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tld221

11-23-2007 02:38 AM

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Originally Posted by trideltrockstar (Post 1552042)

I also had a bad experience with my big. We never spoke really, I never talked to her online or on the phone, I didn't even have her cell number. She ended up desisterizing a semester later. She was extremely shy, and not a mean person by any means, but we had nothing in common and would never have been friends. She didn't even tell me she was desisterizing, she didn't even tell us in chapter or send an email to the chapter...they just told us point blank and that was it.

I ended up getting adopted by another sister shortly afterwards, and now that I am a senior all the younger members think that she was always my big and don't even know about my first 'real' big.

please tell me that is a phrase you are using and not something that is in your chapter's vocabulary.

IsobelS

11-26-2007 04:07 PM

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Originally Posted by exlurker (Post 1551342)

#1: Since she's dropping the sorority at the end of the semester, the problem is pretty much going to be solved in a few weeks, right? Just maintain your dignity, steer clear of her as much as possible, and as others have said try for special bonding relationships with other members.

I really agree with this person!! I had a terrible Big who made it difficult for me to do a lot of my pledge-related duties. She wasn't very supportive at all and she even got me into trouble a few times for things that she did! But in the end I just stayed clear of her and she ended up dropping out of the sorority right after I became active. Now I hardly even think about it because the rest of my pledge experience was so enjoyable except for that, and it worked itself out anyway.

PhiLove83

12-11-2007 10:03 PM

Ultimately your big does not have to be your best friend in a sorority... it is just someone that you looked up to at the time. As time goes on you may look up to different people anyways just form a special bond with other sisters in your sorority. She is the one who is being petty about a gift.

kathykd2005

12-11-2007 10:07 PM

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Originally Posted by tld221 (Post 1552054)

please tell me that is a phrase you are using and not something that is in your chapter's vocabulary.

I'm fairly certain that for all NPC sororities, the term is technically "deactivating."

AnchorAlumna

12-11-2007 10:09 PM

The term, for us anyway, is "resign."

KappaKittyCat

12-11-2007 10:16 PM

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Originally Posted by AnchorAlumna (Post 1561703)

The term, for us anyway, is "resign."

Same here. We do say "depledge," though, to refer to the termination of membership for a non-initiated member.

sageofages

12-11-2007 10:18 PM

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Originally Posted by kathykd2005 (Post 1561701)

I'm fairly certain that for all NPC sororities, the term is technically "deactivating."

In our case, it is NOT known as "de-anything". It is known as "relinquishing membership" or if still a Phi, then it is "breaking a pledge".

KSUViolet06

12-11-2007 10:32 PM

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Originally Posted by kathykd2005 (Post 1561701)

I'm fairly certain that for all NPC sororities, the term is technically "deactivating."

In Tri Sigma, the term for an initiated member who officially resigns is "termination".

I believe if a new member leaves, it is termed "depledging."

PageantDiamonds

12-12-2007 02:37 PM

You could pour sugar into her gas tank.

Leslie Anne

12-13-2007 03:54 AM

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Originally Posted by PageantDiamonds (Post 1562138)

You could pour sugar into her gas tank.

...for posterity. :D

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