what the hell is with everyone referring to their daughters as D? is there some kind of secret greekchat dictionary that I don't get/know about?

Oh you know I was speaking objectively! ;)

I'm sure that, in certain chapters of our fine organizations, $$$ does guarantee your legacy bid. :rolleyes:

But that's for a whole 'nother thread.

If people typed out Daughter all the time, that would be too confusing on everyone -- DUH!!!!

:p

I know. It's annoying as hell, isn't it?

It's like they refer to their daughters as 'D' on another online message board, and then some asshat decides to tell those people about GreekChat then they invade here like crazy! Oh wait...

[patiently waits for the crazy recruitments to be over so that GC can attempt to be normal again]

This is like the great Kazo invasion of 05 (?), but more annoying.

Yes. Please make it stop.

KAZODIASS!!!!

I remember that was my new favorite word at that time.

Nothing beats the Frattys, though.

I'm not sure what chapters of our fine organizations you all have in mind, but I don't think it even guarantees a bid in the SEC chapters, and you know, we're crazy and stereotypical and superficial and mean to fat people and stuff, and if any chapter would let someone buy a bid, surely it would be the SEC. Roll Tide, Woof, War Eagle, HottyToddy!

But seriously, I don't think that alumnae should believe that remaining active and financial supportive means for sure that a legacy would get a bid, but you can be sure that my support will follow my hypothetical kid if you cut her and I think it's a perfectly reasonable position for others to hold as well.

And this case points to the fact that the factors that cause groups to drop legacies might often be lame. I wonder if the mean girl will make up for the loss of support to the chapter over time?

Sure! The more the merrier!

I'm trying to go for a truth in advertising thing. All the recruitment stuff if fascinating to me, but I don't actually know how any of it works. When I think I do, then I find out I'm wrong.

CuteASABug: Good Original Post! :D




I need to learn that myself even though I could have an 18 year old Daughter, but don't... :( :D

awww thank you :D

Mean girl needs to be prayed for, because her issues of spite go far deeper than sorority. this is a valuable lesson of maturity for your daughter and you, and I think your D is in the right spot. Be a proud donator to your D's new chapter!

GatorMom, I'm sorry things did not work out with your daughter's legacy chapter. One of my friends experienced this when she rushed at UF several years ago. She was dropped by her legacy, but had a wonderful experience as a sister of another chapter. Mom was upset about it at the time, but her other children pledged her legacy, the elder sister was happy, the younger were happy and life continued for all-- mom was involved with supporting both chapters after the hurt feelings went away.

Please remember that the members of the chapter who are there now are not the same ladies you pledged with. This does not mean they're not a great chapter, but your daughter found the place that was right for her, and I hope she will enjoy her new sisterhood as much as you enjoyed yours. Please don't let this sour you on the school or the Greek System (or the chapter!) that brought you so much happiness when you were her age.

Go Gators! (I can officially say that now that I've been a UF grad student for one week...)

Gatormom, that must have been an incredibly difficult experience for your daughter and especially for you. But as was said earlier, money doesn't guarantee a bid. If it did then in fact we alums would be guilty of buying our children's friends. With that being said though, if there was 1 mean girl who purposely blocked your daughter then that's not fair either. Had this situation occurred in my Chapter, I hope I would have looked into what was going on. If the Chapter wants to release the legacy of a valued and generous alum, I would want to make sure there was more "cause" than 1 mean girl's personal vendetta.

But at this point there is nothing that can be done. I am happy your daughter found a home elsewhere. My advice is the next time your Chapter solicits you for donations you should respond with a polite note saying you have donated to your sorority's national philanthropy as you feel your money would be more useful there.