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Originally Posted by ellebud (Post 1963340)

The term "blackballed" came from an old fraternity membership tradition.

Just to keep the historical record clear, fraternities adopted the tradition from the Masons and other social clubs.

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Originally Posted by UofAgreek10 (Post 1963156)

Due to bullying from a couple of older girls that I worked with who didn't care for me from the start, they told me they had me blacklisted at the university I will be attending in the fall. I don't really know how to go about this or how to fix it, because I really did nothing to deserve this other than put of them nicely for months, and on my last shift they told me this. I want to know your opinion on how much it will affect my chances of pledging a sorority and how to handle this? I'm crushed that they're trying to ruin this opportunity for me on top of everything they've done..and I haven't done or said anything to them to retaliate. Please help ! :/

It sounds like they are bullying you because they know they can. Put an end to it by forgetting what they said, and going through the recruitment with your best foot forward. I wouldn't even waste my time mentioning this to the Rho Chi (?) because it will make you sound like you have a "high school" mentality. You need to project yourself as a confident young woman who isn't going to let anyone rattle her nerves. If you see those girls on campus, just be civil and move on. If a house doesn't want to choose you based on what two idiots have to say, you don't want to be in that organization anyway.

And really, have fun with this process! I'm not NPC, but from what I understand, recruitment is an exciting and memorable time for a young woman. Don't let anyone take that away from you.

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Originally Posted by 33girl (Post 1963776)

Well, there's a big difference between "PNM I'm just not that jazzed about so I really don't want to recommend her" and "PNM who will bring havoc and mayhem throughout the chapter."

I mean I can't imagine you'd want to be known as that alum who no-recs at the drop of a hat. Your credibility would be nil.

True, but I honestly can't think of anybody I know who writes "no" recs as a rule. It's rare...I've probably done 3 or 4 in about 30 years of writing them. Funny thing is...I've got 2 here now. :(

I have to say that our chapter learned the hard way not to disregard a "no." Twice we overrode such a rec...Basically we sweet-talked them into changing it. But neither girl helped our GPA or wound up initiating, and one caused some drama.

OTOH...I heard of another group where one particular PNM had sterling recs from half a dozen hometown alums. That girl never made her grades (which you had to, back in the day) and had quite the reputation around certain locker rooms.:eek: