| RedRover |
08-23-2008 10:27 PM |
Tongue-In-Cheek, But...
While the original post was tongue-in-cheek, it reminded me of what happened to a friend of mine.
My friend has been out of the closet as a gay man for many years now. However, while he was in college, he wasn't yet out; in fact, he was in denial about his sexuality, even though many people realized that he was somewhat "light in the loafers."
In college, he participated in fraternity rush, but didn't receive any bids. He will tell you that he was very hurt and very disappointed, but he resigned himself to the fact that membership in a fraternity wasn't going to happen for him.
Fast forward a couple of years. He is out as a gay man. He is sitting in a bar in a well known gay resort community. He sees a guy walk into the bar who looks vaguely familar. He realizes that it was one of the IFC officers at his college when he went there. He sees the former IFC officer leave the bar with a college age preppy (the type of guy that the IFC officer's fraternity favored).
A couple of month later my friend is in a gay bar back in his home state. A guy walks in. He immediately recognizes him as someone he saw at the various rush parties in college and who pledged his roommate's fraternity. He said that guy left the bar with a guy who was anything but Joe College.
My friend claims that he has Greek-dar. He says can tell if a guy at a bar or club or gay venue was a fraternity member in college. He has asked those men if they ever supported a somewhat fey guy for membership in the fraternity (he said that he wasn't going to ask about an openly gay student!). Only man ever said that he did. Most sat back quietly when negative remarks would be made about such candidates. One guy told my friend that he didn't want his fraternity brothers to think he was gay (!!!) if he supported a fey guy for membership.
So, Dad, it is eleven o'clock ... do you know where your son is?
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