I think you're treading into membership selection territory.

Absolutely under no circumstances does she carry this letter around. The rec letters should be submitted to the chapter BEFORE she goes through rush. And it's not just one standard letter, either. Each sorority has their OWN form they ask their members to turn in when they want to recommend a girl for membership. ABC members only write recs to the ABC house, etc.

Potential New Member. I find it hard to believe that you've read the stickied recruitment threads as you claim. :rolleyes:

10 events in one day - what if she has class? the day she is "down to" 6 is on a monday, which is a class day. what should she do?

Rush and class will not occur at the same time.

You know what?

Quit wondering about it.

If she's concerned about things related to recruitment, she'll ask her Recruitment Counselor.

you are talking here about recommentations. These should be from a member of XYZ to the XYZ chapter. a recommendation from a member of ABC won't count at XYZ. The member of XYZ who is providing the recommendation is responsible to getting that recommendation letter or form to the chapter, not your daughter. your daughter can help by providing a resume and stamped envelope addressed to the chapter to the recommender member, but the member is responsible for sending it in. if an email would be sufficient, that would be between the chaper and the member and the member would know that. Your daughter should not carry recommendations with her to give to the chapters.

i read the general one that was like 5 pages long and i've read the stickies. it's still confusing to someone who hasn't gone through the process and i'm sorry if i am annoying with too many questions. I thought it was ok to do so in this forum. Well, i think i dropped the ball because rush starts this weekend and i wouldn't impose on my friends at this late date - the letter couldn't get there before the weekend anyway. and I don't know how to get this form.
poo. i guess i'm a bad mom....

i'm not worried. i'm excited! she is my first to go to college and she is going to participate in something i never did and i want to learn about it so when she talks to me about it, i don't bombard her with lack of understanding. that's why I'm here.

the stickied threads give you all of the information you need to know. as mentioned before, your daughter will have a Recruitment Counselor who can answer her questions.

Impose on your friends.
You couldn't get the form because you're not a member.
You are not a bad mom, just a little confused.

well I'm not sure which friends were in which houses. it's not something we discuss. haha. and are the forms online forms - because then I wouldn't mind asking. but like I said, rush is this weekend, and I don't really want to ask these ladies to run around trying to get a form from the university. Also, all references have to be from ladies? I know a few fraternity dads too. ha

You are on a roll with the analogies today.:)

You haven't dropped the ball. Your daughter is the one going through recruitment. It is her responsibility to secure her own recommendations, show up to the events and ask her recruitment counselor any questions about the process.

The events will be coordinated around classes, and coordinated so that prospective new members (PNMs) don't have conflicts with parties at different sororities. At formal recruitment, the sororities all work together so there is a master schedule of parties.

All your daughter needs to do at this point is dress appropriately for the events (her Recruitment Counselor will best know how to advise her on the dress code for recruitment at her school; it varies by school each year), put a smile on her face and be a good guest at each event. When she receives invitations, she will use the good judgment you have raised her with to attend the max. number of parties she is invited to for that day. If she is invited to more than the max. number, she will use that same good judgment to cut the list down and keep the max. number of sororities based on the max. number of events that day.

After the final round of recruitment, the sororities will make their final lists of the PNMs they would like to invite to membership. Your daughter will also rank the sororities one last time in her order of preference of where she would like to become a member. If the lists match up, your daughter will receive a sorority bid. Because the sororities may only invite back a certain percentage of women after each round, your daughter may or may not be on the list at a sorority she liked. However, that is where ranking the sororities in her order of preference comes into play. She may not get her first choice, but maybe will get her second, third, etc.

It's a complicated process in that each day, the PNMs attend fewer events at fewer houses. But aside from that, recruitment is simply a week of interviews. Each organization has its own confidential methods of membership selection.

Good luck to you and your daughter.

AZ - are you a mother of a daughter who is an AZ now? Do all you ladies have daughters in houses?