Would that be an issue with the caterers, though?

Also, Mr. Tau said something along the lines of "some of my relatives would not be happy even if certain foods at the reception aren't kosher, even if they aren't going to eat it."

You know, if they're that religious, they probably won't be going to an interfaith wedding, right? I guess I'll find out at his sister's wedding this summer. The wedding is at a country club, so unless the club is historically Jewish, it's unlikely that the food will be kosher at all.

RE: Chinese food - I never said that the food was going to be all Chinese. It was Mr. Tau's idea that we'd have a combination of Chinese food and "Jewish" food at the reception.

BTW: I'm NOT officially engaged yet...we've just been talking, because everyone we know seems to be getting married.

It's his reception, too. If he wants his family to feel welcomed (particularly those who keep kosher), then follow his suggestions. Maybe I'm reading this all wrong, but it sounds like you want one type of reception, and you're upset because he's "going on" about what he wants (which, apparently, is different from what you want).

I agree with those who have said it sounds like you might have more issues than you think.

Sorry for the double-post, but...

Who cares?!? It's your (hypothetical) wedding. If the caterer has an issue with it, find another caterer.

I agree.

The issue of kosher is a common issue that people who have been a unit for almost 3 years could figure out on their own. She came here with (what I considered to be) a difficult to understand invitation into their relatioship issues.

Good luck, Taualumna.

We can't have a dual culture reception if we need to keep kosher. That's all I'm saying. I also don't think his family's as religious as he says they are, but as I said, I'll find out this summer.

Google has a lot of resources.

Here's one board (if this relationship isn't kosher just because of the kosher wedding issue):

http://www.chowhound.com/topics/374701

It's never really been an issue because his immediate family does not keep kosher. I've only met his parents, sister and one or two uncles and aunts (who are not religious).

And yet it seems that others have been to "dual-culture" receptions where there is kosher (not kosher-style) food available.

Seriously, why would you ask if you should split over this issue?

Actually, I'm not sure that other family members have been to dual-culture receptions. In fact, it's very likely his sister's wedding will be the first for many.

I meant other people here on GC.

So why would you SPLIT because of this?

Are you looking for a reason to split?

Just looking for some sort of solution.

Let me get this straight. You're not engaged yet, and you're asking people on a web forum for help in finding a solution -- which according to you could be splitting up, talking or something else -- about the "issue" of what food to serve at the reception? (Okay, to be a little more charitable, about how to keep from offending his more observant not-immediate-family relatives at the wedding.)

Did I get that right?