Nope, thread still here, but whatever she said to piss off the Chi Omegas has been deleted, obviously, because there's no trace of negativity in what's left of the thread.

She's never publicly said why she de-pledged, but one of the mods who had an "in" at her campus in the South found out from a member of that sorority about what happened after this PNM accepted her bid.

Babydoll, definitely go through rush. At least the first couple days and see how it is! In my *humble* opinion, and after reading this site almost daily for the last few months, I've come to the conclusion that most of the people that post on here frequently aren't the most accepting. People get bitched at all the time for harmless things like asking a question that's already been asked, etc. NOT all sorority girls are like this. If it is something you have wanted to go through with, you should. Don't listen to a bunch of people with nothing better to do than be rude to people online. Every sorority has a stereotype. My school has *the fat girls*, and they're very nice girls. However, they still have this stereotype. Nobody goes through life with a blind eye and doesn't stereotype. Hello, thats half of what recruitment is about. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise.
And to Gcers- I don't have any specific person in mind, as i don't know who PMed babydoll. So nobody get offended please. Greek love to all....

This all seems so needlessly complicated... I don't like that people aren't allowed to have opinions. I could see if they were posting anything about the rituals or actively bashing a certain sorority, but most of what I've seen has been innocent.

You may not have seen a problem with it, but to a lot more people, calling their chapter "the fat girls" or the "slutty girls" is pretty offensive. Personally, I agree with you, and I think she should have kept going, but it's better to practice discretion than to compromise her rush experience. Priority here is for the OP to have a successful rush, not so we can be entertained on GC.

Yeah, I wouldn't advise anyone to reveal which school they go to or what sororities they were talking about in their stories. I just wish people didn't go so far out of their way to make trouble for other people.

OKAY. Well, now that recruitment is over, there’s an outcome, and I don’t have to worry that I’ll be brutally murdered in my sleep (okay, slight exaggeration), I can finish my story! I actually wrote this as recruitment was going on, so you get all of the benefit of a real-time story, but without all of the waiting around! Are you excited? Because I certainly am. Oh, and for those of you who know the code, PLEASE KEEP IT ON THE DL, at least until the end. I’m far too lazy to go back and change it, so I’m just sticking with the Greek Goddess theme. You’ll notice that if I’m mentioning a stereotype, it’s in quotation marks. Don’t take it to be my actual impression, it’s just the campus. I don’t want to offend anyone. By the way, I’m a natural born writer, so this is really ridiculously long with a lot of unnecessary details. I hope you like it anyway. Okay here we go!

We left off at the time between the break up with Vince and Christmas break, a total of about a month. There were two weeks before Thanksgiving break, and I went out quite a bit with the girls. I went into Thanksgiving feeling a bit better about the break up and just life in general. I have the greatest friends. I could not have gotten through it without them. When I got back from break, I seriously think I may have lost my mind. I spent more time inebriated in that short 2-week span than I had in my entire life. My friend Serena and I spent a lot of time together along with her roommate Blair. We all agreed that our top choice was Pandora, but they were far more passionate about them than I was. I mean, don’t get me wrong, I really loved Pandora, but they were OBSESSED with getting in. Pandora was dubbed the “hot” sorority, so I’m sure that had something to do with it. I secretly wasn’t entirely certain who my top choice was because it kept changing from day-to-day. Personally, I was still leaning towards Artemis.

So the semester ends, and I’m feeling pretty good (despite an almost permanent hangover. Eep!). I felt like I did well on my finals, and I was starting to see a guy I knew from class. Christmas break couldn’t end soon enough. Skip ahead to about a week after classes resume. Meet The Greeks Pt. II has arrived and OBVIOUSLY I’m all over it

Glad you're back, looking forward to your story!

Woo Hoo!!

YAY! I can't wait to hear what happened!

Meet The Greeks was really fun. I mean REALLY fun. I went with Jessica, a girl on my floor who had just transferred. She was kind of unsure about going through recruitment, but she decided she’d just go and check it out. We got there a few minutes before it was supposed to actually start, but it was already PACKED. Walking in, I took one look around and noticed something immediately: about 95% of the girls were intimidatingly gorgeous. The other 5% were just normal gorgeous. Whoever said that one sorority was less attractive than another was certainly mistaken. Most of the other PNMs were also unbelievably attractive. I was a little nervous at first, but the sorority women were so kind that I felt better almost immediately. Then my excitement took over.

