Personally, for me I'd rather a girl tell me the truth, be forthright with me, and tactful. I figure the truth does hurt sometimes. Deliberate or not. I have much more respect for a girl that makes the effort to be honest with me. That way I have closure on it. Even if it leaves me with some grief.

Kevin.

Merely a question of semantics.

What do you all consider a "hook-up"? I know people who are like, "yeah, i hooked up with him", and all they did was talk and kiss. then, i know others that, for them, "hooking-up" us going all the way.

I tend not to talk about my relationships, even casual ones, in sexual terms.

One I don't find it a novelty to impress people (the most common reason we men share stories).

Two, there is a double standard and I am not unprepared to protect women from the gossipy consequences.

I do reserve the right to share interesting stories . . . so long as it doesn't invovle anyone current and you have no way of knowing who the lady is.

Ok kind of a long prep for a simple answer:

I never thought of hook-ups that didn't involve going "all the way" to be significant enough to remember or even think about later.

I have since discovered that people, especially women generally look at a hook-up as just kissing or fooling around to some degree minus "going all the way".

I used to think that when people said they were "with" people they meant the complete deal (which caused some misunderstandings) because less than that didn't seem important to me.

However, I have also been told that some girls use "hooking-up" as a kind of way to keep score because they are getting significant attention from a guy without the stereotype of having sex with him. So a girl "hooking-up" a lot shows she is competitive and desirable, the same way a guy would use Actual sexual partners in a score keeping system.

Of course this is only my experiences.

Have you ever seen the movie "Swinger" that would totally answer any questions that you may have on this topic...according to the movie...wait 2 days before calling the 1st time!!!!!

as a side note...the movie is great...and I highly recommend it!!!

PERFECT Brooklineu!!!

Guys--memorize her post and treat it as GOSPEL.


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I second that. I try to practice some of those same policies. Especially the part about calling when I say I'm going to. I only wish that a certain other person followed that same policy...

I'll shut up about her sometime, I promise.

Hi Kevin! I meant desparate in the pushy, eager type of way http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif It is never good to call right after, immediately following the date no matter how good IMHO!! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif But otherwise call when you say you will! I have to agree, we women sometimes do send mixeed signals, but all in all, we DO want you to do things that you say you will! then we think, "oh, cool...a man that actually keeps to his word!"

Sammie17,

Thats cool http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif Just curious. I agree, your right. However I do think it goes both ways. Maybe theres some psychological reasoning with control. That there always has to be someone that has more of it in any relationship.

Kevin

I'm strongly considering printing out copies of BrooklineU's post, hand delivering it to every male I know, and then posting it throughout the rest of campus http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif

brooklineu - You said it ALL. Amen!

ok, if someone gets a number and says "ill call you" ... i think that they should have anywhere in the next week to call..... if you meet someone on saturday, and your interested, call sometime during the week, if its late in the week, like friday night at 330am (LOL).. just say 'sorry it took so long for me to call, but i had a test' (even if you Didnt have a test, who cares?... you were busy)

but DONT, and i repeat DONT call 2 weeks later.... thats not cool.

the person you're calling will either think "wow, youre a jerk for waiting two weeks, WHO have you been busy with?" OR "oh my god, how creepy. someone kept my number for TWO WEEKS without calling."

i mean, just picture it, some poor chump sitting in front of the phone, the girls number already memorized, and dialing 6 numbers and hanging up before he finishes dialing, over and over again, for two weeks straight. thats the kind of person you dont want to get messed up with. crazy!

so if you meet her saturday, i think you've really got till friday to call. PERSONALLY, id like the call to come wednesday at about 430.... but thats just me. LOL

kate

what if you lose the number after calling once and she says call back but u can't. then y ou find it. then what?

most likley, she will not believe you. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/frown.gif Sorry. We've all been played with that line one too many times to buy it.

I think every lady should ask a guy out at least once to know what guys go through.

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Isn't this all about equality? Why do we always have to make the first move?