See, I'm not sure if I agree that you shouldn't give the ring back. Sure, you shared many great times and it sounds like he might still be hurt by the lose of your relationship - but I have my mom's class ring, and someday this guy might have a daughter that he might want to give it to. Your children won't care about his class ring - they probably won't ever know him. And if you keep thinking about wanting to give it back to him, you already have your mind made up. You just have to act on it.
I don't think sending it is a bad idea. But I think that a little note would be nice...perhaps a little, "thought you'd like to keep this for that new someone special in your life." Not to mention that class rings cost money, and perhaps he spent money on his. It was special to him, and that's why he gave it to you. But you obviously need to move on, and this is your way of doing it. It's not an action meant to hurt him - plus, it might remind him of the good old days and bring a smile to his fact. HIS daughter should have it in her jewlery box.

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VERY good point BCNUQT. Having a relationship similar to Sue's in my past, I just recommend CAUTION above all else.

Amy

Thanks BCNUQT - very good advice!

Ames- just sent you the longest email giving you the low down on Pike man, ATO man and TKE man! It is like a soap opera!

Update
 

I mailed the ring back to him at his dad's house in October and last Friday- he (the ex) called me here at work. We talked for about 1/2 hour and the conversation went really well- just went over old times and who is where / doing what. We are both married so it wasn't uncomfortable at all.

He did say the sweetest thing- "I don't care if you gave the ring back or not- our relationship is not over until I say it's over!!"

So, I'm glad I gave the ring back to him. It all worked out!

Sue :)

I too would love to find my ex. He just had his 30th birthday last week and it got me thinking, a lot of growing up has been done by now!!!! Beyond the "romance" aspect, we were just very close friends. I hurt him a lot, I know, and he played the psycho games for awhile....he even staked me out at my job when he came back into town, after I was married!! But I'd still like to talk to him now that it has been so long. It would be nice to know how his life is. I was a bit offended though, that he did not so much as send a sympathy card when my mom died. He knew how close we were and he had been very close with her too....he continued calling her even after Brent and I got together. His parents came to the calling hours, but no word from him. When Brent's dad died every chick he ever so much as said hello to came out of the woodwork.

Along that line, I just found my ex from like 5 years ago. And we have started talking and we are still in love just as much, actually more, than we were before! And, since we have both grown up so much, we are now able to have a serious and mature relationship. I am so HAPPY!!!!! Just thought I would share!!

GIVE BACK!!!!!!:(

Anything given in the heat of lust, passion, or stupidity is a loan only!:eek:

Why would you want to keep it anyway? To be vindictive?:confused:

I think you should give it back. He may have already forgotten about it by now... but even if he has I think he would appreciate it back. And I doubt he would think you were trying to get back with him as long as you didn't act flirtacious. Hope the advice helps :o)

Thanks sweetie!! The sweetest thing was, he is divorced now, but told me I am the one he should have married and is going to marry me. Ok, sounds odd writing that, but I guess you had to be there when he said it. It wasnt a question or a remark, it was a flat out statement. We were together for 2 years and had discussed marraige then. So atleast he realized his mistake (tee hee hee)And that is ok by me!!!!!

AOII Angel, he obviously made a big mistake...I'm glad he came to his senses, though! I bet when y'all broke up you never thought it would all work out this way! :)

Sue, I'm glad it all worked out! Sounds like you made the best possible decision... I'm proud of you!

take it to the pawn shop... just kidding..

just mail it to his parents house.

Well, at least he can admit when he is wrong!!! And once we split, I never thought I would ever speak to him again, but hey, things work for a reason......and Santa gave me my present early, I got a wonderful man who loves me!!! (yeah, I have been a big cheez ball since our date Sat. night!!)