Don't you think that we might actually know what we're talking about?

Just because we're not giving you the answers you want to hear is no excuse to throw a hissy fit.

RebelCheerBabii -

You're in high school so you understand that some kids are considered more popular than others? A lot of this is perception, right? Some of the popular kids might be nice, some might be mean. Some of the losers might be nice, some might be mean. Some of the sororities have different reputations around campus. Some are more sought after than others. Some might be considered more popular than others, but it's probably likely that there are nice/mean girls in every sorority. There are likely fun/boring girls in every group. All we're saying is that when you go through recruitment, you will probably hear your friends talking about some of these stereotypes. They might say one sorority is really cool and fun, but when you meet them you may not like them and vice versa. So just keep an open mind and judge for yourself and everything will work out. And be prepared for dissapointment. You might like a house who doesn't like you or vice versa, that's why we say give each house a chance.

I'm glad you're confident. Confidence is a good thing. On this thread however, it's translating more as cockiness/entitlement. Just something to keep in mind for the fall.

Oh dear god. Honestly, I just don't know what else to say.

Please come back and tell your recruitment story. I can't wait to see the way this one turns out.

There are a million girls with better stats than you have that will be rushing this fall. Some of them can even write in complete sentences.

and the Internet is forever.

Having all the right statistics is only one requirement of recruitment. The girls have to like you too.

That's what you're not getting, darling. When it comes to sorority recruitment, your stats aren't remarkable at all. It's particularly sad since it's obvious you are from a non-Greek family and don't have any Greek connections so you need to come to the Internet to get your advice. A place like this can be a huge help when you have the right attitude and treat the members with respect. Because you know what? We're Greek and you aren't!

Please don't get your flounce caught in the door on the way out. K? Thx. Bye.

Actually, the majority of those posting are alumnae and alumni of sororities and fraternities, who besides coming here to chat also come to help women and men navigate the confusing world of recruitment. You are being very juvenile. No one is saying you won't have a perfect rush, but the probability is that you WILL be cut from a top chapter because 90% of PNMs are released from a chapter during recruitment. We tell PNMs to keep an open mind because we've seen too many people go through recruitment thinking that their 3.8 GPA and resume would get them into THE chapter on campus, but when they get cut, they drop out and have to settle for not being Greek at all. We think that is pretty stupid when there are great women in EVERY chapter on EVERY campus in the US and Canada. Go in with a better attitude, and you'll find a chapter that is right for you. Trust me, the cute outfit that every chapter member wears during recruitment won't hide the fact that you don't mesh with them so stop freaking out about it. Also, realize that you may be a big fish in a little pond, but that little pond is about the empty into a bigger pond so you may not be the biggest fish anymore. Just be prepared to be a little more ordinary...it may not happen, but if it does, it's not the end of the world! You'll still have a great time in college and a great sorority experience if you play your cards right.

RebelCheerBabii-

It's cool to have opinions of chapters as you go through recruitment. That is why you'll write them down in your notebook, especially if there are many chapters on your campus. However, it is not advisable to act rude at any chapter, because word does get around and you don't want to be "that girl". Besides, your mind can change, and you don't want to burn any bridges by acting rude initially and then finding out that you like that chapter later. Just write it down.

To further the guy analogy, think about it this way: let's say you meet this great guy and you seem to be hitting it off. However, then he hears how mean and bitchy you are to other guys and wonders if you'll be like that to him and then he's not interested. Conversely, if he heard that you are nice and polite to everyone, you might go on another date with him. Same goes in recruitment.

It is true that we don't know you and we don't know where you will be going to school. We don't know which chapters you'd be interested in and where would be a good fit. Not all schools are equally competitive. You may still be the star if you are going to a small/noncompetitive school, or if you to to a large, competitive flagship state school with a big Greek system, you will find that you are one of the many pretty popular cheer captains with a fantastic GPA. That's why you were admitted.

Recruitment is also like a job interview. You can have an impressive resume, but if the interview is a flop, you're not getting the job. Things like grades, test scores, activities, (recs too---you didn't mention those!) etc. get you a "foot in the door", but if you don't have a good conversation or they don't think your personality fits, you're not going to get a bid.

So you're not rushing? YAAAAY

Seriously, you talk and act like a 10 year old. You need to grow up. Maybe your attitude served you well in your HS class of 44 where all the other girls look like manatees, but college is a different matter. Did you ever have someone transfer into your HS who bragged about how they were popular at their last school and no one could stand them? Because that's pretty much what you're doing.

