Some guys end up w/ sorority date party/house party t-shirts here, as they were the dates and that's part of the deal; i'd guess that only the chapters that don't worry about 'party shirts' do that though - i've never run into a non-brother wearing letters, though i'm sure it'd be weird . . .

As far as little brothers/big brothers, a few of the sororities here have honorary 'big brother' status, whereby the guy sort of looks after the pledge/new member, takes her around and introduces her to people to make her feel more integrated into the greek system, in addition to what the big sis etc would do. it's pretty cool; i'm doing it for a girl this semester as a favor to a friend (her big sis), and it's really cool to see her hanging out with some of the guys and girls i've introduced her to, and to see her having fun in those sometimes-awkward 'all-greek' situations. we don't do sister organizations (james covered that earlier), but this works out for some sororities in terms of the social scene like that.

KABillyMac: I didn't know that in some schools, Belles are only from Sororities. At my school, you don't have to be Greek to be a Belle. I think it's a great for both greeks and non-greeks. That way, your friends have chances to meet people outside the greek system, and vice-versa. Since you have given such kudos to Belles, I decided to start another post regarding Frat's "Little Sisters", or as only the fortunate can say.... Southern Belles. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/wink.gif

In Phi Delta Theta, only family members and wives can wear our letters....

I HATE seeing non-greeks in letters. Those are reserved for US, we are the ones who have worked to wear them. However, in the instance of the girl who's sister died and like my friends who died and their parents (they were brother and sister; a Delta Chi and AXO) wear their letters, that is different and ok, because you know what it means and you are carrying on their legacy, but to have a complete moron wearing your letters that have no idea what they are or what it means to wear them. Our letters actually were picked to mean something that only we know about and it is what we strive to be EVERYDAY. I am also ok with parents wearing shirts b/c they are why you are who you are and sometimes why you fit where you do. But, like my mom has letters I got her and when she wears them, her friends are like "A backwards seven triangle?? I don't get it??" I don't want someone like that wearing my letters if they don't know why there are what they are. My sister-mothers mom died and she was going to give me her letters for my mom but her aunt took them to goodwill. I HATE the idea of someone random wearing them at so many levels!! But, and this is weird, my friend was a swimmer and her swim team coach knew a guy who did screenprinting and they all got XO pajama pants from him that the chapter never picked up!! So all of her swim team was wearing letters. I tried to explain why that wasn't cool but she got pissed at me and told me to chill out!! I think your letters belong to you and only you and aside from extenuating circumstances, DON'T WEAR THEM!!!!

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Katey, ZA chapter of AGD
"Could I have been anyone other than me?"-Dave Matthews

TxTech,
I agree with you totally. My girlfriend is an AOPi from W.Ky U. and now she is here at E.KY. U. and she doesnt affiliate. She does more for our chapter than most of the girlfriends do and she is lavaliered (sp?) but she is not elligible to be a belle so I think its crap too. Maybe I'll try to get that changed in our by-laws when we get back to meeting.

Are you kidding!?!?! My Big Sisters don't even let anyone TOUCH the letters (even if they're just on a sticker or a piece of paper or something) much less have anyone WEAR them...even if it's their biological families or husbands.
I can't even imagine what would happen if they were to witness that...
I know that when they want to get rid of their para they either cut them up or burn them...or donate them to the chapter.

Here is another "What are you thinking!!!" story.
We had a dance a year ago and the shirts were a little wild.. they were tye dye. Anyway, one of my sisters was at work one day and a girl came in with our shirt on. My sister FLIPPED OUT!! It turns out one of the dates that had been given a shirt gave it to his new girlfriend because he didn't wear it and she thought it was cool. Needless to say none of us did. Those are our letters... only we know the significance and we love our sorority too much to just let random people wear them.
The girl was approached in a non confrontational way and asked where she had gotten the shirt and all. She copped an attitude and all, so we called the guy that gave it to her and he said whatever... and he is in a fraternity!!! You would think he would understand!! She has been seen again not too long ago wearing the shirt and was again approached and this time we asked her to please return the shirt to our house and her reply was "Just give me a bid and then I can wear my damn shirt". We were not too happy... I really don't know how to handle the situation. Any ideas?

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If your going to go greek, why not be a goddess?