Same at my school. I've never heard of a fraternity man giving his pin to a girl. For us it goes lavalier, promise ring (which is like promising yourself), engagement. I personally feel that promise rings are silly (why not just skip it and get engaged?), but a lot of other people are really into it. It also seems to be a curse in my chapter though, just about every girl that gets promised goes through a bad breakup with that guy within a year....

Bite off!:D

Normaly wearing letters means that you are dating a member of a GLO. You are under their protection as some of the following below!:) But this was in the olden days when Men were Gentlemen and Females were Ladies!:cool:

Lavielering is you are getting serious and is pre anything.

Being Pinned by a Male of a GLO is the next thing to engagement to be wed.

Would I give my Badge to anyone, no! I worked to damn hard to get it and It is mine!:cool:

I know on my campus it is not very common, if still practiced for lavaliering. sp? Some sweethearts get to have a badge, and wear stitched letters. Most other girls can wear screen printed letters. I told my bf about lavaliering, keep hinting, but no idea what he talks about to his guys!

I've started talking to one of his brothers (an alum) who knows more about Greek life on a broader scale. The wheels have been set into motion...maybe. :-)

ooo! I hope so!!! I've tried to get things in motion, but the LCA's here are all not tuned into the cute things. :-/

I think that it is just the guys at our school in general. I have never heard of any girl being lavaliered period, its just not popular :( too bad, it would have been awesome. The closest thing we have is sweethearts being able t wear badges. My boyfriend is a Sigma Chi and we have been together for two years and I am not allowed to wear letters

I would feel weird wearing his letters on a sweatshirt. I borrowed his sweatshirt once when we were at a bus stop and I kept thinking, "Omg what if someone sees me!"

I DO, however, want to make shirts that say "If I were a guy, I'd be a Theta Chi" I think it's different because Theta Chi is spelled out. Or am I just being weird about that?

I do not think that the boys would say anything if I did... but I would feel weird. We do have screen-print shirts though. Last year the boys had shirts made for our entire chapter (several of the sisters are dating brothers) that said AEPhi Loves Sigma Chi one the front (in letters) and then on the back it had the last line from the sweetheart song with AEPhi inserted fro Sigma Chi. They are really cute!

Yeah, I know what you mean. Haha, maybe I should change my GC name...Lucy is my dog's name. :-P
Maybe I just associated the lettered shirts with membership and lavaliers with something different? That's the best answer I can come up with. Although (correct me if I'm wrong), I don't think the significance of the letters "Theta Chi" are secret. The helping hand? I hear that all the time.

Awkward!
 

Sooo I brought it up again. We were at a restaurant two nights ago, and I asked him if he knew what a lavalier was (again) then re-explained it. I told him how sometimes girls in sororities will give their littles a lavalier with the sorority's letters after they are initiated. Then I started to tell him about guys giving girls their fraternity letters on a lavalier. I said something like, "I just think it's super cute." It got awkward for about 2 seconds, then our food arrived.

Ahhhhh! I give up.

Awww! I go to school up north, and they don't do the lavaliering, but my boyfriend was very determined to not give up his pin (he told me never ever ever would he give it to me!) so I mentioned about it a little bit, and one of the older brothers mentioned that his older brothers (biological) had lavaliered his girlfriend, so my boyfriend thought about it, and was very against it at first, but after awhile, decided to do it.

He lavaliered me on my birthday (and then pinned me a few months later-that was over 2 years ago!)

I hope it works out for you!

I think he's gonna lav me on our anniversary but I don't wanna get my hopes up! Ahhh he's been dropping hints, and I think that's what it is. Ahhhh!

P.S. What on EARTH should I get him? He doesn't wear jewelry or else I would have gotten him a Theta Chi ring.

Does anyone know about sweetheart letters? My big sis was telling me that people used to make sweatshirts with the frat letters and sorority letters on them to show that people were dating. I wanted to make my friend (ok well he's more than a friend) sweetheart letters, but i want to know what his punishment would be, before I make them. I dono if it helps to know where he is, He's a Phi Kappa Psi in Missouri and I'm a Delta Delta Delta in California.