When parents have never gone to college or been members of a GLO, they do not understand of course.:o

I was the first for both and they learned to love the Brothers of the local and the LXA Colony! Became second parents for many!:)

One of our Presidents never told his parents that he was in a Fraternity as they were strongly against it because of being farmers in Kansas and felt poor. It was a waste of money and time!

We had a Founders Day and they showed up while a bunch of were standing on the deck when the came up! They asked for Jerehma AND one of the Guys holloraed at him inside of the house and he came out and was totally surprised.

The presented him with an emerald Badge as they were so proud of him.

Wow what a surprise for J and all of us!:D

So that you wonder what is going on and when parents find out there is much more than doing parties they feel fine!

Ask them to come over, find out what you do as far as charity events and running offices on campus and being involved!:)

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I can relate to what Susan says. I too am a CA and I get phone calls from parents about "mandatory" events and why are there parties on school nights.

There are Fraternity events that are mandatory but those are usually once a year. There are certain chapter events that are mandatory but we try to limit those.

Almost all events are Sunday through Thursday because almost everyone goes home on the weekend. If we get our new house, maybe that will change.

Show the calendar and pictures.

Does your chapter have a parents club and/or newsletter? That would help.

I live on campus, but it's in my hometown (I live 20 minutes away from home). I guess my mom is having a hard time letting me go. I'm the oldest, so this is all new for my mom. My mom did say at the beginning of the school year that is was harder for her knowing that I was only 20 minutes away, yet she still couldn't see me. Thanks to everyone for the advice! I'm hoping that next year she will have a completely different attitude about my commitment to Alpha Gam. :)

You didn't mention, but did you maybe spend more time with her before you joined the sorority? You did mention that it's been hard for her to adjust to your being away from home. Maybe make a plan to spend some quality time together, and keep the date.

It also sounds like maybe she thinks sorority stuff will get in the way of academics. Really study for and do well on a few papers/exams/projects, whatever, and show her the results of your hard work. Also maybe you can take advantage of house study hours, study files, study-buddies, etc, and let her know that your sisters are helping you that way. Once she sees you are not sacrificing school work for fun, she may realize that she doesn't have to worry about that.

I didn't have any problems breaking the news to my parents. Of course, when I explained to them what Gamma Sigma Sigma was all about, they were thrilled that I was doing more to help out the community. (I get more flack from my friends, about it not being a "real" sorority since we're service oriented, etc) My mom and dad were thrilled when they found out I got in last week. :)

I commend you on sticking to your guns. As you get along in college/life, your mom's going to see you less and less. By standing firm and attending things like chapter, even if your mom doesn't understand why it's important to do that instead of spending time with her, is part of the whole push-pull process of becoming a fully independent adult. If you were still living under her roof, that would be one thing, but if you're living at campus you'll most likely find yourself becoming more and more independent from your family.

Holding strong at this phase will only help your mom deal with the inevitable, bigger transitions in the future (i.e. getting a job and moving away).

It verys by Organization of course. The size of the campus and Greek Organizations.
Normaly it will of cost more joining any group on campus. Many times the cost of living in a GLO house is a little cheaper than either on campus or off campus as the rent.

But, what it costs is the important thing!

What do you get out of being a member of a GLO!:D

You learn to:

run your life.
you learn to lead in your life.
you learn how to work with people who may not be just like you.

You will learn how to be more productive at a lot cost than you may think!:)

it must be hard to try to help your mom understand and to help her accept that you are getting on with your life as you should. do you go home every weekend(and spend the night) or are you expected to be there for sunday dinner? it sounds like you might need to wean your mother from you being so available.

would it work into your schedule for you to set aside a day, or an afternoon, to spend with your mom-just you and your mom, noone else? tell her that is her special day, to do what she would like to do with you.

lynn had a brought up a great idea-if your chapter doesn't have a parents club, maybe your mom could help start one. that would involve her in the sorority and help her meet other parents.

It varies from campus to campus, and chapter to chapter.

If you know where you will be attending college (or at least have it narrowed down to a few campuses), you should be able to get the information specific to that campus from the Greek Life office. It may even be available on their website. NPC groups are required to make this information available as a part of rush. I'm not sure whether fraternities have the same requirement nationally (you didn't mention your gender, so I'm not sure which pertains to you :) ), but I know that many campuses do have fraternity info available anyhow.

That will help you get the information most relevant to you. Rather than a hodge podge of info from GC posters around the country from very different campuses.

It will vary from GLO to GLO!

But, in the overall picture it will be well worth it in the People that you meet and become Brothers with if you so do.

You can and learn so much more, how to be a part of a larger group, become an Officer and learn how to lead others. It will also be expected to have good grades to help not only yourself but your Brothers of the chapter.

Will you learn to be a part of something bigger yes. Will you donate time for helping others than yourself, yes.

Will there be Brothers who may halp you down the road upon graduation or members of other GLOs, yes.

So, what is the cost on that?

There is only one person that needs to make that decission and that it you!:)

"I will never tell a person to not go Greek"!:D

paulam
 

I learned that we had a Mothers' Club in my hometown and urged my mother to attend a meeting. To her surprise, she found two of her card playing buddies (her girls as she called them) were members of the Mothers' Club and since she had known their daughters since they were babies, I had her blessing. My Mom ended up being President of the Mothers' Club and turned into an avid booster. We invited our parents to our yearly formal and made sure to acknowledge them and honor them for their support on Parents Weekend.

We also asked for help in organizing our house and they threw us a "shower" with our alumnae chapter to help us obtain new items.

My Mom particularly liked the idea of mandatory study nights and she was proud when I rose to a position of leadership in my chapter. Keep emphasizing the positives and get your parents involved.

Long time SDT alum wishing her Mom was still around.

Amazing how small the world is.:D

Thank You!

This is an older thread, but I'll chime-in anyway.

The best way to get parental support, from my experience as a Greek Advisor, is to keep your grades up and talk about all of the positive benefits a GLO membership has for you.

You may be fueling the fire by constantly defending your decision. If she brings up something negative about it, ignore it or change the subject.

If your grades sharply increase from the norm, and she asks how you did it, say, "Well, they have mandatory study groups and tutor's available" or however your organization has it set up. Anytime you are doing volunteer work, make sure she knows that.

When she sees the benefit and the results of it, that is how you make the "sale".

However, I always tell students, ultimately you grades are your #1 priority. A GLO membership isn't going to help you if you barely keep the minimum to stay in, and those kinds of grades aren't going to get you into graduate school.