Good luck!:D

Open House Take 2
 

We wasted no time this morning and were off pretty early.
Ducks: I was the first of my friends to go there so I had not heard anything about it. While walking and reading about this sorority, I began to have a bad taste in my mouth. I think it was the symbol or something, but I was just not into it. Again we crowded into a small room and waited. I looked for people I knew, but did not see any. The sisters came in and two girls next to me started picking out which ones they knew since one of their sisters was in Ducks. That made me feel really good about their chances here, not so much mine. The same thing happened as before, a sister came and grabbed one or two girls and led them into the other room. I tried to be solo but it couldn’t be avoided. The same small talk happened and I ended up falling in love with this house. I wanted this house!
Huskies: This house was actually on campus, which I loved since my dorms were the farthest off, how great would that be to be on campus! This house also called names and they used my last name here! (double points!) The house seemed a little dark but cozy in a way. The girl was great and we hit it off. The other PNM was a girl who did not seem to want to be there. I don’t understand why, but she just sat there in silence. I thought it was weird but I didn't mind much. I loved this house.
Cougars: Oh Cougars. From the outside it was okay, from the inside… not so much. The moment I walked in I felt like I didn't belong. The girls seemed really sweet and were trying so hard, but I felt like I shouldn't be there. I don't know if it was the girls I was with or if all the stress had gotten to me. I really wanted to give them a second chance though. I hope tomorrow will be better, hopefully the stress/girls will be different. I love their philanthropy!
Bears: The last house! I felt like death and I probably looked like it too. My cheeks hurt so much from smiling and my ears rang from all the loud talking at other parties. The house was gorgeous and was right across the street from student union. The girls came down the stairs and I tried to perk up a little bit. I really liked the color of their shirts (all of the sororities had the same shirts except in their colors). The sister and the girl I was paired up with were both visibly tired. I tried to work up the energy to talk and be cheerful. I don’t think I really succeeded. In the end, I didn’t feel much at this house until they did a cute song and dance at the end. I am a dancer so this does matter to me. I wouldn't mind coming back.

So at the end we walked back to a lecture hall and scored our picks. Seven sororities get 1s then a 2 and a 3.

1. Beavers
1. Ducks
1. Huskies
1. Wildcats
1. Sun Devils
1. Bears
1. Cougars
2. Bruins
3. Trojans

I felt okay about my descisions though I felt somewhat guilty about cutting the two chapters I had been familiar with.

I look forward to hearing more!:)

Day 3
 

Philanthropy Day

I felt so nervous. I hadn’t thought of it before this morning, but what if all the chapters hated me? Would my Rho Gamma call? I was nervous for most of the day.

The four of us walked to the lecture hall in silence. I think we were all nervous. After about a few minutes of Panhellenic talking, we received our schedules. On a day where we had a maximun of 7, I had 5. I know that I should have been happy to be invited to any houses, but it still hurt to be cut by any houses.
My houses:

Wildcat
Beavers
Break
Cougars
Ducks
break
Huskies

Not a bad schedule, though I had to wonder what happened at Sun Devils? I knew I was tired at Bears, but was I that bad? I shook it off and realized that I still had my favorites, and that I’ll be okay. Until I realized all my friends had more parties than me. Denver and Boston had one break each and Chicago had a full schedule of all but one of her favorites. Denver still had bears and Boston hadn’t lost any favorites, so neither one was too upset. It is a weird feeling to have of people choosing your friends over you. Maybe that is insecurity but it is a weird feeling to find yourself with.

Wildcat: It ended up that Chicago and I both had wildcat first. This time we waited inside the house and instead of randomly grabbing us they called our names. The sister and I paired up with another sister/PNM group and did an activity. I did not like the activity much. It was too simple and took maybe a minute. I really hit it off with the other sister while the other girl hit it off with ‘my’ sister. I was really nervous from the cuts I had received and tried to act really enthusiastic with the activity and the house tour. I tried way too hard and I could tell during the house tour inparticular. Still liked the house though.

Beavers: LONG WALK!!! Wildcat and Beavers were on complete opposite ends of Greek Row, but I was really happy to be there. I was not solo this time around, but I loved this sorority. The philanthropy was sweet and the house was great. This activity was a little better. I was able to do something and feel productive anyway. The girl who gave me the house tour made ice feel warm though. It was as if she hated the sight of me. I loved the house more and more even with the tour girl.

I had a break at this time and my boyfriend met up with me for coffee. He isn’t at school but is working. He somehow happened to have this weekend off. Although he isn’t that into the idea of a sorority, (too many bad stereotypes, I think) he was willing to listen to me blab on and on and support me with the cuts.

Cougars: I was grabbed by a new girl this time and paired with another PNM. I felt refreshed from the coffee and the support of my boyfriend, so I decided to try to get invites as much as possible. Cougars were going full force! It was a cute philanthropy activity, but again I felt uncomfortable. The house was cute but I think I was lead through the back way. It looked like the back entrance. It isn't a bad thing, but considering I had only seen the pretty side of the houses, it stuck in my mind. Who knows maybe they were trying to be more real and showing me the actual house. It was the second day and I still hadn’t met any girls I felt like I could be close to. One sister I had was definitely a new sister with how obvious she was with bumping. I am beginning to feel like a lot of the people do not want to be at this house. I love everything about this sorority, their philanthropy, symbols etc. I just wasn't feeling comfortable. I don’t know I still have a few days

Ducks: I was picked up by someone new again, but was paired with one of the girls from yesterday who had known some of the sisters, which made me a little nervous. I was an early girl to be chosen and another sister who was waiting her turn saw me and said hi. She told the sister leading me to have me talk to a sister from my hometown. I felt so special that not only she remembered me on site, but she remembered my hometown as well! Eventually, the other PNM and I were split up as I went to talk to hometown sister. I loved her! She seemed so sad to have to give me to another sister for a house tour . I wanted her to come with me! The house was… amazing. I could see myself in any of the rooms, eating breakfast in the kitchen in pjs, brushing my teeth, just living here and being happy. I also saw an annex house, which I loved the idea of! I feel so silly for disliking the symbols yesterday. I don’t even know why that popped into my head! The philanthropy was also so sweet! I was more in love with this house today than yesterday!

