I agree that biology/human physiology sets us apart...WAAAYYYY apart! BUT-- I hate having my behavior, culture, thought processes, reactions, feelings, interests, wants, needs, desires, etc., predicted and grouped in one category with other women just on the basis that we all menstruate! There is NOT another woman in this universe who is/thinks/acts/reacts/feels/looks EXACTLY like me, so I have issues with men who treat me, communicate with me, jugde me and react to me based on stereotypes and generalizations about women. I have heard that men have the same issue--they don't want us to stereotype them or judge them based on old boyfriends and relationships. True, we should learn and grow from our relationships and experiences, but NEVER should we make judgements and generalizations about people. We need to take time to get to know them first!

YES, I am a woman, but--
Maybe I don't like to shop;
Maybe I don't like to talk;
Maybe I hate foreign films;
Maybe I like having sex more than YOU do;
Maybe I can hoop better than you can;

YES, You're a man, but--
Maybe you have to remind ME of the date of our first kiss;
Maybe you are as repulsed by pee on the seat as I am;
Maybe you think Erykah Badu is sexier with a short crop;
Maybe you have more clothes and shoes than I do;
Maybe you know what a doily AND a duvet are;
Maybe you're a neat-freak AND a great cook;
Maybe you think "talking it out" is the best way;

To hell with gender schema and those d@!# stereotypes!

PS: Brothas, while I'm on the subject--PLEASE STOP CALLING WOMEN "FEMALES"!!! We are homo sapiens, just like you--any living creature can be a female, but only a lady/woman/girl is a human being.

And I'm OUT!

the411


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Pi Kappa, SP97
#3 of QUINTESSENCE

[This message has been edited by the411 (edited May 02, 2001).]

Sista, I am feeling your message. I don't like to stereotype either, but you do sort of have to know your audience. No one group or sex has a one size fits all personality. Those were just humorous generalities.

BTW: I am really into women that love sports. If I could chill with a woman who can discuss a zone blitz and a cross-over dribble, then I would be honored to accompany her into Nine West and Bath and Beyond anyday. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif

[QUOTE]Originally posted by DoggyStyle82:
Ladies, do any of these apply to you?

**Okay DoggyStyle, you asked for it! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif **


-If you think you're fat, you probably are. Don't ask us. We refuse to answer.

**only once you get past a certain age! my sons answer but my husband takes the fifth**

-Learn to work the toilet seat. If it's up, put it down.

**and if it's down, put it up. in our defense sometimes ya just gotta go, like in the middle of the night or coming home from work**

-If you won't dress like the Victoria's Secret girls, don't expect us to act like soap opera guys.

**point taken**

-Don't cut your hair. Ever. Long hair is always more attractive than short
hair. One of the big reasons guys fear getting married is that married
women always cut their hair, and by then you're stuck with her.

**I cut my hair to a TWA (teeny weeny afro) about 6 months after I got married. since it was only chin length and I wore it back most of the time, it didn't matter. in fact, my husband encouraged it. and I look GOOD I might add http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/cool.gif **

-Birthdays, Valentines, and Anniversaries are not quests to see if we can find the perfect present yet again!

**you'll never find the perfect gift because we always change our minds!**

-If you ask a question you don't want an answer to, expect an answer you don't want to hear.

**don't ask, don't tell?**

-Sometimes, we're not thinking about you. Live with it. Don't ask us what we're thinking about unless you are prepared to discuss such topics asnavel lint, the shotgun formation, or power tools.

**what the _____?**

-Sunday = sports. It's like the full moon or the changing of the tides.Let it be.

**only during football season**[/B

-Shopping is NOT a sport, and no, we're never going to think of it that way.

**but we can shop while you watch sports, right?**

-When we have to go somewhere, absolutely anything you wear is fine. Really.

**its fine until you see how other men react!**

-You have enough clothes.

**NEVER**

-You have too many shoes.

**try telling that to me when I am tearing the room apart getting ready for work or going out. a woman can NEVER have too many shoes**

-Crying is blackmail.

**sometimes...**

-Ask for what you want. Let's be clear on this one: subtle hints don't work. Strong hints don't work. Really obvious hints don't work. Just say it!

**I want to never have to worry about money or perform housework again; any takers?**

-No, we don't know what day it is. We never will. Mark anniversaries on the calendar.

**but do you look at the calendar?**

-Peeing standing up is more difficult. We're bound to miss sometimes.

**then clean it up!**

-Most guys own three pairs of shoes-what makes you think we'd be any good at choosing which pair, out of thirty, would look good with your dress?