One of the Rho Chi’s greeted us at the door and pointed us towards Aphrodite first. Jess and I were picked up by a couple of girls immediately. They had a really cute theme based off of a popular tv show that Jess happens to be obsessed with. So we talked about the show and the theme a bit, but neither of us particularly loved them. They were cool, but it just didn’t click.

We then moved on to Pandora. Both of us liked them, and their “hot” reputation was very clearly deserved. It’s a smaller chapter, and only one girl picked us up at first. She was cute as a bug and really sweet, but seemed a little nervous, like she didn’t quite know what to say. We were then picked up by two cute blondes who seemed a little more relaxed. I really did like them and could see myself being friends with them, but the conversation felt slightly forced at times. Side note: I noticed Serena and Blair hanging around this table almost ALL night.

Next was Hera. Although I liked them from the beginning, I didn’t really realize just how well I would get along with this group. This chapter comes with a lot of stereotypes. They’re known as the “party girl”/“slutty”/“blonde”/“Barbie” sorority. Although I’m not exactly opposed to parties, these stereotypes really don’t fit me. I’m the polar opposite of a Barbie. However, talk to any of these girls for more than a minute and you’ll see that the stereotypes don’t even begin to describe everyone. I found that that’s true of every chapter on campus, but it seemed especially so for Hera. Everyone was so awesome, and Jess and I ended up talking to about 5 or 6 different girls at a time. When I asked about their philanthropy I was rather touched by how into it the girls were. I had a great conversation with a couple of the girls about something extremely random and trivial, and we were all laughing like loons. It felt like a surprisingly good fit. We had to have been there for over half an hour and only left because we were running low on time.

Then we went to Hestia. I had been neutral about them at first, but after this I definitely wasn’t anymore. The first day of class I met Emily, who was one of the sisters, and we really hit it off. After one day of class we were chatting like we’d known each other for years. When I went to the table, I saw her immediately and she gave me a big hug. I didn’t get to meet many other girls because Em and I just kept talking (much to Jess’s annoyance). A few of her friends came over too, but not nearly as many as there had been at Hera. I don’t know if it’s just because I liked Emily so much or what, but I had a lot of fun talking to these girls. It was never awkward or anything like it was at the fall Meet The Greeks.

Jess was getting really tired, so the last table we visited was Artemis. Once again, I found some girls that I just couldn’t stop talking to. I talked to a few of the girls that I had met in the fall, and all three of them actually remembered me (which made me feel totally special). I ended up talking to one girl who I had a lot in common with, and another girl who turned out to be in one of my classes. This is the biggest sorority on campus and it was almost time for everyone to leave, so there were about 3 sisters per PNM. I, once again, just did not want to leave. Every time I talk to these girls I feel like I fit in perfectly. They are still my top choice.

Unfortunately, I didn’t get to visit with Demeter or Athena. I was kind of upset about that because I never really got much of a sense from either of them before. Although I did note that Athena’s shirts were ADORABLE, and Demeter was really full the entire time. Jess and I walked back to the dorms (in the freezing cold, ice, and snow) and, of course, talked about who we liked and who we didn’t. She really liked Pandora. We both agreed that Aphrodite just wasn’t for us. She still wasn’t 100% certain that she would do it this semester, but said that if she doesn’t she’ll probably want to go through informal in the fall. Oh well, less than a week until orientation!

Yay!! I'm glad you are back!! :)

So glad you came back! I can't wait to hear..hurry!!!

Sounds like Meet The Greeks was a success and you liked a lot of chapters. Great start to rush!

Lovin' it so far...more please:D

You know, I appreciate the brutal honesty. Every org on every campus has its own stereotypes and we might as well 'fess up about them. I especially appreciate it in a deferred recruitment thread. I myself come from a deferred recruitment campus and I like to see how women's opinions change.

I'm glad you're not listening to "tent talk" b/c girls often don't realize that one chapter may not be for them but it certainly is a good fit for someone else. Keep updating. I like your story.