Break number two. This time I ate lunch with the boyfriend, who was sweet enough to meet up with me again and hear me talk. I was lucky to have a break at this time because we would be missing the dining hall dinners and the sororities were only giving us small snacks. Another little pep talk later and I was on my way.

Huskies: I was called by name here and was solo. I learned about activities that the sorority puts on for fundraising and was really surprised by some. I did not do well at the craft but the sister seemed to want to move onto the house tour anyway. I loved the house! Although the downstairs was somewhat dark, the upstairs was roomy. On display were some of the letter shirts they have had over the past few years and I could definitely see myself wearing one.

I was unable to cut any houses so I went home and promptly fell asleep. Everyone else followed suit, after ranking that is, I think we were all still tired from the day before.

I'm waiting for more...

It sounds like you really like the Ducks, but I can't bring myself to root for them, so I'm sticking with Huskies!

Its okay. I understand school spirit. My high school was split between Ducks and Huskies so it was always interesting when the games came up.
The names were randomly put actually so there is no school preference. I love the Mighty Duck movies!

And the wait today is killing me. I only had one class and the reading I am suppose to do is making my eyes bleed.

sounds like you are having fun! ;)

Sounds like you're maintaining a great attitude! I also think it's cute your boyfriend is being supportive, even if he's not so comfortable with GL.

OMG I love your Pac-10 names. Yeah for the Pac-10!


Since ASU isn't there anymore, I can't root for them :p

Sooooooooo

I guess I'm gonna have to go with the 2nd best AZ school (LOL, since I actually went there and joined my chapter there :D, just graduated for ASU though :D) U of A Wildcats.

soooo. go Wildcats!!!!!!!

Day 4
 

Sisterhood
My friends and I did some major tent talking after last night. I know its bad, but it is very hard to avoid. All three were against me even looking at Huskies though only Chicago had returned for a second look. Two still disliked Beavers, but all four of us had returned. All of us returned to Cougars.

I had four invites that day
Not horrible, but Wildcats cut me. I was disappointed, but still tried to be excited.

Huskies: Now I loved this house, but did I love Beavers or Ducks more? With doubt in my head, I went inside. The evening started with a skit. The skit wasn’t horrible, but it wasn’t great. I barely remember what it was about. I was also having trouble paying attention because all my friend’s voices were going through my head. A sister, whom I had not met before picked me up. She seemed nice, but we really didn’t click. There were a lot of awkward silences. I feel like I could have tried harder to connect.

Cougars: Their skit was very creative. I loved the idea and the skit, but a few hinted at stereotypes of other sororities. They didn’t name any outright, but I was able to guess.
I know there are stereotypes and I know that some may be true. The idea of putting a group of girls in one category… well a little piece of me dies at the thought. I think I have decided that I dislike this house. I really feel like I do not fit and I do not feel comfortable, especially with the skit. I know that the skit actually sold a lot of the girls to the house.

Ducks: I was feeling so good when I walked in. A lovely unfamiliar girl picked me and another girl up. We grabbed M&Ms and a Shirley Temple and sat down. I felt at home and very relaxed. The calm turned out to be the eye of the hurricane. The other girl opened her mouth and the storm hit. While I love where I am from, it is not considered a hotspot to travel like SF, NYC, Chicago etc. My hometown is great, but not that big of a tourist destination. So when the other PNM opens her mouth and says “I’m from California. I love this sorority. I am from this town and I want to be here horribly.” (or something of those lines) One would think “okay a little much” until the sister says “OMG I live a half hour from there! It’s my favorite spot! Where did you go to high school?!?!?!” Their conversation lasted the entire time and while I talked to the other sisters that walked over, none bumped or stayed around for very long. What was worse was I loved their skit. It was based off of one of my favorite movies. I was so disappointed and I know this was the last night at the Ducks.

Beavers: Feeling a little defeated, I walked to Beavers. I didn’t like Cougars. I lost Ducks and possibly Huskies. NO way will I lose Beavers too! I jumped a little bit, shook my head, put some lip gloss on and walked in with a smile on my face. I was picked up and was solo again. I loved the first girl I was with. The second girl and I stared at each other for a while before we actually recognized each other. We had been part of a show a little while back, though we worked on different parts of the show. I ended up feeling so great about myself when I left that I couldn’t believe it.

I finally got to cut one, which was Cougars. I know it probably didn’t really matter who I cut because I will probably be cut from Ducks and Huskies.

Tomorrow will be a long day.

Thanks for the responses!
Being from the west, I figured I should do something related to my side of the nation.

I think my boyfriend is doing a great job. Thank you for noticing. I am a little surprised that he is doing so well. He actually came around to the idea before my father and brother.

Keep your head up - you just never know what can or will happen! And yes, it's hard not to listen to tent talk, but try to follow your own intuition. Good luck!

It may or may not be too late, but don't act like you're not good enough for a chapter. They might like you, and you don't want them to be turned off by you acting insecure.

Conversely, don't act like you're too good for a chapter (doesn't sound like a problem for you). Good luck with the rest!