This trainwreck is too big to be real.


If you *are* real, think of this -- if your recruitment is successful, some of us "losers" may BE your sisters.

Rather than insult alumnae who are giving you great advice and know what they're talking about, why not read the recruitment threads people have linked to and inform yourself about how recruitment actually works? There's a lot more to it than showing up and looking good on paper.

Really?? Are you like, 13?? Even the "popular, pretty, rich" girls with a closet full of designer fashions and enough monthly spending money to feed a village in Guatemala can spot a faker and a user.

Either you are a troll or very, very immature.

Alas, "irregardless" is now an official word in the language. Check out a recent Webster's unabridged. I guess when people misuse or just outright make up words, eventually some become part of the language. Sigh.

As for Rebelcheergirl, there are no words.

So sad. What's even sadder is that there are those *special* people who will insist on using "irregardless" because "It's in the dictionary! I checked!" and won't understand why educated people will look unfavorably upon them.

...OK, sorry for getting off track; back to the topic at hand!

Way off the topic, but maybe a redeeming comment?
 

from Dictionary.com (bolding mine)

"Usage Note: Irregardless is a word that many mistakenly believe to be correct usage in formal style, when in fact it is used chiefly in nonstandard speech or casual writing. Coined in the United States in the early 20th century, it has met with a blizzard of condemnation for being an improper yoking of irrespective and regardless and for the logical absurdity of combining the negative ir- prefix and -less suffix in a single term. Although one might reasonably argue that it is no different from words with redundant affixes like debone and unravel, it has been considered a blunder for decades and will probably continue to be so."

Makes me cringe when people use "irregardless". The entire entry is very enlightening.

"Irregarless" on the poster's stupidity on so many issues, I will comment on how KSUViolet guessed (correctly) that you're are a cheerleader: Your signature. Please understand that the ladies on this board (be they 15 or 95) READ what they have written and what is written. They THINK about what they are saying and what is being said. And they edit (and this comment was heavily edited) what they say, most of the time, to be the ladies that (I am adding myself to this comment) we are in life.

And, if you are not a troll: (sorry, I'm about to be unlady-like) your school and environment produced a intellectually challenged 3.8 (weighted I'm sure) young woman, who lacks the intelligence, common sense, the ability to write a cohesive sentence with the sense of entitlement to use abuse and use people to gain their objectives be it for a boyfriend, sorority or friend.

GO TEAM!!!!!!

(To all others: I am sorry.)

I think Rebelcheergirl not only needs to finish her English Homework, she needs to understand her English Homework.

*shakes head* :rolleyes:

Beat me too it. I love the people who are "I watched and read plenty of fictional depictions of Greek Life, so I won't listen to the advice of actual members."

MESSAGE!

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only when they cant spell and tYpELiiKeDiiS bcUz itzkEwL!!!!11!

no, please don't. there will be too many "things" going on.

you know your stats, but does she know here calculus?

ok this must be my Northeastern snootiness showing, but why do the "omgeezy im sooooo smart i got XX on the ACTs" posters always quote ACT scores? i know we've discussed this on GC before, but clearly all these wannabe, entitled hot messes are coming from the same part of the country.

now had you said "i got a 2300 on the SATs"... well i'd still give you side-eye, but at least for many of us, it would legitimatize your so-called smarts.

and you watch greek... umm, good for you?

It's awesome that you have such comfidence.

No, but I'd judge that genius on her inability to correctly spell the word 'genius.'

Proud to be an American! It's my right to rush!

You sure about that? I mean, really sure? Although, the last I checked, 28 is probably pretty good for a genious.

Well, except for the one Violet directed you to. You know, the one you said was too long?

ETA: Sorry, ellebud, for continuing the derailment of your thread.

Trainwreck anyone?
 

lololol

So if I start watching Grey's Anatomy, will that help prepare me to be a doctor??? AWESOME!!! Why did I even go to college??!?!!

Then WHY did you come here?

I do not consider this a derailment of a thread. It is really a first look at what can happen to derail a recruitment that ends in a, "Why Wasn't I Chosen?" thread.

My youngest was a model (professional, not department store) and an actress (you might kind of vaguely think you knew her from somewhere when you saw her in the street kind of actress). NEVER did she think that she was a shoe in for the best house on campus. NEVER was she rude or condescending to her fellow pnms or Actives in ANY house. And frankly, she could have been difficult. But I like to think that she just knew better.

lolz!