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Hey Mom, I know it hurts when our kids hurt. She is not alone, rough recruitments happen, and it probably happened to other girls at her school. Just be a shoulder to cry on and an ear to listen. From your posts, that sounds like what you're doing.

Good luck to your daughter in her future endeavors in theater. From what I know from my friends' kids who are theater majors, it is rare for freshmen to be cast in productions, so perhaps she just has to pay some more dues to get a role...

As for dropping out of recruitment, I can understand how getting hit with the "double whammy" was just too much and she just couldn't pull herself together to pretend everything was peachy keen. Perhaps she can meet more girls, make some connections and try again.

It sounds like she's a great girl with a lot of interests, she will be fine in the long run. :)

This is a strange flip side of my a cappella rush story...finding out in the morning that I DID get cast in a play gave me the confidence to try out for the singing groups.

I can understand how having a very bad day can cloud your judgment temporarily, especially as a first year student. It sounds like both mom and daughter understand that the daughter made a hasty mistake, and will be more open to opportunities in the future as a result. There are TONS of ways to get involved on campus at the school we're talking about. Maybe she could swallow her pride and volunteer at the show she didn't get cast in -- painting scenery is a great way for freshmen to get to know upperclassman actors and directors who will be more likely to remember her face at next semester's auditions.
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Hopefully she meant the former.

And LOL at the bolded.

I'm almost positive I know where your daughter goes to school. If so, recruitment registration was record high and many, many girls dropped out during the process. There were a lot of tears, a lot of major disappointments, and a lot of hurt around the campus, starting the night of the first cuts and continuing through to bid day. Your daughter might feel alone- but she is definitely not. If she needs support from her peers, she should be able to inquire around and get it. From what I understand- and from what I saw firsthand- those on the other side of recruitment were not prepared for what the PNMs faced because of the scale of rush this year.

Last fall, five houses "participated" in informal but only two invited everyone who signed up to their first events. The other three offered a few bids to friends of those in the chapters.

and maybe it wasn't anything against her specifically, they just liked someone else MORE

I'm kindof upset that no one noticed my use of "rejectment."

This one is a good one for PNMs and their moms to read before recruitment so they can be forewarned that not every recruitment is all rosy.