That's all that I can think of...the slip of paper in the invite said "Subscription Shower or Gift Cards from ... and ..."

It's one thing to say someone is registered at wherever, it's another thing to outright ask for gift cards. Tacky.

OK, when I searched under "subscription shower" the 5th thing that came up was "gay porn used jockstrap" - LOL. So I put "bridal" in. This is what I got.

http://www.saledaddy.com/email_september-06_34.htm

I forgot to update this. A subscription shower is another name for greenback. (?sp)

So they were asking for MONEY and gift cards?

The ONLY time it's proper to ask for $$ is when the bride and groom will be traveling a lot (i.e. in the military) and it would be a PITA to lug many presents around. Other than that, TACKY!! I think I would have given them an actual subscription to "Bird Talk" or something of the like.

haha! i would do something like that too...if only there was some sort of way to register without insulting people all around...i will say this much, i got a ton of gift cards when i had my daughter last year because my sister and girlfriend "casually mentioned" them in conversations lol! it was exactly what i needed and nobody was insulted! worked for my cousin too when she got married. anytime someone mentioned not having a clue what to get her, i would say "oh, well we are getting her a gift card. i know she had mentioned they have a lot of stuff already, and most of the registry has been purchased..."

Registering isn't tacky.
Including the cards in invitations is. That's what friends and family are for -

Guest (calling hostess) - I'm calling to say I will be at Betty's shower. Where is she registered?

Hostess - She's registered at Bed,Bath and Beyond and Macy's. I'm so glad you will be able to come!


How hard was that???:)

No. It was a either/or kind of thing. The bride flew in to her shower, so all gifts would have to be mailed back or packed, and with today's airline fees, it basically could have cost too much to receive the gifts. I understand her Mom's point.

I really do not understand why STORES contribute to tackiness by giving out those cards that say "so and so are registered at BB&B!" When we registered I told the lady straight up "It's poor etiquette to put those in an invitation. You don't invite people and assume they are bringing a gift" She didn't get it...:rolleyes:

i totally agree...i guess the conflict comes in when you figure out HOW to tell people lol...that wedding website idea is looking better and better :rolleyes:

I don't have a problem with the registration information being in a shower invitation because the whole purpose of a shower is to "shower" the bride to be with gifts. The wedding invitation, now that's different.

For my friend's shower, we (the bridesmaids and I) put the the little card in the invite for the shower, but it would never go in the actual wedding invitation.

As for the wedding website, I do have one. Mr. Pi Phi and I are having a destination wedding, so I thought it was the easiest way to get out all the travel information and country information and any other details that people might need. We sent out save the dates with the web address.

It's really handy and I know our guests have appreciated having all the information in one place.

oh my god me too...when my sister threw my baby shower i was the same way...PLEASE no dumb azz party games! of course, i didnt get a say, but im with you KSU, lets eat, open gifts, and celebrate!