I can totally understand where you are coming from about being a better big sister. My little sister this semester lives off-campus and since I carry an office and we have so much going on, I cannot give her the attention that I feel she deserves. But I do make the time to send her a little email of encouragement every now and then or and e-card. Sometimes it is more of quality time than quantity.

I've got two littles, and have really only been welcomed by one. My first little had basically dropped off the face of the earth, and no one from the chapter has heard from her since she left school. I see her maybe once a year at Initiation, if she shows up. What sucks is that we're both living in the same city (I'm an alum) so i'd love to be spending more time with her. But, it's a two way street, so if she doesn't want the contact...my second little and I are a lot closer and talk at least once a month, if not more. Lots of emailing, though!

It's hard when you're alum, because your life doesn't always automatically include thoughts of your GLO. It's easier for me to think "Gotta call my little" because I sit on our chapter advisory board and oversee two executive positions, which requires me to be in contact with each exec member once a week. It's tough, because I still feel like I'm not in contact as often as I'd like...but again, the big-little relationship takes two. So, I think all of us need to stop feeling so bad, 'cuz our littles know how to get a hold of us! :D (Unless you've just got your little, like in the last year, because then I think it takes effort on our part to establish the relationship)

Well, first of all, my big is really sweet, but not a great big. Bigs, please, if you want to be known as the coolest big you have to be there! I am new to the school, the people, the sorority life and my big never invites me to go out, and when she does she ends up leaving early or leaving without me! She makes plans a lot, then leaves or bails. Its not cool, and although shes sweet and nice, shes not cut out to be a big. She is too involved in other things and it doesnt help that she leaves every other weekend to go out of town to see her boyfriend. so...if your a big, try to remember your little is really overwhelmed by all of this. I wish I had a different big many times, b/c I think my opinion of the sorority would be much different.

This semester I took two littles who rock! They live in my building so it's really easy to do stuff like go to dinner together. But 2 does pose some problems. Like today I felt bad leaving an away message up for one of them to come get me for dinner bc I didn't know if the other would see it and be hurt...things like that can get sticky. The morning of our revealing ceremony the one came up to me and said she hoped she wasn't a twin...oopps. But now she's so happy so that's good also. I've tried to do so many LITTLE things for them. I think the best thing to do is to be there for them...last nite one of them came down the hall bc she was upset so I lent her my stuffed elephant to sleep with...random stuff like that is the kind of things you'll remember, not how many gifts she gave ya.

This is a good test. My big bro sucks... he is older so he is not around much, but this is the perfect test. I know that when i have a lil bro I'm going to make sure that there are none.

Another cheap idea is if you own/have access to a CD burner you can make your lil sis a CD of songs that either: she likes, you both like/reminds you of one another, or songs that make you think of your chapter/sisterhood/friendship.

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Awww....everyone's sweet stories about their big/little experiences make me sad that I never had any! :(

I guess I'll just have to live vicariously through you all. :)


......Kelly :)