If this were one of our undergrad chapters, we'd have to institute an Alumni Control Board (ACB). I know that certain GLO's (Delta Sigma Phi is one) call their alumni associations ACB's.

However, @ Lambda Chi we have alumni associations or housing corporations. An ACB in Lamb Chop lingo is the group formed because a chapter's gotten into some severe trouble (financial, risk management issues, etc.). Is there such a thing as an Alumnae Alumnae Control Board? Should IHQ get involved??

I think that the Mrs. should come here and we can help her out.

^^^ Not gonna happen. Hubby is freaked that he might have said too much although no one knows what city or state he is in, and we don't know the organization his wife is in.

BTW, he confirmed via PM that it's NPHC. I don't want to know which org because I'd hate to know for a fact which sorority is having this unfortunate situation.

IMO, the members of the chapter need to handle business internally. Three neos should not be able to come in and wreck everything. If they can, then the rest of the chapter is pretty shaky, and they need to tighten up. I can't imagine my alumnae chapter sorors allowing a situation like this to rear its head. Seriously.

Any other hypothetical solutions?

The good members out number the trouble makers. Freeze them out and keep them out of the loop about events.

Wow @ the scenario and I agree with Jojapeach. As a neo in a graduate chapter , I can assure that my actions and those of my linesisters will never cause my older, more seasoned chapter sorors to make the decision to up and leave.

LMAO! Too funny!

If so, then Houston, New York, L.A., Phoenix, London, Seoul, Berlin, Dallas, Seattle, Nassau etc. etc., we have a SERIOUS problem! :D

In my very humble opinon, they should be informally excommunicated. Especially the nympho.

We can all handle a chapter drunk. We all have them...I think I may have been mine....THAT'S NOT THE POINT THOUGH!

We can all handle a topper/shiner/attention hog. We know them and deal with them everyday at work, church, and in life.

However, when you violate the sanctity of someone's marriage, you deserve to be outcasted from that social/service circle that you worked "so hard" to get in.

Sorry for not posting earlier, but I keep having cold chills that someone will see this and it will go back to the chapter. Part of me wishes that I never posted this but looking at some of the responses, I'm glad I did.

As for an update, I think the nympho is gone. Not sure what happened but she wasn't at the christmas party we had last weekend. My wife said she decided to leave the chapter but wouldn't get more into it. My buddy who's wife is also in the sorority reckons that she was caught at one of the sisters houses with the husband. We can't figure out who though.

Something must be happening as they are always on the phone these days.

Such troubles are why smaller alumnae chapters sometimes die down and members go to other chapters or charter their own.

Hypothetically, every alumnae chapter has some women with questionable personal activities but they know (either on their own or because they are told) to leave the personal at home. I suggest the wife goes to the chapter president and have a chapter development workshop and a lemon squeeze. If things really get bad, that probably means their paperwork is all screwed up and their chapter isn't in compliance--they aren't handling business. It looks like the regional director or equivalent will be paying that chapter a visit because sororites don't just let ships sink without at least fussing out the guilty parties.

Verdict: No social events until people are able to comply with the chapter consitution and handle business before, during, and after chapter meetings. If that fails, WRECK SESSION. :p

Don't encourage people to research the chapter based on the info you have provided.

To be brutally honest, UNTIL THIS POST this chapter sounds like quite a few chapters that I can think of. So UNTIL THIS POST you hadn't said too much.

Chapter issues aside, your wife seems SUS because I'm sure you wouldn't have known all of this solely based on outsider observation. Everyone makes mention of tidbits of info to significant others but you have to be careful what info you divulge and trust that the significant other won't share the info with anyone else. It seems that your wife doesn't care for sisterhood when it comes to some of the sorors in her alumnae chapter and is more about demeaning her soror to you and possibly anyone else who will listen. The difference between venting for solution and venting just to vent. She needs to check that.

Now that's a bit harsh don't you think? So what that she told me? We are honest and open with each other. Are you not honest with your husband? We do not want to hurt each other and she certainly values her sisters and I am happy that she does.

Also, I think that I admire them for trying to sort this problem out by themselves. I suppose that my intent when I first posted here was to share their difficulty and I was hoping to share their solution at the end. I was hoping anyway that that was going to happen. Unfortunately I think I had failed misserably in that.

I am also suprised at some of the responses that I recieved. As was said above, I don't think that this situation is very unique, and worse I don't think that the responders here may really be able to handle this any better.

In my days what ever happened in the house was handled in the house and stayed in the house. Going out of the house meant that we were not responsible enough. I think they are trying to do the same thing and I admire them for that. They accepted them and now they think they made a mistake.

No.

Themselves = with you in tow because your wife is a sharer. What happened in house WAS in house until you knew enough about it to create a GC thread.

;)

Now take whatever advice was given and let it be. You've done more than enough as it is.

Alum Chapters are a different animal than Active Chapters.

As an Active, once you join, you are expected to be a full member for the chapter.

As an Alum Chapter, you are a Graduate and can or not join and participate.

That is the choice of the person.

Therefore, it must be made fun enough to join and continue to be an active member.

Did you read ANY of the 28 posts before yours? This really sounds like you read a couple of the first posts and maybe one other and then commented just for the sake of adding two cents.

Besides, you're commenting on something you have limited knowledge about: NPHC sorority alumnae chapters. Stop. Please.

We don't know whether or not his wife was initiated at the alumnae or undergraduate level.



No. Alumnae membership and involvement isn't about "fun."