Hijack, sorry, my best friend's name is Mary and her sister's name is Annie.

This also reminds me of something funny that happened when I went through recruitment. At one of the chapters, the president and another girl (don't remember her position) came out to welcome us to the house. They introduced themselves as Mallory and Courtney, which really weirded me out because I knew a set of twins named Mallory and Courtney who joined the same sorority at another school!

That's all !

And I can't wait for more!!!

Round 1. Oh lord. I don’t even know what to say. I absolutely LOVED every single chapter. Cutting was the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do. I wish there were more time to talk to people so I had a better idea of who I liked and who I didn’t because right now I like all of them. Okay, here’s the breakdown:

First up was Demeter. I was really nervous, and I think it showed. We talked mostly about family, but I felt like I was rambling. I liked them a lot, but I didn’t think I’d get an invite back.

Next was Pandora. Luckily, the girl who was paired with me was someone I was already friends with, so she introduced me to a lot of people. I felt way more relaxed, and felt good being there. Some of the girls I talked to weren’t my style, but I still felt pretty good.

Then came Artemis. Once again, lots of love. I liked the girls I talked to a lot. The same girl I talked to at Meet the Greeks and the house tours was there, and we talked for most of the time. I felt like this party did NOT last long enough. So fun, again, still pretty high up on the list.

Athena was next. Eh. They were cute and very sweet, but the conversation was generic and none of the sisters were very memorable. Although, whoever said they were the “fat” chapter was lying. Didn’t see a single overweight girl. Stupid stereotypes.

Off to Aphrodite. WOW did these girls surprise me. I went in without the best impression of them, but the girl who picked me up was AWESOME. I only really talked to 2 girls the whole time, but they were both so much fun. I was just so shocked.

Then down to Hera. Once again, I loved them. I was getting really tired by this time, but I tried to keep a smile on. The girl who I was matched with first was one I’d met at Meet the Greeks, and she said she was really happy to see me again. That made me feel good. I had great conversations with most of the girls I talked to. No disappointments.

Finally, we went to Hestia. I was EXHAUSTED by now, but I tried not to let it show. Emily, who has apparently been talking me up to the rest of the girls, was right next to me. We of course ended up talking most of the time, but the other two girls I talked to were really cool too. I feel like I would fit in.

Ranking was TOUGH. I really did like every single chapter. My group was rushed off to rank right after the last party, so I didn’t even have a chance to mull it over or talk to my Pi Chi’s. We could pick 5 to keep (shown in alphabetical order because they weren’t officially ranked) and had to “cut” the bottom two, so my rankings looked something like this:

1. Aphrodite
1. Artemis
1. Hera
1. Hestia
1. Pandora

2. Demeter
3. Athena

I was so sad that I had to cut. I didn’t want to at all. Oh well, round two = skit night!

I remember liking most houses when I went through rush too. We had to cut one after our first day and there was really only one that definitely came to mind. After philanthropy day we could only go back to 4 houses (out of 7 remaining) and that was a tough decision.

Updates please!!!

For round 2 we could attend up to 5 parties for skits. I was really nervous but I felt pretty confident about getting most of my top choices. However, when my Pi Chi called my name to give me my schedule, my plastered on smile disappeared.

1. Break
2. Demeter
3. Athena
4. Aphrodite
5.Hestia

Um, excuse me? This has to be wrong. Alright, Pandora I can understand. I could even see why Hera cut me, but Artemis? I loved them so much! What was wrong with me?? I told my Pi Chi’s this, but they assured me that the chapters I had left were great and I should give them a chance. Of course, dropping out was never an option, but to lose 3 of my top 5 favorites after round 1? I was disappointed. I sulked for a few minutes, but then plastered the smile back on and went with a few other girls to the designated “break” area.

I took some time to think and was immediately grateful that I got Demeter back. I had regretted cutting them the night before because I really like them. I only cut because I was sure they wouldn’t take me back. I did really love Hestia, and Aphrodite surprised the heck out of me. I figured I could give Athena a second chance too. So going to my first party I was feeling better, but any time someone said they were on their way to Artemis, I felt a pang of sadness. Oh well, everything happens for a reason, right?

