Okay, I was in a bad mood when I posted originally, so I'm going to make an adendum.

My mom is a good person, and I do love her very much http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif She's been very good to me and we've been each other's support throughout so much (my dad's death, her cancer) that we're very close. Sometimes things just go the wrong way. But I guess everyone else has their ups and downs too http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif

Of course since coming home I've had to deal with their rules again but I guess overall we're okay. Not that I would be going out all the time while out here in the boring suburbs anyway (unless you live in Chicago, IL is verryyyy boring). My mom can be a nag sometimes but she's really sweet and caring,although sometimes too paranoid that she'll be ringing my cellphone three times while im out asking where i was and stuff...and she STILL asks about my ex, knowing that I still work with him (okay mom!). My dad is really cool. As long as he knows where I'm at he's cool w/ it. He is really modest despite the fact that he makes loads of money over in the Philippines. I grew up w/ my dad because my mom moved to the US while I was very young, and of course, he was the one who had to help me deal w/ the pains of puberty like taking me bra shopping and buying "supplies" everytime I surf the crimson wave. LoL.

Me and my mom are like best friends.

My relationship w/ my dad can be better, however it can be a lot worse.

That's one of the few things in my life that I have it good in....which is a LOT.

My relationship with my parents is great. They let me go out, do stuff, and care about me enough to ask where I go, when I am coming home, and who I'm with. They get mad when they are supposed to, but never overreavt, and are the best ever. We NEVER EVER have gotten into a big fight... mostly because they are cool, and I've always been a good kid. Most importantly, they love me and I love them.

My relationship with my mother is much better now then when I was in college. I have been living out of her home for many years which seems to have help improve the quality of our relationship.

Well said. That's pretty much how it is with me and my parents.

My mom is completely wonderful and is a true friend to me.

My dad and I get along peacefully most of the time but I often disagree with the way he handles personal/family issues which makes me keep my distance at times in order to maintain that peaceful relationship. My dad is also "selectively supportive" of me and can be very controlling (besides the fact that I am an independant adult). I know I am making him sound awful but it's not that bad. Just fundamental differences between the two of us that I have learned to deal with in a healthy manner :)

My relationship with my parents is very good. We are a close-nit family. They are awesome role model. They have supported us (my brother, sister and I) with anything we have done. They have loved us unconditionally, helped and guided us. They have instilled in us good values and morals. Even though they can be overprotective sometimes, they only want us to be safe and do what's best. My parents are great :)

My father is dead. We have no relationship. Didnt have much of one when he was alive.

My mom trys my last nerve. She refuses to accept personal responsibility for her life. My sisters and I are so sick of beign the parents in the relatiosnhip. Shes 58, she needs to act her age. I only talk to her about once a month because shes just too mentally exhausting to deal with. I find her abusive. I have learned tho that I cant change her, just my reaction to her and how I let her affect me. I dont let her bother me. I was on my own at 18 and have been virtually independent long before that. I have paid my own way for everything since 16. I even split rent, bills and groceries with her in HS. She made me. So I really dont owe her anything. She made sure I got to 16. After that I was on my own. Were more like ex-roomates. I wish it was better, but thats the lot soem of us are dealt...

My sister however, is like a mother to me. We talk everyday and she emotionally raised me, so its not like I was a ferral child or anything. I am extremely grateful to her for taking on the responsibility too...

My mom is nice. We're pretty close, and while she doesn't agree with all the decisions I've made about my life, she at least accepts that I'm an adult and I have the right to live my own life.

My dad is another story. He had this nice, neat plan for my life, where I had a 5.0 GPA, was studious (which of course precluded joining a sorority :rolleyes: ), was religious, went for a doctorate (which you do NOT need in my field), didn't date anybody until I had earned said doctorate :rolleyes: , then got married and had kids (and of course, I was to be a virgin on my wedding night). Let's just say I deviated wildly from this plan, and he still hasn't come to terms with it and probably never will.

But, much as I grouse about my father's attitude, it could have been a lot worse... so in many ways, I'm fortunate. :)

I have never been able to relate to these girls who just can't stand their moms. My mom and I were the best of friends from the time I was able to walk and talk. Naturally we had our fights and disagreements, but never anything lasting. Even in my teens, she was still my closest friend in the world. She wasn't one of those flighty "buddy" moms though, who refuses to grow up and be a parent. She was a MOM first.....then my friend. Once I was grown and married and having my own baby, it was even better. There truly was no other friend in my life I preferred to be with. We worked at the same place and still hung out together on the weekends. She was the most amazing grandmother in the world once my little girl came along. My mom died almost 3 years ago and I am not going to rehash the story again but it was the single most traumatic experience of my life. I am still having a hard time dealing with it.

My dad and I finally have a pretty solid relationship. He and my mom never had the best marriage and it finally fell apart when I was in college. He is remarried now and very happy, and he makes a good effort with me now. He is a good grandpa and even though he has moved away and I don't see him that much, he is a lot more loving and affectionate than he was when I was growing up. I always knew he loved me, but he just didn't have a lot of time for me. He was building his business and traveling a lot, and since my mom and I were so close I guess he felt like he could let her take care of me. But when she was dying he was so amazing....he knew what it was doing to me and he was so completely there for me. There was nothing he wouldn't have done. When I was a kid we never actually said "I love you" to each other, and there wasn't a lot of hugging and kissing; when I was really little I always used to go wrestle around with him before bed but that was about it. Now he always says "I love you" when we are saying goodbye on the phone and he always gives me hugs. My kids adore him.

My advice is.....whether your relationship with your 'rents is great or not, try to make the most of it while you have them. Nobody ever loves you like your parents do even if they aren't the best at showing it.....you only get one mom and dad and you never know when they are going to be taken from you. And you never fully understand the things they did and the way they raised you until you become a parent yourself. I understand my mother so much now, and I wish with all my heart that she was here for me to tell her so.

I'm very close to my mom, though we have had our moments. For the most part, she's my best friend/strongest ally. If ever I need anything, I know she's there. Basically, I'm her 30 years younger, though I like to think without the manic depressive moments ;) I am momma's baby, though-benefit to being the youngest and only girl :)

Dad is another story. He's a great guy...as long as you're not married to him or he didn't contribute to your gene pool. He's never been a real "dad". He's more like the crazy alcoholic uncle that teases you at Thanksgiving and who you avoid phone calls from the rest of the year. I can hang out with him, have a beer, talk about the Bengals or whatever, but I would never go to him with a REAL problem.

RubberSoul-My advice is.....whether your relationship with your 'rents is great or not, try to make the most of it while you have them. Nobody ever loves you like your parents do even if they aren't the best at showing it.....you only get one mom and dad and you never know when they are going to be taken from you. And you never fully understand the things they did and the way they raised you until you become a parent yourself. I understand my mother so much now, and I wish with all my heart that she was here for me to tell her so.

So much truth in your post-beautiful, and heartbreaking because of the depth of your feelings.
Have no thoughts of wishing you could tell her...she knows. If you believe as I do, she feels it everyday, shares your joy and helps guide your hands. So much love. She must be very proud.