Originally Posted by blakiceanjel (Post 1646612)

LOL! omg

I know what you mean, I guess. So what does it take for you to know that you want to own her? lol

Originally Posted by tld221 (Post 1646793)

too easy huh?

Originally Posted by blakiceanjel (Post 1646685)

I understand what you're saying, but what if you are committed? I honestly think if someone is going to play around on you they will whether or not you have a title. A bad person might believe that if you don't have the title then you have no reason to be upset, but logical people know the difference.

My situation is a little different. He and I jumped into the relationship too fast, became bf and gf immediately. We were smitten with each other, but he got nervous with how fast everything was moving. He ended up doing something stupid (not cheating so much) and hurting me. We decided it would be better to lose the title and just date. Now we're closer than ever. We spend our whole weekends together, my family loves him (to them he's my bf), he lets me borrow his car, I even have some of my stuff stored in his storage room. But we don't have that title. It bothered me at first, but if he's my acting right I don't need it.

I know it might sound a little naive, but I've been in bad relationships before so I can tell the difference. I think (and I've told him this to which he replied "Maybe".. his version of yeeaaahhh lol) that he's afraid of messing up again. I've tried explaining that even if something bad happened now we'd still be hurt. He's just an over-thinker. lol

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS (Post 1646770)

chick = women and men = men? ;)

Men also do wonder these types of things but may express it differently depending on who they are talking to. The question of title is really about wanting to be clear where the relationship stands (i.e. the lady is with someone) and what they should refer to each other as both in and out of each other's presence.

After a certain age the term "boyfriend" sounds wierd in certain settings so whatever words people choose to express exclusivity, the title is the same. Most people who are in exclusive, non-secret relationship would rather not have their significant other parading around saying "eh...that's my friend."

Originally Posted by Professor (Post 1647860)

i guess - i just say this is constance - i don't say we have exclusive for ten years, that we are a couple, this is my girl - i just say this is constance - i will admit when she introduces me she says this is michael and puts her hand in my hand - this topic reminds me of women when they marry they stop saying the guys name and start saying this is my husband

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS (Post 1647869)

Okay, your personal story aside, can you understand the topic, though?

You've never been with "constance" and someone ask who she is to you? Like "oh, is this your wife, etc." If not, okay.

And when you aren't around "constance" and people are unfamiliar with who "constance" is, what do you say?

Originally Posted by Professor (Post 1647879)

baby

Originally Posted by KAPital PHINUst (Post 1647893)

Personally speaking, if the titles aren't fiance/fiancee or husband/wife, then I neither want nor need a title.


I find it hard to take boyfriend/girlfriend relationships seriously for those reasons: your loyalty is dubious at best when you prematurely stake a claim on someone else's life.

The best "title" I can have for a women for whom we share a mutual interest in each other is simply "friend". And if the friendship deepens, and we decide we want to spend the rest of our lives with each other permanently, then we'll have appropriate titles such as fiance(e) and husband/wife.