First party was once again Demeter. The chanting has begun. I thought it was way cool. I was less nervous this time because at least I knew they wanted me. I talked to a new girl and we got along well. I liked her, definitely. One of the girls from the night before came over and gave me a hug. I was so happy to be back here! I ended up talking about fashion with another girl, and by the time their skit started I was already feeling good about them. The skit itself was absolutely adorable! I could see myself with these girls without question. The fact that they’re so new, which had initially deterred me, was starting to become more and more attractive.

Second party was Athena. Another chant, also cute. The conversations were lackluster. I was talking to one girl for awhile and there were quite a few uncomfortable pauses. I found myself hoping the skit would start soon so the awkwardness would end. The skit on the other hand was HILARIOUS. At the end of the party, I just didn’t feel the connection.

Third was Aphrodite. No chanting here, but that’s alright. I got paired up with a girl who I had met the night before. Part of the reason I liked them so much was this girl, who I had an odd childhood connection with. We got along really well, and I could actually see myself being her sister. The skit was cute, but not fabulous. It didn’t matter because the girls I talked to more than made up for it. I’m starting to wonder (as are a lot of my friends) why these girls have such a negative rep. They’re really cool, real girls. I liked that.

Last, but certainly not least, was Hestia. Cute cheer at the beginning. I liked them a lot already, but after tonight, I felt like I was meant to be there. They are a larger group on campus, so they’re pretty diverse. Not one girl was like another. I was paired with a girl from the night before who I had hit it off with. We’ll call her Ashley. We had a lot in common and hit it off instantly last night, and were paired up tonight. So Emily, Ashley and I talked for a few minutes before the skit started. AWESOME. They danced and sang. It was really cute and funny. Afterwards, Ashley and Emily took me around to meet more people so that we weren’t the only people talking. I ended up being surrounded by 5 girls at one point, and I loved every single one of them. I felt such a strong connection, and at the end of the night Emily told me that everyone really liked me. I had been burnt by a “see you tomorrow” at Pandora, but this felt more likely to be true. There was never an awkward pause or a dull moment.

Ranking at the end of the night was easy. I had to keep three and cut one. Without a moment’s hesitation I ranked like so (again, top 3 in alphabetical order because they’re not technically ranked):

1. Aphrodite
1. Demeter
1. Hestia

2. Athena

By the end of the night, I didn’t even care that my former favorites had cut me. I felt like they were just being fake, and who wants that?

I really like that you're ignoring the rumors & hearsay regarding some of the chapters. It really is best to form your own decision. I'm rooting for you to find the place where you belong best. Keep up the updates!

The members in chapters that cut you may have genuinely liked you. However, it's not up to one person to decide who gets invited back. You might find when you're on the other side of recruitment that your chapter will cut PNMs that you like.

But anyway, I'm glad that you were able to move on after the initial disappointment.

Waiting for another update.:)

True. Decisions such as this are not made by one or 2 girls. Once you're an initiated member of your sorority, you'll find that alot goes into it, and it's not necessarily true that the women in the chapters were being "fake." It's just that inviting you back was not their decision alone to make.

Day three, Philanthropy night! I was running late so my Pi Chi Annie called me over as soon as I walked in to give me my schedule. EEP! It looked like this:

1. Hestia
2. Athena
3. Aphrodite

No Demeter. After a moment of disappointment I was immediately excited. Girls in my Pi Chi were starting to drop like flies. It was getting intense.

I started the night at Hestia. I was picked up by a girl I hadn’t met yet, and we hit it off pretty quickly. We did a craft, but I barely had time to finish because we were talking the whole time. Emily came around after a few minutes and we took a few pictures together. I felt like I was already one of these girls. The slideshow was adorable. They all seemed to have so much fun together! I could feel the love.

Next was Athena. I was picked up by the same girl that got me on the first day. She was absolutely adorable, but again, conversation was generic. The craft was cute, and their slideshow was AWESOME, but I still just didn’t feel the connection.

Last was Aphrodite. These girls just kept on surprising me. Cute craft, nice slide show, lots of fun conversation. One of the girls I knew from class last semester came over and we chatted for awhile. I ended up giving everyone hugs when I left. I really like them.