**you won't**

-Yes and No are perfectly acceptable answers to almost every question.

**no comment**

-Come to us with a problem only if you want help solving it. That's what we do. Sympathy is what your girlfriends are for.

**I found out the hard way**
-A headache that lasts for 17 months is a problem. See a doctor.

**maybe its not really a headache?**

-Foreign films are best left to foreigners.

**amen**

-Check your oil.

**why when we have you to do it for us? don't forget to fill up the tank while you are at it http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/wink.gif **

-It is neither in your best interest nor ours to take the quiz together. No, it doesn't matter which quiz.

**true; the answer choices are never real anyway**

-Anything we said 6 months ago is inadmissible in an argument. All comments become null and void after 7 days.

**no way, the words will lurk in the back of our minds FOREVER. unlike men who don't listen, we record and playback every single word you have ever said**

-If something we said can be interpreted two ways, and one of the ways makes you sad or angry, we meant the other one.

**yeah, right**

-Let us ogle. We're going to look anyway; it's genetic.

**oggling is one thing, dislocating your neck is another; BTW if we do let you look, no comments please**

-You can either tell us to do something OR tell us how to do something but not both.

**how else can we be sure that you are doing the right thing at the right time in the right way? lol**

-Whenever possible, please say whatever you have to say during commercials.

**since you guys always flip channels on commercials, there are never any breaks!**

-ALL men see in only 16 colors. Peach is a fruit, not a color.

**men only see in 3 colors -black, white and gray**

-If it itches, it will be scratched.

**but have some couth about yourselves, and wash 'dem nasty hands!**

-If we ask what's wrong and you say "nothing," we will act like nothing's
wrong. We know you're lying, but it's just not worth the hassle.

**if we say 'nothing' then you are probably the problem and don't act like you don't know what you did!**

-What the f*ck is a doily?

**???**


All in good fun, bruh.

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MCCOYRED
Mu Psi '86
BaltCo Alumnae

Dynamic...Salient...Temperate...Since 1913

That's me http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif!! I can discuss all that and then some. Sometimes I think I know more about sports than most men. And I'm not talking about just knowing rules. You gotta be able to analyze the game. You know like why is Tracy McGrady better than Vince Carter or why a Lakers/Spurs matchup would be on point or why Brett Farve is an awesome quarterback other than just his stats. My boyfriend will watch or attend most sport events with me before his boys. I thank my Dad for all this. Before my brothers were born, I think he thought he'd only have two daughters. So for seven years, I was the one he took outside to learn how to throw the perfect spiral, etc. (And I still can) And by the way, I hate shopping. It takes too much effort and time. It's quite annoying and I don't have the patience for it. If it's not shining on the rack, then I'm not going to search for it. So you wouldn't have to worry too much about going into the stores. But I guess all that is why my boyfriend says he's never letting me go!! (Not to mention, I'm also a looker http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/wink.gif!!)

But thanks for the info, I do have to work on a couple of those other things you posted.

[This message has been edited by DST Love (edited May 03, 2001).]

I feel ya girl! I find myself constantly explaining that I have 6 brothers, that's why I know so much about sports.

And umm, speaking of Mr. Carter, why did his mama have to come to his defense? Hello!!!!! Be a man, not a mama's boy!



[This message has been edited by Mz. Sports Luva (edited May 07, 2001).]

411, DSTLOVE, MCCOYRED,:

You are the reason why I absolutely love Deltas to death. Funny, real, spirited, and good looking whether short hair, long hair, light or dark.

MCCOYRED: all of those were good comebacks. Thats why you gotta love women, even when they take you shopping and talk during a good scene in a movie or ask you deep questions about the meaning of your relationship during the fourth quarter of a tight ballgame (ugh!!)

DST LOVE: is your man bigger than me? I might have to beat him up and steal you, that is, if you can cook, lol.

MZSPORTZLUVA: six brothers? My sisters have four brothers and they hate sports. Maybe that is why they are AKAs.

You are too cute!! And yeah, honey, I can throw down. You know they say a way to a man's heart is through his stomach. So I keep my man nice and full. I can do it all. After all, I am a phenomenal woman http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/wink.gif!

http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/confused.gif
**Mocha shaking her head**

Keep the love comin', bruh!

You know what they say, "cain't live wit' 'em, cain't shoot 'em." LOL


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MCCOYRED
Mu Psi '86
BaltCo Alumnae

Dynamic...Salient...Temperate...Since 1913