i want to reiterate that there is a distinct possiblilty that the sorority does not realize that you must wait until the fall before you can pledge another group. i agree with the suggestion that you contact whomever invited you to the sisterhood event and tell them that you would love to attend the event and get to know more about them, but you wanted them to know that you will not be able to accept a bid until the fall.

DO try to get reccomendations to as many of the sororities as you can before fall recruitment rolls around. it won't hurt you to have a rec. for each house, but it [I]may[I] hurt you not having them. ask former teachers, your friends parents, your parents friends and co-workers, relatives and the girl you know from the swimming pool. as otw told you in your other thread, a rec. written to "abc" sorority just needs to be written by a member of "abc, not a member of "abc" at your school.

thanks everyone! I've taken your advice into acount, and I'm going to make it known that I can't accept a bid, and see where it goes from there, if they still want me to go, I guess I will!

I'm also going to try and get some rec's they can't hurt~

Thanks again everyone for all your advice!!

let us know....

Yes, get recs. Having a strong rec. is always good.

How did you get invited to the event in the first place? Are you friends with women in the house? Did you see a mass posting for the event? Did they get your name from the greek life office? If you give a little more information about how your received an invitation, it may be easier to guess what their intentions are.

I was invited via e-mail and facebook- I'm guessing they contacted me because i attended an open house with one of my friends and signed a guest book?


Actually I talked to them today and I feel better about it! Thanks everyone for your advice!!

Maybe you should follow your 1st thoughts. If you really want to go, I don't see why it would be a waste of time. I mean you don't wanna not go and wish you did. Really, I would follow my 1st instinct.