most likely make a lot of friends in my sorority. I felt so out of place today that it just felt like I would always feel out of place. But that is just such a stupid thing to think. The first day I got to school, I felt awkward and shy, but its only been a week and I've made several good friends! So if anyone else is reading this and has a similar experience, take it from me, it will probably get better. In one day I went from excited and assuming I'd get the house I wanted, to sad, to excited again, then to angry and depressed. But now I feel a lot better. This week has been really stressful on me and I didn't even realize it until today. But I found my sisters and I know I am going to be happy. :)
Sooooooo.... without further ado, I would like to officially announce my chapter!!! I won't be revealing my school because I feel like I've shared too much negative information about my specific chapter, and school.


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I'M A DELTA DELTA DELTA!!!!

And I am so proud to be one!! Thank you to everyone on greek chat for the amazing support and advice!! :D :D :D

Yeah! That was a great story!!! Best wishes.

Congratulations to you and TriDelta! And thank you for having such a GREAT attitude!

Congrats on Delta Delta Delta!

I'm so glad that you decided to stick it out. I think that shows your maturity and what a great attitude you have!
Congratulations

Congratulations on Delta Delta Delta!!! Keep up the great attitude. I had a sister who got her number two house, but after all was said and done she couldn't see herself in any other house then the one she ended up in. Everything happens for a reason. :)

I admire your decision to stick it out. It takes awhile to get comfortable in a house (even if it was your top choice) but I think you'll end up loving it!

I hope you end up happy! I know many girls who ended up loving their 2nd choice!!

In my experience, girls like this consistently become leaders in their chapters and invaluable assets to their organizations - congratulations to you and to Delta Delta Delta!

Congrats!!!

I had a feeling this was what was going to happen.

Stay positive and I'd bet in 6 months, you'll wonder how you could have ever wanted to be in any other chapter. Congratulations~!!

It's okay to mourn that feeling of losing out on what "could have been" with the tagalongs, but now that you've done that, you can move on to find a place in Delta Delta Delta. Congratulations on joining such an amazing organization! It will take time to feel comfortable, but for every ounce of effort you put into your membership, the rewards you reap will be measured in pounds. Good luck!

I really admire your maturity to stick it out and give your new sisters a chance. It's okay to be disappointed, and you managed your emotions well by talking to your mom and friend afterward instead of pouting around at bid day and bringing other new members with you. You are a new member of an incredible organization that is so much bigger than your chapter. With your attitude, I know you will grow to love it!

If you go back and read your comments about Trefoils through the first few rounds, you really enjoyed their parties!

Congratulations!
 

Welcome to Tri Delta!

I hope you have a great experience in a wonderful sisterhood! :)

Congrats!! I agree with the above poster. Girls like young usually end up being strong leaders in their chapters. I hope you will return to GC often to give advice to others. Now, go out and start buying pansy stuff!!

I think a LOT of girls have this huge let down on bid day, and not just when they don't get their first choice. It's kind of like building up to Christmas, then you open your gifts, and it's just not that exciting any more. Life is never quite as hearts and flowersy as your fantasies. In real life you have to WORK for your friendships, and it's not always exciting and exuberant. And this insty-friends thing is just weird. It always has been, but it's the system we work with. Frankly, I think a LOT of women have a "is this all there is?" moment a few hours after going to the house for the first time, but not everyone is willing to admit it.

Stick it out. You'll make friends, you'll settle into a routine, and you'll be fine. Now that recruitment is over, a lot of this stuff will just fade into the horizon. Trust me, sorority life is great no matter which girl scout cookie you're eating. Good luck!

I know you are going to be happy too! There are so many adventures ahead of you in college. And remember that you still have your whole university full of people to be friends with in addition to your new sisters. It's an addition to your world, not your whole world.
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Congratulations! I'm so proud of you for giving your house a chance. So many girls miss out because they don't even bother to give it a shot. I hope you and your new Delta Delta Delta sisters are excited!!! :)

Welcome to Tri Delta! I like your positive attitude, and I hope that over time you will come to love our amazing sisterhood!

Hi everyone! I just wanted to let you know how much I have been enjoying myself these last few days. Bid day was sort of painful for me, but now that I've gotten to know a couple other girls in my pledge class, I'm having an amazing time. And even though its only been a few days, I already can't imagine myself anywhere else. I'm so excited about these next four years. I'm going to get so involved and hopefully have a leadership role eventually. Thank you all for the wonderful support and advice! I am so happy to be a Delta Delta Delta! :)

So glad things are working out for you!

I think this thread will end up getting bumped/linked quite a bit to show the value of rushing with an open mind.;)

Bump because it's a good one!

Bumping my own recruitment story because I think/hope it will positively affect the attitudes of some PNMs. :)

This is such a great thread! :)

Sharing this with my daughter, recruitment starts in two weeks for her. You've given some great advice. I'm glad to hear you're happy in your tri-delta home! From what I've read your story is very common.