Wow. I do NOT envy you!

This happens sometimes, and you know what? I strongly believe people will come around. Eventually, she'll make a mistake, and what and who she REALLY is will start to show through. The problem with manipulators is that they will eventually spin so many webs that they'll start to forget what lie they told to who. And when it happens, things will unravel for her very quickly. It might not happen right now or even in the near future, but it'll happen.

In the meantime, if you ALWAYS do the right thing and ALWAYS take the high road, even though it's hard, she'll have no ammunition against you. There will be some sheeple in every organization, but your more astute members will be able to see through her and put two and two together. If you're the kind of person who is above reproach, her character assasinations will do no good whatsoever.

Agreed, it's very hard for someone to gossip about you if you are in the same room as they are.

Unless they literally have no conscience, which could be likely with this crazy one!

I would just ignore the BS and go to the meeting. You both are alumnae now. Perhaps with a little distance, and other things in life taking priority, this may not be as big an issue anymore. Also, she may not be there. You won't know unless you go. In fact, many people may not show up. Alumnae participation is not always what people want it to be-even with an invitation. The important thing is to be there for the collegians-after all, it is your sorority, but their chapter.

Hooray for the ban.

One down, 3942083423846293684234 to go.

I would smack her in the ovaries

Is this the return of frattypalmtree?