Ranking kept getting easier and easier. We only cut one this round. Again, top 2 in alphabetical order:

1. Aphrodite
1. Hestia

2. Athena

I like that you are so open to the choices that you have! I'm sure you will be happy in one of these orgs. :)

I really love this story.. I want more!

haha, alright I'm just going to post the rest. almost done!




Last day. Pref in the morning, bid night later. Longest day of my life. I walked in just barely on time and got my schedule. I was feeling pretty good about who I’d gotten back, so despite running on only about 3 hours of sleep, I had a big smile on my face. Annie handed me my schedule and smiled back:

1. Hestia
2. Aphrodite

Yes! Finally a round went my way. I was sleep deprived, extremely hungry (NO ONE had time to eat this weekend because sleeping and getting ready for parties kind of consumed everyone’s time), and rather nervous. I lined up for Hestia and looked at the girls around me. These were my potential sisters! When the sisters came out to get us, I was excited to see that Emily was paired with me!! Their ceremony was very touching. I don’t cry easily, but I teared up quite a bit. You know how they say you just know? I knew.

Aphroditewas next. I went in, thinking that it would take a lot to make me change my mind. They brought it though. The ceremony was gorgeous, the songs were amazing, and all of the sisters were sobbing. A lot of the PNMs were too. I didn’t. I really liked these girls, but at the end of the day, I just wasn’t one of them.

This took me awhile to decide for sure. What if I was wrong? What if Hestia was actually all wrong for me? What if I was meant to be an Aphrodite? I mean, I really liked their ceremony and they were consistently one of my favorites throughout the week. A lot of my really good friends were set on them. But then, as I was walking down the stairs by myself to go to the gathering room, I saw a display with all of the chapters’ letters. I went straight to Hestia. It just felt right. Ranking was tough, but I knew I was making the right choice.

1. Hestia
2.Aphrodite

A lot of my friends suicided for the one they wanted. I could be happy either place, so I didn’t. I went back to my room for some much needed sleep before bid night.

Bid night came at last. It seemed to take forever, but I was FINALLY going to find my home. I got all dolled up, threw a coat on, and ran out the door with the other girls on my floor. It took FOREVER for the Pi Chi’s to give us our bid cards. They called us over in random order. Every girl before me got the group she wanted. Finally, Annie called my name and handed me the envelope. I’m surprised I didn’t rip the card in my frenzy to get the envelope open. I let out a high pitched (but tastefully quiet) squeal. I’m now, officially a Hestia!!! Which is…………


























GAMMA PHI BETA!!!!

Congratulations! I loved your story and am so happy you found your home.

Congratulations!!!! Thank you so much for sharing your story! You kept a positive outlook throughout recruitment and it paid off with your #1 choice!

Many congratulations. Thank you for your honesty in this process.

CONGRATULATIONS AND WELCOME! Pink carnations to you and your sisters - may your new member period be the start of a lifetime of love in Gamma Phi!

The happiest of all endings! Welcome to the sisterhood!

Thanks everyone! And here's a bit of a postscript:

My friend Jessica who I went through with ended up as a Demeter and is loving every second of it. A lot of the friends I made in my Pi Chi group also went there. They made quota plus one!!

A whole bunch of my really good friends went to Aphrodite. They were struggling a bit for awhile, but they had EXCELLENT recruitments the past 2 years, and they're working their way back up!

Athena also had an unusually good recruitment. Some of their new members are absolutely gorgeous. My Pi Chi Annie, who I just loved, turned out to be one as well. They're also starting to do really well.

I had a few friends go to Hera. They didn't quite meet quota, but they definitely have some awesome new girls.

Artemis ended up having to cut HEAVILY the first night based on grades. Everyone under a 3.5 was out. So I'm thinking that's part of the reason why I got cut. They were really popular this year.

Pandora basically did the same as always. Nothing really different this year. Good girls, all pretty.

But, of course, I think MY lovely chapter did the best :p

Yay!!! Congrats!!!! :)

Glad you are a member of The Triad! Congrats.

Welcome to the triad m'dear! I'm so glad to hear that you've found your home under the crescent moon! You will love it!!