No, you get to the point where you're sick of what you had to say to him not being heard. (And you've also gotten to the point where you realize that he's not going to kill himself.) He was engaged to someone else 6 months later, so obviously all my fears were for naught.

I still think that sitting down and writing someone a letter is better than treating them like crap and hoping they dump you because of it. Obviously being able to sit down and discuss things rationally with the person is preferable to both of those, but depending on your own issues in life as well as theirs that's not always an option. The thing is I HAD tried the "rational" route and thought it had worked, and found out quickly (I'm talking hours) that it hadn't.

Reminds me of the time this chick had her friend call me talking about how she was thinking of commiting suicide because I had stopped speaking to her. I didn't want her to but at that point it wasn't my problem. I even told her so but somethings just don't get through to people at some points.

FYI...she didn't off herself.

I think I've asked you this before, but are you SURE we weren't dating the same guy? :confused:

I've not often done this in the SO realm but I've ended friendships through letter/email before. I would say it was a combo move. It'd gotten to the point where talking to said persons was like talking to a brick wall. If I'd said "So long" in person, they wouldn't have heard a word or twisted everything around anyway. Writing a letter made sure I wasn't interrupted and no words were minced. That's only if I felt the need to say anything to them at all.

There was also an element of "laziness" to it because shooting a straight message to a brick wall takes a huge amount of effort. If I'm done with them and walking away, then exerting any amount of effort over the minimum would make me the fool b/c I'd know it'd be a waste IMO. A lazy goodbye may be patronizing, insulting and whatever else, but if he acted in a way that said he "deserved more," we probably wouldn't be parting ways.

Did he look like this?

http://files.posterous.com/joaoander...GLXkSd0%2FA%3D

Scientific Evidence that being the dumpee is like breaking an addiction. Interesting stuff.

http://www.livescience.com/culture/r...in-100706.html

I thought this was a really good article. I just think that with break-ups, often before anyone notices, when the relationship begins to disintegrate or take a downfall, there has already been significant distance-building happening. I just think that each person consciously or unconsciously, is beginning to develop more singleness than being together as a couple. I think that sometimes couples go into the period of "lets make it work" time. And generally it's the dumpee who holds the most hope to successfully patch up the relationship. I mean, I just think that by the time something major in the relationship is happening, the potential dumper has already realized that it's just not working out, but the dumpee may be just beginning to grapple with it. By that time it's too late.

And I just wanted to bump this one because I just realized that I've never responded to this thread. I don't know how I missed this one. So far, I've never been dumped.:p I've always done the dumping. However, I've only been in two long-term serious relationships, my previous relationship, and the one I'm currently in. The others were just guys I dated. I'm sure if I was involved in more past relationships, I would have eventually been dumped by someone.