Originally Posted by grad (Post 1654468)

No, it's nothing like this. Let me clarify exactly why I don't participate. Here's an example of what one member of another NPHC sorority did (before all this happened between us, I did not know her). I used to date a guy who used to date her. He was not cheating on her with me. They were over before I came into the picture. She didn't agree with that decision so one day she went to my home and slashed the tires of his car while he was visiting. WTH? What self respecting woman in her late 30's does that? Another incident occurred at my house another day where I had to call the police on this woman. This time, he was not there. I took it personal. This had nothing to do with him anymore. She's disrupting MY home, not his. I'm the type that believes if you are an intruder in my home I have the right to shoot your a** for trespassing. Why? Because it's my home and I have the right to defend myself. Obviously I didn't shoot her. Instead I called the police.

Fast-forward to today. If I see her I will give her the a** whooping I didn't give her back then for 1) disrespecting MY house 2) scaring the sh*t out of me in MY own home and 3) being the type of woman who does this crazy sh*t for a stupid man. I mean, come on, she should have known better than to go crazy for a stupid man who didn't want her (God knows we women will if we let ourselves!).

Needless to say, I believe one invites or rejects drama. I reject it. I cut my ties with this man I was dating b/c that was just too much drama for me LOL But now I have to deal with her at NPHC events. And I'm not supposed to whoop her a**? Not supposed to say anything to her at all? Oh, let me tell you I have plenty to say to her! It's been 2 years of self control and yes, I still harbor feelings about it. How could I not?

The reason why I don't go to NPHC events is because I'm actualy worried at how I'm gonna react when I see her and what will happen due to my reaction. I'm not afraid of her. But I'm big on image and the fact that I'm a walking talking billboard for my sorority. Plus if I react, everyone will wonder why. Now my business is out for ALL the greeks in D9 to discuss (and we all know how we do it!)

So what do I do instead? I purposely avoid the situation of being around her b/c I know how I can get LOL. So, this is just one example of why I avoid NPHC events - it's more than dealing with annoying people. Annoying I can handle - I do it all the time at work. But this type of thing is more serious than that. Or am I exaggerating?

Originally Posted by grad (Post 1654468)

I agree 100%




No, it's nothing like this. Let me clarify exactly why I don't participate. Here's an example of what one member of another NPHC sorority did (before all this happened between us, I did not know her). I used to date a guy who used to date her. He was not cheating on her with me. They were over before I came into the picture. She didn't agree with that decision so one day she went to my home and slashed the tires of his car while he was visiting. WTH? What self respecting woman in her late 30's does that? Another incident occurred at my house another day where I had to call the police on this woman. This time, he was not there. I took it personal. This had nothing to do with him anymore. She's disrupting MY home, not his. I'm the type that believes if you are an intruder in my home I have the right to shoot your a** for trespassing. Why? Because it's my home and I have the right to defend myself. Obviously I didn't shoot her. Instead I called the police.

Fast-forward to today. If I see her I will give her the a** whooping I didn't give her back then for 1) disrespecting MY house 2) scaring the sh*t out of me in MY own home and 3) being the type of woman who does this crazy sh*t for a stupid man. I mean, come on, she should have known better than to go crazy for a stupid man who didn't want her (God knows we women will if we let ourselves!).

Needless to say, I believe one invites or rejects drama. I reject it. I cut my ties with this man I was dating b/c that was just too much drama for me LOL But now I have to deal with her at NPHC events. And I'm not supposed to whoop her a**? Not supposed to say anything to her at all? Oh, let me tell you I have plenty to say to her! It's been 2 years of self control and yes, I still harbor feelings about it. How could I not?

The reason why I don't go to NPHC events is because I'm actualy worried at how I'm gonna react when I see her and what will happen due to my reaction. I'm not afraid of her. But I'm big on image and the fact that I'm a walking talking billboard for my sorority. Plus if I react, everyone will wonder why. Now my business is out for ALL the greeks in D9 to discuss (and we all know how we do it!)

So what do I do instead? I purposely avoid the situation of being around her b/c I know how I can get LOL. So, this is just one example of why I avoid NPHC events - it's more than dealing with annoying people. Annoying I can handle - I do it all the time at work. But this type of thing is more serious than that. Or am I exaggerating?

Originally Posted by starang21 (Post 1654499)

FIGHT FIGHT FIGHT FIGHT FIGHT

:GRABS JELLO:

Originally Posted by rhoyaltempest (Post 1654492)

Why did I already know that there was more to it than you were telling at first???

Originally Posted by AKA_Monet (Post 1654502)

I LIKE CHOCOLATE MILK!!! :)

Originally Posted by AKA_Monet (Post 1654491)

This is NOT about being greek or in a GLO. It has to do with BEING a human being.

Originally Posted by AKA_Monet (Post 1654491)

And so what if you act a fool at an NPHC event. You will DEFINITELY NOT BE THE FIRST!!!

Originally Posted by AKA_Monet (Post 1654491)

Who cares about ho-megirl and why would you be in such a state of mind to have to cuss her assets out? How can you LET someone to allow you to get in this state of mind to WANT to do that? You are much better than that--are you not?

Originally Posted by AKA_Monet (Post 1654491)

Who made you judge, jury and executioner?

Originally Posted by AKA_Monet (Post 1654491)

And any kneegrow that pits two women against each other--do I have to guess which fraternity he's in? :rolleyes: Typical...

Originally Posted by starang21 (Post 1654504)

:UNSURE:

THEY DON'T USE CHOCOLATE MILK AS WRESTLING MATERIAL

:UNSURE:

Originally Posted by AKA_Monet (Post 1654508)

Originally Posted by rhoyaltempest (Post 1654492)

It's not like you'd be going to events by yourself. You better not be my soror or else I might have to come and go to an NPHC event with you.;)

Originally Posted by grad (Post 1654505)

I am as a matter of fact, which is why I haven't gone where I know I will see her. I'm just still angry. You're right. 1)I'm LETTING her get to me but I haven't done anything to her have I? I'm making a choice. 2) I feel she LET this man get to her and did not control herself like she should have.
Instead of coming to MY house to do that crazyness, she could have done something else - anything - but what she did.

Originally Posted by AKA_Monet (Post 1654516)

@Bolded starting with #2) That is too much judgement of a behavior you cannot control. NO ONE--NOT even her baby's daddy, will EVER understand her lack of control without medical treatment. And if you are not a licensed clinical psych evaluator--neither should you try to rationalize her actions... All you can do is actually act on your Sorority's programs and give assistance in the form of leaflets or pamphlets or call the crisis center hotline... :rolleyes: (I am so wrong for that, I know ;) ...) In fact, I have a EXCELLENT 1-800 number...

#1) I am happy you have CHOSEN NOT to act on your impulses. That is wonderful. You need to congratulate yourself by giving yourself a heart salutation and gift for your choice of resilience and basically keeping the faith for your enemies.

What would it take for you to move forward on this situation? Just asking?

Originally Posted by ladygreek (Post 1654533)

This went from having issues with members of the other NPHC sororities to having an issue with one person over a man. Posted in the GL forum rather than your own org's forum (which would seem like a better place to ask for such advice) under an assumed name.

I'm not buying it.

Originally Posted by ladygreek (Post 1654533)

This went from having issues with members of the other NPHC sororities to having an issue with one person over a man. Posted in the GL forum rather than your own org's forum (which would seem like a better place to ask for such advice) under an assumed name.

I'm not buying it.